Share the Pants: Dating, Marriage & Everything in Between

This season of Love Is Blind gave us plenty to talk about, but one thing kept showing up: low-effort men getting chance after chance from women who wanted these relationships to work.In this episode, we're breaking down the finale of season 11, from the weddings to the reunion.  All the questionable behavior, scandal, and apologies that don't quite add up. We're talking about why women sometimes wait until a relationship hits rock bottom before giving themselves permission to leave, how being "low maintenance" can attract low-effort partners, and why loving someone doesn't mean you have to keep accepting less than you deserve.Plus, we get into what actually counts as cheating, the excuses people make for bad behavior, and why a man shouldn't get a free pass just because he didn't physically cheat.Afraid you might be giving someone too many chances? Send us your questions and relationship dilemmas. We might just tackle yours in a future episode of Share the Pants.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Oh my!  This episode of Share the Pants is all about the Jekyll & Hyde moment in a relationship when someone shows you a side of themselves you can't live with.We're diving into the biggest blow out of Love Is Blind Season 11:  Rob and Michaella's breakup. We get into the shocking shift in Rob's behavior, the red flags that are easy to miss when you're invested in a relationship, and whether some things deserve a second chance at all.We also get into the other couples, the role friends and drinking can play in a relationship, and what it really takes to build a marriage that lasts.Nicole shares a personal experience with a relationship that changed overnight, including the night she stayed up praying for the courage to walk away. Because here's the thing: you can love someone, see their potential, and still recognize that their behavior is not something you're willing to accept.And ultimately, if you can't be emotionally safe and vulnerable with someone, what kind of relationship do you really have?Have a relationship question you'd like us to answer on the podcast? Send it our way! Your question might be featured in an upcoming episode.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Even though Love Is Blind Season 11 is pretty lame... it's giving us plenty to talk about!  This week, we’re looking at why these couples keep getting in their own way.From Wilney and Wilson beating a dead horse with at least 3 rounds of the same conversation to debating standards vs. control because of Sarah and John, we’re unpacking the patterns that can turn a promising connection into a struggle. We also get into Rob’s last-minute cold feet, Erica and Blake’s very different visions for the future, and the growing disconnect between Aneha and Cam.Are these couples discovering genuine incompatibilities, or are they making it harder than it needs to be to build a relationship?We’re talking about what happens when feelings become arguments, when expectations get in the way of understanding, and when people struggle to show up vulnerably with someone they’re trying to love. Because chemistry can get a relationship started, but emotional openness is what gives it room to grow.As always, Nicole and Joel don’t agree on everything. Tune in for their takes, their disagreements, and the relationship lessons hiding inside the latest episodes of Love Is Blind.What do you think? Which couple has the best chance of making it, and who do you think is getting in their own way? Let us know in the comments, and if you enjoy the show, leave a rating and share this episode with a fellow Love Is Blind fan.Have a relationship question you want Nicole and Joel to tackle on the podcast? Send it our way! Whether you’re navigating dating, marriage, communication, or a situation you can’t quite make sense of, we want to hear from you. Your question might be featured in a future episode of Share the Pants!Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Season 11 of Love Is Blind is taking us to Boston and we've got some serious doubts.Spoiler alert: We're discussing the first five episodes of Season 11.The pods are a snoozefest this season!Where's the vulnerability? The emotional intimacy? The conversations that actually melt our hearts and give us the courage to express ourselves more deeply?When Joel and I have dry eyes... there's a problem.We're also getting into some real-life dating dilemmas:Can emotional connection overcome a lack of physical attraction?What happens when you pressure someone to choose you?How much should you be willing to change for a relationship?And is falling in love enough when your lifestyles aren't compatible?Plus, we reveal how Joel handled it when I wasn't ready to stop dating other people, and we make our predictions about which couples will actually make it to the altar.Whether you're watching Love Is Blind or navigating your own love life, there's plenty to learn from what's happening in Boston.Ever wondered if a lack of attraction is a dealbreaker, how much compromise is too much, or whether you're ignoring a red flag? Send us your dating or relationship question and we might tackle it on an upcoming episode!Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Is chemistry the spark that tells you you’ve found someone special… or a warning sign?Dating advice seems to have split into two camps: chemistry is everything or chemistry is just your trauma dressed up in a sexy outfit.We don’t buy either one.In this episode, we’re talking about what romantic chemistry actually is, the different ways it can show up, and why the same rush that feels incredible with one person can lead you straight into a shit show with another.We also get into whether chemistry can grow over time, why compatibility alone isn’t enough for the kind of relationship we want, and how attraction can increase or disappear as you discover who someone really is.Plus, Joel puts me on the spot with a list of supposed “red flag” chemistry signs, from instant obsession and intense passion to oversharing and feeling anxious or off balance.Because sometimes those butterflies really are butterflies.And sometimes... they’re fucking bats.If you’ve ever wondered whether you should trust the chemistry you feel, give it time to grow, or run in the opposite direction, this episode is for you.Did this conversation bring up a question about chemistry in your own love life? Submit it here and we may answer it on an upcoming episode of Share the Pants.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

What should you know about someone before you agree to become exclusive?When Joel told me after just three dates that he wasn’t interested in dating anyone else, I wasn’t quite ready to commit.  I liked him... a lot!  But I had made the mistake of being someone's girlfriend without knowing what I was actually signing up for one too many times.So I had questions.In this episode, we’re pulling out actual text messages from the beginning of our courtship and revealing some of the questions I asked Joel before we became exclusive, from social media habits to plans for the future.But this isn’t just a list of dating questions to steal.We’re talking about how to use what went wrong in your past relationships to uncover what you need to know about the person you are dating.Questions aren't the only way to get the clarity you need, so we also discuss the difference between what you should ask, what you should tell, and what you should simply observe.If you’re dating someone you could see yourself getting serious with, this episode will help you figure out what you need to know before you say yes.Dating dilemma? Relationship question? Something you want to hear the two of us hash out? Send it our way. It might just become an episode of Share the Pants.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

A lot of the problems couples encounter in marriage could have been addressed while they were still dating.In this episode of Share the Pants, a listener asks us what changed when we went from just figuring out whether we were compatible to getting marriage and making life decisions together.We talk about why dating intentionally made the transition into marriage feel surprisingly natural for us, and why the conversations people are often afraid will make dating feel “too serious” might actually be the ones that make partnership easier later.We also get into what happens when we disagree on a major topic, including a recent intense discussion we had about whether to sell one of our cars.Plus:• Why compatibility matters long after the chemistry kicks in• The relationship skill most people don’t practice enough while dating• How we make decisions when one of us cares more than the other• The difference between compromise and sacrificing too much of yourself• Why loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean you can build a life together• What to do when you and your spouse have grown in different directions• Why sometimes there’s you, there’s them… and then there’s the relationship you’re building togetherBecause maybe the shift from dating to marriage isn’t supposed to happen at the altar.Maybe you start building the marriage long before anyone says “I do.”Want to hear us talk about a specific dating, relationship, or marriage topic on the podcast?Submit your listener question and you might hear us answer it on an upcoming episode.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Some marriage advice gets repeated so often, we stop questioning whether it actually works.In this episode of Share the Pants, Joel and Nicole pull out one of their favorite wedding gifts:  a journal filled with marriage advice from friends, family, and even complete strangers. They unpack some of the most common pieces of advice they got and why certain advice sounds great in theory but doesn’t actually work for them. But this isn’t an episode about declaring traditional marriage advice wrong.It’s about something much more useful: figuring out what actually creates a healthy marriage for the two people living in it.They also talk about:• Why repair matters more than rushing to resolve a conflict• The difference between being best friends and romantic partners• Why dating your spouse matters after the wedding• What it means to treat marriage like a team sport• How supporting each other can look different depending on who needs to be carried that day• Why love, rather than a specific set of rules, sits at the center of our marriageBecause the best marriage advice might not be a rule you blindly follow.It might be learning how to build a marriage that actually works for you.And yes, there’s more advice in that journal. So we’ll probably be pulling it back out again.Want some advice on your relationship from our perpective?  Send your questions our way. We might answer it on a future episode of Share the Pants.Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

Nicole and Joel tackle a listener question about a man who decided the way to make a good first impresion was to show up on FaceTime... in bed... with his shirt off.Was it inappropriate? What do you actually say when a man does something that immediately makes you think, “Yeah, this isn’t for me”?They talk about:• Whether you should FaceTime or have a phone call before meeting someone in person• Why Nicole preferred to keep her phone number private until after the first date• What happens when a man pushes past a boundary instead of respecting it• Unsolicited dick pics and requests for sexy photos• What “negging” is and why deliberately making someone insecure is not flirting• How attraction tactics designed to create insecurity can turn dating into a power struggle• When ghosting is actually appropriate• How long you need to date someone before a breakup deserves a phone call or conversation• And the big one: why women so often talk themselves out of their own discomfortYou don't have to prove that someone's behavior was objectively terrible before you're allowed to decide you don't want to date them.Sometimes your immediate reaction of, “Nope,” is enough.Trusting yourself doesn't mean judging someone as a "good" or "bad."It means recognizing when someone's behavior doesn't work for you and having the confidence to walk away.And yes, Nicole and Joel have a few things to say to the men sending unsolicited dick pics, too.Send us your dating and relationship questions HERE! Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers 

What actually makes a man want a second date?Nicole puts her husband Joel in the hot seat to get the male perspective on one of dating’s most frustrating questions: Why didn't he ask me out again?Joel’s answer might surprise you because it’s nowhere near as complicated as women tend to make it.They talk about what men are actually looking for on a first date, why you don’t need instant sparks or a perfect performance, and why an awkward first date isn’t necessarily a bad date. Nicole also shares the story of a client who came to her convinced she was bad at first dates because she hadn't been on a second date in forever, and what they found when they took a closer look at what was actually happening. Plus, Nicole and Joel get into the danger of overanalyzing a first date, whether chemistry can grow, why intense sparks can sometimes lead you straight into a toxic relationship, and the truly unhinged first date that ended with an ex-girlfriend showing up at his apartment and breaking shit. If you’ve ever replayed a first date wondering What did I do wrong?, this one is for you.Sometimes it really is just a first date.Have a dating or relationship question you want Nicole and Joel to tackle on the podcast? Submit your question and it might be featured in a future episode. Send us Fan MailWant more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers