Mismatched Drives #1 (Quickie)

As usual, we're wrapping up the year with our annual Christmas gift guide. We're joined by friend and supporter Linda Thwing (pronounced twing) as we share ideas that can deepen your intimacy in four areas: physical, intellectual/creative, emotional, and spiritual. Sponsor Married Dance is a Christian-friendly sex toy store, with a nudity-free, marriage-focused environment; discreet billing and shipping; and fast, free shipping on orders >$100. Save 13% during their Black Friday Sale with coupon code BF25! From the Bible Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 The heavens declare the glory of God;   the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Psalm 19:1 Drawing straws is one way to settle a difficult case. Proverbs 18:18 (CEV) (other translations replace "drawing straws" with "casting lots" or even "casting dice" I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Ephesians 3:16–19 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. John 3:16 The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and faith. Galatians 5:22 (HCSB) Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 With God, all things are possible. Matthew 19:26b Gift Links Physical Intimacy Deep Tissue Muscle Massager | Amazon Intimate Earth Relax Massage Oil | Married Dance Candle Warmer (that can be used to warm up coconut oil or massage oil )| Amazon Intellectual/Creative Intimacy Personalized Wooden US National Parks Map Checklist Wall Decor | Amazon 1000-Piece Jigsaw Puzzle of Two Chairs on Beach (romantic) | Amazon Audible Annual Subscription | Amazon Emotional Intimacy Dodecahedron Food Dice (check out the other dice too!) | Amazon Open When Envelopes/Labels for Couples | Date Night Printables at Etsy It's a Date! 40 Fun and Romantic Scratch Off Date Night Ideas | Amazon Spiritual Intimacy "Rooted in Grace" Propagation Station Option 1 | Amazon "Rooted in Grace" Propagation Station Option 2 | Amazon Christian Silicone Wristbands w/Scriptures (Set of 4) | Amazon Pray More, Fight Less: A Couple's Devotional by Karin Earle, LMFT | Amazon Resources Episode 72: The Ultimate Sexy Gift Guide Episode 96: 35 Gifts for Your Marriage Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide - Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples Episode 143: Holiday Gift Ideas for Wives and Couples Episode 164: Stocking Stuffers for Married Couples - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 205: 8th Annual Holiday Gift Guide (Home Sweet Home) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Masterclass: Sexual Desire Differences - ONLY $25! Webinars - $10–15 each or get a discount bundle! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns with tips on how to de-stress the holidays for your own sake and for your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns  Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor  Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today, we're tackling some tough listener questions. We're joined by Tara Buchanan, good friend and cohost of the Behind Our Smiles podcast. Sponsor It's here! Order the Sexual Desire Differences Masterclass and get the video, a resource list, and an invitation to participate in tonight's (Thursday, November 13, 2025) Live Q&A session with Bonny and J at 7:00pm eastern! Masterclass: Sexual Desire Differences - Sex Chat for Christian Wives. From the Bible The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13 I am a wall, and my breasts are like towers. Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment. Song of Songs 8:10 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:17 And the Lord God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die." Genesis 2:16–17 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened....Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another....Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Romans 1:21,24, 26–27 Resources Behind Our Smiles Podcast, with Tara & Joe Buchanan Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Why I Took My Breast Implants Out - Hot, Holy & Humorous Are Breast Implants Bad for You? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Should Christians Get Plastic Surgery? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 111: Accepting Your Body - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 31: Listener Questions - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (including anal sex) Q&A with J: Pegging. Is It Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Finger Cots | Amazon Episode 235: Helping Your Husband Heal, with Tara Buchanan Episode 216: When She Wants Sex More - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (w/Tara Buchanan) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

What a treat today! Gaye Christmus, our former cohost, shares five practical ways to feel more sensual. Be sure to check out her Healthy Life Toolbox website and shop. ________ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns  Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor  Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today, we're highlighting one of our favorite episodes ever! Featuring the OG gang, we address that sex is for wives too and how to embrace it! Sponsor Mismatched desire in your marriage? Let's talk about what it means, why it happens, and how to grow closer through it. Sign up for our new masterclass on Sexual Desire Differences today! From the Bible Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you—     if you find my beloved, what will you tell him?     Tell him I am faint with love. Song of Songs 5:18 Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,     let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards     to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened,     and if the pomegranates are in bloom—     there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance,     and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old,     that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:11-13 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32 Resources You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too – CalmHealthySexy Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husbands? – The Forgiven Wife What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy – The Forgiven Wife Why "10 Minutes and Lube" Is Horrible Advice – The Forgiven Wife How Not to Think About Sex – The Forgiven Wife Learn What You Like in Bed – The Forgiven Wife Learn to Embrace Your Sexuality – The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Sexual Desire – Honeycomb & Spice Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous Where Purity Culture Got It Wrong, Let's Get It Right – Hot, Holy & Humorous Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs – Wikipedia Sexual Desire and Arousal: The Nonlinear Model (Rosemary Basson) – ObG Project These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm – Hot, Holy & Humorous (orgasm gap) Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns (affiliate link) Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Strong Wives Coaching Support with Bonny Burns Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about how to kiss more often in your marriage and improve the experience!   Resources Why Kissing Matters in Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Kisses You Need to Master - Hot, Holy & Humorous _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Today we're diving into how our personal stories shape our sexuality and our experiences with sex. Joining Bonny and J for this important conversation is Kate Aldrich, a marriage coach and mentor with an emphasis on Story Work. Sponsor Want to advertise with us? We're specifically looking for women-owned businesses who'd like to get the word out to our many listeners. You can find out more HERE. From the Bible For you created my inmost being;     you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;     your works are wonderful,     I know that full well. Psalm 139:13–14 I meditate on your precepts     and consider your ways. Psalm 119:15 [Hagar] gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen the One who sees me." Genesis 16:13 Resources Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network Still Becoming One - Kate & Brad's podcast Episode 74: Getting Comfortable with Your Body Episode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about the benefits of kissing to both you and your marriage.  _____ We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Jess Seitz, occupational therapist and vaginismus recovery specialist, of Pain-Free Intimacy joins us to talk about how wives can address sexual pain they currently have or may have in the future. Sponsor Better Help can match you to the right therapist for you. Get 10% off your first month with our discount code. Just head to https://betterhelp.com/4CW. From the Bible Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4 I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. Psalm 139:14 (HCSB) I remain confident of this:   I will see the goodness of the Lord   in the land of the living. Psalm 27:13 (the verse J couldn't think of in the moment!) "I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—   the great locust and the young locust,   the other locusts and the locust swarm— my great army that I sent among you. You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,   and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,   who has worked wonders for you; never again will my people be shamed." Joel 2:25–26 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31–32 Resources Jess's website, Pain-Free Intimacy Contact Jess for personal coaching Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Foreplay – Webinar Shop for Lube at a Christian-based Marital Aid Store | Married Dance How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Episode 168: Learn About Your Body (Quickie) Episode 224: Integrating Body & Soul, with Francie Winslow When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain | The Forgiven Wife Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade Is Sex for You Like Going to the Dentist? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker about how to start praying about the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! _________ Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker