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On this episode: Nate and Aaron debate one day for p@rn. Nate updates us on his speaking engagements. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guests, Chelsea and Layton Boeve. Chelsea and Layton host the Liberator podcast. The Michiganders share their journey that brought them to their passion for strong and healthy relationships. Layton grew up without TV and became a voracious reader which started his journey into fantasy and later porn. Chelsea brings us to an understanding of how trust is broken with image consumption. The couple shares how healing in a relationship happens as fast as the weaker person heals. Links:   Liberator Podcast Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss 13 foot, 5 inch Oscar. Nate builds a screened-in treehouse. Our Guest: Natives of Miami, Josh and Charlene share their real-life experiences with alcoholism and substance abuse. Josh also talks about sex and work addiction and trading one addiction for another as part of his recovery in 12-step. Charlene’s journey in recovery includes becoming a certified addiction professional and an IITAP certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Josh’s journey includes becoming a sponsor and recovery coach. Together they have created an online intensive program for outpatient recovery treatment. Links:   Intimacy E-HAB Books: Comfort Crisis By: Michael Easter Scarcity Brain By: Michael Easter Addict America By: Dr. Carol Clark Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Pablito and Rob didn’t get fired. Rob feels different ages when he dances. Is dancing a metaphor for life? Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome Jeremy Morris. Jeremy is from Western Idaho and brings a majestic beard and loads of life experience. He engages the lie that if others really knew us, they wouldn’t love us. Talking about your story in the present, sharing where the battle IS. Discussing the differences of transparency and vulnerability. Rejoicing with those who rejoice, and mourning with those who mourn. Honoring each other with our time, holding the tension, not correction. The safety in avoiding discussing work or career in recovery settings. Links:   Wild Courage Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Pablito and Rob are impulsive. Rob shares how he engages his stories with the gospel. Our Guest: Nate welcomes this week’s guest, Ashley Chesnut. Ashley is an author, young adult minister, and PHD student in Birmingham, AL. She discusses her book: It's Not Just You, and how that helps women engage their stories and experience freedom from p0rn and m@sturbation. Ashley shares how the world of women’s recovery is developing and gaining more traction and resources. She also discusses the shortcomings of the church's discussion about the body, sex, and double standards. Other topics include the links between rising technology use and depression and anxiety, and the motivation to stay on the journey of recovery. Links:   Ashley's Email instagram: @aechesnut Book: It's Not Just You: Freeing Women To Talk about Sexual Sin and Fight It Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how macho and competitive Valentines Day can be. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Dr. Roy Smith. Roy is a speaker, psychologist and author. He discusses his books, Inside Fatherhood for men, and The Campfire Gang Series for youth. Roy shares how his difficult and traumatic growing up years shaped his path to becoming a psychologist. A discussion around thanking your abuser. The balance of work and family. And a shift from saving others to serving other. Links:   Live Up Resources Servant Oasis Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate is rucking things up. Aaron doesn’t understand why the rucking ruckers would ruck their @sses off. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome back Tullian Tchividjian to the podcast for the third time. Tullian shares the value of crashing and burning in his just released book: Carnage and Grace. Topics include giving ourselves grace for not knowing what we don’t know and the human propensity to fück things up. The guys also discuss earning your Pharisee certificate. The importance of sitting with others in their pain and asking before giving advice rather than fixing. Links:   Tullian Fallen & Free 2024 Videos Book: Carnage & Grace: Confessions of an Adulterous Heart Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: We catch up on sports ball roulette with Nate and Aaron. Aaron reveals that he looks sh!t in spandex. Also, updates on the Harbor House are sailing in. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, David Murrow. David is a preacher, coach, speaker and author. On this episode, we discuss David’s book: Why Men Hate Going to Church and how to overcome this challenge. David guides us down a path of healing and growth using another book, The Map: The Way of All Great Men. Understanding that the journey of submission, strengthen, and sacrifice are not about losing your voice, but refining it. David walks us through the examples of Moses, King David, Samson, and other Biblical icons. Links:  Three Journeys David Murrow ManTime Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Pablito and Rob host. Pablito shares man cave woes. Swifties and important sports snacks are also discussed. Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Ray Ortlund. Ray is a husband of over 50 years, father, grandfather, author, and minister. Discussing “Death of P0rn” and how it's like a modern-day fight against slavery. Ray encourages us to use strong words when describing p0rn usage, encouraged that Jesus is big enough to cover our sins. The importance of confessing sin one-to-another and then praying that we may be healed. Also the question: As we say "no" to one thing, what are we saying "yes" to? Links:   Renewal Ministries Book: Death of P0rn: Men of Integrity Building a World of Nobility Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Path Walk in England 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Samson celebrates the 20th Anniversary of its first meeting! Nate, Aaron, and Erin host and interview this week. Erin updates us on the pillow fights at the Sarah Society (no really, its a therapeutic technique). She also discusses the meetings, members, summits and webinars of the Sarah Society.  Our Guest: This week we get to know Dr. Sheri Keffer. Dr. Sheri is an author, speaker, talk-show host, and therapist with over 20 years experience. She provides personal and professional expertise in helping the betrayed, betrayer, and the couple in relationship. As a CSAT, Dr. Sheri, understands and shares the impacts of p0rn0gr@phy on the individual, the spouse, the relationship, and others around. She also recommends the “Bravery After Betrayal Retreat” (held March 21-24, 2024) to women seeking healing. Links:   Dr Sheri Keffer Bravery After Betrayal Retreat Book: Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back. Aaron drives 75 hours and has technology challenges. Nate and Aaron discuss anxiety and panic attacks. Our Guest: Aaron interviews Greg Oliver after a 9-year break. Greg is executive director at Awaken, a 12-step recovery group in Birmingham Alabama. He shares his background and story of what brought him into his personal recovery and the need for recovery groups in his area. Greg and Aaron discuss disappointment in someone and disappointment for someone. We are encouraged to look into “what we really want” when we are seeking to escape, and will the escape satisfy that desire. Greg discusses trauma and how we all have it. He also shares how changing our beliefs changes behavior and not the other way around.  Links:   Awaken Book: Deeper: Real Change for Real Sinners by Dane C. Ortlund Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Retreat Links: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.