Episode 334 - What to do with Unanswered Arousal

This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I'm incredibly grateful you're here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has started to feel loaded or tense. If you want flirting to feel lighter, safer, and genuinely connecting again, this episode will help you understand what's getting in the way and how to shift it. Find the Podcast Guide here.  

In this episode, I'm talking about what it really looks like to infuse sexual energy throughout your marriage, not just during planned intimacy, but in the everyday moments that make you feel desired, connected, and alive together. I share stories, examples, and real quotes from couples who've learned how to build a playful, pressure-free erotic undercurrent that carries through their whole day. You'll hear how touch, texting, flirtation, emotional intimacy, and even mindset shifts can help you create that simmering connection you loved when you were first dating. I also walk through the difference between healthy sexual energy and unwanted pressure, and how each partner can contribute in ways that feel safe and genuine. If you want a marriage where sexual energy is woven into your daily life in a natural, meaningful way, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I will walk you through a question I've heard from so many women over the years: How do I know if I'm actually having an orgasm? I'll explain what weak orgasms, subtle climaxes, and full-body releases really feel like and why it's so common to be unsure. I'll share the most frequent reasons orgasms feel muted and teach you practical techniques—like the plateau method, pelvic floor engagement, deeper breathing, and mindset shifts—to help you build stronger, more satisfying orgasms. I'll also guide you through why solo and partnered orgasms can feel different and how to bring that same confident pleasure into your relationship. If you've ever wondered whether your orgasms could feel clearer, stronger, or more intense, this episode will feel like the conversation you've been needing.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you're having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You'll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex routines with your spouse. If you've ever wondered what actually matters when it comes to better sex and good hygiene, this episode will give you clear guidance without the overwhelm.

I get asked all the time how to keep sex and intimacy alive after having a baby, so in this episode I'm breaking down what really happens during this huge transition. Last week we talked about sex during pregnancy, and today we're looking at what comes next, because bringing home a baby reshapes your relationship in ways you can't always prepare for. Whether you're expecting your first or remembering those early days, I want you to feel seen, supported, and reminded that nothing is "wrong" with you if things feel off. I'll walk you through what the research shows about why so many couples struggle, and the practical habits that help the strongest partnerships find their way back to connection. My goal is to help you understand what's normal, what's fixable, and how you can rebuild intimacy with compassion - for yourself and for each other. Book mentioned: And Baby Makes Three

Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn't have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I'm answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what's safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We'll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to communicate and adapt as your body changes. My goal is to help you and your partner approach this season with curiosity, confidence, and closeness instead of fear or frustration. You'll walk away feeling more at ease, better informed, and equipped with real strategies to keep intimacy thriving during every stage of pregnancy. Remember to consult with your healthcare provider about any concerns related to intimacy during pregnancy. Every pregnancy is unique, and individual medical guidance is important.  

In this episode, I'm sitting down with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the founders of Evree Intimate Massage Oil and Lubricant, to talk about how one thoughtful idea completely transformed their intimacy and could change yours too. We dive into the surprising benefits of using a truly natural, skin-loving intimate product, why lube is essential (not optional!), and how communication and playfulness can take a good marriage and make it great. Justin and Natalie share their story of creating a product that's 100% natural, edible, safe for sensitive skin, and doubles as both a massage oil and lubricant, plus how it's changed the way they connect in and out of the bedroom. Whether you're navigating dryness, menopause, or just wanting more pleasure and connection, this conversation is full of encouragement and practical insight for couples of faith. Tune in to hear why investing in intimacy matters and how something as simple as the right lubricant can bring more joy, confidence, and closeness into your marriage.

In this episode, I dive into one of the most damaging beliefs I see in relationships: the idea that sex equals love. I'll share why this thinking creates unnecessary pain, pressure, and misunderstandings between partners, and how it often masks the many other ways love is expressed. You'll learn how to recognize love outside of sexual intimacy, why separating sex from love can actually strengthen both, and practical shifts you can make to bring more connection, authenticity, and joy into your relationship. By the end, you'll walk away with tools to reframe how you see love and intimacy so you can build a healthier, more fulfilling marriage. This is a great episode! I can't wait for you to listen.

Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences in marriage, but is your spouse really rejecting you or just rejecting sex? In this episode, I break down the two types of rejection, how to tell the difference, and why understanding this can change everything in your relationship. We'll talk about what rejection looks like when it's personal, what it looks like when it's not, and how to stop letting painful stories in your head dictate the way you feel. If you've ever wondered, "What's really happening when my spouse says no?" this conversation will give you clarity, hope, and practical steps forward.

So many men tell me, "I meet all her needs, why can't she meet mine?" Almost always that "need" is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here's the truth- it's not helping your sex life, it's hurting it. In this episode, I talk about why framing sex as a "need" actually shuts down desire, and what to do instead if you want real intimacy and connection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of obligation, resentment, or just going through the motions, this conversation will give you a new perspective and a path forward.