Lessons in Attachment

Send us a textAre you stuck in a cycle of overthinking, replaying every moment, and wondering what you could’ve done differently? In this episode, we’re diving into the heartache of obsessing over an ex and uncovering how to break free from that mental loop. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or it’s been months (even years), those intrusive thoughts can hold you back from healing and moving forward.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textDo you have an anxious attachment style? When it comes to the future, anxious attachers often fall into patterns of overthinking, fear, and doubt - ones that can feel overwhelming and even hold you back from the life and love you want. In today’s episode, we’re bringing these patterns into the light, helping you become aware of the ways they might be shaping your thoughts, decisions, and emotions.This is your chance to step back, reflect, and begin noticing when this happens to you. By recognising these habits, you can start to shift towards secure ways of thinking.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textIn this episode, we dive deep into the pain of holding onto someone who’s made themselves unavailable. Whether it’s an ex or someone you have deep feelings for, this episode explores the emotional turmoil of wanting someone who’s not emotionally present. If you tend to lean toward anxious attachment, this pain can feel amplified, as it’s often accompanied by the belief that you need this person in your life to feel complete or secure.Together, we’ll unpack why it’s so hard to let go, what to do when you find yourself repeatedly hurt, and how to break free from the cycle of longing. If you're ready to release the grip of someone who’s not showing up for you the way you deserve, this episode will give you the tools to start healing, set boundaries, and ultimately open up space for someone who truly meets your needs.Note: There is a December offer on joining The Attachment Recovery Gym. Get 12 months access for only £199Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textIn this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I'm feeling inspired and to speak to those of you with childhood wounds and unmet needs. Inspired by a juicy session inside the Attachment Recovery Gym, let's discuss the lasting impact of emotionally immature parenting and unmet childhood needs.I share insights from our recent workshop, Heal Your Inner Child for Self-Worth & Healthy Love, where we explored themes of grief, forgiveness, and self-compassion. From navigating feelings of unworthiness to learning how to meet yourself with love today, this episode is here to remind you that you are not alone - and your past doesn’t have to define your future.In this episode, I give you reflective prompts to help you reconnect with your authentic self and start showing up in relationships as your true SELF.If this resonates, consider joining the Attachment Recovery Gym to catch the replay and access tools that help you feel less triggered, more worthy, and deeply secure in love.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textAre you wondering why anxious attachers have intense reactions that feel out of proportion to the situation? In this episode, we’re diving into the psychology behind those big emotions and over-the-top responses. You’ll discover how past memories and unresolved core wounds shape your sense of threat, leaving you feeling vulnerable in relationships. We’ll also explore how your brain’s logical side seems to “go offline” during these triggering moments, making it so hard for you to respond calmly, even though you're trying so hard.Whether you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed by your own reactions or want to understand the deeper reasons behind them, this episode will give you the insight to understanding and being more compassionate about your situation - that's when change can really happen!Podcasts:4 times Anxious Triggers Hit HarderFind Instant Relief with This ToolOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textDo you ever feel like your relationships are stuck in a frustrating cycle of chasing unavailable and avoidant partners? You might be reliving dynamics you learned as a child. In this episode, we're diving into 5 Signs You Had Emotionally Immature Parents and how those early experiences might be influencing your adult relationships.From unmet emotional needs to the deep-seated urge to "fix" or "earn" love, we’re exploring how your upbringing shapes who you chase and why emotionally unavailable partners feel familiar. This is about understanding your story and rewriting it. Let’s heal the patterns that keep you stuck so you can stop chasing and start thriving.Tune in for insights, validation, and some practical tips to help you take the first step toward breaking the cycle.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textIn this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we dive into a common but unspoken challenge for anxious attachers, 'separation anxiety' for adults. While we might think of separation anxiety as something only children experience, actually, it can be a deeply distressing reality for adults with anxious attachment patterns. Whether it’s the constant “what if” worries about your partner leaving, fears for their safety, or anxiety about time spent apart, the thoughts  become overwhelming and exhausting.Listen as I unpack some common cognitive patterns that drive adult separation anxiety.If this topic resonates with you, be sure to check out my Attachment Recovery Gym, where you’ll find a full bundle designed to help you work through these struggles: from workshops, to affirmations, to somatic practices.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textIn this episode, Carly Ann shares a powerful 5 step-tool designed to help you find calm when anxious attachment leaves you feeling triggered and overwhelmed. If you’re someone who struggles with anxious attachment and you have reactive impulses, this tool will guide you to pause, ground yourself, and regain control before taking action you might regret. I walk you through each step of using this technique effectively, sharing insights on how to get the absolute most from it so it becomes second nature in tough moments.Beyond just the tool itself, this episode is packed with golden gems on making self-soothing techniques more effective, tailored of course towards anxious attachers, and real-life ideas to strengthen your secure self. DOWNLOAD SHIFT OR SPIRAL PDFEPISODE: Anxious Attachment or SituationOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textIn this episode we explore self-love from the perspective of anxious attachment. Over on social media (HERE), Carly Ann has been discussing how to communicate with an avoidant attachment - to do this whilst loving yourself is key.Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will provide you with some epic gems to support your healing journey todayThat's why in this episode you will lear:What is Self-LoveWhy people with an anxious attachment struggle to self-love as adultsHow to practice self love using S-E-L-F-L-O-V-E as your guildJoin The Attachment Recovery Gym for exclusive resources, workshops, & experts aimed at healing anxious patternsOther useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call

Send us a textDo you want to communicate better and more effectively with a dismissive avoidant person? In this episode, Carly Ann discusses 5 common communication challenges faced by anxious attachers when interacting with avoidant partners. These are 5 things that push them away (even though you don't mean to). Understanding these mistakes is essential for improving relationship dynamics and giving the anxious-avoidant dynamic a better shot at connection.Other useful links: The Attachment Recovery Gym FREE RESOURCES Follow Carly Ann on Instagram Book a Call