Inside Out - with Marthe

In this episode you’ll hear me share about the inner work I have done on my parenting journey in relation to anger and aggression, and how it has made big shifts in both my oldest son and I and in our relationship. When my son started hitting, I was challenged to the core. As someone who is practicing Aware Parenting, this brought me face to face with my own conditioning and childhood traumas around anger and aggression. I felt really big feelings and I judged my son. I couldn’t offer him the type of response I wanted. This took me on a journey of inner growth and healing that I’ll be forever grateful for. It also deepened my understanding of what Aware Parenting is about on an embodied level. This episode is a glimpse into what the inner work of reparenting oneself, and the gifts it can bring in terms of healing and transformation for the parent and the child, as well as deeper connection and more secure attachment between them. By sharing about our journey, I hope to inspire and encourage you on your own journey.  SUPPORT If this episode touched you, you might be interested in my workshop on the topic of honoring our Noes in our parenting, in ways that are compassionate and steady. It is called Saying No and Staying Close, and you can read more about it here: https://www.martheschneider.com/workshop My other offerings: The Reparenting Journey - A deeply transformative program for parents who are wanting support to do their inner work to become free from conditioning that keeps them from blossoming and parenting the way they want, and to embody compassion for themselves. To read more and sign up, go to: https://www.martheschneider.com/journey 1:1 Mentoring - I offer a unique type of mentoring to parents who want to make this season in life one of healing and growth for themselves, alongside practicing Aware Parenting with their child/ren. To learn more about my approach, visit: https://www.martheschneider.com/mentoring-for-mothers I am so grateful to Aletha Solter PhD for creating Aware Parenting, and for all the ways that she offers teaching and support to parents. You can find information about it all on The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://www.awareparenting.com If you want support in practicing Aware Parenting, I recommend reaching out for an Aware Parenting instructor. I am still in training to become an Aware Parenting instructor, and am offering information about this approach as someone who has been practicing it in my own parenting journey since the beginning of 2022.

This episode is a conversation with Aletha Solter PhD about the impact of stress and trauma on children. Aletha is the founder of the Aware Parenting approach and the Aware Parenting Institute. In this episode, we go into the ways that children heal, how we can support this innate wisdom in them and why children turn to aggressive behaviors such as hitting. Did you know that children’s aggressive behavior is tied to stress and trauma, and to their attempts to heal from it? If we’re used to responding with judgement and anger, saying things like “Stop! Hitting is not allowed!” or “We don’t hit!” we’re actually getting in the way of what they really need in that situation. But of course, we don't want them to continue hitting. So what to do instead? This is what you’ll learn about in this episode. With Aware Parenting we can support our children to heal from stress and trauma while they are still children, and we can help our children become willing to cooperate without the use of punishments or rewards. This is a different parenting paradigm from the one most parents of today have experienced themselves. Aletha and I acknowledge the inner work that most parents feel called to do in order to practice Aware Parenting and their need for support on that journey. Do you want to learn more and be supported? I (Marthe) support parents in doing their inner (re-parenting) work alongside parenting with Aware Parenting. To learn more about my support group for parents, which really is a program with both teaching and support, go to https://www.martheschneider.com/journey For 1:1 mentoring with me, go to https://www.martheschneider.com/mentoring-for-mothers To learn more about Aware Parenting, we recommend reading Aletha Solter’s books. Also, Aletha offers workshops and individual consultations for parents. You can find information about all of these offerings on The Aware Parenting Institute website: https://www.awareparenting.com PS: If you found this episode interesting, you might also enjoy listening to episode 11 where I share about my own journey with anger and aggression. And, if you found this episode helpful, would you be willing to let me know? I love hearing back from you! Also, if you want to help spread this information, you can do that by leaving a review or share the episode - or both!   Love, Marthe

Hello dear you! In this episode I’m talking about my experience of the words regulation, nervous system regulation and emotional regulation and how they are being used in the public now, - on the internet and social media especially, and why I feel concerned because of it. I talk about: 🌱 What I see as the dangers when words like these are taken out of their (clinical) context, and popularized and used in the marketing of yet another quick way to fix ourselves. 🌱 How our capacity to heal and expand is innate, and that it involves far more than our nervous system. 🌱 How words have the power to maintain a view of ourselves as machines made up of parts instead of an amazingly complex and wise design made by mother nature where everything is connected and where all that we experience has meaning. 🌱 What happens when regulation is used in a way that leads us to believe that there’s something wrong with us, and that we need someone else to teach us techniques to fix what supposedly is a glitch in our nervous system, when really it’s our body’s attempt to initiate and complete a healing process that involves all of us. I hope this episode leaves you feeling empowered and inspired! 💡 If you would like me to answer one of your questions in a future episode, send me an email at [email protected] 🤝 If you want to work with me, check out my mentoring program at www.martheschneider.com/mentoring I love supporting you to be all that you are, and to free yourself from what’s been holding you back. Love, Marthe

What if your past hurts weren’t a limitation—but a source of mother power? - Difficulty knowing what you want or need - or communicating it - Trouble honoring your limits and standing by them - Self-doubt, self-criticism, and self-devaluation - Feeling frozen, conflicted, or afraid to act These patterns are incredibly common—and they are not personal failures. They are the natural result of growing up in a culture of domination and disconnection. In this episode I untangle these patterns from our true nature as human beings. I explain how healing and repair are possible so that you can blossom and - in your mothering - feel powerful and capable of offering a very different kind of conditioning for your children. ✨ Your past hurts are not in vain. They are a source of great competency and with healing you become powerful because of them. I hope this episode brings you clarity and inspiration! To connect with me on Instagram: @marthe_schneider To learn about Mentoring with me: https://www.martheschneider.com/mentoring-for-mothers Website & contact: https://www.martheschneider.com  

In this episode, I share why Aware Parenting has become one of the most life-enriching foundations of my mothering and my human journey. Rooted in the work of developmental psychologist Aletha Solter PhD, Aware Parenting invites us to see children as innately wise, loving beings who communicate their inner world through behavior — and whose tears, laughter, and expression are powerful ways for them to heal from stress and trauma as they grow. I talk about how this approach beautifully aligns with my background in body-oriented psychotherapy, trauma healing, Nonviolent Communication, and presence-based coaching. I also share how Aware Parenting has helped me understand everyday moments — aggression, sleep struggles, food, boundaries — as invitations for connection rather than problems to fix. And equally, how it keeps inviting me back to my own inner healing, honesty, and authenticity as a mother. This episode is an invitation to remember that when we meet children with trust and loving presence, they return to their natural state of connection, cooperation, and compassion. If this episode resonates with you, I’d love to connect with you outside of the podcast! If you’d like that too, you can sign up for my newsletter. In it, I share a personal note together with every new podcast episode, and I love to hear back from you about what's important to you, from the challenging to the easy. You can join this list at martheschneider.com/newsletter. Lastly, would you like to help me reach more people like us? You can help me by sharing this episode and leaving a review.  Learn more: To learn more about my mentoring program for mothers at martheschneider.com/mentoring-for-mothers, and connect with me on Instagram @marthe_schneider. To learn more about Aware Parenting, I invite you to visit www.awareparenting.com or read one or more of Aletha Solter’s 7 books, or any of Marion Rose’s books about Aware Parenting.

This podcast started out in Norwegian, - and now I'm switching to English. In this transitional episode I'm telling you why, and what you, dear listener, expect from the podcast going forward. I'm looking so much forward to everything that's ahead, and I'm so glad you're here!

I denne episoden forteller Kristin Indreeide om hvordan hun ble opptatt av kvinners rett til å føde uforstyrret. Det er en historie om å kanalisere kraften i sinnet hun følte etter sin første fødsel i en ny retning for å skape transformasjon. Vi snakker om hennes to ulike fødselsopplevelser, selvansvar, samtykke, traumer og dyp tillit til den visdommen som kroppen bærer. Kristin skaper transformasjon gjennom sin egen podcast som heter Frifødsel podcast. Jeg anbefaler den for deg som ønsker å høre historier om hvordan fødsel kan være når det foregår hjemme. For min egen del har beretninger om uforstyrrede fødsler vært kjempeviktig for å få et mer nyansert bilde av hva fødsel egentlig er. Hvis du vil høre om mine egne to fødsler anbefaler jeg episoden på Kristins egen podcast der jeg forteller om dem. Den finnes både på Apple Podcasts og på Spotify. Lenke til episoden på Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marthes-reise-i-morskapet/id1744811295?i=1000719082337 Lenke til episoden på Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CULZXx2YsZSGnWLz5uwGR?si=7cc27b28e3264126 FESTIVAL! OG sist men ikke minst! For deg som også bryr deg om kvinners frihet til å føde slik de selv vil: bli med på festival 23-24. august på vakre Tjøme! Du finner informasjon som festivalen The Crowned Mother her: https://www.herriteofbirth.com/the-crowned-mother-festival?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAadHa0nS12kdeprNrNR_lIQplPMqs7Kogs1Ec-9xFFbtmpJU4JV-OkY2peJwTw_aem_2Iq1bd9CwEU4JcnrK3331Q Du er hjertelig velkommen! Hilsen Marthe.

– En liten prat om det store følelseslivet Følelser. Så utrolig viktige for vår livskvaliteten vår, men ofte oversett og misforstått. Hvorfor er det sånn? Og hvordan kan vi spille på lag med dem? I denne episoden snakker jeg om: ✨ Hva følelser er - egentlig ✨ Hvilken funksjon de har for helsa og livskvaliteten vår ✨ Hvorfor vi har motstand mot visse følelser ✨ Hva vi vinner på å møte alle følelser med nysgjerrighet og kjærlighet Når vi blir bedre kjent med følelsene våre, blir det lettere å lytte til den indre stemmen som vet hva vi vil og ikke. Vi får mer kontakt med oss selv – både den vi er her og nå og de yngre versjonene som lever i oss. 🧡 En episode for deg som kjenner at du vil bli litt bedre kjent med det som skjer på innsiden

Hva har egentlig spedbarnsgråt med seksualitet å gjøre? Mer enn du kanskje tror! I denne episoden utforsker jeg hvordan vår evne til nærhet og intimitet som voksne formes allerede i spedbarnstiden. Jeg snakker om: 🌱Hva som skaper trygg og nærende sex 🌱Hvordan vår evne til intimitet formes av hvordan vi ble møtt som barn 🌱Spedbarnsgråt – både som uttrykk for umiddelbare behov og som nødvendig følelsesmessig bearbeiding 🌱Aletha Solters tilnærming: "Crying in loving arms" 🌱Seksuell heling, samtykke og det indre kompasset 🌱Hvordan vi som foreldre kan møte barnas følelser på en måte som styrker deres evne til å romme egne og andres følelser 🎁 Gratis ressurs: Vil du bli bedre kjent med ditt indre kompass, og styrke dine egne forutsetninger for å oppleve dyp, nærende intimitet og mye mer? Få tilsendt min gratis ressurs ved å sende meg en DM med ordet KOMPASS, eller bestill den her: https://www.martheschneider.com/kompass 🗓 Vil du lære direkte fra Aletha Solter? Hun holder workshop i Oslo 18. juli! NB! Meld deg på innen 10. juli! Info og påmelding her: https://fb.me/e/7Y2H9IDt7 👉 Del gjerne episoden med en venn, og legg igjen en anmeldelse – det hjelper podcasten å nå flere som har nytte av den!

I denne episoden inviterer jeg deg til å bli bedre kjent med det inni deg som alltid vet hva du vil og ikke vil: ditt indre kompass. Vi utforsker hvordan du kan begynne å lytte til signalene fra denne indre kilden til veiledning, og høre det gjennom all støyen fra det du har lært at du “må” og “burde”. Og ikke minst, hvordan du kan stole mer på hva ditt indre kompass forteller deg. Kanskje du har lært å tvile på deg selv i enkelte sammenhenger? Da er vi i samme klubb! Denne episoden er laget spesielt til deg! Jeg snakker blant annet om: 🌱Hva det indre kompasset er og hvorfor det er så viktig 🌱Hvordan du kan legge merke til det når det indre kompasset snakker til deg 🌱Hvordan stole på egne følelser og impulser 🌱Hva det vil si å verdsette deg selv 🌱Hvordan du kan kommunisere fra et sted av indre trygghet Del gjerne episoden med noen du tror trenger å høre dette 💛 Her er lenker til ressursene jeg nevner i episoden: 🧭 Gratis guide til DITT indre kompass: https://www.martheschneider.com/kompass  …eller send meg en melding med kodeordet KOMPASS på Instagram: @marthe_schneider 🤝 Mentor-støtte: https://www.martheschneider.com/mentorskap 💌 Meld deg på nyhetsbrevet for å få enda mer påfyll, refleksjoner og eksklusive ressurser rett i innboksen: https://www.martheschneider.com/ Hilsen Marthe :)