In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

It's late, something's bothering you, and instead of telling a person, you type it into a chatbot.  If you do this, you're far from alone, and the reasons make sense. A chatbot is there at three in the morning, and it isn't going to judge you.  I share what a year-long study found about chatbots and loneliness, how relying on a chatbot can change your friendships, and why taking your worries to a friend can do something a chatbot may not be able to do. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Think about the last time somebody paid you a compliment. There's a good chance you let it go past you without really taking it in. Now think about the last time somebody was slightly short with you, and how many times you've thought about that since. If I asked what you're like as a person, you'd probably have a list ready. If I asked what's good about you, there might be a bit of a pause. Both of those lists are about the same person. Only one of them is fluent. At some point you decided which evidence about yourself counts as the real evidence. I want to show you that decision, and what it would take to change it. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Somebody says something to you, and within about two seconds you've lost control of how you're going to respond. The heat comes up, and part of you is already watching yourself say the sentence you'll regret, with no ability to stop yourself saying it. There are three words that can change everything about how those moments go. Embodied, present, and kind. They won't make the feeling go away. They give you something far more valuable than that. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You had a good time. Nothing anybody said upset you. And then you came home and you were completely flattened by it. I can tell you exactly where that energy went, and you didn't imagine it. There was something going on at that gathering that was using you up, and it wasn't the conversation. You were doing a second job the whole time you were there. Watching how everybody was. Managing how you came across. And nobody could see you doing any of it, which probably includes you. So you came home with nothing left, and as far as anybody could tell, you sat down and had lunch. I want to show you what that second job takes out of you, why it gets harder as you get older rather than easier, and the one change to make before you go anywhere. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

Think about the last person who became a close friend of yours. For most people, that friendship started a very long time ago. You haven't lost the skill of making friends, and there's nothing wrong with how you come across. You've left behind the places that used to make friendships for you, and nobody told you that's what those places were for. I explain why having close friends matters more than most people realize, roughly how many hours it takes to turn someone you know into a friend, and the simple pattern that makes those hours add up. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're at dinner, someone's telling you something, and you pick up your phone for just a second. They stop talking, and when they start again, they tell you a shorter version. Almost everybody does this, because it's become so normal that nobody notices. But the research shows it does far more harm than most people realize, and it can affect how the people you love feel about their whole life. I share what researchers found when they tracked couples and their phones, why it doesn't matter that it was only a second, and the one change that makes the biggest difference. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're lying in bed scrolling through your phone, you see a photo of someone you went to school with, and suddenly you feel worse about your own life. That feeling doesn't mean anything's wrong with you. You're comparing everything you know about your own life with one photo somebody chose to share, and research shows most of us guess wrong about how happy other people are. I explain why the photos of people you knew when you were young upset you most, and the one sentence to finish the next time your stomach drops. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You sit down after dinner, the phone is in your hand before you've decided anything, and an hour later you get up feeling worse. That isn't a willpower problem. You've been up against something built to be easier than anything else in the house, while every alternative you tried was sitting in a cupboard. I explain why the things you've tried instead haven't lasted, and I give you ideas for what to do instead, depending on how much time you've got. The single change that helps most is about where your phone spends the evening, and it takes ten seconds. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You left the job, or the friendship, because of how you were treated, and now the same thing is starting again somewhere new. That isn't fate and it isn't something you deserve. Almost everybody has one situation that keeps repeating, and changing your circumstances doesn't stop it, because you're the one thing that comes with you to every new place. I explain why the pattern follows you and what the psychologist William Swann found about the people we choose to stay close to. Then I give you one question to ask the next time that sinking recognition arrives, and it isn't the question you've been asking. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.

You're waiting to hear about something important, and not knowing how it'll turn out is keeping you awake at night. Nothing's wrong with you for finding this hard. Most of us were never taught what to do with the feeling of not knowing, so we check our phones, make plans for every outcome and ask everyone what they think. The relief lasts a few minutes, and then the feeling comes back stronger. I talk about an idea from Pema Chödrön and what a 2018 study found about people who stop fighting their difficult feelings. Then I give you one sentence to say to yourself at three in the morning that doesn't ask you to pretend. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.