The Man Who Made Me Rethink My Marriage with Amber Rae

Amber Rae was married when she looked into the eyes of a stranger and instantly fell in love, and she’s here to tell her story. The bestselling author shares the truth about her marriage and lack of intimacy, what she was lying to herself about, the problem with “good on paper guy,” being a people pleaser, and how falling for someone else while married turned her world upside down. We talk about how everything transpired, how her husband watched her fall in love in real time, backlash and losing friends over her decisions, and more. Before Amber joins us, we’re recapping Ashley’s special filming and Rayna seeing an old hookup 15 years later. Enjoy! Follow Amber on Instagram at @heyamberrae, and get her book Loveable.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Square Space: Get a free trial at https://squarespace.com/gge and use code GGE for 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.  Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward their membership at https://functionhealth.com/GGE or use code GGE100.  Smart Mouth: Get a special discount on your next purchase at http://www.smartmouth.com/GGE.  Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Kris Jenner’s new look  Kylie Jenner debuted a song RIP Diane Keaton + our fave Diane movies Our thoughts on the movie Eternity (coming soon) T*rning Po*nt USA’s Super Bowl halftime show  Kristin Cavallari and Lauren Conrad reunite  The most unhinged season of Love is Blind yet + doppelgangers  Headlines: Kat Stickler dating John Mayer, Taylor Swift’s docuseries, Golden Bachelor Gerry’s new book Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Columbia Sportswear: Head to https://www.columbia.com/ to get your hands on an Amaze Puff Jacket.  Eternity from A24: See it in theaters everywhere this Thanksgiving.  Article: Head to https://article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed.  Merit Beauty: Get a free signature makeup bag with your order at http://meritbeauty.com. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style.  Quo: Get started for free, plus 20% off your first 6 months at https://quo.com/gge.

We are so excited to be joined by our friends (and wonderful couple) Kate Steinberg and Chad Savage! We’re talking about them meeting on an under-the-radar reality show years ago, their five-year engagement, and recent second proposal (and why they almost fought when it happened). We’re discussing Kate’s influencer career and how she conceptualizes and creates her viral millennial content, plus we’re popping off about all the millennial hate out there. We also talk about struggling with anxiety (especially surrounding social media), boundaries when you work with your partner, why it’s hard to make friends in LA, and more. Before Kate and Chad join us, we’re (belated) reviewing The Life of a Showgirl, trading STD scare stories, and Rayna shares a nightmare situation that happened with a houseguest. Enjoy! Follow Kate on Instagram @itskatesteinberg and Tiktok. Follow Chad at @chadbsavage and check out Daniel Savage watches.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Function: Get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/GGE or use code GGE100. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/GGE.  Bilt: Get points by paying rent at https://joinbilt.com/GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Smart Mouth: Get a special discount on your next SmartMouth purchase at www.smartmouth.com/GGE.  Liquid IV: Get 20% off your first order at https://liquidiv.com with code GGE. 

It’s just us this week and we’re breaking down a listener email about the relatable crisis of having doubts about your long-term partner. We discuss so many aspects of relationships and marriages -- marrying young (and what IS the optimal age to say I Do), not growing in the same direction as your partner, when your life is perfect on paper but you’re unsettled, feeling like your partner isn’t challenging or exciting enough, and even catching feelings for someone else. We also discuss the fear of the fallout after a breakup – friends, family, pets, a shared home, etc. – and how to navigate these tough decisions. Before we get into the topic, we’re discussing where couples are supposed to sit (and not sit) on planes, Ashley shares a crazy story from a recent show, and Rayna has been having too much fun bossing a man around. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/GGE or use code GGE100.  Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Skims: Get our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge Helix: Get 25% off at https://helixsleep.com/gge.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: Azul’s mouth makeover Fat Bear Week  Bad Bunny doing Super Bowl halftime (and responses to it) Taylor Swift’s new album (and criticisms)  Woman in San Francisco using billboards to find a man  Headlines: Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban divorce, Laguna Beach reunion, Love is Blind Denver, Selena Gomez’s wedding, delivery driver in Chicago outruns ICE Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more! Thank you to our partners this week: Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your own empire today. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Addyi: Learn more at https://addyi.com.  Cakes Body: Get 20% off your first order at http://cakesbody.com with code GGE. 

We have Ashley’s wedding planner in the house! Jacquelyn Aleece, founder of The Wedding Plan & Company, joins us to answer all your burning questions about weddings and spill some tea. We discuss money stuff – how much a wedding actually costs, where to save and where to splurge, her #1 budgeting tip, if there really is a “wedding tax” when it comes to vendors, and so much more. We’re also chatting about the biggest mistakes couples make when planning, bands vs. DJs, and how to make your wedding feel more fun/less stuffy. As for the tea – What kind of bride is Ashley? Can Jacquelyn tell if a couple isn’t going to make it? What’s the biggest drama at weddings? – and more. Before she joins us, we’re catching up on Rayna’s houseguests and Ashley’s wedding dress drama. Enjoy!  Follow The Wedding Plan & Co. on Instagram @theweddingplanandcompany and visit their website for more. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Smart Mouth: Get a special discount on your next SmartMouth purchase at https://www.smartmouth.com/gge/. Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/gge or use code GGE100. Saks Fifth Avenue:  Head to Saks Fifth Avenue for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style, every day. 

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: The Rapture (did it happen?) Homecoming dresses are different these days  Danielle Bernstein's engagement party controversy Jimmy Kimmel and the attack on free speech Tr*mp falsely links autism to Tylenol  The Summer I Turned Pretty finale + Taylor Swift songs Headlines: Summer House spinoff, Horse Girl Fall, and Tr*mp/Epst**n statue appears in DC Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for live show tickets and more. Thank you to our partners this week: Quo: Get started for free, plus 20% off your first 6 months at http://quo.com/gge.  Ollie: Get 60% off your welcome kit when you subscribe at http://ollie.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. 

We have a fun one for you! Comedian Alec Flynn joins us to talk about The Performative Male (Are they a red flag? Is there a spectrum? How do you spot the “bad ones”?) as well as Black Cat Boyfriends vs. Golden Retriever Boyfriends. We also break down an email from a male listener about why he’s having trouble dating and offer advice for how to build confidence, and we discuss the notion that men have disappeared from the social and/or dating scenes and why. Other topics include: Leg tattoos, conspiracy theories about gambling, and panda diplomacy (we learned something new). Before Alec joins us, we’re talking about green flags in guys – everything from how they treat animals to drinking habits to what kind of music they like. Enjoy! Follow Alec on Instagram at @bigalflynn, check out his podcast Big Al’s Grill ASMR, and get tickets to his shows at https://punchup.live/alecflynn.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for LIVE SHOW TICKETS and more!  Thank you to our partners this week: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge.  Article: Get $50 off your first purchase of $100 or more at http://article.com/gge.  Bilt: Get points by paying rent at https://joinbilt.com/gge.  Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/gge or use code GGE100. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Hungry Root: Get 40% off your first box and free item in every box for life at https://hungryroot.com/gge with code GGE.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we’re talking about: The best merch at the airport  A confusing celeb breakup on social media Keke Palmer and Sean Evans smooch on Hot Ones Emmy highlights (and conspiracy theory) Rage bait advertising  The current political climate  Headlines: Coachella lineup, Taylor Frankie Paul as the new Bachelorette, Taylor Swift incognito at the Eagles/Chiefs game, Charlie Sheen doc Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/gge, or use code GGE100.  Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10.

We’ve all heard of fight, flight, and freeze, but what about the fourth F of trauma responses? It’s called fawning and we have Dr. Ingrid Clayon join us to discuss what it looks like (leaning in even when you’re uncomfortable, needing to please), why we fawn in childhood, relationships, the workplace, etc., and how to break these patterns. We discuss how fawning compares and contrasts to people pleasing, and how fawners have trouble finding healthy relationships, saying no, recognizing their own anxiety, and being honest in therapy. And Ingrid offers advice for getting curious about the trauma responses that could be holding you back, recognizing and not sabotaging healthy partners, and speaking up when you don’t like something. Before Ingrid joins us, we have a SHOW ANNOUNCEMENT, Ashley gives a family/health update, and Rayna is making new friends. Enjoy!  Follow Ingrid on Instagram at @ingridclaytonphd and get her book Fawning. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Function: Our first 1000 listeners get a $100 credit toward your membership at https://functionhealth.com/gge or use code GGE100. Smart Mouth: Get a special discount on your next SmartMouth purchase at www.smartmouth.com/gge. ZBiotics: Get 15% off your first order at https://zbiotics.com/gge with code GGE. Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Saks Fifth Avenue: Head to Saks Fifth Avenue or saks.com for inspiring ways to elevate your personal style. AG1: Get a free frother with your first purchase of AGZ at https://drinkagi.com/gge.