Come Curious

We're camera nerds. We're film geeks. And we really, really like making seggs tapes. 🎥🍑Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, Florence and Reed get gloriously geeky about the art of making an er0tic home movie. Drawing on their backgrounds in film and TV production, porn directing and content creation, they're sharing how to take your intimate videos from shaky phone footage to something a little more cinematic. Because why just film yourself having sex when you could give yourself the full director's cut? We get into: - Lighting is everything: Ring lights, soft boxes, diffusers, natural light and coloured LEDs, how to create a sexy, cinematic atmosphere. - Camera equipment: Smartphones vs DSLRs, vlogging cameras, lenses and getting that gorgeous depth-of-field effect. - Location, location, location: Choosing the right setting, styling your space and creating a visual mood. - Camera angles and techniques: POV, multiple cameras and why getting someone else behind the lens can transform your footage. - Scripts, planning and spontaneity: How to create a scene without making your seggs life feel like a film set. - The magic of editing: Turning your footage into something that actually tells a story. - Consent and distribution: What to agree before filming, what happens afterwards and the realities of sharing intimate content online. - Corn brain: Why we sometimes see everyday seggs toys and objects differently when they're on camera. Plus, we're discussing Erika Lust's approach to erotic filmmaking, reading from her new book 'LUST' and exploring why pleasure, nuance and removing shame matter when it comes to porn. Basically, if you've ever wanted to make a home movie with a little more production value, this is your masterclass in getting the shot. Lights, camera, sensation! 😈 --- This episode is brought to you by ERIKA LUST. Er0tic films shot like cinema, with real chemistry and stories that make you feel something. Watch at erikalust.com and use code COME45 for 45% off. And check out Erika's new book, Lust: Pleasure, Performance, Power - a candid exploration of desire, shame, pleasure and her journey building one of the world's most talked-about erotic film studios. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ From vampire roleplay and knife play to terrifying bedroom mishaps and stories that might make you sleep with the lights on, this Halloween we're getting into the spooky, the k'nky and the downright f*cking frightening. Florence and Reed catch up on life behind the scenes, from navigating new motherhood and changing libidos to managing endometriosis and PMDD. Then, things take a darker turn as we play Hot or Not: Scary Sex Edition. We get into: Vampire roleplay: Sexy, spooky or just a bit bloody? Knife play and blood play: Exploring edgy fantasies, personal limits and why consent is everything. Kidnapping fantasies: Why consensual roleplay needs clear boundaries and careful planning. Sounding: What it is, why it's polarising and whether it's hot or horrifying. Terrifying s"x stories: Reed shares a home-invasion roleplay that went wrong before becoming a positive experience. Real-life ghost stories: Unexplained noises, mysterious figures and some seriously creepy encounters. Listener confessions: Bats, dissociation, unexpected accidents and the s'x stories that are almost too scary to tell. Plus, we get honest about how motherhood, chronic health conditions, work and changing hormones can affect intimacy, identity and desire. Whether you're into spooky roleplay or would rather keep the bedroom firmly ghost-free, this episode is packed with k'nky curiosities, creepy encounters and plenty of reasons to ask: is that a turn-on, or should we actually be worried? Sweet dreams, curious fuckers. 😈🎃 Shout out to Beducated - get to know their amazing platform full of educational videos. Head to their website beducate.me/comecurious , take their 2-min Quiz for your personalised roadmap. PLUS you’ll get 50% off when you use our promo code comecurious at checkout. Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Fancy making a s_x tape? 🎥🔥 Whether it's a private little keepsake for you and a partner or you're thinking about creating your own amateur corn, there are a few things you should know before you hit record. In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed draw on their experience as corn directors and OnlyFans creators to share their guide to making a home movie. From camera angles and lighting to consent, privacy and getting comfortable in front of the camera, we're covering the practical tips and the conversations you absolutely need to have first. We get into: - How to film a s_x tape: Camera angles, POV shots and easy ways to make your footage look intimate and natural. - Lighting that works: Natural light, ring lights and creating the right mood without making everything look like a hospital. - Amateur porn vs professional porn: Why authentic, imperfect and relatable content can be so appealing. - Consent before cameras: How to agree on boundaries, storage, sharing and whether footage should be deleted. - Privacy and leaked n00des: The risks of filming intimate content and what to consider before pressing record. - Feeling confident on camera: Outfits, toys, locations and creating an environment where you can relax and enjoy yourself. And it's a watershed episode so our Patreon subscribers get behind-the-scenes stories from Florence and Reed sharing some of their own unconventional filming adventures. Sign up here! Plus, we discuss the double standards women face when creating sexual content and why making a home movie should be about what feels good to you - not trying to recreate a professional corn scene. The golden rule? Get consent, talk about the risks, and remember that the best home movie is one everyone involved actually wants to make. Ready for your close-up? 😈 Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Come and see Reed in London: ⁠At Your Own Risk ⁠- kinky market social, 29 November 2026 ⁠Ticklethusiasm⁠ - 12 December 2026  Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Got a k'nky fantasy you're too embarrassed to ask about? Wondering what your desires mean, how to explore them, or how to bring them up with a partner without making things awkward? 👀 In this episode of Come Curious, Reed - seggs educator, seggs worker and ki'nk and f3tish specialist - answers your questions about the wonderfully weird world of k'nk. From discovering what turns you on to navigating taboo fantasies and negotiating boundaries, we're getting into the things you might be Googling in private. We get into: K'nk vs f3tish: What's the difference, and when does a fantasy become an essential part of your seggs life? Discovering your desires: How to explore new turn-ons, experiment with fantasies and figure out what you're into. Controversy: Navigating a controversial fantasy through trust, consent and honest communication. Cuckolding: How to discuss a partner's desires, set boundaries and avoid resentment. Talking about k'nk: How to have open, non-judgemental conversations about what you want in the bedroom. Listener stories: Anonymous confessions featuring roleplay, power exchange, sensory play and food play. Plus, we discuss seggual health, STI testing and condoms. Whether you're a curious beginner or a seasoned k'nky fcker, this episode is your reminder that having questions is normal, exploring is personal, and consent and communication are always the hottest things in the room. 📍 Come and see Reed in London: At Your Own Risk - kinky market social, 29 November 2026 Ticklethusiasm - 12 December 2026 Come curious. Leave with a few more things to think about. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why don't I feel horny anymore? And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back? In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you. From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life. We get into: - Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos - How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire - How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex - Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive - How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire - Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation - Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want. PLUS: We're giving a big shout out to CHEEX which you can try free for 7 days! Use code 7COME at getcheex.com T&Cs: New customers get a 7-day free trial of the annual membership (£9.90/month, billed £118.80 annually). Cancel anytime during the trial or switch to monthly (£19.90/month). You won't be charged until the trial ends. Offer valid for new customers only, on the annual membership only, and when redeemed with code 7COME. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Motherhood changes you. Your body, your brain, your relationships, your priorities — sometimes even your sense of who the fuck you are. In this episode, Florence gets brutally honest about the reality of becoming a new mum, from postpartum anxiety and breastfeeding to body changes, sex after birth and the pressure to somehow “bounce back”. We get into: The enormous identity shift that comes with becoming a mother Postpartum anxiety, mental health and why we need to talk about it Breastfeeding, body changes and the judgement new mums face Sex after birth, low libido, pain and learning to listen to your body How social media can affect postpartum body image Returning to work and the reality of corporate parental leave The wildly different ways motherhood can make you feel — from depletion and loss to empowerment and love Plus, we hear from our community about what motherhood changed for them and why there is no such thing as “bouncing back”. Because you don't go back to who you were before. You become someone new. As always, we love hearing what you have to say - let us know, share your stories and be sure to follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ and learn more about her community @matrescene.collective Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our question this week is - Would you have seggs with a robot? As loneliness rises and AI becomes increasingly woven into our relationships, Florence and Reed ask a very important question: what happens when technology can give us pleasure, companionship and even something that feels a little like intimacy? In this episode, we explore the future of sex, from AI companions and sex robots to the loneliness epidemic and whether technology could make pleasure more accessible or make real human connection even harder. We get into: - Seggs dolls vs seggs robots and what AI actually changes - AI companions, loneliness and the future of intimacy - Can technology provide pleasure without replacing human connection? - Why Gen Z and millennials are turning to synthetic intimacy - The benefits and potential pitfalls of AI seggs tech - We try out SensOn, an AI-powered interactive pleasure experience where stories, characters and physical sensations respond in real time - Plus we reveal whether we'd actually consider having seggs with a robot... This episode is sponsored by SensOn. Want to try it yourself? Use code CURIOUS15 for 15% off. SensOn AI Web - Explore the experience SensOn S1 - Discover the device Plus, Reed shares details of an upcoming k'nky, queer-friendly and sustainable marketplace in London, and we ask you the question that might define the future of seggs: Would you do a robot? Watch the full video on YouTube and see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rejection fcking hurts. So how do we get better at handling it without taking it as a verdict on our worth? In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed get into the messy reality of rejection across dating, relationships, friendships and work. They explore why rejection can feel so painful, how the way we're rejected can make a huge difference, and why learning to say (and hear) “no” is such an important life skill. We get into: Why rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain Dating rejection, friendship breakups and workplace rejection ADHD, neurodivergency and rejection sensitivity How to reject someone without making them feel worthless Why people-pleasing and fawning can make rejection harder Navigating rejection inside long-term relationships What kink can teach us about boundaries and respecting “no” The three-step rejection toolkit for having difficult conversations Plus, Florence and Reed share their own experiences of rejection and challenge us to stop treating someone else's “no” as a judgement on who we are. Because rejection isn't proof that you're unlovable. Sometimes it's just information. So let's make rejection our b*tch. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it chemistry… or is it just hormones? Florence and Reed dive into the science and psychology of attraction - exploring dopamine, adrenaline, ovulation, attachment styles and why the people who make our nervous systems go wild aren't always the people who are actually good for us. We get into: The brain chemistry behind attraction and obsession Can ovulation really change who we fancy? Why intense chemistry doesn't always mean compatibility Hot-and-cold behaviour, anxious attachment and addictive relationship cycles Gen Z, phones during sex and what it says about intimacy K'nk, consent and the criminalisation of str4ngulation in 🌽 How alcohol, stress and hormones can seriously influence our decisions And because this is a watershed episode, our Patreon members get the unfiltered second half - including some very candid stories about recent sexual experiences, orgasm denial, roleplay, tickle torture and the mental aftermath of intense play. Maybe you don't like them. Maybe you're just ovulating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the first episode of our new dating series, Reed and Florence dive into the realities of modern dating - from dating apps and ghosting to catfishing, first-date disasters and the best dates they've ever been on. With Reed navigating single, polyamorous life and Florence adjusting to life as a new mum, they bring very different perspectives to the dating game. We get into: Dating apps & catfishing - do profiles actually match the people you meet? Ghosting & rejection - why are so many people disappearing instead of communicating? Dating statistics - who's actually initiating dates, and are apps changing how we meet? The worst dates - broken furniture, injuries, bizarre behaviour and some truly chaotic encounters The best dates - including extravagant Mayfair dates and what actually makes a date memorable Dating etiquette - how to communicate when you're interested… and when you're definitely not Plus, Reed and Florence read your best and worst dating stories, discuss LGBTQ+ dating and dating apps, and ask what we're really looking for when we go on a first date. This is the beginning of a whole new Come Curious series about dating, sex, relationships, apps, rejection and everything that happens in between. Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠⁠⁠Patreon ⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠⁠@reedamberx⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices