Episode 290: Eldest Daughter Syndrome - Pressure, Responsibility, & Desire to Be the Best

After going through a significant breakup, it can be difficult to get back into dating. Opening yourself up to new people and experiences might be intimidating, or you might even find that you have new priorities. But if you’re ready to start dating again, it’s always good to reflect on the positives & negatives of your previous relationship to see what you’d like to look for in the next one. Today, Janet is sharing her personal perspective on this topic, as someone who has started dating again after a pretty big breakup, and opening up about a key relationship that defined her last year. She also talks about why she’s given herself permission to take dating at her own pace, and offers some advice to anyone else who may be healing after breakups. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Hosts: Janet Wang and Helen Wu __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • Shopify: Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/abg • Robinhood Gold: Sign up at Robinhood.com/Gold • Hiya: Get 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/ABG • Audible: New members get a free 30-day trial & your first audiobook included. Visit Audible.com/ABG or text “ABG” to 500-500 • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg  • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Spill the Baby Tea, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my career journey—from my early days as a valuation manager at Ernst & Young to the big, scary leap into content creation and podcasting. Many of you might be navigating big life or career transitions yourself, or wondering what it's really like to follow a passion outside of the corporate world. I’ll be sharing the highs and lows of both paths: the perks and pressures of working for a global firm, the hard truths about climbing the ladder, and why I ultimately walked away to create something of my own. I also share in this episode some real talk on financial preparedness and advice for making a successful transition. Let’s dive into the path less traveled, and find out if becoming a content creator is as dreamy as it sounds ;) AsianBossGirl’s latest Instagram post for comments/interactions, linked here.  #SpillTheBabyTea Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Host: Helen Wu Editor: Victoria Cheng __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Listener Survey: Let us know your thoughts on the podcast here • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remi Cruz has been a queen of content creation before it was even considered a job. Since her start as a vlogger on YouTube, she has grown her audience to millions of subscribers across two channels, on top of two podcasts: Pretty Basic and Basically Unfiltered. Lana Del Rey even gave her a shout-out as one of her favorite vloggers! And that is well-deserved praise; Remi’s bright personality makes her feel like she could be anyone’s best friend. We’re so excited to have Remi on the podcast to talk about how she juggles it all, what she’s learned about self-love over the years, and if there’s anything she’d want to do differently. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Hosts: Janet Wang and Helen Wu Guest: Remi Cruz Editor: Michelle Hsieh Contributing Editor: Haemee Kang __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • Good American: Get $50 off your first pair with code “ABG” at GoodAmerican.com  • Bilt: Earn points by paying rent! Visit JoinBuilt.com/ABG • Honeylove: Save up to 50% off sitewide, November ONLY! Visit honeylove.com/ABG  • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg  • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the biggest challengers to living in the present moment are digital distractions. The advancement of consumer technology has resulted in a lot of habits and behaviors that are detrimental to our health - negative effects on our brains, our ability to focus, our ideas about ourselves, and the quality of our social skills and relationships which have resulted in a loneliness epidemic. In this episode, I chat with Palak Dave, Founder and CEO of Embiria – a movement and membership community designed to help people slow down and savor life, about this very issue. Through Embiria, she promotes intentional living, urging you to prioritize real-life experiences and connection over digital noise. She is also a speaker, investor, and author of the newly released book Beautiful Everydays: A Guide to Living in the Here and Now. We also chat about her previous career as an award-winning marketer in corporate settings, making the shift to entrepreneurship, being a woman of color and child of immigrants, and her perspective on work-life balance as an entrepreneur in the wellness space. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Host: Janet Wang Editor: Victoria Cheng __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Listener Survey: Let us know your thoughts on the podcast here • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 step skincare routines are pretty well-known nowadays, but when Ava Lee started making beauty & wellness content, items like toner and serums were a mystery to many people. Since then, she’s taught us all which products are the best to buy when traveling, how your gut health is related to skin health, and how you can achieve her iconic #JELLOSKIN from the inside out. Not only is she an absolute boss in the beauty world now, but Ava was an investment banker before jumping into content creation. We’re so excited to learn more about Ava’s Korean and Chinese roots, her 3 must-have products, and future plans for her brand, byAVA. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/ __________________________________________ Host: Melody Cheng Guest: Ava Lee Contributing Editor: Haemee Kang __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US • Bilt: Earn points by paying rent! Visit JoinBuilt.com/ABG • OneSkin: Free travel bag ($39 value!) with your first order over $79 with code “ABG” at OneSkin.co • Robinhood Gold: Sign up at Robinhood.com/Gold  • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg  • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m diving deep into a relationship that’s been central to my life for almost 8 years—my friendship with my roommate, Dar. If you’ve listened to earlier episodes, you’ll know why I chose to live with a roommate, but today, I want to explore who that roommate is and how we became each other’s home away from home.  From our origin story to the pivotal moments that shaped our bond, I’ll be sharing the journey of how Dar and I went from mutual friends to an unbreakable duo. We’re still actively grieving after moving apart, and honestly, I cry in this one, but it’s a story worth sharing. Tune in as I reflect on this deeply meaningful friendship and what it’s meant to me over the years. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Host: Melody Cheng Editor: Victoria Cheng __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US • Bilt: Earn points by paying rent! Visit JoinBuilt.com/ABG  • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Listener Survey: Let us know your thoughts on the podcast here • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might be familiar with the satisfying feeling of crossing something off your to-do list. Or maybe you’re someone who keeps a mental checklist of tasks in your head (very impressive). As business owners, partners, and friends, we have a lot of different sectors of life to keep track of. From to-do lists, to Google calendars, to alarms, what are our lifelines for staying on top of things? Is it difficult to align planning styles with significant others? And what are the tasks that we keep hitting snooze on? Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Hosts: Melody Cheng, Janet Wang, Helen Wu Editor: Michelle Hsieh __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • Orgain: Receive 20% off your order with code “ABG” at Orgain.com/ABG  • Audible: New members get a free 30-day trial & your first audiobook included. Visit Audible.com/ABG or text “ABG” to 500-500 • Hiya: Get 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/ABG • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg  • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Spill the Baby Tea, I’m diving into one of the most challenging yet essential aspects of parenting—discipline. As my own 2 (almost 3) year-old toddler reaches that age where boundaries and lessons are really starting to push my buttons! I’ve been exploring the best ways to approach discipline that feel supportive, nurturing, and effective. When do we start disciplining our little ones, and how do we do it in a way that feels right for our families? From positive discipline to time-ins, natural consequences, and setting clear but compassionate boundaries, I did the research so you don't have to. We’ll talk about how to stay calm (even when it’s really hard!) and teach our kids important lessons in a loving, gentle way. If you’re navigating this phase or just getting ready for it, I hope this episode offers some helpful tips and encouragement AsianBossGirl’s latest Instagram post for comments/interactions, linked here. #SpillTheBabyTea Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Host: Helen Wu Editor: Victoria Cheng __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • Wild: Use code “ABG20” for 20% off your first order at WeAreWild.com/US  • Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns at Quince.com/abg • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Listener Survey: Let us know your thoughts on the podcast here • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does life in your current decade look the way that your younger self envisioned it? Maybe you’re in your 20s and you’re pursuing a career you never expected. Or you could be in your 30s and finding that your priorities have drastically shifted. Today, we’re talking about how our outlooks on romance, families, and career have changed over the years. Do we still feel like we need to follow the traditional path of marriage to homebuying to starting a family? Have our goals and dreams changed since our 20s? And where are we now in relation to our timeline for our 30s? Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Hosts: Melody Cheng and Janet Wang __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • SKIMS: Shop SKIMS Bras at Skims.com/ABG. Now available in 62 sizes (30A - 46H). • Shopify: Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/abg • Audible: New members get a free 30-day trial & your first audiobook included. Visit Audible.com/ABG or text “ABG” to 500-500 • Pampers: Check out Pampers Cruisers 360 today! • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Join our Discord channel: https://discord.com/invite/4HxZgwFbhg  • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Birthdays are an interesting time to reflect and evaluate, and honestly, it’s been one of the harder years of my life. It was the perfect storm - a cataclysm of many things being upheaved, in transition, unsettled, or in flux. Moreover, I turned 39 this year. It’s the year before I enter a new decade - pretty much midlife - and when we are at this stage of life, there are a lot of life milestones that we are confronted with. In some ways, my life does not look how I thought it would at 39. And having to face that reality while still being kind to myself and willing the confidence and fervor that’s required to make change and keep going has been pretty exhausting. But I want to take this episode as an opportunity to share some of the things I’ve learned over the course of my 39 years, and especially this past year. If you are like me, in your late 30s and on the brink of entering your 40s, maybe some of this will resonate. Or, if you’re younger - in your early 30s or 20s - perhaps some of these learnings can be of benefit or inspiration for you. Become an ABG Bestie to get new audio episodes ad-free, monthly “Dear ABG” AMA sessions, discounts on merch, and shout-outs in our episodes. https://abg.supercast.com/  __________________________________________ Host: Janet Wang Editor: Victoria Cheng __________________________________________ P A R T N E R S • BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month with code “ABG” at betterhelp.com/ABG __________________________________________ C O N N E C T W I T H U S • Subscribe and Follow us @asianbossgirl on Apple Podcasts/Spotify/Amazon Music/YouTube/Instagram/Twitter/Facebook • Listener Survey: Let us know your thoughts on the podcast here • Email: [email protected] __________________________________________ S U P P O R T U S • Merch: asianbossgirl.myshopify.com • Donate: anchor.fm/asianbossgirl/support • More about us at asianbossgirl.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices