A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction

“I should have known better.” “I should have left sooner.” After divorce, those thoughts can make it difficult to move forward. Jaime welcomes forgiveness and emotional freedom coach Brenda Reiss to explore how to release guilt, work through regret, and rebuild trust in yourself post-divorce. Drawing on her own experience with guilt after divorce, Brenda shares how to replace self-judgment with curiosity, take responsibility without taking all the blame, and practice forgiveness while maintaining clear boundaries. Learn why healing doesn’t require an apology from your ex and how the past can become a source of wisdom instead of punishment.Connect with BrendaVisit her website: https://brendareisscoaching.com/ Follow Brenda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendareisscoaching/ Subscribe to Brenda on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1KDMp6Vuv9tz7sK2s269cQ Follow Brenda on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Brenda.Reiss.Coach/ Connect with Brenda on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendareiss/ If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is based on specific to navigating relocation by the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.

Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful can turn your world upside down. But does infidelity always have to mean the end of a marriage? And if divorce is the right decision, how can you move forward without causing further harm to yourself and your family?In this episode, Jaime welcomes licensed therapists and Therapy Brothers podcast hosts Brannon and Tyler Patrick to discuss the emotional aftermath of infidelity. They explore how betrayal trauma shows up, why rebuilding trust takes time, and how to recognize whether a marriage can be repaired or it's time to move on. Tyler also shares his personal experience of keeping a sex addiction secret early in his marriage, and what it took to rebuild his relationship. Hear about the importance of emotional healing, recognizing when a relationship is no longer healthy, and why healing  doesn't always mean saving the marriage.Connect with the Therapy BrothersVisit their website: https://therapybrothers.org/ Follow the Therapy Brothers on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapy.brothers/ Subscribe to the Therapy Brothers on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@therapy.brothers Follow the Therapy Brothers on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/therapy.bros Connect with Brannon on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brannon-patrick/ Connect with Tyler on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyler-patrick-lmft-24488366/ If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is based on specific to navigating relocation by the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.

The first 30 days after a separation can feel overwhelming. What do you tell your kids? How do you handle a new parenting schedule? Who should you turn to for support, and what decisions can wait?In this episode, Jaime sits down with certified divorce and co-parenting specialist Michelle Dempsey-Multack to talk about navigating those first few weeks with intention. Michelle shares practical guidance on protecting your children from adult conflict, setting new communication boundaries with your ex, building the right support system, and avoiding common mistakes that can make an already difficult transition even harder.They also discuss why you don't need to have everything figured out right away and why taking the time to make thoughtful decisions now can help create a healthier path forward for you and your children.Need help from Michelle?Follow Michelle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichelledempsey/Subscribe to Michelle on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMichelleDempseyConnect with Michelle on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mldempsey If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is based on specific to navigating relocation by the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.

Jaime and fellow family law attorney Theresa Viera, founder of Modern Legal, are tackling relocation in custody cases. As separated parents contemplate moving to a new city, state, or country, what happens to the children? Jaime and Theresa explore the factors judges consider, the impact of relocation on a child's well-being, and potential changes to custody schedules. Whether considering a move or trying to keep your child nearby, this episode offers insights into navigating the legal system and keeping your child's best interest at the forefront.Need help from Theresa? Contact her by visiting www.modernlegalnc.com.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! While the information presented is intended to provide you with general information to navigate divorce without destruction, this podcast is not legal advice. This information is based on specific to navigating relocation by the law in North Carolina. If you have any questions before taking action, consult an attorney who is licensed in your state.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. In this episode, Jaime takes the guest seat as producer Cee Cee Huffman interviews her about her book, A Year and a Day: Divorce Without Destruction. Jaime shares key strategies for approaching divorce with preparation and intention, covering how to initiate separation, build a strong support team, focus on what truly matters, prioritize children's well-being, and maintain emotional health. Whether you're contemplating divorce or already in the process, this episode offers expert guidance on navigating this major life decision with clarity and confidence.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

Deciding who keeps the family pet can become one of the most difficult and emotional parts of a divorce. While the law often treats pets as property, anyone who's ever loved a dog knows they're so much more than that.In this episode, Jaime sits down with certified dog behavior consultant, family mediator, and pet custody expert Karis Nafte to explore what actually serves a pet's best interests during separation. They discuss why shared custody isn't always the best solution, how pets experience stress during divorce, and the common mistakes couples make when emotions take over. Karis also shares ways to prevent future conflict, including why every pet owner should consider creating a "pet-nup" before problems arise.Need help from Karis? Contact her by visiting https://www.whokeepsthedog.com/.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

It’s the 100th episode of A Year and a Day! To celebrate this milestone, Jaime Davis is revisiting five conversations that have resonated with listeners over the years. From knowing when it's time to leave a marriage to understanding relationship patterns, preparing for family court, navigating co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, and finding joy after divorce, these episodes capture some of the most meaningful moments from the first 100 episodes of the show.Featuring highlights from…How to Know When to Leave Your Marriage, with Kate AnthonyFrom "My Relationship Fail" to Learning: Rebuilding After a Breakdown with Bryan PowerTips for Appearing in Family Court with Judge Brian RatledgeCo-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Protecting Your Children and Your SanityDivorced, Not Done: Caroline Stanbury on Co-Parenting, Reinvention, and Owning Your PowerWhether you've been listening since episode one or you're discovering the show for the first time, we're glad you're here. Thank you for helping us celebrate 100 episodes!If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

Is your ex simply emotional, or are you dealing with someone who thrives on conflict?In this episode, Jaime talks with attorney, therapist, mediator, and High Conflict Institute co-founder Bill Eddy to unpack one of the most important distinctions in divorce: the difference between a high drama person and a high conflict person. While both can make separation stressful, knowing which one you're dealing with can completely change your strategy.Bill explains the warning signs of a high conflict personality, why these individuals often blame everyone but themselves, and how they can keep families locked in conflict for years. He also shares tools for protecting yourself, communicating effectively, and keeping your children out of the crossfire, including his widely used BIFF communication method and insights from his newest book, SLIC Solutions for Conflict.Get your copy of SLIC Solutions for Conflict here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/195005747X?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Need help from Bill? Contact him by visiting www.highconflictinstitute.com.If you are in need of legal assistance in North Carolina, contact us at Gailor Hunt by visiting www.divorceistough.com.Like this show? Rate it here! 

In this episode of A Year and a Day, Jaime Davis talks with Donna Jean Kendrick, a certified financial planner, to unpack the financial side of divorce that the legal side can overshadow. Donna, author of The Divorce Money Map, walks listeners through building a clear picture of assets, debts, and expenses before negotiations even begin. She explains why financial preparedness isn't about being a numbers person; it's about knowing where to look and who to ask.In this episode, Jaime and Donna dig into some of the thorniest financial decisions divorcing couples face:How to map out what you own, what you owe, and what you need to ask for during discoveryThe difference between basic living expenses and lifestyle expenses, and why it matters for negotiationsWhat to weigh before deciding to keep or sell the family home, including equity, maintenance costs, and capital gains exposureWhy alimony and child support aren't as guaranteed as people assume, and how to protect against the gapsHow to rebuild a sustainable financial life after the divorce is finalWhy assembling a trusted team of professionals is essentialDonna draws on her own experience as a widow who discovered just how costly it can be to not ask enough questions about a spouse's investments, offering a candid look at why financial literacy matters. Practical, empathetic, and refreshingly jargon-free, this episode is essential listening for anyone trying to protect their financial future during, and after, divorce.

Artificial intelligence is already inside the divorce process: on your attorney's desk, in the courtroom, and possibly in your own search history. The question is whether you're using it wisely or setting yourself up for a costly mistake.In this episode, Jaime Davis sits down with Diana Romanov, certified family law specialist, founder of Romanov Law, and author of Divorce Like a Boss, to get an honest, ground-level look at how AI is reshaping family law right now. Diana is licensed to practice in both California and Germany and has become one of the leading voices at the intersection of divorce law and legal technology, with a YouTube following of 366,000+ subscribers.Diana explains what "digital divorce" really means and draws a critical distinction between open-source AI tools and closed-source platforms like CoCounsel by Thomson Reuters, which offers HIPAA-level data security. She walks through a real case in which she used AI to analyze seven years of bank records in minutes, uncovering a money trail that led from a Wells Fargo account to a Bank of America account to a Cash App, a discovery that would have taken a team of attorneys and accountants days to piece together.The conversation also gets into the serious risks: AI hallucinations that have produced entirely fabricated case citations in actual court filings, judges who have warned attorneys of sanctions for relying on AI-generated legal research without verification, and why your own search history could be subpoenaed and used against you in discovery.Diana also makes the case for why AI will never replace a human attorney. She explains how clients stand to benefit when their attorney uses it well, from financial analysis that once took days now taking minutes, to assisting with routine tasks that no longer run up the billable clock.