48 \\ Why and How You Need to Be Selfish.

Control is a powerful tool that is practiced, respected, and used properly can accomplish amazing things. Many of us try to control people and situations out of fear and / or selfishness, but what we really need to practice controlling is ourselves. If you've ever felt out of control and not sure what to do or how to move forward, this episode is for you. The sooner we can take control in a healthy way, the sooner we can move forward, grow, and experience true, healthy change. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]

None of us are perfect, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't work on improving. Change is uncomfortable, but it is within your control - which is exciting, and also scary. If you want to see your life and relationships improve, you need to commit to being uncomfortable to work on your blind spots. When we improve our life, it improves others' as well. It's another way of loving the people in our life, but modeling what's possible and becoming better - for ourselves, and them too. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]

Friendships are one of the most amazing things in life to me. How er can meet people throughout our life, connect so naturally and deeply - it's often like we're really family. Like any relationship though, friendships take effort. If you want good friends, you need to be a good friend. How you show up matters. How you're available matters. How you treat others, trust them, invest in them and their lives - it all matters. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]

Friendship is similar to dating, it takes time and effort. The big gestures are fun, but friendship is really built in-between the fun, celebratory moments. Making friends often reminds me of The Golden Rule, treat others the way you want to be treated. When it comes to friendship, be the type of friend to others that you want in your life. Whether you feel you're struggling to make friends or simply want more quality friends, presence and reciprocity will help get you there. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]   Episode Mentions: Dare to Lead by Brené Brown (Hardcover): https://amzn.to/3MvUdQF   Dare to Lead by Brené Brown (Audible): https://amzn.to/3ArJCDx 

Excuses are dangerous. They can quickly become a habit that causes disbelief and distrust, among others and ourselves questioning our reliability and character. The sooner we commit to not choosing excuses and acting maturely, the sooner we can improve our planning, address the situation, and be honest about that is happening and what needs to improve. We have more power and control over our situations than we think, but we have to first start by making better choices - to prepare, and be honest. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]

Portion control is such an important piece to our health journey, and is within our control, but just like anything - it's also easy to ignore. Whether you tend to over or under eat, portion control can help you improve your health and save money by eating good foods and the proper amounts. If you're unsure where to start, this episode gives takeaway tips and resources to learn more and plan for your personal goals. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]   Episode Mentions: Portion Fix (21 Day Fix Meal Plan): https://bchbody.life/4cvVfr4  2B Mindset: https://bchbody.life/3RXpKxK  Plateware Set: https://ilanahousewares.com/products/the-complete-stoneware-set 

Having support in life can make such a difference, with confidence and assurance. Not feeling supported can also have an impactful effect, making us doubt and question ourselves. Whether or not you feel supported can have a lot to do with your personal belief and perspective, your willingness to share and open up to invite others in, and how much you rely on others for your decision-making. Today we're diving into the reality of others' comments, our need for building our personal confidence and assurance, and how to better support those we care about too. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]   Episode Mentions: Letters to Juliet (Movie): https://shorturl.at/G2xrP 

Making decisions can be scary, for anyone - but learning to trust ourselves and taking action, whether big or small, helps build self-confidence. Avoiding stagnation helps with self-discipline, clarity, and builds experience. We can learn from others, but learning to also trust ourselves and that we don't need permission for decisions that affect our life is freeing and empowering. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]   Episode Mentions: Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn (Paperback): https://amzn.to/44Mqqv6 Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn (Audiobook): https://amzn.to/3yqj8kK 

There is good and unhealthy selfishness. Practicing healthy selfishness is necessary for our overall well-being and productivity. Whether you're a people-pleaser or not, selfishness is good for your health (physical and mental) and relationships. We show up better for others when we're taking care of ourselves, it's simply a fact. XO, Shannon   1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Connect: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta/  Contact me: [email protected]   Episode Mentions: The Disease to Please (Paperback): https://amzn.to/3wcxGU6 The Disease to Please (Audiobook): https://amzn.to/3U0884E 

Life happens. We can either act surprised or make a plan. Like the seasons of the year, life has patterns and cycles too. How we embrace the change, adapt, and plan set us up for success with our attitude, habits, and outcomes. You don't have to do it alone, and you can help your stress and anxiety levels, let's talk about how together! XO, Shannon   Connect: www.shannonmarqueta.com 1:1 Coaching: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/coaching   Free Stuff: Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/afreshstartsupport  5-Day Meal Plan: https://www.shannonmarqueta.com/    Contact me: [email protected]