You Have What It Takes

Today on the podcast, we are talking the final lie: No One Really Loves me. Listen to learn why inside jokes, matching shirts, and sharing memories help fight this lie. This lie is rooted in our kids not feeling like they belong or are important enough to be loved. We will discuss what this look likes in children, ways to tackle this lie & the truth they need to hear. Be sure to check out the Non Reciprocal Love printable to support you in fighting this lie in the kids you love at www.theEvermoreCollective.com/resources/#printables .

In this Mindfulness Moment, we will process what we discussed in Episode 10 with Josh Shipp's book for kids called No Matter What: A Foster Care Tale. Join a squirrel named Josh an adventure to find loving adults who are willing to be sturdy and secure in their love and commitment to him.

When kids have had adults exit their lives unexpectedly, especially adults they are connected or bonded to, this can be very traumatic. The Lie that is built into these children's thought processes include Everyone Will Reject Me. Regardless of how safe and secure their situation is, they often feel the need to quit others to protect themselves from rejection or being abandoned again. In this episode we will discuss the many behaviors associated with kids who struggle with trust and a fear of rejection as well as strategies and resources to support you in loving kids who believe this lie. Check out the free resource to accompany this week's podcast called Staying and the mini episode Mindfulness Moment: No Matter What.

This week, we are talking about the deep rooted lie that kids often believe when they were treated poorly, abused or rejected. This lie - No One Cares About Me - is something we all struggle with, so the truth that God values our kids shapes how we see them. The episode covers facts, root causes, behaviors, strategies on how to combat the lie & resources to support you.

In this Mindfulness Moment, I will be reading snipits from the book: How To Hug A Porcupine that relate to the themes from Episode 8 where we combatted the lie #3: I Need To Take Care Of Myself.

This Lie that kids believe is based on the idea that no one cares about the child's emotional or relational needs. In order to combat this Lie, we can show we care by understanding the lie and behaviors, modeling how to give consent, building attachment and developing awareness of feelings. Follow this episode with the accompanying Mindfulness Moment: How To Love A Porcupine.

This is Ep 07 and the Lie we are combating this week is I Have To Provide For Myself. When they did not have what they needed, kids who struggle with this lie learned they need to worry about adult sized worries. We will discuss what this lie is rooted in, behaviors that stem from this lie, how to combat it with truth, and practical ideas on how to support kids with these lies. Head to my Resource page for the free printables: I Have What I Need Checklist, Worries Cards & Endless Snack Ideas.  

During this Mindfulness Moment, we will practice a grounding activity called 5 Senses & read the book Right Now, I Am Fine by Dr. Daniela Owen. This was created to accompany Ep 06: Lie # 1 - Something Bad Will Happen 

Kids from Trauma often believe lies and have fears associated with what will happen. In this episode we are unpacking the Lie: Something Bad Will Happen. This lie is hard to fight because we do know that more bad things actually will happen to our kids. But, they do not constantly need to be worried about bad things happening. They need to know we are with them to believe, support & help them when they do. It is true: bad things will happen, but how they are handled will be much different. We will talk about where this lie originates, what it looks like in the behavior of a child, which truths we should focus on to combat this lie, and ways to support kids who worry about things happening frequently. Before you jump in, be sure you have already listened to Ep 05: Fighting The Lies. This preview to this series will help you understand what we are talking about and the philosophy behind this approach. Also available today is the Mindfulness Moment: Right Now, I Am Fine that was created to accompany this episode.  This includes a grounding exercise & I will read the book with the same name: Right Now, I Am Fine. May you stand beside your child to show: you will stay when bad things happen. As they learn you will believe, support, and help them work through various issues, may they see your great love and accept the truth that God is always with them.

In this Mindfulness Moment I will be reading and reflecting a bit on the book written by Adoptive Mom, Ali Redford called The Boy Who Built A Wall Around Himself. Check out her book on my Resources page at theEvermoreCollective.com