You Can’t Say That

Society has this idea that healing is calming, zen, euphoric etc. They give people the wrong idea so when they decide to start healing and experience a bunch of pain they think they’re doing the opposite of healing. News flash Healing hurts!

In this episode I sit down with Mollie (@youfound_mollie) & talk about EVERYTHING… except the kitchen sink. We’re talking about the differences in our parents & our generation raising kids, spoiling kids, the bar for men being in hell, and anything else that comes to mind.

Though the journey is never over, I’ve decided to share what I’ve been through this far on my mental health journey as it pertains to therapy. Sharing my experience with white vs black therapists and what worked for me.

With an undertone of mental health, I’m having the conversation of balancing taking mental health breaks and doing things you need to when you need to do them. Is there a such thing as too much of a mental health break? Also, does lack of discipline destroy you?

May is mental health awareness month and that’s exactly what we’re talking about. A lot of times people only speak on or speak up for mental health because it’s the viral or “cool” thing to do. But are you willing to talk about it when nobody else is? Are you willing to have that conversation when it’s “uncomfortable” to do so? Also, I feel like it’s important to speak on black woman with high functioning depression. How many “strong black women” do you know? & how’d they gain that title?

Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in black men ages 15-24. We don’t shine enough light on black men and their mental health. Of course as a black woman I don’t know what it feels like to be a black man, but I know a lot of men who do. In this episode we’re talking about mental health as it pertains to black men and how they feel. Joining that conversation, to give his perspective, I have a special guest Khalil (IG: @lil.bmf) as he gives his perspective on the subject.

This episode I give a list of 22 things I have learned. Life happens and you will go through things. What matters is what you learned from what you went through. Here’s what I learn from the things I’ve been through in life.

It seems to be a trend that once you hit 25 you go through a crisis of major growth and everything changes. On this episode I sit down with Aliah (@aliahca // @wigsbyleezus) and we talk about what that crisis looked like in our life and our transition into adulthood.

In this episode I’m teaming up with a good friend of mine Mariya (@glxrified) & we’re talking about being in our 20s & overcoming and pushing through the pressure we place on ourselves and also pressure we feel in different areas in our lives such as social media and our families. We also speak on taking the time out to celebrate our big and small wins rather than moving straight to the next thing. Stopping and smelling the roses of the things we accomplish and giving ourselves our own flowers.

Let’s be clear! In this episode i want to set clear what “You Can’t Say That” is all about. Also i want to talk about how dependent we become on other people or how dependent we become on wanting people in our lives but we never make sure we become dependent on the most important person in lives… OURSELVES. So we’re talking about having a healthy relationship or healthy interactions with ourselves.