Ep #203: Who You Are vs. Roles You Play

Sometimes life feels slow, like you’re stuck or falling behind. But this episode is a reminder: good things take time. The growth you can’t see—the deep, unseen work—is often the most important part. You’re not behind; you’re growing roots. And roots matter. Flowers don’t last without them. It’s easy to get caught up waiting for the visible bloom, but real strength and lasting change are built underground, in the quiet seasons. Trust that what’s coming is worth the wait. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW! Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to bflycoaching.com/coaching to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Follow me on social media: Facebook: @bflycoaching Instagram: @shannanchristiansen

Ever wake up one day and wonder, “Where did I go?” You’re checking boxes, showing up for everyone, juggling roles like mom, wife, boss, caregiver, friend… and somewhere in the shuffle, you got lost. This episode is a heart-to-heart for every woman who's ever felt like she disappeared behind the roles she plays. In this episode of "Creating Her Best Life Now," Coach Jenn and I dive deep into the powerful truth that losing yourself in roles doesn't define your true identity. We're unpacking the truth: what you do is not who you are. Those titles you carry? They’re part of your story, but they’re not your identity. Join us as we navigate through the maze of roles and rediscover the essence of being YOU. It's time to shine a light on your true identity beyond the labels and roles you've taken on. So if you're feeling burned out, unseen, or like you've forgotten what it feels like to dream for yourself—this one's for you. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW! Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to bflycoaching.com/coaching to schedule your free consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Follow me on social media: Facebook: @bflycoaching Instagram: @shannanchristiansen  

Ever wake up and think, “Okay… what can I do today to just feel better?” In this episode, we’re getting real about those blah days—the ones where you’re running on fumes, your to-do list is giving you side-eye, and you’re just trying to make it to bedtime without losing it. We’re unpacking simple, doable ways to lift your mood, protect your peace, and maybe even make yourself smile a little. This isn’t about overhauling your life—it’s about asking one powerful question and actually listening to what you need today. Whether it’s a nap, a no, or just five minutes to yourself, let’s talk about how to show up for you—in small, meaningful ways that make a big difference. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a beautifully designed digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW!

Welcome to a special episode of Creating Your Best Life, where I’m giving you an exclusive sneak peek into my Year of You program when I taught the power of Delaying Your Gratification from my March Workshop. Join me as I share how delaying instant rewards can lead to greater long-term success and fulfillment in life. This isn't just about saying "no" to now; it's about saying "yes" to a future you've always dreamed of. Listen in and discover practical tips, personal stories, and insightful strategies to help you embrace delayed gratification as a powerful tool for personal transformation. Because when you invest in yourself today, you're paving the way for a brighter tomorrow. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! When you join Year of You, you will gain instant access to the replays from February, March and April's workshops. Each month, join an empowering live workshop with me designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW!    

Tired of waiting to “feel” confident before you finally go for it? Yeah… that’s not how it works. Confidence doesn’t come first—it’s the result of taking action, messing up, learning, and doing it anyway. This episode is your reminder to stop letting self-doubt drive the bus. You’ll learn how to turn down the volume on that inner critic and grow real, earned confidence—one brave step at a time. No fluff. No fake it ‘til you make it. Just honest talk and simple tools. This episode is part of our continuation series with the amazing coaches of BFLYCoaching, and today we're featuring Coach Tammie—who’s bringing the fire on what it really takes to move past doubt and step into your power. Sick of second-guessing yourself every time you think about chasing your dreams? That nagging self-doubt isn’t the truth—it’s just noise. At BFLYCoaching, private 1:1 coaching gives you the clarity, tools, and support to quiet the inner critic and finally move forward with confidence. Whether you're in the middle of a major life shift or just tired of feeling stuck, this is your chance to get back in the driver’s seat. Coach Tammie is ready to help you ditch the doubt and take real steps toward the life you want. Book your free consultation now at www.bflycoaching.com/tammie-molnar.      

We all have dreams—those big, exciting, deep-in-your-soul desires. But if that’s true, why do so many of us stay stuck, watching from the sidelines instead of going after what we really want? In this episode, we’re getting real about what’s actually holding you back (hint: it’s probably not what you think). Joining us this episode is BFLY Coach Kelly, who’s here to help you uncover the fears, doubts, and sneaky self-sabotage keeping you from taking action. It’s time to stop waiting for the “right time” and start believing in your time. Ready to finally go after your dreams but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book a free consultation with Coach Kelly at www.bflycoaching.com/kelly-pridgen.

Ever feel like you’re living on autopilot, checking all the right boxes, keeping everyone else happy—but somehow, you’re the one running on empty? You’re not alone. So many of us get stuck in the cycle of people-pleasing, saying yes when we mean no, and shaping our lives around what others expect instead of what actually makes us happy. But here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. In this episode, part of my special series with the Coaches of BFLYCoaching, Coach Sharon Spohn joins us for an honest conversation about breaking the pattern, tuning into what you really want, and finally giving yourself permission to take up space in your own life—without guilt, without shame, and without apology. Ready for more but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book a free consultation with Coach Sharon at www.bflycoaching.com/sharon-spohn.

Ever felt like you’re doing something wrong because you’re not happy all the time? But what if feeling all the emotions—good, bad, and everything in between—is actually the whole point? In this episode, I'm unpacking why negative emotions aren’t problems to fix but part of the deal. Life is a mix, not a constant high, and that’s okay. Let’s talk about it. Feeling stuck? Overwhelmed? Ready for more but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book your FREE Consultation today at bflycoaching.com/coaching!

Ever feel like you're just going through the motions—wake up, get things done, repeat—without really feeling present in your own life? That’s what I call Robot Mode, and trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re talking about why we slip into auto-pilot (spoiler: your nervous system is doing its job, but maybe a little too well). We’ll break down the fight, flight, or freeze response and explore simple, doable ways to regulate your nervous system so you can feel more in control and alive in your daily life. And if you’re ready for a deeper dive, join me for April’s Year of You workshop at bflycoaching.com, where we’ll unpack even more powerful tools to help you reconnect with yourself. Let’s break free from Robot Mode—together. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a beautifully designed digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW!

Emotions aren’t just random waves of chaos trying to ruin your day—they’re messengers, trying to tell you something important. But are you actually listening? In this episode, we’re diving into the truth about emotions, why we feel them so intensely, and how to stop drowning in what I call "puddle emotions." These are the feelings that keep us stuck, spiraling, or overwhelmed—like guilt, fear, or self-doubt—when we don’t know how to process them. I’ll walk you through how to recognize these emotional messengers, decode what they’re trying to tell you, and most importantly, take your power back. Because you are not your emotions—you are the one experiencing them. And when you learn how to work with them instead of against them, that’s where true emotional freedom begins. Tune in for a real, relatable conversation on how to stop letting emotions control you and start using them as the powerful guides they’re meant to be. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a beautifully designed digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER NOW!