They Talk Sex

Angela Jones is a former sex worker, a Professor of Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at Stony Brook University, State University of New York. Their newest book is called "Sex In Public", and we dive in on their research about race, sex dolls, respectability politics and so much more. THANK YOU for a great fifth season, and have a happy summer!!! 4:00 Dr. Angela Jones, nice to meet you7:00 understanding sex leads to better lives10:00 shame and what people like 14:00 sex robot debates17:00 why no likey the sex doll21:00 Sponsored by FeministTrash.com 31:00 SW things that made them a better researcher 35:00 sw environments and care38:00 virtual brothels 42:00 protect your energy46:00 Sponsored by MomotaroApotheca.com 49:00 more research about Global South plz55:00 polyamory types + metamours58:00 didn’t expect to write about trauma 1:02:00 desires, behaviors, identities, relationships, communities FIND YOUR GUEST: drangelajones.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk tips for playing or working online and with ever-changing technology. As a lawyer, digital policy activist and community organizer, with the Electronic Frontier Foundation Paige Collings works to dismantle systems of oppression. Visit EFF.org for more info on adapting to state surveillance and corporate restrictions stifling marginalized communities - and the most of us.2:00 early days of online6:00 nostalgic downloads9:00 how she got here11:00 dating apps and privacy concerns19:00 IG messenger policy change April 202623:00 IG is reading your messages now27:00 listening devices32:00 PrivacyBadger - free service to block data mining35:00 spy glasses, META glasses39:00 password safety tips42:00 what are you sharing?46:00 Set up Two-factor authentication 49:00 age verification sucks - why?53:00 banned content56:00 data collection 1:02:00 resources to protect yourself and stay informed1:07:00 how to help SWsAdditional resources for web safety and news: ssd.eff.org/fightforthefuture.org/glitchcharity.co.uk/FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @yourtravelpayj FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s create supportive environments where individuals feel empowered to explore complex topics and perspectives, like queer imposter syndrome or STI disclosure. Everyone needs advocacy and especially queer and disabled communities. Are you a clinician or healthcare provider? Even better to talk with Lena Peak, MSW, CSE.2:00 teaching vs therapy for her5:00 disabled people be fucking 8:00 curiosity, play, community12:00 being silly can be disarming 18:00 group dynamics in therapy vs education 22:00 am I gay enough? 25:00 care for yourself + disclosure28:00 case study: Kevin32:00 how clinicians can be helpful40:00 lucky in sex work43:00 wheelchairs in clubs47:00 stereotypes50:00 book recsFIND YOUR GUEST: https://www.erosinsight.com/aboutFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”. 2:00 leaving the church 4:00 leaning into the violent things7:00 family predators and patterns9:00 what is a “mass tort”?13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships16:00 humor about sexual assault20:00 a book event in Portland?25:00 how to deal with social isolation30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings34:00 opposition to her 37:00 “Adventist Risk Management”40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson44:00 SDA vs Catholics47:00 who owns the eatery?50:00 atheism today and sex tipsFIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Our guest is a male provider of touch to women clients. He has worked as a surrogate partner, coach and more. Let's talk about clients, and attachment, and our own personal relationship tips and pitfalls. 2:00 a somatic approach to sex4:00 better sex comes from body awareness7:00 when it sucks to be 'in your body'11:00 requirements for working as a surrogate15:00 go explore!19:00 some of us are drawn to sex work18:00 male sw profiles from hell22:00 why pay for it?30:00 clients attaching to him37:00 no dating at this time40:00 sunlight and showering is key for me44:00 orgasm retreat-events48:00 upcoming events 52:00 aim to diversify and inform self, how?55:00 sex tips and breathingFIND YOUR GUEST: JamesHumecky.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Miss M has worked in sex in a variety of ways, but never a brothel. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of sugaring, escorting, companion and dominatrix work - and why sex workers tend to prefer decriminalization instead of legalization models, when given the option. We’ve also got safety and pleasure tips for everyone!1:00 SA to escorting 5:00 she applied to Sheri’s 8:00 brothel surveillance 12:00 structure doesn’t equal equity16:00 tips for safety20:00 is this what it’s like dating?25:00 find her Substack here: @menopausemermaid Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 26:00 dating30:00 thoughts on policing34:00 police in portland lately38:00 confidentiality is coolSponsored by Love-Blanket.com 45:00 Unionizing in Nevada news49:00 concerns re: ownership of image55:00 DECRIM not legalization plz 58:00 sex tips 1:00:00 female condoms are cool!FIND YOUR GUEST: Substack @ menopausemermaidFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Sceness at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Sinn Sage is an an Adult Video Hall of Famer, who offers reflections and advice for people who want to make their own materials and seek to understand the market. Let’s talk about how years of pornmaking has lended insight into intimacy and the politics between touch and advocacy. 2:00 how she got started5:00 burnout and spark8:00 facesitting and fetish themes11:00 AVN evolutions and COVID15:00 Pornhubs problematic origins 18:00 ad revenue tiers?22:00 learned boundaries in SW25:00 theater nerd overlap Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com29:00 having a favorite 35:00 relationship advice for SWs38:00 advice for using apps 42:00 advice for newbies in the industry47:00 thots on coaching?52:00 she wants all SWs to earn more54:00 Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com58:00 clips4sale and platform rules1:01:00 manyvids drama and changes1:05:00 custom video guidelines1:09:00 helping guide people to intimacy FIND YOUR GUEST: Sinn-Sage.comFIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

This is a pleasure-centric episode! Learn some tips for pleasing people with vulvas, and get an insider’s idea of different ways to play. Allison Moon talks sex geek stuff like lesbianism, theater, disability, and sexual skills. 2:00 GIRLSEX 101 is about queer sex5:00 straight men like this book too8:00 Guide to Getting It/On11:00 college professor in the PNW14:00 Sex Geek Summer Camp18:00 listening will make you better21:00 more tips for sex with women Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com 26:00 beware scammers selling stuff30:00 oral sex tips33:00 don’t kick me off online plz 36:00 more oral sex tips39:00 transphobes hate her! Sponsored by Lovecrave.com45:00 SWOON - a short rom/com film about sex work and disability47:00 leftist movements can leave people behind51:00 sex can be silly and bizarre 54:00 @DirtyLola and Reid Mihalko shoutouts57:00 a renaissance around sex positive media is possible FIND YOUR GUEST: AlliedMoon.comFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Kaytlin Bailey is a comedian and former escort who founded a nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to advocate for human rights. She produces conferences and podcasts episodes and is touring The Oldest Profession Live Show now! Let’s talk about 10,000 years of sex work in history.3:00 feminism succeeds with inclusion of sw7:00 sw in history 10:00 feedback from audiences13:00 internalized shame15:00 the Honest Courtesan - maggiemcneil.com18:00 sugaring and escort background22:00 - Get 10% off your feministtrash.com order with code STRIPPERWRITER25:00 Veronica Franco - fascinating historical figure29:00 reminder to save your money if you can33:00 fundraising and sugaring 37:00 differences in activism40:00 what is “bad” money?43:00 attitude is everything 47:00 flagging or signaling 50:00 it’s expensive to look “naturally pretty”54:00 how to gauge compassion about sw?57:00 how to be an ally 1:00:00 danger vs opportunity 1:02:00 sex tips from a married person jkFIND YOUR GUEST: kaytlinbailey.com/,  AND AT theoldestprofession.org/FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

Suzannah Weiss is an American sexologist and author of “Eve’s Blessing”, which discusses how people with vulvas can lead pleasurable lives in a world that normalizes their pain, specifically related to sex, childbirth and menstruation. This book is for gender diverse people, and is not a critique of the Bible, but a more sex-positive re-imagining of it. 3:00 chronic lyme disease, pain or no-gasm 7:00 stories from others10:00 what is “the female experience”13:00 medical forms and language can make it confusing15:00 gaslighting example18:00 PAXIL may mess up your vag21:00 hormonal birth control side effects25:00 CONDOMANIA.COM - code THEYTALKSEX 10% off first order28:00 the Bible’s pain of child-raising?32:00 wine is not the answer in this case36:00 side effects of sexual violence40:00 OF Bible Passages 43:00 advocate for yourself during doctor visits45:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com46:00 about 5% of people have endometriosis?50:00 should periods be so painful?53:00 reminder, she’s a sex therapist in CA56:00 sex tips!FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @suzannahwiseFIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.comSee Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsThis episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order!and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)