The Dudela Podcast | Fatherhood Real Talk for New Dads

What happens when the businesses you've built start failing, the money stops coming in, and your family is looking to you for answers? For Major Williams, that question became reality. He was a husband, a father of three boys, and an entrepreneur who had spent years creating opportunities. But when several business ventures struggled and the pandemic brought life to a halt, Major found himself in unfamiliar territory. For the first time, he didn't know where the next dollar was coming from. And in the middle of that uncertainty, his wife did something he'll never forget. She kept believing in him. Even when she was scared herself. Sometimes it was encouragement. Sometimes it was a conversation about what came next. Sometimes it was a simple 20 second hug in the hallway. Those moments helped Major find the confidence to rebuild. Today, Major is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, former recording artist, podcast host, and father of four. But his professional success isn't what makes this conversation so powerful. It's how the difficult seasons changed the kind of husband and father he wanted to become. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael sit down with Major Williams for a conversation about marriage, fatherhood, resilience, financial pressure, and what it actually means to be present for your family. Your Kids Aren't the Only Ones Growing Up Major has four children, each with a completely different personality. After raising three boys, the arrival of his daughter brought an entirely new experience into his life. He talks about the emotions of becoming a girl dad, what he's learned with each child, and why parenting has taught him as much about himself as it has about his kids. Because fatherhood isn't just about raising children. It's about becoming someone new alongside them. The father you were when your first baby arrived doesn't have to be the father you are ten years later. Every stage gives you another opportunity to learn, grow, and do things differently. The Marriage Behind the Father Major and his wife have been together for 26 years and are approaching their 20th wedding anniversary. Their relationship started with a chance encounter at a Foot Locker in Los Angeles and one unforgettable opening line. "I'm not trying to steal your purse." Not exactly the romantic beginning you'd expect. But what followed was a friendship that became the foundation of their marriage. Major shares how they've navigated difficult seasons, how his wife helped him confront old habits and beliefs, and why he still intentionally flirts with her, compliments her, and shows affection in front of their children. John reflects on watching Viv become a mother and discovering new things to love about her. Michael talks about how easy it is for the little expressions of affection to disappear when life gets busy. And together, we explore something that every married dad needs to remember. Becoming parents doesn't mean you stop being husband and wife. Your marriage still deserves your attention. When the Provider Doesn't Know How to Provide One of the most meaningful parts of this conversation comes when Major opens up about the financial struggles his family experienced. He had businesses that weren't working. Money was getting tight. Then the pandemic arrived. As someone who saw himself as the protector and provider, he felt the weight of uncertainty. But rather than allowing that pressure to divide their marriage, Major and his wife faced it together. She encouraged him to recognize the opportunities already in front of him. He had a phone. He understood media. He knew how to tell stories and connect with people. So why wait for someone else to give him an opportunity? He could create one. Major shares how that encouragement eventually helped him build his own media platform, develop new businesses, and rebuild his family's financial stability. It's a story about entrepreneurship and resilience. But more importantly, it's a story about partnership. For any dad who has ever felt the pressure of providing for his family, this part of the conversation is worth hearing. Being Present Doesn't Have to Take All Day One of our biggest takeaways from this episode is surprisingly simple. Sometimes 20 intentional minutes with your kids can mean more than hours spent together while you're distracted. Major talks about putting family time on his calendar, taking prayer walks with his daughter, having spontaneous Bible studies with his son, and making space for meaningful conversations. He also shares one of the more unusual traditions in his household. Saturday family board meetings. Yes, actual meetings. The kids get a voice. The family talks through responsibilities, schedules, needs, and plans. Everyone gets an opportunity to participate. It's a system they've developed over time, and it helps Major balance being productive with being present. John shares a recent adventure taking his twin daughters on a spontaneous train ride, and the conversation turns toward the memories our kids carry with them. Sometimes the moments that matter most aren't expensive, elaborate, or planned months in advance. Sometimes they're just the moments when Dad decides to show up. Becoming the Dad You Never Had Major also opens up about growing up without a relationship with his father. He talks about the discipline he experienced as a child, the influence of his upbringing, and why he has intentionally chosen a different approach with his own children. Rather than simply repeating what he experienced, Major has worked to understand his kids, communicate effectively, and use storytelling to teach important lessons. John shares how he writes personalized storybooks for his twin daughters each year, capturing their adventures and turning them into lessons they can carry with them. And Major explains how his past career in music has become another way to connect with his family. From working with No Limit Records and Jamie Foxx to making music with his own kids, he's discovered that the things that once defined his career can now enrich his life as a dad. Because becoming a father doesn't mean abandoning who you used to be. Sometimes it means discovering how to use those experiences in an entirely new way. What We Talk About in This Episode How becoming a father changes you with every child The importance of friendship and intentionality in marriage Supporting your spouse through financial uncertainty Finding the courage to rebuild after business setbacks Balancing productivity with being present at home Why 15 or 20 minutes of focused attention can make a difference Creating family rhythms and involving kids in decisions Breaking unhealthy parenting patterns from your own childhood Using stories to teach your children important lessons Bringing your passions and past experiences into fatherhood Major's journey through music, entrepreneurship, and media His book, Use Everybody Again, and the philosophy behind it And, of course, a few laughs about embarrassing your kids, family board meetings, and secretly eating their Oreos. Meet Major Williams Major Williams is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, recording artist, father of four, and host of the Major Vation Podcast. His book, Use Everybody Again, challenges the idea that using people must be something negative. Instead, Major encourages people to learn from one another, create meaningful connections, and become resources for each other's growth. His USE framework focuses on three principles: U: Unlocking Your Story S: Shifting Your Mindset E: Executing Your Strategy Whether you're trying to become a better father, build a business, strengthen your marriage, or find a new direction in life, Major's message is about recognizing the opportunities already around you. Get Major's book, Use Everybody Again: https://s0spiz%2Dct.myshopify.com/products/use%2Deverybody%2Dagain Explore Major's work and podcast: https://majorwilliams.com/ You can also find him on social media by searching Major Williams. Resources for Dads from Dudela At Dudela, we believe fatherhood doesn't come with instructions, but it shouldn't come with confusion either. We're two dads who have experienced complicated pregnancies, unexpected deliveries, NICU stays, and the everyday challenges of raising kids. We created Dudela to give other dads the roadmap we wish someone had handed us. Whether you're expecting your first baby or trying to become more intentional with the family you already have, here's where to start. Join the Spit Up Society Our community for dads is completely FREE. Join the Spit Up Society to follow Mike and Abigail's second pregnancy through Womb Watch, send questions to John and Mike, access our free fatherhood resources, and connect with the Dudela community. You'll also get access to member perks and new resources as they're released. No subscription fee. No credit card required. Join the Spit Up Society for free: https://thedudelaco.com/join/spit%2Dup%2Dsociety/ Get the Free Dad Prep Guide 15 Things Every Dad Should Do Before the Baby Arrives Expecting a baby and wondering where to begin? Our free guide covers the emotional, financial, relationship, and practical preparation that often gets overlooked. It's a simple starting point for dads who want to walk into fatherhood with more confidence and a clearer plan. Get your free guide: https://thedudelaco.com/guide/ Get the Dudela Prep Kit Six pillars. Nine practical tools. One clearer plan for fatherhood. The Dudela Prep Kit helps expecting dads prepare for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, finances, their relationship, and the first days home. It's designed to help you stop guessing and start taking responsibility for the things that matter. The kit includes 31 pages, practical exercises, printable tools, and perspectives from both John and Mike's wives. $37 with a 30 day money back guarantee. Explore the Dudela Prep Kit: https://thedudelaco.com/kit/ Book a Game Plan Call Sometimes you don't need another article or podcast. You need to talk through your actual situation with someone who's been there. Our Game Plan Call is a one hour conversation with John or Mike where we work through your questions, concerns, and priorities. Whether you're worried about finances, supporting your partner, preparing for birth, or figuring out what kind of dad you want to become, we'll help you identify your next three moves. Book a Game Plan Call: https://thedudelaco.com/call/ Explore The Turn For dads who want more personal support, The Turn is our individual fatherhood coaching and mentorship experience. We work directly with dads to help them become more confident, intentional, and prepared for the responsibilities of fatherhood. It's not about being a perfect dad. It's about becoming a steady one. Learn about The Turn: https://thedudelaco.com/turn/ Have a Question? Ask Another Dad. Maybe you're overwhelmed. Maybe you're preparing for your first baby and don't know where to begin. Maybe you're going through a difficult season in your marriage, career, or family life. Or maybe you just want to share something that's going well. We'd love to hear from you. Head to our website and leave us a voicemail. John and Mike listen to every message. Leave us a voicemail: https://thedudelaco.com/voicemail/ Your Challenge This Week Major talks about how intentionality changed his marriage, his businesses, and his relationship with his kids. So here's our challenge. Give someone in your family 20 minutes of your undivided attention this week. No phone. No multitasking. No trying to squeeze in one more thing. Maybe it's taking your wife for a walk. Maybe it's playing catch with your son. Maybe it's sitting on the floor with your toddler. Maybe it's asking your child what they want to do together and actually doing it. It doesn't have to be complicated. It just has to be intentional. Because the kind of father you become isn't determined by one enormous decision. It's built through the small decisions you make every day. Be present. Be intentional. Keep becoming the dad your family needs. Connect with Major Williams Get Major's book, Use Everybody Again: https://s0spiz-ct.myshopify.com/products/use-everybody-again Website: https://majorwilliams.com Instagram: @majorwilliams The Majorvation Podcast: @themajorvationpodcast on Instagram and YouTube LinkedIn: Major Williams Threads: @majorwilliams Facebook: Major Williams Thanks for listening to The Dudela Podcast. John & Mike 👊 The Dudela Co. | Turning Dudes Into Dads https://thedudelaco.com/

One day it just slips out: "Do I have to follow you around and turn off the lights?" Congrats. You're becoming your dad. John and Michael dig into the dad traits they're inheriting, the ones worth keeping, and the ones they'd rather leave behind. Thermostat wars, a dad who threw away a paycheck left on the counter, and a tuna casserole night that ended at Popeyes. Then the real stuff. Why your fuse gets short when life gets heavy. When a sharp voice is the right call (a toddler heading for a parking lot) and when it isn't (bathwater on the floor). Why saying sorry to your kid matters. And why the best thing you can give your family is being a steady dad, the same guy every time you walk through the door. Expecting? Grab a piece of paper tonight. Write down the dad you want to be and the dad you don't. No good model at home? Find a dad you respect and ask him how he does it. IN THIS EPISODE - The dad habits you swore you'd never have - Staying calm when you're stressed and running on empty - When it's OK to raise your voice with a toddler - Apologizing to your kid - Being a steady, consistent dad - Finding a father figure if you didn't have one LINKS: 1. Win a BabySense Pro video monitor: enter at https://thedudelaco.com/babysense and follow @the_dudela_official on Instagram. Entries close Tuesday, Oct 27 at 11:59pm MT. Didn't win? Code DudeLA10 gets you 10% off. 2. The Dudela Prep Kit: https://thedudelaco.com/kit 3. Spit-Up Society, $5/mo: https://thedudelaco.com/join/spit-up-society Want to get connected with another dad? Message us on Instagram @the_dudela_official

Decide Who You're Going to Let Down You cannot be everything to everyone. At some point, someone is going to be disappointed. Your boss wants more hours. Your friends want you at dinner. Your parents want to see you. Your house needs work. Your wife needs help. Your kids want you home. And somewhere in the middle of all that, you're trying to find a little time for yourself. So here's the uncomfortable question: Who are you willing to let down? In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael tackle one of the hardest parts of being an intentional father: deciding what actually deserves your time, energy, money, and attention when everything feels important. Because being a good dad doesn't mean doing everything. Sometimes it means having the courage to disappoint someone so you can show up for the people who matter most. Michael kicks things off with the chaos of moving into a new house while Abigail is pregnant with baby number two and they're raising a toddler. Between moving expenses, unpacking, preparing a nursery, keeping up with work, and managing family life, there's a lot happening. And when life gets that busy, it's easy to start keeping score. Who's doing more around the house? Who's carrying the financial responsibilities? Who's handling the kids? Who's making the sacrifices? But marriage isn't a competition. And just because you don't see everything your spouse is carrying doesn't mean they aren't carrying it. We talk about recognizing the invisible responsibilities in your relationship, communicating before resentment builds, and why keeping score is one of the fastest ways to make an already stressful season harder. Then we get into the bigger issue. What happens when every responsibility feels like your number one priority? You want to provide for your family, but you also want to be present. You want to be a good friend, but you don't want to miss bedtime. You want to pursue opportunities, but you don't want your marriage to suffer. You want to invest in yourself, but you feel guilty taking time away from your kids. And sometimes, even when you're doing everything you can, it still feels like you're falling short. John shares how he's navigating multiple professional commitments, growing Dudela, and protecting time with Viv and the girls. He explains why he and Viv have agreed to give certain opportunities a defined season before deciding which ones deserve a place in their lives moving forward. Michael shares why saying no is difficult when you want to be a great husband, father, son, brother, and friend, and why sometimes the right decision actually means saying yes to something you've been avoiding. We also talk about the importance of not letting yourself down. Because if you sacrifice every hobby, friendship, and personal interest in the name of being a good dad, eventually you may find yourself exhausted, frustrated, and disconnected from the man you wanted to become. The goal isn't to disappoint everyone else. The goal is to stop disappointing the people and priorities that matter most. And that takes intentional decisions. Not just once. Every single day. In This Episode Why dads feel overwhelmed trying to balance everything Moving into a new house with a pregnant wife and toddler The financial and emotional stress of major family changes Why keeping score in marriage creates resentment Recognizing the invisible work your spouse does How to communicate when responsibilities feel unequal Balancing work, marriage, parenting, friendships, and personal time Why being a good provider means more than earning money Deciding who you're willing to disappoint Setting boundaries with work, friends, and extended family Why missing bedtime might matter more than missing a networking event Learning when to say no and when to say yes Making time for hobbies without sacrificing your family Why dads shouldn't lose their identities after having kids How to prioritize responsibilities when everything feels urgent Using a brain dump to reduce stress and mental overload Evaluating your calendar and financial priorities Giving commitments a season instead of making permanent decisions How John and Viv are evaluating professional opportunities together Why accountability and friendships matter for dads Finding someone you can talk to when fatherhood feels overwhelming Why becoming a steady dad happens through daily decisions How your children learn from the example you're setting Feeling Overwhelmed as a Dad? If you've ever searched for advice about balancing work and family, managing parenting stress, setting boundaries as a father, avoiding dad burnout, or making more time for your wife and kids, this conversation is for you. Maybe you're an expecting dad wondering how you're going to balance a career with a newborn. Maybe you're a new father struggling with sleep deprivation, financial pressure, and the responsibilities of providing for your family. Maybe you're a working dad who feels guilty every time you leave the house. Or maybe you're simply exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone. You're not alone. And you don't have to figure it all out today. You just have to start making decisions that reflect the kind of dad you want to become. The Brain Dump: A Simple Tool for Overwhelmed Dads One of the most practical things we discuss in this episode is something we've talked about before at Dudela. The Brain Dump. When everything is swirling around in your head, get it out. Grab a notebook, open your phone, or sit down at your computer and write down everything you're carrying. Work responsibilities. Home projects. Financial concerns. Family commitments. Appointments. Things you've promised people. Things you want to accomplish. All of it. Then start asking yourself: What actually needs my attention right now? What can wait? What can I delegate? What can I say no to? What am I doing simply because I feel obligated? And what am I neglecting that actually matters to me? Sometimes the biggest source of stress isn't how much you have to do. It's trying to hold all of it in your head at once. Get it out, organize it, and start making decisions. Join the Spit Up Society Being a good dad is hard. Doing it alone is even harder. That's why we created the Spit Up Society. For just $5 per month, you can join John and Michael for two live Dudela conversations every month, ask questions, share what you're going through, and connect with other dads who are trying to figure this whole fatherhood thing out. Our calls happen on the first Tuesday and third Thursday of every month. Can't make a call? We record them so members can catch up whenever they have time. You'll also get access to exclusive content, including The Womb Watch, where we're following Michael and Abigail through their second pregnancy. Whether you're preparing for your first baby, navigating the newborn stage, or trying to balance work and family life, we'd love to have you. Join the Spit Up Society: https://thedudelaco.com/join/spit%2Dup%2Dsociety/ Free Dad Prep Guide Becoming a dad is one of the biggest transitions you'll ever experience. And there's a lot nobody tells you. Our free guide, 15 Things Every Dad to Be Should Know, helps expecting fathers understand what matters most during pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and the transition into fatherhood. It's practical advice from dads who have been there. Get your free Dad Prep Guide: https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide The Dudela Prep Kit Want to take the next step? The Dudela Prep Kit is designed to help expecting dads prepare for the responsibilities of fatherhood before their baby arrives. From finances and relationships to emotional preparation, labor and delivery, postpartum, and building your family's identity, this kit gives you practical tools to start taking action. Because information is helpful. Information without action is nothing. Get the Dudela Prep Kit: https://www.thedudelaco.com/kit/ Ask Dudela Sometimes you don't need another article. Sometimes you just need another dad to listen. In this episode, we talk about how important it is to have someone you can vent to without feeling judged. Maybe you're stressed about money. Maybe work is overwhelming. Maybe you're struggling with your marriage. Maybe you're terrified about becoming a dad. Or maybe you just put your kid down at 2:30 in the morning and need to get something off your chest. That's what Ask Dudela is for. Head to our website and leave us a voicemail. You can ask a question, share a win, talk through a struggle, or simply tell us what's going on. We listen to every message. And if you don't have another dad in your life you can talk to, we'd love to be that community for you. Leave us a voicemail: https://www.thedudelaco.com/voicemail/ Follow Dudela Want more conversations about pregnancy, fatherhood, marriage, parenting, and becoming the dad you want to be? Follow along and join the conversation. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela%2DOfficial Your Challenge This Week We're giving you two challenges this week. Challenge 1: Decide Who You're Willing to Let Down Look at your calendar for the next two weeks. Find one commitment that doesn't align with your biggest priorities right now. Maybe it's an unnecessary meeting. Maybe it's a social event you've been dreading. Maybe it's an extra project that can wait. Maybe it's something you agreed to simply because you didn't want to disappoint someone. Ask yourself: If I say yes to this, what am I saying no to? Then make a decision. And remember, sometimes the right choice is to keep the commitment. The point is to make that choice intentionally. Challenge 2: Check In on Another Dad Think of one dad in your life. Maybe he's expecting his first baby. Maybe he's raising toddlers. Maybe he's going through a difficult season. Maybe you haven't talked in a while. Send him a text. Something as simple as: "Hey man, just checking in. How are you doing? Been thinking about you." You never know how much someone might need that. Because we're all carrying something. And sometimes knowing another dad cares enough to ask makes all the difference. Being a good dad isn't about getting everything right. It's about consistently choosing what matters most. That's how you become a steady dad. And that's what Dudela is all about.  

What does the CEO of Babysense think parents actually need at 3 AM? Maybe less technology, not more. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael sit down with Elad Erdan, CEO of Babysense, for an honest conversation about baby tech, baby monitors, sleep, parenting anxiety, marriage, career, and what it means to become a deeply involved dad. Elad is a dad of two, an entrepreneur, and the CEO of a company that has been helping families navigate one of the most stressful parts of early parenthood since 1991: keeping an eye on your baby while still getting enough peace of mind to actually sleep yourself. And his path to Babysense started with becoming a dad. Elad shares how the birth of his first child forced him to reconsider the life and career he was building. Fatherhood changed his priorities, his relationship with work, and eventually the direction of his career. We talk about the pressure dads feel to provide while also being present, prioritizing your relationship after kids, building systems that make family life easier, and why accepting that you cannot control everything might actually make you a better father. Then we get into the baby tech. Elad explains what parents should actually look for when choosing a baby monitor, the difference between WiFi and non WiFi monitoring, privacy versus remote access, breathing motion monitoring, split screen systems, and why more parenting data does not always create more peace of mind. He also shares a simple test he uses when thinking about technology for exhausted parents: Does this make your life better at 3 AM? Because if a product has you staring at another screen when you should be sleeping, something has gone wrong. John also shares why he originally chose a Babysense split screen monitor for his twins and how it has worked for his family, while Michael talks about preparing for baby number two and realizing that the gear you choose for your first baby may need to work for the family you are still building. transcript.txtTXT But some of the best parts of this conversation have almost nothing to do with technology. We talk about something we have been noticing at Dudela for a while: The Dad Renaissance. More dads are researching the gear. More dads are waking up at night. More dads are changing diapers. More dads are asking questions. More dads are prioritizing their partners. More dads are intentionally choosing to be deeply involved in their families. And Elad is seeing that shift from inside the baby industry too. You do not become a great dad on day one. You grow into it. In This Episode How becoming a dad completely changed Elad's career Going from law and entrepreneurship to CEO of Babysense What fatherhood teaches you about control The pressure of providing while also being present Why prioritizing your partner matters after having kids Building systems that make newborn life easier Elad's 3 AM test for parenting technology Why more parenting data can sometimes create more anxiety What dads should look for when choosing a baby monitor WiFi versus non WiFi baby monitors Privacy, convenience, and remote access How breathing motion monitoring differs from video monitoring Choosing a baby monitor for twins or multiple children Split screen and two camera baby monitors What John looked for when choosing a monitor for his twins Why Michael needs a different setup with baby number two coming Babysense Touch and combining local and remote monitoring Preparing your baby gear for the family you plan to have Why some baby products are worth investing more in The growing involvement of dads in baby gear decisions The Dad Renaissance Why you will not be a perfect dad on day one Elad's advice for the exhausted new dad awake at 3 AM If You've Ever Searched best baby monitor for new parents best baby monitor for twins best baby monitor for two kids Babysense baby monitor Babysense review Babysense CEO Elad Erdan Babysense Touch Babysense breathing monitor baby breathing motion monitor non WiFi baby monitor WiFi vs non WiFi baby monitor secure baby monitor split screen baby monitor two camera baby monitor baby monitor privacy baby monitor with app baby monitor without WiFi baby monitor for second baby baby sleep monitor best baby gear for new dads new dad advice first time dad advice expecting dad advice new dad anxiety how to prepare for fatherhood how to support your wife after having a baby how to be more present as a dad balancing career and fatherhood fatherhood and marriage newborn sleep for dads fatherhood podcast podcast for expecting dads podcast for first time dads This episode is for you. Check Out Babysense John has been a Babysense customer since becoming a dad to twins, and Dudela is now a Babysense affiliate. If you are researching a monitor for your first baby, twins, multiple rooms, or another baby on the way, check out Babysense through our affiliate link: Shop Babysense through Dudela If you purchase through our link, Dudela may earn a commission at no additional cost to you. One of our favorite ideas from this conversation is simple: Technology should reassure parents, not give them another thing to obsess over. Start with the problem you are actually trying to solve for your family. Then find the technology that helps without adding more noise. Join the Spit Up Society The podcast is where we talk about fatherhood. The Spit Up Society is where we get to talk with you. For $5 per month, you get two live Dudela calls every month, exclusive content, The Womb Watch, and a growing community of dads who actually want to be intentional about this stuff. Bring your questions about pregnancy, birth, postpartum, marriage, money, newborn life, baby gear, or fatherhood. Join the Spit Up Society Free Dad Prep Guide Just found out you are going to be a dad? Our free Dad Prep Guide covers the practical things we wish somebody had explained before we became dads and gives you a place to start preparing for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and life with a newborn. Get the Free Dad Prep Guide Dudela Prep Kit Want to go deeper? The Dudela Prep Kit helps first time dads intentionally prepare for the areas of fatherhood that tend to hit all at once: your relationship, emotions, finances, labor and delivery, postpartum, family identity, and the transition into actually becoming Dad. Because information is helpful. Information without action is nothing. Get the Dudela Prep Kit Ask Dudela Have a question about pregnancy, baby gear, relationships, newborn life, or becoming a dad? Send it to us. Leave John and Michael a voicemail through Dudela. We listen to every message, and your question may become part of a future episode or live conversation. Visit Dudela Your Challenge This Week Ask yourself: What system could make our family life a little easier? Maybe it is how you handle nighttime wakeups. Maybe it is how you divide responsibilities. Maybe it is your bedtime routine. Maybe it is the technology you are using. Maybe it is simply creating a regular check in with your partner. Do not try to control everything. Build one system that removes a little friction from your family. Then use the energy you get back to be more present with the people who matter. That is the point.

Baby #2 Is Coming: What I'm Doing Differently This Pregnancy   The Dudela family is growing. Michael and Abigail are expecting baby girl number two, due on Christmas Day. And pregnancy feels a little different the second time around. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John sits down with Michael to talk about what pregnancy number two has actually been like, what he learned the first time, and what he is intentionally doing differently as a husband and dad this time around. Because during your first pregnancy, everything is new. You are tracking the baby's size every week. You are Googling symptoms. You are trying to figure out which appointments matter. You are buying baby gear you have never heard of. You are wondering how much everything is going to cost. And somewhere in the middle of all of that, you are trying to figure out what your pregnant wife actually needs from you. The second time, you know a little more about what is coming. Michael shares what has been different during Abigail's second pregnancy, including more nausea, earlier body changes, food aversions, cravings, preparing their toddler Riley to become a big sister, moving into a bigger home, and realizing just how quickly the second pregnancy seems to move. We also talk about why the halfway point of pregnancy can be such an important moment for dads. Around 20 weeks, the pregnancy can suddenly start feeling very real. There is a growing belly. You may be feeling the baby move. The anatomy scan gives you an incredible look at your child. And the countdown toward labor, delivery, and newborn life starts getting a whole lot shorter. That is when preparation matters. Michael shares why dads should prioritize important ultrasound appointments, how to support your wife when her body starts changing quickly, why you need to become a better listener instead of trying to solve everything, and how taking things off your wife's mental load can make a huge difference. We also get into the reality of preparing financially for another baby, planning a babymoon, getting ready for sleepless nights again, deciding which baby products are actually worth keeping, and figuring out how to give your first child the attention they need when a newborn enters the family. And if you are nervous about becoming a dad? That is okay too. You do not need to have fatherhood figured out before your baby arrives. You just need to start becoming the kind of dad who wants to figure it out. In This Episode Michael and Abigail are expecting baby girl number two Why pregnancy number two feels completely different Their Christmas Day due date What has surprised Michael during the second pregnancy Pregnancy nausea, cravings, food aversions, and exhaustion Why the baby bump can show earlier during a second pregnancy What pregnancy feels like when you already have a toddler Preparing your first child to become a big sister or brother What dads should know around 20 weeks pregnant Why dads should attend important ultrasound appointments What to expect from the anatomy scan When pregnancy starts feeling real for dads How to support your pregnant wife without trying to fix everything Becoming a better listener during pregnancy Taking things off your wife's mental load without waiting to be asked Why pregnancy requires dads to become more selfless Preparing financially for hospital bills, diapers, formula, and newborn life What Michael learned financially from baby number one Preparing for sleepless nights when you already have a toddler How to make sure your first child still feels seen after baby arrives Why a babymoon is worth considering The best time during pregnancy to get away together Baby products Michael will use again Baby products they probably will not buy again Why bottle feeding flexibility can help dads become more involved How fatherhood changes what you consider important Why it is normal for expecting dads to feel nervous Becoming the dad you want to be before baby arrives If You've Ever Searched pregnancy advice for dads first time dad advice expecting dad advice how to prepare for a baby how to prepare for fatherhood what should dads do during pregnancy how to support my pregnant wife how to be a good husband during pregnancy 20 weeks pregnant dad what dads should know at 20 weeks pregnant anatomy scan for dads second pregnancy second baby advice preparing for baby number two second pregnancy differences pregnancy with a toddler preparing toddler for new baby how to prepare for a second child pregnancy tips for husbands pregnancy timeline for dads what appointments should dads attend during pregnancy babymoon ideas when to take a babymoon baby budget financially preparing for a baby newborn essentials baby gear for second baby new dad anxiety nervous about becoming a dad pregnancy podcast for dads dad to be podcast fatherhood podcast This episode is for you. Follow Michael's Pregnancy in Real Time With The Womb Watch Michael is not just talking about this pregnancy after the fact. We are documenting it as it happens. The Womb Watch follows Michael and Abigail through pregnancy number two in real time. Every few weeks, John and Michael sit down for shorter conversations about what is happening right now, including appointments, ultrasounds, milestones, what Abigail is experiencing, what Michael is learning, and what dads coming behind him should know. If your wife recently got pregnant, you can essentially follow along with another dad who is just a little farther down the road. The Womb Watch is exclusively available inside the Spit Up Society. Join the Spit Up Society You do not have to figure out fatherhood alone. For $5 per month, the Spit Up Society gives you access to The Womb Watch, exclusive Dudela content, and two live calls with us every month where you can bring whatever questions you are dealing with right now. Pregnancy. Birth. Postpartum. Marriage. Money. Newborn life. Fatherhood. Bring it. Join the Spit Up Society here: https://thedudelaco.com/join/spit-up-society/ Find Resources for Your Exact Stage of Pregnancy Not sure what you should actually be doing right now? Head to Dudela and choose where you are in the pregnancy journey. We have resources designed to help dads understand what matters at different stages so you can spend less time Googling and more time actually preparing. https://thedudelaco.com/ Free Dad Prep Guide If you just found out you are going to be a dad, start here. https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide Our free Dad Prep Guide covers the things we wish someone had told us before becoming dads and gives you practical ways to start preparing for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and newborn life. Dudela Prep Kit Want to take preparation seriously? https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit The Dudela Prep Kit gives first time dads a practical framework for preparing for fatherhood, including your relationship, emotions, finances, labor and delivery, postpartum, family identity, and life after your baby arrives. Because knowing more is helpful. Doing something with what you know is what actually prepares you. Ask Dudela Are you somewhere in pregnancy right now and have a question? Maybe you just saw the positive pregnancy test and have no idea what happens next. Maybe you are heading into the anatomy scan. Maybe your wife is miserable and you do not know how to help. Maybe you are excited about becoming a dad but also quietly terrified. Send it to us. Leave John and Michael a voicemail through the Dudela website. We listen to every message, and your question may become part of a future podcast or live conversation. https://thedudelaco.com/ Follow Dudela Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela-Official Facebook https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Dudela-61566037880710/ Your Challenge This Week If your wife is pregnant, ask yourself one question: What is something she is carrying right now that I can carry for her? Do not ask her to create a list for you. Look around. Maybe it is dinner. Maybe it is laundry. Maybe it is getting up with your toddler on Saturday morning so she can sleep. Maybe it is researching the car seat. Maybe it is making the appointment. Maybe she just needs you to listen without trying to solve anything. Find one thing. Own it. Because preparing for fatherhood is not just about knowing what happens next. It is about becoming the kind of man your family can count on when it does.  

What do moms actually wish dads understood about pregnancy, postpartum, and becoming parents? This time, we decided to stop answering for them. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael are joined by their wives, Vivian and Abigail, for an honest conversation about pregnancy, postpartum, marriage, motherhood, careers, community, and what support from a husband actually looks like when life gets hard. And there is some pretty big Dudela family news. Michael and Abigail are expecting baby number two, another girl. That means Dudela is officially going through another pregnancy in real time. We talk about what this pregnancy has looked like so far, pregnancy nausea and food aversions, preparing for a second baby, and what Abigail needs from Michael during pregnancy that she does not always know how to ask for. But this conversation goes much deeper than pregnancy. Viv opens up about how difficult the postpartum season was after having twins and what it felt like to lose part of herself during those early months of motherhood. She shares why patience, grace, friendship, and having people around her mattered so much while she figured out who she was becoming. Abigail shares what it is like balancing motherhood with a career she genuinely loves, the guilt that can come with being a working mom, and why having a husband who encourages her career instead of making her feel guilty about it has mattered so much. We also get into something every expecting dad needs to hear. Your wife may not always be able to tell you exactly what she needs. Sometimes supporting her means paying attention. Take the baby. Handle bath time. Figure out dinner. Give her permission to rest. Encourage her to spend time with friends. Make the decision she is too exhausted to make. Create room for the parts of her identity that exist outside of being a mom. And during postpartum, understand that the woman beside you is experiencing one of the biggest physical, hormonal, emotional, and identity changes of her life. She may not seem exactly like the woman you married for a while. That does not mean something has gone wrong. She is becoming someone new too. This conversation is about learning how to become parents together, how to build a village around your family, and how husbands and wives can give each other grace while everyone figures it out. Whether you are trying for a baby, expecting your first, preparing for the fourth trimester, or already deep in toddler life, there is something in this conversation for you. In This Episode • Michael and Abigail announce baby number two • What this pregnancy has actually been like so far • Pregnancy nausea, exhaustion, and food aversions • Preparing for a second baby versus preparing for your first • What pregnant wives actually need from their husbands • Why your wife may struggle to ask you for help • Learning to anticipate your partner's needs • Why decision fatigue is so real for moms • Giving your wife permission to rest without guilt • What dads need to understand about the postpartum season • Giving your wife grace during the fourth trimester • What it feels like when your spouse does not seem like herself after baby • Postpartum identity changes and becoming a mom • Supporting your wife's career after having kids • Working mom guilt and balancing career with motherhood • Why friendships and community matter so much after having kids • Building your village before you desperately need one • Why parenting alongside friends makes the hard seasons easier • Understanding that toddler behavior is communication • How dads can respond differently to tantrums and difficult behavior • Why your child's behavior is not always about you • Creating meaningful family moments out of ordinary days • Learning your strengths as a mom and dad • Becoming a team instead of keeping score If You've Ever Searched how to support my pregnant wife what does my pregnant wife need from me how to be a supportive husband during pregnancy pregnancy advice for dads first time dad advice expecting dad advice how to prepare for fatherhood how to support wife after baby what moms need after giving birth postpartum support for moms postpartum advice for husbands fourth trimester for dads how dads can help with a newborn how to support wife postpartum marriage after having a baby working mom guilt how to support a working mom pregnancy food aversions second pregnancy advice preparing for baby number two building a village after having a baby postpartum mental health how to help wife get more rest understanding toddler behavior toddler tantrums parenting community pregnancy podcast for dads new dad podcast fatherhood podcast This episode is for you. Meet the Wives For this episode, we handed part of the microphones over to the women who have been beside Dudela from the beginning. Abigail is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst with a background in Applied Behavior Analysis. She works with children on developmental skills, communication, behavior, and helping families understand why behaviors happen in the first place. One of her biggest reminders for dads in this episode is simple: Behavior is communication. When your toddler is screaming, hitting, melting down, or doing something that drives you insane, it is easy to take that behavior personally. But your child may simply be trying to communicate something they do not yet have the language or skills to express. Vivian is a mom of twins, entrepreneur, and wedding planner behind The Alpenglow Edit. Her love for creating meaningful moments has carried directly into motherhood and the way she and John intentionally create traditions, adventures, and memories with their girls. She also gets honest about the harder side of becoming a mom, including the postpartum season and eventually finding parts of herself again through starting her business. Together, they give us something we want more of on Dudela: The mom's side of the story. The Womb Watch Is Coming With Michael and Abigail expecting their second daughter, we have been documenting this pregnancy behind the scenes. The Womb Watch follows their pregnancy in real time through appointments, conversations, questions, preparation, and Michael figuring out what it means to go through pregnancy as a dad for the second time. The Womb Watch is exclusive content for members of the Spit Up Society. Join the Spit Up Society The podcast is where we talk about fatherhood. The Spit Up Society is where we get to talk with you. For $5 per month, you get access to two live Dudela Q&A calls every month, The Womb Watch, exclusive content, behind the scenes conversations, early access to Dudela resources, and a community of dads figuring this stuff out together. Our live calls happen on the first Tuesday and third Thursday of every month. Bring your questions about pregnancy, birth, postpartum, newborn life, marriage, finances, fatherhood, or whatever you are dealing with right now. Can't make the live call? Members get access to the recordings too. Join the Spit Up Society here: https://thedudelaco.com/join/spit-up-society/ Free Dad Prep Guide Preparing for your first baby? Start here: https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide Our free Dad Prep Guide gives expecting dads practical advice for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and becoming a father. Dudela Prep Kit Want to go deeper? https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit The Dudela Prep Kit is our complete roadmap for first time dads preparing for labor, delivery, postpartum, and life with a newborn. It includes 33 pages, 6 pillars, and 9 printable tools designed to help you stop wondering what you should be doing and start preparing for what comes next. Ask Dudela Have a question you want us to answer? Maybe your wife is pregnant and you have no idea what she needs. Maybe you are struggling through the newborn stage. Maybe your toddler is losing their mind and you cannot figure out why. Maybe you just need another dad's perspective. Leave us a voicemail directly through the Dudela website. We listen to every message and may answer yours on the podcast or during one of our live conversations. Follow Dudela Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela-Official Facebook https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Dudela-61566037880710/ Your Challenge This Week Ask your wife one question: What is one thing I could take completely off your plate this week? Then listen. And if you already know the answer, do not make her manage you through it. Take the kids. Make dinner. Handle bedtime. Clean the kitchen. Give her an hour alone. Make the decision. Whatever it is, own it from beginning to end. Being a steady dad is not always about knowing exactly what to say. Sometimes it is simply noticing what your family needs and showing up before someone has to ask.

Trying should be the fun part, right? Trying for a baby is supposed to be the fun part. Then the ovulation strips show up, the fertile window turns into a deadline, and sex starts feeling like something you're clocking into. Nobody really preps dads for that. In this episode, John and Michael sit down outside in Dillon, Colorado (concert crowd noise included) to talk honestly about trying to conceive: John and Viv's five months, Michael and Abigail's six to eight, and every emotion that showed up in between. They get into the stuff most guys never say out loud. The pressure of being "the star of the show" — if you don't perform, there's no baby. The mindset shift of scheduled sex, and how to actually make it fun instead of clinical. What it felt like when a pregnancy test came back negative and not realizing until that night how much the moment meant to his wife. The golf trip Michael was on when Abigail got a negative test the morning of his sister's baby shower, and what he learned about not being emotionally present for it. They also cover the practical side: tracking ovulation, timing morning sex around testosterone levels, why hot tubs are a fertility myth worth knowing about, and when it's worth getting your own levels checked. And the mental side almost nobody addresses — the eight inches between your ears that start asking "is this ever going to work" after a few negative tests in a row. But the bigger point isn't the biology. It's that the trying season, hard as it is, is a chance to build the communication and partnership that carries you into parenthood. John's twins were conceived on Leap Day, an accident neither of them expected, after months of turning a stressful window into something they looked forward to together. If you've been trying for one month or two years, this is a reminder you're not the only one white-knuckling the two-week wait, and you don't have to carry it alone. 🍼 In This Episode What trying to conceive actually feels like for dads, not just moms Why the fertile window creates pressure most men don't talk about Scheduled sex: how to keep intimacy fun instead of clinical The "star of the show" pressure and how to handle an off night What to do when a pregnancy test comes back negative, and how to actually support your wife in that moment Tracking ovulation, morning timing, and other practical strategies Why hot tubs, diet, and drinking habits are worth a second look while trying The mental side of trying to conceive that men rarely admit to How comparison creeps in when friends start having kids Turning the trying season into a foundation for your relationship, not just a means to an end 🎯 If You've Ever Searched trying for a baby, trying to conceive, how to get pregnant, fertile window, ovulation tracking, trying to conceive tips for men, male fertility and pregnancy, scheduled sex trying to conceive, negative pregnancy test, how to support my wife while trying to conceive, husband support while trying to get pregnant, emotional support while trying to conceive, sex while trying to conceive, how long does it take to get pregnant, preparing to become a dad, first time dad advice, pregnancy podcast for dads, fatherhood podcast, new dad podcast This episode is for you.   🧡 Resources for Dads Free Dad Prep Guide - https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide If you're preparing for your first baby, start here. Our free guide covers the things we wish someone had told us before becoming dads and gives you practical ways to start preparing now. Dudela Prep Kit - https://www.thedudelaco.com/kit Want to go deeper? The Dudela Prep Kit is our complete preparation framework for dads, $37, covering pregnancy, birth, postpartum, your relationship, emotions, finances, newborn life, and the transition into fatherhood. 🎙️ Ask Another Dad Going through something you want to talk about? Maybe you're trying for a baby. Maybe pregnancy is kicking your ass. Maybe your newborn won't sleep. Maybe you just need another dad's perspective. Leave John and Michael a voicemail at thedudelaco.com/voicemail, or email [email protected]. We listen to every one and respond when we can. 🤝 Join the Spit-Up Society Sometimes you don't need another article or Google search. You need other dads. The Spit-Up Society is $5 a month and gets you two live Q&A calls with John and Michael every month, a private community, and early access to merch and guides. Join at https://www.thedudelaco.com/join/spit-up-society   📱 Follow Dudela Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela-Official   💪 Your Challenge This Week If you're currently trying for a baby, have one conversation with your partner that has nothing to do with timing, ovulation, or whether this is "the month." Ask her how she's actually doing with all of this. Then tell her how you're doing too. No fixing it, no strategy, no calendar. Just talk. Before you're mom and dad, you're still the two people building this family together. If trying has started to feel like work, find one way this week to make being together feel like the two of you again.

Every dad has strengths. Every dad has weaknesses. The question is whether you know what yours are. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael revisit one of our most popular conversations about what dads should be focusing on and take it one step deeper. Instead of talking about checklists and preparation, we talk about the man behind the dad. Because becoming a great father is not about pretending you're perfect. It's about knowing yourself well enough to build on your strengths, recognize your blind spots, and intentionally become the dad your family needs. We share honest stories from the past two years of fatherhood, from potty training twins and emotional reactions to the simple moments that reveal who we're becoming. We talk about learning to pause before reacting, giving yourself grace after you mess up, communicating honestly with your spouse, and remembering that your kids are watching far more than they are listening. Your children will copy your habits long before they understand your words. The way you treat your wife. The way you respond to stress. The way you talk about yourself. The way you apologize. The way you lead. Those are the things they'll remember. Whether you're expecting your first baby or you're already chasing toddlers around the house, this episode will challenge you to take an honest look in the mirror and become a more intentional, emotionally steady father. In This Episode • Why every dad needs to know both his strengths and weaknesses • The difference between reacting and responding • How planning ahead helps you stay calm under pressure • Potty training twins and learning patience in real time • Why your kids copy everything you do, even the things you don't notice • Building healthy communication with your spouse through regular check ins • Giving yourself grace after losing your cool • Why apologizing to your kids matters, even when they're too young to understand • Leading your family with intention instead of emotion • How dads and moms naturally bring different strengths to parenting • Practical ways to become proactive instead of reactive • Why becoming a better husband helps you become a better father If You've Ever Searched how to be a better dad fatherhood advice dad emotional regulation how to stop yelling at my kids new dad mindset intentional parenting how to become a patient dad strengths and weaknesses as a parent how to communicate better in marriage new dad tips parenting podcast fatherhood podcast how to be emotionally present how to prepare for fatherhood raising emotionally healthy kids This episode is for you. Resources Mentioned 🧡 Free Dad Prep Guide https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide A practical guide packed with the essential things every expecting dad should know before baby arrives. 💪 Dudela Prep Kit https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit Our complete fatherhood preparation framework covering pregnancy, birth, postpartum, finances, emotions, communication, and practical tools like the Brain Dump and One Word Check In. 🎙️ Ask Dudela Have a question about fatherhood, pregnancy, marriage, or newborn life? Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we may answer it on a future episode. 🤝 Join the Spit Up Society Join our live community of dads for just $5 per month. You'll get access to two live Q&A sessions every month where we answer your questions, share practical fatherhood advice, and build community with dads who are in the same season of life. Join here: https://www.thedudelaco.com/Join Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Dudela or Ko fi https://ko-fi.com/dudela 📱 Follow Dudela Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela-Official Facebook https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Dudela-61566037880710/ Your Challenge This Week Ask your spouse one simple question: "What's one strength you see in me as a dad, and what's one area where I could grow?" Listen without getting defensive. Then ask yourself one more question: Am I becoming the kind of dad I hope my kids remember? Growth starts with honesty. And every great dad is still growing.

Everyone tells you to put your kids first. But one of the best things you can do for your kids is invest in the relationship that started your family. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael share what happened when they each took their first kid free trips with their wives after becoming parents. From airport freedom and uninterrupted dinners to missing their toddlers and rediscovering what it feels like to simply be husband and wife again, this conversation is an honest look at why healthy marriages create healthy families. Leaving your baby for the first time can feel exciting, terrifying, and even a little guilt inducing. Is it too soon? Will they be okay? Should we even go? We unpack those questions along with practical advice on when to plan your first overnight trip, how to lean on grandparents and your support system, why staying home isn't always enough for a real date night, and how stepping away from your daily routine helps you reconnect as a couple. We also talk about something many new parents experience but rarely say out loud. After months of diapers, bottles, nap schedules, and surviving on little sleep, it's easy to forget the people you were before becoming mom and dad. Taking time away isn't about escaping your kids. It's about strengthening your marriage so you can come home refreshed, connected, and ready to lead your family well. Whether you're expecting your first baby or you're deep in the toddler years, this episode is a reminder that your marriage deserves intentional investment too. In This Episode Why your marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids What it felt like taking our first kid free vacations How long you should actually get away as new parents Date nights versus overnight trips and why both matter The guilt of leaving your child for the first time Why grandparents and your village are essential How becoming parents completely changes the way you travel Helping your kids become comfortable with trusted caregivers Affordable getaway ideas for young families Why getting out of your house helps you reconnect Building a marriage that lasts beyond the parenting years Practical ways to prioritize your spouse without feeling selfish If You've Ever Searched marriage after baby how to reconnect after having a baby date nights after kids when can parents leave baby overnight how to leave baby with grandparents new parent marriage advice how to stay connected after having kids first trip without baby overnight getaway for parents how to prioritize your marriage after kids marriage tips for new parents healthy marriage after children fatherhood podcast new dad podcast parenting podcast This episode is for you. Resources Mentioned 🧡 Free Dad Prep Guide https://www.thedudelaco.com/guide Prepare for pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and your baby's first year with practical advice built specifically for expecting dads. 💪 Dudela Prep Kit https://dudelaco.gumroad.com/l/dudela-prep-kit Our complete fatherhood preparation system with practical tools covering emotions, finances, communication, birth, postpartum, routines, and everything we wish someone had taught us before becoming dads. 🎙️ Ask Dudela Have a question about pregnancy, fatherhood, marriage, or newborn life? Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we may answer it in a future episode. 🤝 Join the Spit Up Society Join our live community of dads for just $5 per month. Twice every month we host live Q&A calls where you can ask questions, share wins, learn from other dads, and build real community. Join here: Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/Dudela or Ko fi https://ko-fi.com/dudela 📱 Follow Dudela Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_dudela_official/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@the_dudela_official YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@TheDudela-Official Facebook https://www.facebook.com/p/The-Dudela-61566037880710/ Your Challenge This Week Pull out your calendar. Find one date with your spouse. Not "sometime next month." An actual date. Maybe it's dinner. Maybe it's coffee. Maybe it's one night away while grandparents watch the kids. Put it on the calendar and protect it. Because one day your kids will grow up and leave home. The marriage you're building today is the relationship you'll still have then.

Everyone talks about the registry. Everyone talks about the nursery colors. Almost nobody tells you the real number. At Dudela, we believe part of being a steady dad is being a prepared one. That means having the money conversation before the bills show up, not after. In this episode of The Dudela Podcast, John and Michael break down the true cost of bringing a baby home, from the moment you see the plus sign through the first year of life. This is the conversation most guys don't have until they're staring at a credit card statement wondering where it all went. The reality is that baby costs hit you in waves you don't see coming. Diapers alone will run through a box in under a month. Insurance deductibles reset the second you move from an individual plan to a family plan, which means you can hit your out of pocket max once during pregnancy and then hit it again when the baby arrives. Hospital bills show up weeks later with numbers that don't match what anyone told you at the appointment. And that's before you've bought a single onesie. In this episode, we walk through real numbers. What a crib, dresser, and rocking chair actually cost. What a good car seat and stroller run you. What the average vaginal birth and C-section cost on insurance, and what the hospital will actually bill you if things go sideways. What a full first year costs excluding childcare, and what childcare itself adds on top of that. We also get into what nobody explains clearly, like why your out of pocket max resets, why five different people at your insurance company can give you five different answers, and why you need to ask the same question more than once before you trust it. We also talk about the tools that help long term. Setting a household number you're both aligned on, even if it's arbitrary. 529 plans. The newer Trump Accounts for kids born within the eligible window. And why "set it and forget it" savings beats obsessing over a balance you can't change yet. Most importantly, we talk about mindset. This isn't about scaring you. It's about giving you the landscape so you can plan instead of react, and so you and your wife are aligned before the first bill lands instead of blindsided by it. 🍼 In This Episode Why the money conversation needs to start before the stroller conversation How fast diapers, wipes, and formula actually add up Why your insurance deductible and out of pocket max reset when you add a baby What a vaginal birth and C-section typically cost on insurance The real hospital bill numbers behind a NICU stay What nursery setup actually costs, room by room Car seats, strollers, and the gear that's worth spending more on The gear that's worth buying used or skipping entirely What a full first year of baby costs, excluding childcare The real range for childcare and daycare per child Why getting a second car seat base is a small cost with a big payoff 529 plans and Trump Accounts explained simply Why aligning on a number as a couple matters more than the number itself 🎯 If You've Ever Searched how much does a baby cost the first year cost of having a baby with insurance baby budget for new dads hospital bill after birth insurance out of pocket max pregnancy how much do diapers cost per month nursery setup cost cost of daycare per month financial planning for new dads how to talk to my wife about money before baby 529 plan for a baby Trump account for kids budgeting for a new baby cost of raising a child in the first year financial stress before baby arrives This episode is for you. 🧡 Resources Mentioned Free Dad Prep Guide Dudela Prep Kit Our complete fatherhood preparation framework, including the financial planning tools and action steps to help you have the money conversation with your wife before the bills start showing up. Ask Dudela Need advice, have a question, or just need to vent? Leave us a voicemail directly on our website and we'll do our best to respond. Follow Along Instagram: @the_dudela_official TikTok: @the_dudela_official YouTube: The Dudela Official Facebook: The Dudela 💪 Your Challenge This Week Pick a number. Sit down with your wife and agree on a rough monthly number you're aiming to spend on baby expenses. It doesn't have to be right. It just has to be shared. Then ask yourselves: Where can we cut back right now? Where can we grow our income? What's one bill we haven't talked about yet, like insurance, that we need to figure out this week? You don't need the perfect number. You need to be aligned on one.