Episode 315: Rule #2 - The Object Of Our Desire

In this episode, Kevin Aillaud dives deep into the core of our energetic architecture—our spiritual DNA—and how understanding your unique blueprint can bring clarity, purpose, and freedom to your life. Using his own energetic design as an example, Kevin explores three of his defining channels: the Channel of Abstraction, the Channel of Structuring, and the Channel of Perfected Form.Kevin explains how the Channel of Abstraction gives him the gift of mental clarity, allowing him to transform confusion from past experiences into insight for the collective. It’s not about logic, but vibration—a knowing that arises beyond mere thought. This inner clarity flows into the Channel of Structuring, which takes those insights and manifests them through teaching, storytelling, and one-on-one transformation. These gifts, Kevin reveals, have shaped his entire life path—from coaching to entrepreneurship to guiding men through the Academy.The conversation then turns to the Channel of Perfected Form, which Kevin describes as a survival-based gift of self-expression. This channel is grounded in self-love and intuitive awareness, driving him to carve his own path and live unapologetically by his own design. Kevin shares how this channel pushed him beyond the confines of societal expectations—away from the traditional workforce and toward a life of freedom, creation, and alignment. His journey exemplifies how living authentically can inspire others to break free from limiting structures and step fully into their own power.But this episode isn’t about Kevin—it’s about you. Kevin emphasizes that every man has a spiritual blueprint, an energetic map filled with unique gifts and strengths. While you may not share his specific channels, you hold the same potential for transformation. Through understanding your strategy, authority, and energetic design, you can gain clarity on your past and create a more effective path forward.This episode challenges you to see life as both a game and a playground—an opportunity to learn, grow, and enjoy the unfolding journey. Kevin also stresses the importance of addressing weaknesses by reducing buffering and increasing awareness, while simultaneously practicing and applying your innate strengths.For those ready to take the next step, Kevin invites you to explore your own spiritual DNA inside the Academy, where the process of uncovering your energetic blueprint can unlock new levels of clarity, confidence, and alignment.Tune in to discover how to stop fumbling in the dark, reclaim your unique gifts, and elevate your alpha.

Brothers, welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast.In this episode, we dive deep into what I call the pandemic of the human psyche: the unspoken, unconscious belief that we are not enough. That we are unworthy. This isn't just a surface-level issue. This is the root of all suffering — the foundational ignorance at the core of our individual and collective experience. From this single thought, this single error, unfolds a cascade of consequences: insecurity, anxiety, addiction, self-sabotage, violence, and even what we label as "evil."What I offer you here is not just philosophy — this is gnosis. This is knowledge. This is the core teaching of mystics, sages, and spiritual traditions going back thousands of years: know thyself. Because without self-knowledge, without understanding how your own stories are creating your life, you're bound to repeat the same mistakes. And unchecked error leads to evil — not because of some external force, but because of a failure to observe and correct the ignorance within.We explore how the belief "I am not enough" shows up in your unintentional model of alignment. I walk you through how this belief branches into all areas of your life: relationships, career, finances, self-image, and your spiritual journey. I also explain how the model of alignment is the tool to mine your psyche, chip away at your conditioning, and find the mother load — the core story that is creating your experience of limitation and suffering.This episode is a reminder that your creation myth — the story you believe about where you come from and why you're here — directly influences whether you see yourself as worthy or unworthy. And I make it clear: this belief is not based on what is true or real, but on what is conditioned — passed down by culture, family, and collective ideology. The majority is not always right. The familiar is not always helpful. And tradition is not always truth.Your life is a game. And if you're playing without knowing the rules — if you're traveling with the ball and wondering why the whistle keeps blowing — then you’re going to keep turning it over to the opponent. And every time you do, the opponent scores. That’s how unchecked error becomes evil.You don’t have to play that way anymore. In this episode, I call you to the path of gnosis. I invite you to take up the model of alignment with scientific precision and spiritual curiosity. You are not broken. You are not unworthy. You are not lacking. You’ve just been told a story — and it’s time to rewrite it.Until next week, brothers: elevate your alpha.

In this episode, we go deep into the subtle yet powerful force that governs most of our suffering — the resistance to emotion. It’s not the world that causes pain, but our relationship to vibration, to feeling, and ultimately to our own thoughts. Brother, this is a practical lesson in the art of processing emotions by identifying the reactive patterns of the beta condition and learning how to restrict them — not with force, but with awareness, love, and intention.We revisit the “A-line” in the model of alignment and explore how buffering, avoidance, and reaction show up in everyday life. From the impulse to dominate a conversation to the craving for validation, from the passive avoidance of inner work to the compulsive distractions of dopamine-seeking behaviors — it’s all part of the same energetic dance. And if we’re not conscious of how we move, we suffer.You’ll hear examples of how the ego — both in its inflated and inverted forms — manipulates thought to flee from discomfort and chase pleasure. But these reactions never lead to true peace. They reinforce the illusion of separation. In this episode, we break down how to restrict those reactions and instead process what’s arising in the body with presence and purpose.We discuss how restriction is not suppression. It’s not about pushing away the ego. It’s about observing the energy, processing it, and transforming it. This transformation is what allows us to step into the alpha state — where action comes from love, from truth, from the abundance of unity consciousness. The reward is not just emotional clarity, but energetic alignment with the real purpose of your life.This episode also returns us to the foundational tools of the Academy — buffering and models. Why? Because buffering is the low-hanging fruit. It’s the easy-to-spot behavior that reveals the deeper resistance. And the model of alignment is how we clean the dirty window, how we see clearly, and how we reprogram our stories so we can live intentionally.By the end of this one, you’ll not only understand the power of restriction, but you’ll be ready to practice it — in your mind, in your body, in your life. And you’ll know that every moment of suffering is an invitation to return to love.Because, brother, the circumstance is always perfect. It's not there to hurt you — it's there to wake you up.

Welcome back to The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, brothers. In this powerful episode, we return to the “Life Is A Game” series and uncover Rule #4—how to keep score in this game we call life. We've talked about the board, the teammates, the opponent, and now we get to what really matters: the purpose of the game and how we measure success from a quantum, spiritual perspective.The question at the center of this episode is: Why are we here? And more importantly, how do we know if we’re winning? This isn't about material victories or external rewards. Scoring points in life means transforming who you are. It's about shifting from reactivity to proactivity, from being an effect of the world to being a cause in the world. Every moment you catch yourself reacting—and choose to create instead—you’ve just scored a point.We explore the binary nature of this spiritual game. Every choice is either tipping the scale toward expansion and consciousness or toward contraction and unconsciousness. The opponent’s job is to pull you into reaction. Your job is to transform that instinct into a conscious, intentional action. It’s that transformation that earns the points.Through deep teaching and clear analogies, I walk you through this process using the Model of Alignment, a tool to help you see your patterns and interrupt them. Whether it’s in your thoughts, feelings, or actions, there’s always a moment to step in and reclaim your power. I give you four scenarios—four different men facing the same million-dollar temptation—to show how transformation isn’t about what you do, but who you’re being when you do it.I also share how spiritual transformation connects you to the quantum field, where manifestation begins. The greater the transformation, the greater the power you access. This is where you become a conscious creator, a player in the game who knows how to score big, not by trying harder, but by aligning deeper.You’ll learn why buffering (those small, unconscious habits and distractions) is low-hanging fruit in your development and how addressing it gives you an immediate opportunity to train your transformation muscle. This is how we expand our consciousness, this is how we elevate.This episode is not just a lesson—it’s a call to action. No special practices, no big life changes needed. Just awareness, honesty, and the willingness to interrupt the default and become the creator of your life. That’s how we win, and every time you do it, you raise the vibration of the whole team.You're not just playing for you, brother. You're playing for all of us. The game is on. The rules are clear. It's time to score some points.Until next week, elevate your alpha.

In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, we explore the true purpose of relationships—not just romantic partnerships or friendships, but all forms of relationships, including those with family, children, places, objects, and even the self. From a spiritual perspective, relationships are not random or superficial—they are the spiritual technology through which we evolve, grow, and transform our energy.Kevin introduces a foundational idea: for any religion or spiritual path to be truly valuable and unified with others, it must contain two essential components—generosity and ego transcendence. In other words, all spiritual growth is about giving more and taming the self-centered mind. This principle becomes the lens through which we examine every relationship in life.Through this lens, Kevin explores how all relationships serve a dual purpose. They are either:An opportunity to give more—to love, to serve, to support, or even just to offer gratitude; orAn opportunity to let go—to witness our reactivity, confront our triggers, and dissolve the ego’s grip on our identity.He dives deep into the four special types of relationships that most men encounter:Family: These are karmically chosen bonds, often challenging, always deeply significant. Family members are permanent teammates who mirror your deepest lessons and patterns.Marriage/Partnership: A profound spiritual alliance, whether arranged or chosen, that intensifies your growth. Your partner is meant to activate your karma—and support you in transforming it.Children: Souls who choose you as their parent for karmic work. Especially in their early years, they help you grow by mirroring your energy back to you.Friends: These are energetic guideposts that shift and evolve throughout life. They reflect where you are on your journey and offer both support and challenge.Kevin explains how these relationships are not random, but energetically aligned to provide exactly the lessons, opportunities, and support your soul needs to play the “game of life.” He reframes relationships not as static roles but as vehicles of consciousness, constantly evolving and always offering a chance to become more proactive, more conscious, and more connected.Ultimately, this episode is a reminder that relationships are how we play the game. They’re the medium through which we practice the real rules: to give generously and to subdue the ego. When you understand that, you no longer take relationships personally or cling to them permanently—you begin to see them as sacred tools in your spiritual evolution.Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, romantic challenges, fatherhood, or shifting friendships, this episode gives you a powerful framework to understand your relationships and use them to elevate your alpha.

In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, we go deep into the illusion of time scarcity and how to shift from managing your schedule to mastering your consciousness. The truth is, brother—time is not your enemy. It’s not even the problem. The belief that you don’t have enough time is a story you've been conditioned to tell yourself, and it’s holding you back from living in alignment with your true purpose.You’ll hear a full breakdown of what a conscious, intentional day looks like—from daily spiritual connection and journaling to workouts, team calls, gardening, volunteering, falconry, and more. This isn’t about productivity for the sake of efficiency. It’s about sacred prioritization. Every action I take is a conscious decision, and every commitment is aligned with the man I choose to be. I lay it all out so you can see how it’s not about doing more, but about deciding clearly and intentionally what belongs in your life—and what doesn’t.We also talk about the calendar, not as a constraint, but as a tool of liberation. When you live on your calendar, you take ownership of your time. You become the author of your days. That doesn’t mean rigidity—it means structure with flow. It means listening to the movement of your inner world while honoring the agreements you've made with yourself.Throughout the episode, I offer practical strategies to transform your relationship with time. I show you how to prepare ahead of time with future-focused thinking, compelling reasons, and decision-making. Then I give you tools to navigate the moment—pausing, asking the deeper questions, and remembering who you are as consciousness.This episode isn’t about fitting more into your schedule. It’s about removing the illusion that you’re a victim of your calendar. It's a reminder that time bends to your belief. That reality is your reflection. That everything you’re not doing is either something you’re avoiding or something you haven’t chosen yet.If you’ve ever told yourself you don’t have enough time—this one is for you. Not to hustle harder, but to wake up. To shift into alignment. And to create from the truth that you already have everything you need.This is not time management. This is energetic mastery.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why "not enough time" is a belief, not a factHow to consciously design your life and calendarThe power of choosing your priorities with intentionDaily practices that anchor you in connection and presenceHow to shift from reaction to creation in your use of timeWhy buffering and distraction steal your life forceHow to start living from expanded consciousnessTime is eternal. You are the one who creates what to do with it. Choose wisely, brothers.Elevate Your Alpha.

In this powerful episode, Kevin breaks down the core “game” we’re all playing as human beings — the game of life — with clarity and passion. Brothers, Kevin reminds us that everything we truly desire in life ultimately comes from one source: energy, consciousness, or “light.” He challenges the common beliefs rooted in the matrix or “beta condition” — the illusion that we’re here just to pursue wealth, family, legacy, health, travel, or even truth itself. These are all external byproducts, reflections of deeper inner work, and temporary pleasures felt through our five senses.The real purpose, Kevin teaches, is to desire to earn the Light of consciousness expansion — to score points in life by receiving and embodying more light, more energy, more presence. It’s not about the external results themselves, but about the internal awakening and transformation behind those results. This episode serves as the foundation for understanding the true “rules” of this game we’re playing — the spiritual laws that govern consciousness and energy exchange.Kevin also introduces the concept of the Alpha state — the awakened, sovereign human who remembers their divine purpose and is actively correcting the course of their life through spiritual correction and karma balancing. Unlike the beta condition, which is reactive and trapped in the matrix of confusion, the alpha actively transforms darkness into light, chaos into order. The external world is both a mirror reflecting our internal imbalances and a reward system showing what we’ve earned through spiritual work.Throughout the episode, Kevin emphasizes that this path is not religious or dogmatic. It’s a technology and science of living, non-sectarian and universal, designed to empower us to bring light into every aspect of our human life — relationships, work, health, and beyond. You don’t need to abandon your daily life or run away to a monastery; you can walk this path right here and now, fully engaged in the world but not controlled by it.Kevin acknowledges how difficult this game can feel, especially when you’re “down” — emotionally, financially, or spiritually. But that is precisely the moment when your transformation can accelerate rapidly. He encourages brothers to step into their power, to enroll in the academy — a space to learn, awaken, and evolve — and to begin their journey of spiritual correction. This process will lead to rapid results, fulfillment, peace, and joy.In closing, Kevin calls all brothers to wake up now. The alpha essence is never lost; it’s simply been buried under the beta condition, ego, and matrix illusions. The alpha is your heart, your soul — your true self. This is your destiny: to live a life full of light, love, and purpose by embracing your role as an alpha vessel in this game.Until next time, brothers — elevate your alpha and step fully into the spiritual game of life.

In this powerful episode, Kevin takes you on a deep dive into the true nature of reality and the fundamental rules of the game we call life. Most people live trapped inside what Kevin calls the “Matrix” — the small, visible portion of reality that we can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell. But this matrix makes up less than 1% of all that exists. The other 99% is the endless realm — an invisible energetic dimension of consciousness, thought, and spiritual DNA that governs the cause behind every effect we experience in the physical world.Kevin explains the concept of cause and effect through the famous butterfly effect: how the flap of a butterfly’s wings on one side of the world can set off a chain of events leading to a tornado thousands of miles away. This illustrates how everything is connected energetically, even if we cannot perceive it directly. Our everyday actions, even as small as slamming a car door, ripple through this unseen realm to create effects far beyond what we imagine.The challenge for most of us is that we live focusing only on the matrix — the shadows on the wall — trying to change our lives by adjusting surface-level events. But true, lasting transformation can only happen when we connect to the endless realm, the spiritual source where the root causes lie. Kevin uses the analogy of a shadow on the sidewalk: you cannot move a person’s arm by touching their shadow; you must reach the arm itself to create real change.Throughout history, great minds like Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, and spiritual leaders such as Jesus, Muhammad, Moses, and Siddhartha have tapped into this endless realm to bring forth life-altering inventions, ideas, and teachings. They accessed the alpha state — the true source of power and creation — enabling them to shape reality beyond the physical.Kevin invites listeners to recognize the two basic realities we live within: the matrix (the limited physical world) and the endless realm (the vast energetic dimension). To win the game of life, you must learn to live fully in the world without being trapped of the matrix. By expanding your awareness beyond the less than 1% and stepping into your alpha state — your true spiritual DNA — you gain the ability to see clearly, act consciously, and create meaningful change.This episode is a call to awaken from the illusion of limited perception and to elevate your consciousness. It offers a foundational understanding of why most people feel stuck, powerless, or disconnected, and shows how connecting with the endless realm is the key to breaking free and mastering the game of life.Join Kevin on this journey as he guides you to lift the fog, find clarity, and harness the unseen forces shaping your reality. Elevate your alpha — your true power lies beyond the matrix.

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most transformative spiritual practices: doing the opposite of what your ego tells you to do. This teaching isn’t just about being contrarian—it’s about understanding that the opponent, the ego, is a force that contracts your consciousness and diminishes your vessel. And just like any force—like gravity—it can be resisted. Not with hatred or struggle, but with awareness, with repetition, and with action rooted in love and higher intention.We begin with the recognition that modern life is full of subtle temptations to remain asleep: to complain instead of appreciate, to judge instead of love, to react instead of respond. These are not just behavioral habits, they are spiritual exercises handed over to the ego. But when we choose to do the opposite—to act with consciousness instead of compulsion—we begin the process of inner expansion.Drawing from my past experience as a fitness trainer and coach, I offer a powerful metaphor that brings this lesson home. Just like physical strength is built through resisting gravity—through deadlifts, squats, and bench presses—spiritual strength is built by resisting the opponent. The force of the ego, like gravity, is not “bad.” It exists to serve your growth. When you lift against it, you get stronger. But when you surrender to it, you atrophy—physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically.I share stories from my time volunteering with hospice patients to illustrate this even further. When the body is no longer resisting gravity, when movement ceases and the vessel weakens, we see what happens in the absence of resistance. The same happens in consciousness: when we stop working against the ego, our inner strength fades. We lose access to joy, love, gratitude, confidence, and generosity—not because these energies aren’t real, but because we no longer have the capacity to hold them.Brothers, everything is energy. Everything is consciousness. Reality itself is a projection, a 3D hologram flowing from the fourth-dimensional source. You are not here to be a passive observer of that projection. You are here to master the game—by knowing the rules, studying your opponent, and practicing your strategy.The Academy for Conscious Expansion exists for that very purpose. Just as a coach guides your physical form through training, I’ve built a space to guide your consciousness through transformation. And while this podcast offers the universal rules and teachings, the Academy offers the tools and mentorship to begin applying them directly in your life.So if you’re ready to do more than understand—if you’re ready to practice—then your path is right here. Begin by doing the opposite of what your ego suggests. Step into the arena, lift the weight, and watch your vessel expand. This is how you elevate your alpha.

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the nature of the “opponent” — the ego-driven force within us that perpetuates selfishness, pain, and separation. The core message revolves around how this opponent continuously pushes us into patterns of egocentricity, fear, doubt, jealousy, and suffering, keeping us trapped in a cycle of repeated pain and ignorance. But the good news? The Source has already given us a way to rise above this force and reclaim the pure consciousness and everlasting happiness that was originally ours.The episode breaks down four crucial ways the Source empowers us to overcome the opponent:First, we are able to feel potential pain without having to experience the full blow of actual pain. This is the mercy built into the game — a protective measure allowing us to confront challenges without being destroyed by them.Second, we can let the ego take the hit instead of the soul taking the hit. The ego is a false self, a mask crafted by the opponent to keep us trapped in selfishness and suffering. By allowing the ego to suffer and absorb the pain, the soul remains unharmed and free to move toward greater awareness and freedom.Third, the game asks us to choose short-term pain over long-term suffering. This is the essence of renouncing selfishness. Though letting go of ego-driven desires hurts — and it hurts deeply — this initial pain is a shortcut to breaking free from the cycle of long-lasting pain, disease, emotional turmoil, and repeated lifetimes of suffering.Fourth, constant awareness of the pain and its purpose is essential. Recognizing that the pain inflicted by the opponent is a signal, a challenge designed to lead us toward greater consciousness, helps us endure and even welcome the discomfort. This awareness transforms pain from an enemy into a guide.The episode further unpacks how selfishness is not simply a human flaw but the opponent’s primary tool, disguised under countless expressions like jealousy, anger, fear, and doubt. It’s the force behind every global and personal problem — poverty, disease, environmental destruction — reflecting the collective ego’s effect on the world.Yet, the opponent isn’t an evil entity but rather a force working for the Source’s ultimate purpose: to push us to grow and earn our way back to pure consciousness — a state of love, abundance, and joy. It’s a challenging journey, often taking lifetimes, but one worth every struggle.The episode closes with a call to brothers everywhere to renounce selfishness, embrace selflessness, and face the ego’s challenges head-on. To welcome humiliation, embarrassment, and the “death” of the false self as the path to true freedom. To understand that the external world is a mirror of our inner state and that miracles happen when we overcome our ego-driven nature.In embracing this truth, we find the power to break free from the opponent’s grip and elevate our alpha — our pure consciousness — toward the happiness and peace that awaits us beyond the game.