Unlock the Secrets to Managing Emotions with Dr. Alison Cook

Do you ever feel like your mind is in overdrive, constantly buzzing with too much information? It's like your brain is running a marathon, but instead of getting stronger, you're just getting more and more exhausted.  Today, I'm going to share a surprising three-step formula that can help you hit reset and reclaim your peace of mind, because I think this is how most of us are living right now. What we consume matters. The information you consume impacts your mood and your relationships. The wrong inputs will drain your energy and keep you from being your best self.  We need an information diet. By choosing what we consume, we free up our minds for what really matters. We will be happier and feel more content.  Three steps to start your information diet: Choose your inputs wisely. Limit your information consumption. Feed your mind positivity. When you’re mindful of our inputs you’ll fill your mind with good, take control of what you let in, and you’ll feel more clear and empowered. Favorite quotes:  01:12 - “Most of us know to be able to guard our peace, we need to stay connected to God. We need to have prayer time every day, but we also forget a really important next step. We need to have an information diet.” 01:51 - “By choosing what we consume intentionally, we free up our mental energy for the things that truly matter.” 05:56 - “I want you to prioritize content and information that inspires you, that teaches you, that helps you become the person that you want to be.” 11:30 - “It's all about choosing wisely and setting limits and feeding your mind with positivity. So when you're mindful of your inputs, you'll find yourself with more peace and more focus and more energy to live the life that you were meant to live.” Recommendations: This week I share a beauty product and a TV series that I’m loving. The first is a Scalp Massager. Imagine a circle that you hold in your hand with little squishy points that you can use in the shower to wash your hair. It just feels lovely! You need a scalp massager like yesterday. The second thing I share with you this week is season 3 of the most wonderful show in the world - Only Murders in the Building. It’s on Hulu and it’s amazing. Seasons and episodes are short. It’s a really good time and is well done. It’s just a fun, fun show. Things I love and think you will too:  Worship for Fierce Faith Spotify Playlist   https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3xmqJotVQGGcxK1gH19lBx Scalp Massager   https://www.amazon.com/FABCARE-Massager-Silicone-Exfoliating-Cleaning/dp/B0BY9GQDG9/ref=sxin_16_pa_sp_search_thematic_sspa Only Murders in the Building   https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11691774/ Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Alli on YouTube Little Things StudioLittle Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Welcome! Today, we are with the amazing Kendra Adachi. She's showing us how to get our time and lives together in the Lazy Genius style.  I love it. You're going to love it, and you're going to want to go back and watch or listen to it over and over again. She's just that good. There are so many truth bombs, light bulb moments, and great things to take away every time we have Kendra on the show, and today is no different.   Kendra Adachi is the New York Times bestselling author of several books and host of the nationally-ranked The Lazy Genius Podcast. As an expert in compassionate time management, Kendra helps others stop doing it all for the sake of doing what matters. In her new book, The PLAN: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius, Kendra offers a fresh take on managing your time. Using the memorable acronym PLAN, you will learn to Prepare, Live, Adjust, and Notice like a Lazy Genius, all through the lens of what matters to you in your current season. Join Kendra and I as we talk about: Using the PLAN acronym to Prepare, Live, Adjust, and Notice like a Lazy Genius  The secret for making a better to-do list Small things can make a huge difference The importance of therapy and mentoring  Favorite Quotes:  10:16 - “Live your life and enjoy this the best you can. See the good that is here right now. Recognize that you know now isn't forever, but you're here now. This is the season that you're in.” 12:35 - “You name the season you're in and what matters to you most. That is the foundation of everything.” 13:34 - “We have this expectation that every day needs to be the best day. We're always hustling to recreate this ideal day, this best day. I think that just does us such a disservice because like there's so much pressure, number one. But it also is like keeping us for being present with what's going on.” 18:34 - “You need to stop putting projects on your to-do list.” 28:18 - “The Holy Spirit and therapy are the top two things that have taught me the goodness of kindness.” 33:20 - “We've got to have a foundation of kindness and compassion with how we look at our lives first.” Links to Great Things We Discussed: Kendra Adachi Website    Kendra Adachi Instagram   The PLAN: Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius    Still Here - Skye Peterson    Alone    Merlin App Chobani Yogurt Drinks   Build a Coaching Business Quick Start Challenge Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Little Things Studio Little Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Hi friend! Today I share about navigating uncertainty by developing a strategy and keeping moving forward. Here’s the truth - regardless of who wins elections or the state of our circumstances, God is still in control. He’s not surprised by what happens; He has a plan for us all. But we have to live on Earth for now, and it's wild and uncertain. We each have a laundry list of difficult things, things that scare us, groceries cost approximately $3 billion, and things that give us a little bit of anxiety. So what do we do?  We get wise, develop a strategy, and keep going. We want to make sure that our strategy will keep us strong and sane and keep us moving forward.  Super practical tips I share to navigate the uncertainties of life: Stay present, but make choices for your future self. Invest in yourself. Put your thoughts on trial. Examine every thought and do not assume every thought that pops into your head is true.  Avoid your anxiety triggers. Whether it’s news, doom scrolling, people who are always telling you something terrible is going to happen, whatever your trigger is, give it limited time, stop doing it, or dial down those voices in your life. Stay firmly planted, keep your anxiety in check, and plan well so you can live fully today and in the future. Remember your history with God and try out these tips! You’ve got this!   Recommendations: Let me tell you what I’m loving this week. Frownies Facial Patches are little craft paper triangles that you put on your forehead at night and when you wake up, your forehead is smooth and lovely. I put three on my forehead at night. I’m doing everything I can to fight aging and I’m really loving these.   Favorite quotes:  02:11 - “The most important thing to do when navigating uncertainty is to look back on our long history with God.” 06:58 - “Where I see so many women self-sabotaging more than any other way is by not investing in themselves.” 08:04 - “So I want you to stay present. Don't let yourself spiral down in the fear of the future and all the what-ifs, but make some choices for your future self.” 08:35 - “I want you to put your thoughts on trial.  Now, we all have crazy thoughts. We all have thoughts of things falling apart in the future. You know, those what-ifs can drive us crazy. What we need to do is really examine those thoughts and not just assume every thought is true.” 09:36 - “If something negative is likely to happen, the smartest thing you can do, the most strategic thing you can do is make a plan to either stop it and take action or make a plan to mitigate the damage. We don't have to be victims. We aren't powerless.”   Things I love and think you will too:  Frownies    Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Alli on YouTube Little Things StudioLittle Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Welcome back! This is a special day because my friend Lysa TerKeurst is on the show. She is talking about her new book, I Want to Trust You, but I Don't.  Who hasn't been in that situation? Who hasn't wanted to trust when we just don't feel like we can?  This message is so good. Every time Lysa comes out with a new book, I'm always so excited to have her on the show and for us to talk about this with you because of the depth of her understanding and what she has gone through. The way she gives handles to women to pick up a message and carry it with them is so powerful. So you're going to get a lot from this.  Lysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of seven New York Times bestsellers, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Forgiving What You Can't Forget, and It's Not Supposed to Be This Way.  In her new book, I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment, Lysa shares her proven formula for trust and how to enact it in any relationship.  Join Lysa and I as we talk about: When and why did Lysa quietly give up on hope The secret to healing from betrayal and repairing trust Finding connections that are safe Differentiating between discernment and triggers Favorite Quotes:  02:18 - “Trust issues are everywhere. Skepticism and cynicism are at an all-time high.”  09:06 - “The bummer thing is broken trust makes us want to withdraw, but the only way to repair our trust is in the context of relationships.” 11:46 - “Our goal is to find connections that are safe connections.” 17:42 - “We will attract people on our same level of health. So if we want better people in our life, then we have to make sure that we've done our work on our side of the street and become more healed so that we will track people who are also more healed.” 19:30 - “Sometimes distrust is the wisest, most Christian choice to make.” Links to Great Things We Discussed: Lysa TerKeurst Website   Lysa TerKeurst Instagram   I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment    Baccarat Rouge Perfume   Ariana Grande Cloud    Disposable Face Towels    Build a Coaching Business Quick Start Challenge Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Little Things Studio Little Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Here’s the big question this week - “If I wanted to make 85-year-old me miserable, what would I do?” Let’s dive into some key areas of our lives and talk about a topic that isn’t the easiest to discuss: regrets. You know, there are some common regrets people have as they reach the end of their lives, but the great news is we can change that right now. How do we avoid the pitfalls of regret when we’re at the end of our life and ensure that our 85-year-old selves are filled with joy, purpose, and living the life God has for us?  It’s not about secret insider info but rather about self-reflection. Real change and real success comes over time from having a wise counselor ask you the right questions at the right moment. I believe this is the right moment for you!  Here are three practical tips to not make 85-year-old-you miserable: Try new experiences. Stop chasing perfection. Invest in yourself Take a moment to think about three small things, three small habits, that you can start that will get you a little bit closer to where you want to be.   Favorite quotes:  01:34 - “Wisdom comes from life experience, prayer, reflection, and getting asked the right question at the right moment.” 02:37 - “So many people had the exact same regrets.” 06:57 - “We should work on our happiness. We should do everything possible to live healthy, happy, and Godly lives.” 12:11 - “Sometimes we need to think of the cost of not doing something because we get so used to the status quo we can't even imagine how much better it will be if we're willing to invest.” 13:14 - “Remember, small changes equal big results.”   Recommendations This week I share a scripture tea towel that I love from my Little Things Studio. I love these so much! They make the perfect gift for any mom, teacher, any Proverbs 31 woman in your life. I think you’ll find these delightful.    Things I love and think you will too:  Little Things Studio Proverbs Tea Towel  Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Alli on YouTube Little Things StudioLittle Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Welcome back! We are with the amazing Hannah Brencher today. If you heard her on Smart Girl Summer, you have a little taste already of what we're going to talk about.  What does it look like to unplug? What does it look like to get your life back? What does it look like to get control over this crazy phone addiction that we all have? Now, don't worry. I'm not going to tell you to throw your phone out the window. But I also believe that we want to be smart. We want to be strategic because we are all working to live the life God has for us, and Hannah is going to help us today. Hannah Brencher is the founder of More Love Letters (leaving letters for strangers), a TED speaker, an entrepreneur, an author, and an online educator.  Hannah teaches people to establish important disciplines through her fantastic online courses and doesn’t shy away from tough topics like mental illness.  In her new book, The Unplugged Hours: Cultivating a Life of Presence in a Digitally Connected World, Hannah demonstrates how powering down changed her entire life. The Unplugged Hours gives you the practical ideas and spiritual inspiration you need to stop scrolling and start living. Join Hannah and I as we talk about: Why we are afraid of unplugging Finding a balance between life online and offline Practical ways to start implementing unplugged hours Ways to use social media in healthy ways Favorite Quotes:  03:32 - “We have a bundle of emotions. There are a bunch of them, usually all conflicting with each other.” 11:47 - “It starts with naming. Naming is simply asking yourself what is going on inside myself right now. What am I feeling right now?” 12:28 - “The reason I chose the title, I Shouldn’t Feel This Way, is because that is often the first thing we notice. We noticed we are feeling something we shouldn’t.” 14:43 - “Get curious about yourself and show yourself the same benefit of curiosity that we show our friends, kids, and other people.” Links to Great Things We Discussed: Hannah Brencher Website    Hannah Brencher Instagram   The Unplugged Hours: Cultivating a Life of Presence in a Digitally Connected World Love Is Blind    American Murder: Laci Peterson    The God of the Woods    Kitchen Timer    Oura Ring    Build a Coaching Business Quick Start Challenge Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Little Things Studio Little Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Hey friend! This week, I want to share why I think you need a hobby. I’ll make my case and I’ll dive into some truths about hobbies backed by research and offer a few ideas to help you discover the perfect one for you.  I learned that we need a hobby to round out our lives, give us some joy, and  something to lose ourselves in.  Hobbies are more than just fun; they’re crucial for our well-being. They help us destress, heal from burnout, and boost our mood. And research backs this up! Hobbies can lower your stress, improve your mood, and even decrease your heart rate. What a win, right? Here’s the good news: hobbies don’t require a big time commitment or a ton of upkeep. You can carve out just five minutes a week to do something you love. So, let’s embrace the joy of hobbies and find that spark that lights us up! Recommendations: This week I share two things I love with you. The first is Dashing Diva Nail Strips in Pale Blush. You put these on your nails and use an LED light to harden them. Don’t forget to put sunblock on your fingers and hands. You don’t want to age your hands when you do your nails.  The book I'm loving this week is from Robert Iger, The Ride of a Lifetime: Lessons Learned from 15 Years as CEO of the Walt Disney Company. It is phenomenal. I fell in love with it, the stories, the hard times, and the leadership lessons. If you’re looking for a great memoir, a great book on leadership, this book is where it’s at.   Favorite Quotes:  01:32 - “We need a hobby to round out our lives, give us some joy, give us something to lose ourselves in. Hobbies help us de-stress and heal from burnout.” 04:24 - “Research shows that hobbies will reduce stress and boost mood.” 05:41 - “You want to choose a hobby that someone else can join in on, too. That is just going to give you that friendship boost, so you are getting all the social benefits of your hobby.” 10:08 - “Doing something we enjoy lets us relax and be creative, which is so good for our mental and emotional health. Having a hobby will give you a break from the stress and daily grind. It will give you that much needed sense of accomplishment, making life happier and more balanced.” Things I love and think you will too:  Dashing Diva Nail Strips   The Ride of a Lifetime: Lessons Learned from 15 Years as CEO of the Walt Disney Company    Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Alli on YouTube Little Things StudioLittle Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Welcome back! I'm with the amazing Dr. Alison Cook, and she has literally the best book on emotions that I have ever read. You are going to love it. She's been on the show before. She's full of wisdom and depth, and this is one of those episodes that you'll want to listen to over and over again.    Today, we talk about our inner workings and the complicated mix of emotions that we all have. She shares about stepping back, noticing the feelings, and the practices to untangle the emotional knots   Dr. Alison Cook is a therapist, host of The Best of You podcast, and a bestselling author. She is widely recognized as an expert at the intersection of faith and psychology, Dr. Alison empowers individuals to heal from past wounds, develop a strong sense of self, forge healthy relationships, and experience a loving God who is for them. In her new book, I Shouldn't Feel This Way: Name What’s Hard, Tame Your Guilt, and Transform Self-Sabotage into Brave Action, she uncovers the conflicting thoughts and emotions that keep us stuck and equips readers with the tools to name, tame, and transform them into clear solutions that help us move forward in confidence.   Join Alison and I as we talk about: Our tangled mix of emotions Oversimplified solutions we turn to can be very dangerous How to name, frame, and brave our way through the complexity Recognizing and addressing instances of self-gaslighting in our daily life Favorite Quotes:  03:32 - “We have a bundle of emotions. There are a bunch of them, usually all conflicting with each other.” 11:47 - “It starts with naming. Naming is simply asking yourself what is going on inside myself right now. What am I feeling right now?” 12:28 - “The reason I chose the title, I Shouldn’t Feel This Way, is because that is often the first thing we notice. We noticed we are feeling something we shouldn’t.” 14:43 - “Get curious about yourself and show yourself the same benefit of curiosity that we show our friends, kids, and other people.”   Links to Great Things We Discussed: Alison Cook  Website   Alison Cook Instagram   I Shouldn't Feel This Way: Name What’s Hard, Tame Your Guilt, and Transform Self-Sabotage into Brave Action    The Best of You Podcast   Fortnight - Taylor Swift     Couples Therapy    Inside Out 2   Wayfaring   LMNT Drink Mix   L'Oreal Paris Root Cover Up    Brooklinen Down Comforter   Build a Coaching Business Quick Start Challenge Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Little Things Studio Little Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Let's talk about how I got my life together! This may sound like a crazy thing to talk about because I have been sharing about strategies to get your life back together in the books I have written for the last ten years, all six years of this podcast, and throughout my career of coaching. But it’s true!  I want to tell you a story about a time when I was the most burnt out, fried to a crisp and didn't know what to do next. I talk about this in my book Remaining You While Raising Them.  In January 2021, My husband and two of my boys were not doing well. One day while praying, I asked God what to do, and in that moment, He spoke so clearly to my spirit and I knew He was saying it was time to get help.  In this episode I share how I got my excitement for life back, how I dealt with and processed my emotions, and healed from burnout. Some of the great things you’ll learn in this episode - The timing for getting the help we need. Having a business coach grows your business. Pride and fear keep us from getting the help we need. Looking back and celebrating your progress. I would love to hear from you! DM me on Instagram and tell me how you started taking action. I want to know the progress you’re making so I can cheer you on.  Instagram: instagram.com/alliworthington   Favorite Quotes:  02:58 - “I had forgotten the one truth that you will always go further faster in your business with a business coach no matter how good you are on your own. Everybody needs an accountability and a strategy partner.” 03:53 - “The perfect time never comes.  If we wait until we feel it's the right time to get the help we need, we will never do anything. We'll be sitting around waiting until we feel right forever.” 08:32 - “So, if you've been thinking about getting a coach but you worry about the expense, I want to tell you that you will make so much more money with a coach than without a coach. It is the best business expense you will ever have.” 09:31 - “The truth is we need to identify what our best use of time is.” 11:46 - “Pride and fear keep us from obeying the call that God has for us to get some help.” 12:44 - “Remember, an investment in you  benefits everyone around you.” Recommendations Sharing one beauty item - IT Cosmetics Foundation in SPF 50, is really quite amazing. Get it with sunscreen because sunscreen is everything. Put it on with a beauty blender and it’s going to look lovely. Bye Bye foundation is where it’s at for a little extra coverage.  And sharing one food/health item that I love - Allegro green tea. It’s decaf so it won’t pull all the hydration out of your body. It’s a powerhouse! It’s full of antioxidants, it’s anti-inflammatory, it increases blood flow, boosts brain function, and so many other good things. It tastes really good and I love it. Things I love and think you will too:  IT Cosmetics Bye Bye Foundation   Allegro Decaf Green Tea   Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Alli on YouTube Little Things StudioLittle Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully-designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Welcome back to the show.   I am especially glad that you're here because I'm here with my longtime friend, Jon Acuff. Today, John talks about using mindset changes and systems to channel nervous energy by redirecting it into a direction he wants to go.  He shares his awareness that breaking up his work resets the clock on his focus and explains how he keeps focused instead. Jon gives us great tips to raise children in counterintuitive ways that help them find what lights them up. This will be one of your favorite podcast episodes. I guarantee it. Jon Acuff is the New York Times bestselling author of nine books, including his most recent, All It Takes Is a Goal.  When he’s not writing, Jon can be found speaking on stage as a leadership speaker. He’s spoken to hundreds of thousands of people at conferences, colleges, and companies around the world.  In his newest book written with his two daughters, How Teens Win: The Student's Guide to Accomplishing Big Goals, they share a fun, simple process for better understanding your potential so you can start to set goals and make plans that matter to you.  Join Jon and I as we talk about: How he shows up and manages his social media Turning stress into success Balancing inputs and outputs Using a best moments list to get to know yourself and your kids Favorite Quotes:  02:24 - “I think a good definition of goals is the ability to talk yourself into things you might not want to do some days.” 13:17 - “I don’t care if it is weird if it works.” 18:42 - “You can be content and ambitious at the same time.” 22:01 - “You encourage different kids in different ways.” 31:25 - “You have to be open-handed as a parent and give them the space to learn at the rate they are going to go and celebrate the moments when you do come along side them.” 45:42 - “It’s getting harder and harder for teens, and it is getting harder and harder for parents to parent.” Links to Great Things We Discussed: Jon Acuff Website  Jon Acuff Instagram  How Teens Win: The Student's Guide to Accomplishing Big Goals   Busy Child - The Crystal Method   Trust in God - Elevation Worship   Lighting 100   Noah Kahan   Brewster's Millions   Ghost   Sherlock Holmes   Better Off Dead   Big  Forrest Gump   The Shining  Cup Noodles Campfire S'mores   Crazy Aaron’s Thinking Putty   Build a Coaching Business Quick Start Challenge Create a Course Remaining You While Raising Them Little Things Studio Little Things Studio is a woman-owned small business bringing daily reminders of beauty and truth to your home and life. These thoughtfully designed products are made in the USA and focus on the rich words of hymns and the beauty of nature.  Hope you loved this episode!   Make sure to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Don’t forget to check us out on YouTube and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli