The Spiritual Virgins

Have you ever had a word or label instantly trigger you without fully understanding why? In this episode, Deborah has an unexpected emotional reaction to the terms "masculine" and "feminine" — and what unfolds is one of the most raw and revealing conversations yet.In this episode:Why the word "masculine" triggered Debra and what it revealed about her pastGrowing up in a conservative church where women were expected to be "helpmmates"Fighting for equality vs. wanting the freedom that came with being "one of the boys"Masculine energy: leadership, action, direction, assertiveness and focusFeminine energy: receptivity, intuition, nurturing, creativity and emotionDefaulting to masculine energy as a trauma response and protective mechanismThe difference between choosing an energy vs. reacting from a place of fearDebra's revelation: feeling emotionally non-binary while identifying as femaleHow raising a non-binary child cracked open an entirely new perspectiveWhy blending both energies without the labels feels most authenticPolarity in relationships and whether opposites truly attractBreaking generational patterns so they don't get passed downWhen swinging the pendulum too far becomes its own woundWhy being triggered by a word is always an invitation to go deeperThe goal isn't balance — it's awareness and the freedom to chooseIf you've ever felt like you don't quite fit neatly into a label, or if religious and cultural conditioning has shaped how you see yourself, this episode will hit home.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @debraleighbryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

What happens when Spirit calls you out on being judgmental—especially when you thought you weren't? Debra shares her meditation revelation about judgment and how it's showing up everywhere once she became aware of it.In this episode:The difference between healthy discernment and harmful judgmentHow judgment keeps us safe but can also hold us backSelf-judgment and the stories we tell ourselves (I'm not smart, I can't spell, I'm not good enough)Deborah's NLP work to reprogram dyslexia beliefs and improve spellingFinding the anchor moments where limiting beliefs first formedWhy judging others is really about our own insecurities and programmingBody image, weight, and toxic family messaging around appearanceSociety's ever-changing beauty standards and learning self-acceptanceHow judgment activates a threat response and increases cortisolUsing judgment as a mirror: what does this reveal about me?The problem with trying to separate ourselves from what we judgeRe-parenting your inner child who learned to judge herselfBringing compassion to judgment instead of stacking more judgment on topWhy processing emotions fully prevents them from getting stuckBecoming more honest with yourself as true spiritual developmentWhether you're working through self-criticism or noticing judgment toward others, this episode offers a compassionate framework for using awareness as a healing tool.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Do your thoughts control your feelings, or do your feelings drive your actions? Debra and Shirley explore both the top-down and bottom-up approaches to understanding how we process emotions and make decisions.In this episode:Top-down vs. bottom-up theory: thoughts to feelings vs. nervous system firstHow your nervous system constantly scans for threats and triggers reactionsAnniversary reactions: when your body remembers before your mind doesWhy the same text message triggers different reactions in different peopleThe power of the subconscious mind and stored emotional patternsMoving from emotionally reactive to regulated and zenPattern interrupts: breaking routines to shift your stateWhy processing emotions in the moment prevents them from getting stuckCreating space between stimulus and response — finding the pauseByron Katie's "The Work" for examining thoughts from every angleRe-parenting yourself and tracing feelings back to their sourceQuestioning old beliefs: is this really mine or inherited programming?How meditation and hypnotherapy create new emotional set pointsThe difference between suppressing emotions and choosing your responseWhy feelings, not logic, often drive behavior and decisionsWhether you're working on emotional regulation or curious about why you react the way you do, this episode offers practical insights into the mind-body connection.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

The Pull: How to Hear, Feel & Trust Your IntuitionIntuition 101 — that quiet knowing you can't quite explain? Deborah and Shirley are finally giving it a full episode.In this episode:The mysterious pull to Snohomish — and how following it led Shirley to the perfect office space (and dreaming the floor plan before ever stepping inside)Leaving a high-paying job with zero fear — Deborah on what calm, steady knowing actually feels likeThe many forms intuition takes: gut feelings, visions, sounds, physical sensations, impressions, and even smellWhy you can't access intuition when your nervous system is dysregulated — and simple ways to get back into reception modeIntuition vs. anxiety: how to tell the differenceThe role of spirit guides in nudging us in the right directionWhy receiving intuitive guidance requires slowing down and embracing the feminine, receptive stateSonia Choquette's Trust Your Vibes — fun, practical exercises to start building trust with your intuitionFollowing your joy as one of the clearest intuitive signals you haveWhy the path rarely ends where you think it will — and why that's the whole pointWhether you're just starting to tune in or deepening a practice you already have, this episode is your reminder that the quiet knowing has always been there — you just have to get still enough to feel it.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @debraleighbryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Beyond Death: Near-Death Experiences, Past Lives & Soul ConnectionsWhat really happens when we die? Debra and Shirley dive deep into near-death experiences, past life memories, and the profound connections that transcend this lifetime.In this episode:John Davis's transformative 7-minute NDE and the central message: there is no deathThe common thread across all NDEs — it's only about loveLife reviews without judgment: learning from our experiences with compassionWhy we choose to come to Earth and select our soul groups before birthMeeting your soul tribe when you live authentically as yourselfDr. Mary Neal's 30-minute underwater NDE and receiving information about her son's future deathNavigating grief while holding belief in the afterlifeThe indescribable vibrancy, color, and love experienced on the other sideBrian Weiss's "Many Lives, Many Masters" — uncovering past life trauma through hypnotherapyChildren's verifiable past life memories and ongoing research"Heaven Is for Real" and a 4-year-old's detailed account of meeting JesusWhy some people experience depression after returning from NDEsFinding peace and freedom in understanding death as going homeThe physical and emotional experiences unique to being in a bodyWhether you're seeking comfort around death, curious about past lives, or wanting to understand our soul's journey, this episode offers hope, connection, and perspective on what lies beyond.Connect with Deborah: deborahleebryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Shirley shares the transformative framework from her ICM coaching program—the 3 A's: Awareness, Acceptance, and Aligned Action—and how it creates lasting change.In this episode:The crucial role of awareness in identifying patterns and behaviorsWhy acceptance (not judgment) is essential for healingHow aligned action reveals deeper layers of woundsBreaking the pattern of "never feeling like enough"Connecting childhood experiences to current relationship dynamicsUsing somatic work to access subconscious beliefsRe-parenting your inner child and giving them what they neededWhy weeding the garden is essential for growthThe onion metaphor: understanding layers of healingPractical meditation techniques for quieting intrusive thoughtsHow brain development from ages 0-7 shapes our core beliefsWhether you're working through childhood wounds or looking to understand why patterns keep repeating, this episode offers a roadmap for deep, sustainable transformation.Connect with Debra: deborahleebryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Debra shares her experience completing Level 1 Hypnotherapy Certification and what she learned about the power of the subconscious mind.In this episode:What hypnosis is (and isn't) — debunking common mythsHow all hypnosis is self-hypnosis and why you're always in controlThe difference between conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mindUsing hypnosis to break habits like smoking, phobias, and negative patternsFractionation technique: going deeper with multiple intentionsDebra's journey with self-hypnosis and breakthrough momentsThe power of imagination and engaging the alpha brainwave stateShirley's experience with hypnobirthing and lessons learnedHow hypnosis connects to somatic work and manifestationWhy working with the subconscious creates lasting changeWhether you're curious about hypnotherapy or looking for tools to support personal transformation, this episode offers practical insights into accessing your subconscious mind.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @debraleighbryantConnect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Shirley's back! After a brief hiatus, your hosts reunite to share major life updates and lessons learned.In this episode:How Debra left her corporate job to launch her life coaching businessFinding your unique voice as a coach in a crowded marketplaceIncorporating hypnosis and past life regression into coaching practiceSaying "yes" to things that align with your heart and valuesShirley's journey through her ICM coaching certificationSetting boundaries and letting go of over-responsibilityThe practice of "leaning in" instead of avoiding challengesRe-parenting your younger self and befriending your patternsWhy being a lifelong learner is essential for growthWhether you're starting your own coaching business or navigating personal transformation, this episode offers honest insights and practical wisdom.Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com Instagram | @debraleighbryant Facebook | Debra Leigh Bryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com Instagram | @theshirleyhollingerFacebook | Holistic Soul Couching

In this powerful episode, Debra and Kristi Lyn continue their conversation about faith, trauma, and transformation. Kristi Lyn opens up about her first marriage—a relationship marked by domestic violence that began in the church community where she and Debora first met. She shares how her religious upbringing contributed to staying in an abusive situation, the moment she finally found the courage to leave, and the nine-year journey of rebuilding her life through property management work that eventually led to her real estate career.This conversation explores the complex intersection of religious indoctrination, domestic abuse, and the courage it takes to choose yourself. Kristi Lyn and Debora discuss how organized religion can sometimes enable harmful relationships, the guilt and shame that survivors carry, and the long process of unlearning toxic teachings. A raw, honest dialogue about faith deconstruction, survival, and finding your voice when everything you were taught told you to stay silent.

Hearing Your Mom's Voice: Grief, Signs, and Beating Cancer TwiceWhat do you do when you hear your mother's favorite song during your own cancer scan—eleven years after she died from the same disease? Kristi Lyn Reddy opens up about losing both parents in 2005, her own dual cancer diagnoses in 2016, and the signs that kept her connected to her mother. This episode explores grief, faith, the voice of God vs. your higher self, and how tragedy can become the catalyst for finding your voice and reconnecting with those who matter most.