SEX ED FOR YOU: Where Research Meets Reality

A short and sweet episode to catch you up on some behind the scenes of Sex Ed For You, including my new title and what it means to us. Then, we dive into introducing you to our newly improved blog!! We're here to bring you the better version of Carrie Bradshaw you never knew you needed. ;) Love always, H 02:00 Holland’s Title Change 03:30 Lauren is good at math 05:12 Holland is indeed killing it 06:50 What a Free Consult Looks Like 07:40 What is a CC&CC? 09:06 Your New Carrie Bradshaw 13:35 What Happens when Dirty Talk Goes Wrong 17:30 Why We Shouldn’t Use Anatomical Terms as Insults 20:35 The Power of Words 23:30 “Come for Me” 25:15 The New Spectrum of Consent 27:35 When Does “Dirty Talk” Cross the Line to Manipulation? 29:45 Our Scars Can Be Doors RESOURCES: Sign Up for Emails!! Read the Blog: 7 Secrets to Devious Dirty Talk Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

SEX ED PREP FOR PARENTS COURSE IS NOW LIVE!! In this episode, we’re letting you in on the inner workings of Sex Ed For You… hint: a lot’s changing! Plus, some updates about our very own version of the bachelorette in the most coded language ever, Holland’s love life ;) Hope y’all enjoy. H 02:08 Holland’s Job Title is Changing! 08:52 Holland’s Contract 13:36 The Root of The Issue– Finance 15:52 Tying in the Wheel of Consent 22:05 The Week of Chaos 32:47 Accident vs Violation 34:20 How & Why We Do Work Differently (feat tears) 39:00 Love Life Updates 41:50 So He’s A Cookie… ? 46:00 What Happens When Values Aren’t Aligned 50:05 We Want What’s Best For YOU!!!! 53:00 Our Version of The Bachelorette 58:20 Trusting Intuition 1:02:50 Connecting Your Body and Mind’s Intuition 1:06:40 Surround Yourself with People Who Trust You 1:09:45 A Case for Making Better Friendships Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode is a sequel to episode 30; where we talked about all the erotic themes of Bridgerton. In this part, Lauren and I give our high level reviews and critiques of the third season of the show, highlighting some areas where the portrayal of intimacy could really use some improvement. Lauren gives us an in-depth look at the process of arousal and why we should NEVER be saying phrases such as “it’s gonna hurt.”  If you like Bridgerton, and want some shows with a similar vibe, we suggest you check out Reign and Outlander (TWs for assault on both). 00:35 High Level Bridgerton Reviews 08:55 Give us MORE NICOLA 11:30 Why we DON’t endorse saying “it’s gonna hurt” 13:45 The Process of Arousal 19:10 Benedicked down 23:15 Communication Opening Doors For Everybody!! 27:00 The Featherington Girlies 28:30 Women’s Rights Discussions of The Season 31:00 Why do people love Bridgerton? 42:00 The topic of Race in the Bridgerton Universe 44:00 Holland’s Recommendation for A Similar Show (reign) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode of Sex Ed For You: Where Research Meets Reality, Lauren and I start off by watching a recent reel post by Madion Prewitt, a former contestant on the Bachelor. This video started a conversation on submission within partnership, division of labor in households, and the importance of respecting your partner. We also dive into why the Bachelor/ette dating shows not only don’t work, but also are a horrible representation of polyamory; glorifying an unbalanced model of what can be a really healthy approach to consensual non-monogamy. We touch on the topic of mind-reading in relationships and how it’s important to communicate your needs; not just expect a partner to know them off the bat. Last but not least, we emphasize the importance of NOT putting sex on a pedestal; relationships are so so much more than just a p*nis and a v*gina. RESOURCES: The Bitchelorette on Instagram Sex At Dawn The Ethical Slut Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Last week, we left off on a cliffhanger. Today, we’re back with the answers you so desperately desire. Listen to this episode to get the inside scoop on what it means to date authentically and align your longings on a first date! Lauren and I consider how much I’ve changed since moving to VA, and how that has deeply affected my dating practices. We give you some great advice about dating authentically and what it looks like to accept that YOU DESERVE TO DATE PEOPLE YOU REALLY LIKE! Besides, in the end, you either break up or get married, right? RESOURCES: Discussions to Have with Potential Partners | CODE: BRICK Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

In this episode, Lauren and I tackle the age old question, how should you flirt? What even is flirting? What’s the purpose of flirting? Pulling on our favorite resources, Pleasure Activism, Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and my personal life (lol), we create a toolkit for you to use when flirting out in the wild. ;) Love always, H RESOURCES Pleasure Activism Sexual Values Worksheet (CODE: FLIRT) Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode was recorded to help those of you who are currently in a relationship and considering long-term commitment: is this the relationship for you? DOWNLOAD THE PARTNERHSIP CONSIDERATION JOURNAL PROMPTS HERE FOR FREE-- CODE: NUANCE Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

This episode tackles topics like age gap romance real-life applications and what conversations we think should preempt relationship attempts. Lauren and I discuss the importance of individuation, developmental age markers, and aligning your longings with potential partners. We give light to the fun aspects of fantasy that enrapt many people fascinated with a person who’s much older or younger than they are and encourage listeners to use their common sense when faced with such situations. We also have a candid conversation about making passing comments in public to people you find attractive and the right vs wrong ways to do so. ADVANCING SEXUAL HEALTH FOR THE CHRISTIAN CLIENT HOW TO BE THE LOVE YOU SEEK Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

TW: PET LOSS If you follow us on socials, you probably already know that my (Holland’s) dog, Ollie, passed away recently. This episode was filmed a couple days after we held his funeral. We talk about the funeral, grief, and how we’re all adapting to a new life without our little best friend. We also touch on having funerals/goodbye rituals for past situationships and how that can be really beneficial.  RESOURCES: The Playlist we referenced Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)

Y’all, Lauren and I ran to the podcast chairs as soon as Bridgerton Season 3 came out. No S3 spoilers here, but if you haven’t seen S1 & S2 then you should probably watch those first. ;) This conversation was all about the erotic themes of the Bridgerton love stories we’ve seen so far: Daphne + Simon, Anthony + Kate, and the long awaited Pen + Colin. Lauren and I talk through our own favorite scenes from the show and which erotic themes are most common. We touch on the topic of sexualization and how sex is used to manipulate in control in the show. Lauren brings up Julia Quinn’s background and how her dynamic with romance books deeply influences the Bridgerton story. Last but not least, we talk through implementing core erotic themes into real life in healthy ways! Love always, H! Click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.  Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator. Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out our monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ (for femme-presenting people only at this time)