Sex and Breakfast

Trying to conceive is supposed to be exciting — so why does it feel like it’s killing your sex life? If you’ve ever stared at a circled date on a calendar and felt zero desire to do the thing that’s supposed to happen that night, this episode is for you. The hosts unpack the surprisingly painful paradox of conception sex — why scheduling, pressure, and goal-oriented intimacy quietly destroy desire — and offer real, practical ways to protect your connection while still keeping the baby-making on the table. From the ovulation app screenshot that broke one husband’s libido to the double shower head that saved a marriage, this one is raw, funny, and deeply human.Show Notes:Flo Health — ovulation tracking app Double shower head product Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast: Instagram Website YouTube — Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Porn taught you everything about sex — and almost none of it was true. In this episode, the hosts take a curious, shame-free look at what pornography gets completely wrong about sex, bodies, desire, and intimacy. From the myth of the perfect body to the illusion of instant arousal, they break down why learning about sex from porn is like learning physics from a Marvel movie. Plus — raccoons, Playboy magazines, and a SAR workshop that changed everything. Real intimacy is awkward, funny, and deeply human, and that’s exactly what makes it so much better than anything on screen.Show Notes:Previous Episode on Lube- "The Lube Lowdown: Everything You Need to Know about Lubes"SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) workshop informationUberlubeFollow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Your vagina deserves a spa day — and science, history, and ancient tradition all agree. Yoni steaming, also known as vaginal steaming, is one of the oldest feminine wellness practices in the world, with roots in Korea, Indonesia, the Philippines, South America, Africa and beyond — and it’s making a powerful comeback. In this episode, the hosts break down exactly what yoni steaming is, why colonization nearly erased it, what the real benefits are, how to safely try it at home, and why sitting quietly over a bowl of herbs for 20 minutes might just be the most radical act of self-care you’ll do all year.Show Notes:DIY yoni steaming boxesRecommended herbs listFind a practioner to steam in person hereFollow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

You packed the lingerie, booked the ocean view, and the sex still didn't happen — and now you're wondering what's wrong with you. Vacation sex has become the ultimate relationship fantasy — the idea that getting away will magically reignite everything you've lost at home. But what actually happens when it doesn't deliver? The hosts unpack why couples pin so much hope on vacation sex, what quietly sabotages it, and share one surprisingly liberating suggestion: take sex off the table entirely. Because sometimes the best thing for your sex life is to stop making it the destination.Show Notes: Movie: Couples Retreat (2009)Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Tired of hinting and hoping your partner magically gets it? This episode is your guide to actually asking for what you want in bed — clearly, confidently, and without the awkwardness. The hosts break down why so many people struggle to identify their own desires, share playful tools like the Wheel of Consent, the Nerdy Number game, and the A/B technique to make these conversations easier, and explain why the bedroom is the worst place to have them. Whether you're newly dating or decades deep into a relationship, you'll walk away with a five-minute sex conversation exercise you can use tonight.Show Notes:The Wheel of Consent by Betty MartinCouples conversation card decksThree self-discovery questions: What do I want more of? What do I want less of? What do I want to try?Self-exploration awareness questions listThe Five-Minute Sex Conversation ExerciseFollow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Your body isn't broken — it just needs a reset. Sex coach and author Erica Lemke joins the hosts to introduce her new book Pressing Reset for a Sensual Midlife, built around a movement system called Original Strength that uses simple developmental movements — breathing, eye and head control, rocking, and cross-lateral crawling — to help women reconnect with their bodies, senses, and pleasure at any stage of life. The conversation explores the powerful distinction between sensuality and sexuality, how the nervous system holds the key to feeling present and connected, and why slowing down — not speeding up — is the fastest path back to yourself.Show Notes:Pressing Reset for a Sensual Midlife by Erica Lemke Special discount link for "Pressing Reset" book!Erica Lemke: SexCoachSLC.comTV Episode mentioned: Secret Lives of Mormon Wives Season 2, Episode 4 (Hulu)Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

Who asks for sex matters way more than you think. Most couples fall into the same boring pattern—one person always initiates, the other always waits to be approached. Over time, this creates resentment, hurt feelings, and a whole lot of distance. But here's the good news: there are five different ways to initiate sex, and understanding your style (and your partner's) can completely change your relationship. The episode breaks down initiation styles and explains why your partner might be rejecting you—not because they don't want you, but because you're speaking an intimacy language they don't understand. Once you figure out how you both like to be approached, everything shifts.Show NotesCome As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski --Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

In this juicy and judgment-free episode, the hosts dive into one of the most whispered questions in sexuality: "Is my sexual fantasy normal?" They unpack the important distinction between fantasy and desire, normalize the wide spectrum of sexual imagination, and bust common myths — including whether taboo fantasies mean something is "wrong" with you, whether porn shapes what we truly want, and whether fantasies have to be shared or acted upon. With warmth, humor, and clinical wisdom, they walk listeners through a thoughtful framework for exploring fantasies safely, from keeping them private to having conversations with a partner, and remind us that your inner world is yours — shame-free.Show Notes:Dr. Justin Lehmiller's work on sexual fantasyEsther Perel intimacy card deckDipsea App (for audio erotica)Sex coaching/therapy for unpacking fantasies, reach out to us on our website; sexandbreakfastpodcast.com .--Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

This is the second part of our discussion on how sex education differs around the world and why those differences matter. From the Netherlands and Sweden to Japan, Indonesia, and traditional African communities, we discuss how culture shapes conversations about consent, pleasure, relationships, body autonomy, and human rights. We also take a hard look at the United States, where sex education varies dramatically by state and often focuses on fear, abstinence, and risk instead of communication, confidence, and emotional well-being.Show Notes: World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) – Declaration of Sexual Pleasure World Health Organization (WHO) – Sexual health resourcesUN Human Rights – Sexual rights Planned Parenthood – Comprehensive sex education resourcesBook mentioned; Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!

We explore how sex education differs around the world and why those differences matter. From the Netherlands and Sweden to Japan, Indonesia, and traditional African communities, we discuss how culture shapes conversations about consent, pleasure, relationships, body autonomy, and human rights. We also take a hard look at the United States, where sex education varies dramatically by state and often focuses on fear, abstinence, and risk instead of communication, confidence, and emotional well-being.Show Notes: World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) – Declaration of Sexual Pleasure World Health Organization (WHO) – Sexual health resourcesUN Human Rights – Sexual rights Planned Parenthood – Comprehensive sex education resourcesBook mentioned; Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James—Follow Sex and Breakfast Podcast:InstagramWebsiteYouTube— Subscribe & Listen to Sex and Breakfast Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every other Friday!