Sage Family

"In the matter of minutes, I said hello and goodbye to her. The normal birth, life, death process was put right side by side. " Magdalena Garcia join me in today's episode about pregnancy loss. Magdalena supports parental mental and emotional health by focusing on the mindset, strategies, and symbolic ways mothers and fathers can tend to their inner lives so they can tend the inner lives of their children. We discuss types, impacts, our personal experiences, support, future challenges, partner differences, and honoring the loss moving forward. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast101

This is episode 100, and in honor of that milestone, I'm showing up with a reintroduction. The first episode of the Sage Family Podcast, an introduction with myself, my husband, and my three children, was shared with you all over 6 years ago. Needless to say, those beautiful souls have insisted on perpetually growing and evolving and I have grown and evolved right alongside them. Our life looks so different now, and yet, the heart and spirit of the values that inspired this movement remain. In this new season of life, I just wanted to give us, you and I, the opportunity to refresh and connect anew. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast100.

"Those who are nested are going to be . . . more fit . . . Evolution has done the experiments . . . so we don't have to . . . do all those crazy things that researchers do because they don't have any baseline for what is normal for our species in raising children, what I call 'species typical'." Dr. Darcia Narvaez join me in today's episode about the Evolved Nest. Darcia is a professor and author who studies evolved morality, child development, and human flourishing. We discuss the decision to have children, mutual accompaniment, breastfeeding, sharing care, free play, touch, emotions, and moral commitment. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast99

"It was so important for us as homeschool parents, and because of the tenets that we hold as the reasons why we homeschool: it's important for us to value our children as humans, and for their voices to be heard, and for their mental health, and so, when our kids were saying, 'I think we need to start thinking about school,' if we ignored these ideas that were coming from our kids, we would't be holding the tenets that we thought were important in homeschooling—trusting and respecting them, which is the highest value." Angela Sizer and Maren Goerss join me in today's episode about Homeschooling to School. Angela and Maren are hosts of the Homeschool Unrefined Podcast and authors of the new book Think Differently About Learning. We discuss how we came to homeschooling, treating children as humans, nuts and bolts of homeschooling, outsourcing, mental health, and the transition from homeschooling to school. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast98

"Our needs are never in conflict. It's the strategies that we use to meet our needs that get us into conflict." Lisa Rothman joins me in today's episode about Conflict. Lisa is a mom who has spent more than 20 years learning, practicing, and teaching collaborative communication skills. We discuss a template for preventing and repairing conflict, capacity, and boundaries and we get to step inside of some conflict resolution sessions with families. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast97

"There was a child that drowned when they were with their dad at a public pool and the mom was blamed while being five states away, and I thought, that was something I'd never considered, that women are blamed for the well-being of their children no matter what." Zach Watson joins me in today's episode about Sharing Labor. Zach is a content creator and coach teaching men to better see the invisible labor that is happening around them. We discuss his awakening, examples of mental, emotional and domestic labor, why women carry so much of this load, how language is important, how to discuss this in our partnerships without triggering defensiveness, working on this ADHD, and supporting a societal shift toward greater equity. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast96.

"Ceremony is the point in time when we all know it's time to stop . . . and honor something or someone. Ceremony is the time and the place. And ritual, those are the elements within ceremony that get us deeper, that actually encourage us to pause and find meaning. So the elements of ritual: things like symbolism, the activation of the senses . . . all of those things get us to here, now, which then helps us with the other element—what is the story underneath the story?" Magdalena Garcia joins me in today's episode about Ceremony. Magdalena is a mother, educator, writer, birth story listener, parenting coach and ceremony facilitator. We discuss the religion gap, tools for creating ceremonies, birthdays, transitions, birth, teenagers, and holidays. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast95.

"What happens when you don't teach a whole group of people to understand their emotions is that they become extremely emotionally dysregulated . . . it then tends to be a woman who is tasked with modulated that partner's expression, especially when there are kids involved and you're trying to be a buffer between that temper—that mood—and your children." Rose Hackman joins me in today's episode about Emotional Labor. Rose is a British journalist and the author of Emotional Labor. We discuss what emotional labor is, how it develops, the problem of it being invisible and unvalued, how men are also harmed by patriarchy, how to make our relationships more egalitarian, and what changes we could make in society to value emotional labor. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast94.

"I believe that all humans have a right to ownership over their body, over their mental, spiritual, emotional autonomy and consent is kind of a way to ensure that it's not just us being autonomous everywhere but we are also respecting other people's boundaries and right to be autonomous. My autonomy ends where yours begins." Fran Liberatore joins me in today's episode about Consent. Fran is a writer, podcaster, Masters student and ex-educator, as well as an unschooling mother of two children. We discuss what consent is, why it matters, how it connects to adultism, how to create a culture of consent in our homes, making consent-based decisions, consent-based education, to what extent children are able to consent, and if everything has to be arrived a through a collaborative process. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast93.

"We have to give them the neuroscience. This is going to strip any shame. It's going to make it easier for them to turn and face and own their behavior. We really have to turn these feelings into allies and friends." Karen Young joins me in today's episode about inner warriors (anxiety). Karen is a psychologist, speaker, consultant, the founder of Hey, Sigmund, and the author of Hey, Warrior. We discuss ways anxiety shows up in kids that are often not recognized as anxiety, how we can frame anxiety for our children, how to guide our own nervous systems back to safety, how to support a child through co-regulation, how to hold boundaries for safety while holding space for big feelings, why repair is important, how to help our children through hard experiences so they don't get stuck as traumas. Get the full show notes at sagefamily.com/podcast92.