#34 The Issue With Dating "Goals"

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If you have found value in this podcast or in this meditation, please consider supporting and keeping The Later Dater Today ad-free here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_lakshmi Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Lakshmi is taking a one month hiatus. Want to support her milestone of 45 episodes and keep The Later Dater Today ad-free? Consider throwing her a few bucks. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_LakshmiStay tuned for a Bonus Episode with the meditation pulled out for easy use. Later Dater today episodes referenced in this meditationEveryone's a Museum and Most of Us Stay in the LobbyRethinking Wasted Time In Dating I Don't Want to Repeat My PastBaggage Vs. Luggage : How To Think About Your Past Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

We assign moral judgment to ideas of how long or short a relationship goal is.  But what if distance has nothing to do with whether or not a trip is worth it? A great companion episode to this is "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger."  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

The companion episode to this is Episode 19: The Death of The Crush Crushes are an incredibly important part our heart's history. As a Later Dater you may not have looked closely at people at moments where you developed a crush. It's worth taking a minute to look closely as these as you embark or keep on keeping on in your dating journey. Ditch the vision board and try looking at the people and moments that already caught your attention.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

This episode includes tips on how to help the people who want to set you up, describe you in way that is about more than simply how great you are. One that paints a picture that might stick with someone long before they meet you. For more detail and color on crafting a set up story listen to Lakshmi's interview on the Pivot Podcast!  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient? References in this episodeEpisode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

After 20 years of marriage, Gabe, 57 is a year into his dating journey and he's wondering if he'll ever feel "that way" again. Let's get clear on all the kinds of experiences, moments and feelings that you have to look forward to as a Later Dater. Breaking these down and getting clear can change how you date. Mentioned in this episode: "I haven't dated since 1999"  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Share this with anyone who thinks that they "must" date someone who has the same relationship history as them (divorced, kids, didn't marry, widowed) etc. The best part about Later Daters today is the diversity of choices that were made by people. Listen in as Lakshmi  walks you through how you think about connecting even if you lived very different lives. Mentioned in this episode - a whole new way to think about baggage as a Later Dater. Check out the episode Baggage or Luggage: How To Think About Your Past    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  

Be sure to follow on Instagram as we begin bringing concepts from the podcast to life. https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayIn this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people.   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!