Colin has loved Elsa from Frozen since he was 3 years old. So when Frozen II came out you can imagine how pumped he was to go to the theatre. A true Frozen fan, he wanted to dress the part and wear his Queen Elsa dress, but he began to worry about what the other kids would say. This is where his Dad came in, and this is why Scott’s been featured on Mom School's special Father's Day episode. Scott went online and ordered the largest Elsa dress he could find, and off they went to the cinema together. The video of the two of them has since gone viral, but this conversation is so much more than a sweet social media post. I believe that one of the most crucial responsibilities we have as parents is to embrace and protect our children's authentic self. Scott and I talk about the nonsense of gender stereotypes. We talk about how to handle critical and judgmental family members who are acting out of their own fear and cultural conditioning. If you are one of those fearful family members - We talk about WHY these things make people uncomfortable, what that says about you and the need to reframe your perspective. And, maybe most importantly, Scott mentions the dangers of repressing your child's true self, and the joy and power that come from embracing your baby just as they are. For a father to challenge his own fear, go against his deep rooted conditioning and confront his own uncomfortability (and his own mother!) in order to protect his son is the epitome of an excellent parent. I am so proud of this conversation and I hope you guys enjoy it.
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Rachel Pally -- Creating a Top Fashion Label while Navigating Motherhood
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'The Medicated Mommy' Shares Her PPD Story
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Jana Kramer on Real Motherhood, Infidelity, Faith and fighting The Good Fight
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