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DPAR cycle and intrusive thought replacement—learn how to beat the fear of getting it wrong, stop overthinking, and build a fast, repeatable feedback loop for self-mastery. Host Maurice Harker shows how to review-revise-recommit, use caddy-style support (how to listen like a great teammate), and turn 3×5 cards into on-the-spot counterattacks during real “spiritual warfare.” You’ll leave with a battle-tested structure to observe, plan, decide, and act—then reflect and improve quickly.👉 If this helps, subscribe, share, and drop a review so others can find it.

Healthy disentanglement, lay down “weapons of war,” and personal iron rod—Host Maurice Harker shows how to stop over-relying on a partner for needs, end weaponized words, and anchor yourself in Christ-centered self-mastery. Learn practical tools: replacement thoughts for intrusive thinking, values-aligned boundaries without ultimatums, and a simple reflect-plan-act rhythm you can repeat daily. Subscribe for weekly tools, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find the show.lifechangingservices.org

Personal iron rod, spiritual motivation, and self-mastery—learn how to stop drifting and create a customized anchor that holds. Host Maurice Harker shares practical ways to turn quotes and principles into daily reminders, use the DAR/DPAR reflection cycle, and practice habits until they become muscle memory. You’ll hear real-life strategies (3×5 cards, highlight-and-breakdown method, memorize-by-heart apps, audio replays), plus how to recover after “I’ve ruined everything” moments with a fresh start mindset.Subscribe for weekly tools, share with someone who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find the show.lifechangingservices.org

Warrior chemistry, the DPAR cycle, and team-based planning help parents and young adults rebuild motivation, self-mastery, and values-aligned goals. Host Maurice Harker explains why there’s no “once-and-done root cause,” how to beat isolation with simple reminder systems, and how to practice new habits until they become muscle memory. You’ll learn reflection prompts, a conversation script for sharing thoughts with a spouse, and ways to recover faster after a “lost battle.”Subscribe, share with a friend who needs a lift, and explore more resources at lifechangingservices.org

Struggling with motivation and purpose? Learn how warrior chemistry helps you fight back against negative thoughts, reclaim your identity, and align goals with your true mission. In this episode, Maurice Harker explains practical tools to overcome isolation, beat forgetfulness, and stay focused on becoming your best self.👉 Subscribe for more episodes, share this with someone who needs it, and explore more resources at lifechangingservices.org.

After betrayal, even everyday moments can feel dangerous to your wife. Learn how to help her feel safe—even when her world feels like it’s falling apart.Full Summary:Why does your wife flinch when you glance at someone else—even casually? Why does every woman, every billboard, every walk outside feel like a minefield? In this powerful episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker unpacks the torment your wife may be living with—even long after the betrayal was disclosed—and gives you actionable steps to rebuild emotional safety without becoming defensive.You’ll learn:Why your wife sees the world as unsafeWhat not to do when she’s triggeredWhy explanations often backfireHow to use public anxiety as a moment of connectionHow to spiritually prepare to protect her from the unseen battles she faces🎧 If you want to stop feeling stuck and start becoming the protector your wife needs—this episode is for you.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/going-deeper-addressing-the-full-continuum-of-change-with-the-chemical-scale/Rather Watch Something? ⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z19MHfqpEsA&t=9sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

Why does your wife feel unsafe—even around strangers? In this episode, we unpack how betrayal trauma rewires her world, and what you can do to help.Full Summary:After betrayal, many women begin to feel like every woman is a threat, every glance is dangerous, and the entire world is unsafe. In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker and guests share why even innocent actions—like looking at a passerby—can feel devastating to your spouse, and how shame-free transparency and emotional awareness can rebuild safety.Learn:Why your wife sees every woman as competitionHow trauma turns daily life into a war zoneWhat not to do when your wife is triggeredHow to use public moments to turn toward, not awayWhy emotional presence matters more than perfection🎧 If you want to help her heal, even when you feel misunderstood—this episode is your roadmap.Want to read more about this topic? https://www.lifechangingservices.org/harnessing-warrior-chemistry/Rather Watch Something? ⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DSJOxHm1h0&t=1sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

Struggling to understand your wife? In this episode, we break the myth that “women are just confusing” and show how real connection begins with curiosity.Full Summary:Have you ever joked that women are just impossible to understand—only to find yourself stuck, frustrated, and disconnected? In this episode of Memoirs of an LDS Servant Teacher, Maurice Harker challenges that mindset with powerful insight: what if your wife isn’t incomprehensible… just undiscovered?We explore:Why mocking the complexity of women is a defense against growthHow to respect the unknown and learn to see more deeplyThe damage of trying to mold your wife into something she’s notWhy spiritual discovery leads to emotional intimacyHow understanding her true “substance” unlocks partnership and purpose🧠 If you’re ready to stop surviving marriage and start building something miraculous—this episode is for you.🎧 Listen now and subscribe for more breakthrough insights each week.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/values-based-decisions-help-you-quit-pornography/Rather Watch Something? ⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgKC-_nHGmECheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

Why can’t she trust you—even now? Discover how invalidation, betrayal trauma, and dismissive advice from leaders deepen the wounds. Listen and learn how to do better.Full Summary:If you've ever thought, “Why can’t she just get over it?”—this episode is for you. Maurice Harker reveals the damaging impact of invalidation from spouses, church leaders, and even therapists who don't understand betrayal trauma. When your wife says she doesn't feel safe, it’s not about a single moment—it’s about the cumulative trauma of being ignored, dismissed, or gaslit for years.You’ll learn:The real difference between big-T and little-t traumaHow “normalizing” porn or betrayal creates emotional devastationWhy some professionals accidentally do more harm than goodHow to finally stop dismissing her pain—and start healing the right way🎧 Subscribe for more insights every week.💬 Share with someone who needs to understand why she can’t just “move on.”Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/working-on-emotional-intimacy-discussing-the-past/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5wPvF8YD0w&t=4sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/

Why can’t she trust me, even after disclosure? Learn how betrayal trauma, unsafe responses from others, and lack of purpose delay healing. Listen now.Full Summary:Even after the truth comes out, trust doesn’t come back right away. Why? Because the damage runs deeper than the behavior—it shatters her trust in herself and in anyone she turns to for help. In this eye-opening episode, Maurice Harker breaks down the ripple effects of betrayal trauma and explains why being a man with a clear purpose is more powerful than just “trying to be better.”You’ll also discover how friends, family, church leaders, and even counselors often make things worse—and what true emotional safety looks like from her side.🎧 Topics covered:Why betrayal trauma creates double damageWhat “purpose” really looks like in recoveryHow others unintentionally deepen her isolationThe myth of “she just needs to get over it”What to do instead of defending yourself🔁 Subscribe to hear new episodes weekly.💬 Share with someone who’s walking this road and ready for deeper truth.Want to read more about this topic? ⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/rebuilding-trust-a-husbands-guide-to-understanding-and-healing-betrayal-trauma/Rather Watch Something? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8N8_vssS_iw&t=3sCheck out Life Changing Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.lifechangingservices.org/