Why Couples Quarrel?

Couples argue about a fairly narrow range of issues, including intimacy, control, habits and of course money. Avoiding toxic or nuclear arguments is essential to a solid relationship.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug talk about ways couples can avoid the pitfalls that can derail them and how to take the toxicity out of financial discussions. For a full transcript, click here: LL32-Why Do couples Quarrel About Money?

In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss the fine art of flirtation.  Why we do it, what it means and how to flirt without crossing a line into cheating. For a full transcript and more, click here: LL31-Why Men and Women Flirt

A lot of books have been written about the differences between men and women--but often they offer very litte useful insight where it matters most--in relationship.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug take on this time worn topic with some fresh insights about how men and women think, react and respond to one another.  For a full transcript, click here:LL30-How Men and Women Differ

Is fighting normal--dos it help heal or break relationships?  Is there such a thing as healthy quarrellng?  Answers to these and related questions in this episode from Alvean and Doug.  For a complete transcript, click here:LL29-Why Do Couples Quarrel?

We read about heartbreak, and may have suffered it ourselves.  There is medical evidence that heartbreak can lead to poor health, even death, but is the opposite also true, can love heal?  In this episode Alvean and Doug, joined by a special guest discuss the facts and the truth about the healing power of Love. For a full transcript of this episode, click here: LL28-Can Love Heal?

Songs have been written about it --it's not an uncommon question. What to do when you find yourself attracted to two different people at the same time.  How do you resolve this dilemma?  In this episode, Alvean and Doug offer their life experience and wisdom on the subject and suggest some paths to resolution.  For more, and a full transcript, click here: LL27-Can you love two people equally?

Some people are the main character of every scene in their lives. It is all about them and the rest of us are just supporting characters in their play.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug offer their thoughts on how best to navigate  should you find yourself in the presence of someone with these characteristics. For a complete trascript of the episode, click here: LL26-It is all about me

Is it possible to find happiness without being in a relationship?  For some, being alone is a comfort, a retreat into a contemplative life that starts by being in love with oneself.  In this episode, Alvean and Doug discuss those aspects of being alone that are sweetened for individuals who find themselves in this state of being or choose to remain so for the comfort of their own company. For a full transcript, click here: LL25-Savoring Loneliness

Controlling behavior is not an uncommon dynamic between couples.  It can be overt or more often unrecognized but the struggle for autonomy contends with the desire to please and the need for clear boundaries that respect both party's rights.  Alvean and Doug take on this fraught topic in thsi episode and offer some counsel on how to avoid finding yourself controlling or being controlled.  For a full traNscript of the episode, click here:LL24-You're not the Boss of Me

You've probably heard it, maybe even believe that opposites are attracted to one another.  But do they make for a good relationship?  In the episode, Alvean and Doug explore the truth and fiction behind the saying and the true path to compatibility.  For a full transcript of the episode, click here:LL23-Do Opposites Attract