Our guest for this episode, "Denise" shares her story of abuse. In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints misogyny and patriarchy are common and defended. The church is still against the Equal Rights Amendment and expects its members to fall in line with this shared belief including the unwritten but widely understood expectation to vote against it. This belief and expectation encourages "unrighteous dominion."
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2:03:08The only way to make child sexual abuse stop is to make it safe for children and survivors to speak up and tell their stories. Billy Dinkel is a survivor and he speaks publicly to bring attention to how child sexual assault victims are shamed, silenced, and manipulated into keeping their perpetrator's secrets. He is an excellent advocate for survivors and has given many survivors the courage to also start talking about their abuse.
1:11:20Sara is sharing her story for the first time from start to finish on this podcast episode. Like many survivors, she has told bits and pieces, but there's always parts that we don't reveal and hold close to us. I hope our listeners grasp how profound this is for Sara! Imagine how much courage this takes. When she found our podcast, she knew that she wanted to add her voice to the others. Speaking out and normalizing these conversations is exactly what she wanted to do as well. Sara also isn't "out" as an exMormon yet! Her faith transition is still very fresh and unfolding. Join us as Sara shares her story.
1:38:41Our guest for this episode, "Denise" shares her story of abuse. In The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints misogyny and patriarchy are common and defended. The church is still against the Equal Rights Amendment and expects its members to fall in line with this shared belief including the unwritten but widely understood expectation to vote against it. This belief and expectation encourages "unrighteous dominion."
1:31:08We met Mark through TikTok after he shared his experience about his abuse on his mission. Mark shares a unique perspective on abuse in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and how it is perpetuated by the culture.
Esteban Lee O'neal Part 2
1:26:20Esteban continues his story in part 2. In this episode Esteban talks about life after the church. What can life after the church look like for someone who is LGTBQIA? It's important to know that the church doesn't own kindness, "clean living", integrity, honestly, faithfulness, even spirituality. All of those things are still available to you outside of the church if you want them. Learning you are a valuable human being with a lot to offer the world, instead of being the example for what a "sinful person" is, may just be something that one of your family members needs to hear from you. It may just save a life.... it's THAT serious. This is an important episode. Sometimes we participate in things knowing that there are problems but as long as it isn't affecting us, we turn a blind eye to it. But you might have an "Esteban" in your family who has been too afraid to tell anyone. Or maybe you have excluded a gay family member because of your beliefs and you don't understand how damaging it was for them to learn your love was conditional. Here is an opportunity to listen to what it is like to be LGTBQIA in the church and how there is support and community for you after you leave. It can also be an opportunity to change your thinking (if you have rejected a gay child) and reach out to estranged family members NOW before it is too late.
Esteban Lee-O’neal Part 1
1:34:58Esteban Lee O’Neal is a beautiful human, a father, super gay, and a pioneer survivor. Esteban, and the love of his life Rex, recently celebrated their 16th anniversary. Together, they are a blended family with 6 children. He was once a Mormon missionary and believed he could be saved from being gay. If you've ever wondered what it's like to be born gay within a high demand, conservative religion, listen to Esteban's story. Does the mormon church truly offer its members a better way to live? The cost of being born gay in a church that claims to be the most perfect example of Christianity in the world, can be downright deadly. It's well and good to want to participate in "clean living" with morality, purity, and the "restored gospel", but what if you fall outside of the lines of what is acceptable in the church. The church seems to have relaxed their policies on these issues, but have they really? Take a look into the life of someone raised to believe that they were the very definition of sin incarnate
Karly E. Part 2
1:47:51Karly continues her story in part 2 as her family is divided and the abuse becomes more emotional and psychological. When a child is not believed, telling the truth to adults means a pattern of betrayal that carries an emotional toll throughout our lives. When Karly was not believed as a child the consequences were life threatening and have left her with a lifelong disability. Her resilience is inspiring and we are looking forward to reading her book!
Karly E. Part 1
1:22:15Karly is a survivor of physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, childhood cancer, and religious trauma as a member of The Church of Christ. She noted many similarities in her religious upbringing to friends who were Mormon or ExMormon. Karly is a resilient and brave young woman and we are happy to have her on as the first "guest" :) on our podcast.
Kindra Backman Celani Part 2
55:32In part 2 of Kindra's story she discusses how leadership of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints mishandled the sexual abuse presented to them by her and her mom. How they revictimized her on multiple occasions. She discusses the issues she faced as a teenager, young adult, and mother as a child sexual assault survivor in the church. She discusses other areas in life where she notices revictimization and the stigma of breaking her silence about child sexual abuse and her struggles with PTSD and ADD.
Kindra Backman Celani Part 1
1:13:46Kindra tells a little about herself to start because she also does not wish to be defined by her abuser although abuse does seem to shape our lives as survivors. She also recognizes patterns of generational trauma in her life and in her life choices, some good and some not so good. She does explain in some detail the actual sexual abuse from her stepfather Ron from the ages of 9-13. As survivors we know first hand the revictimization that happens due to unintentional invalidation from family and friends who do not know how to respond to our constant retelling of our stories, our over explaining trauma response from being silenced for so long, and the intentional and vindictive retraumatization from abusers and institutions who only care to protect their reputations. It is time for change and it is time for the shame to be claimed by its rightful owners.