Ep. 155: 5 Ways Your 'Yes's' Are Hurting Your Sex Life

We were socialized to focus our care taking to be outside of us. For others to benefit from.  Which is lovely AND you need that same attention from you.I will always argue that taking care of OTHERS is easier than taking care of yourself, not because the task itself is hard, but because of our resistance to it.Let’s talk about how and why its so important for us to be courageously selfish and how that can help us in our pleasured life.Featured on the show:Tangled in open for enrollment: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangledIf you enjoyed this episode please share with a friend who might need to take her own courageous step towards being more selfish.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Valentine’s Day might be over, but the conversation about love and relationships continues on "It's My Pleasure." In this episode, we dive deep into the intricacies of relationship dynamics, shedding light on thought patterns and emotional dynamics that can subtly impact our connections over time.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS **Codependent Thinking and Emotional Outsourcing:**Unpack the long-term effects of codependent thinking and emotional outsourcing on relationships. Discover how the quest for initial safety and validation can evolve into unexpected pressures. **Attachment Styles Unveiled:**   Explore the world of attachment styles and how our experiences with caregivers during childhood unconsciously shape our adult relationships. Gain insights into how recognizing these patterns can foster healthier connections.**Unseen Emotional Labor:**   Shine a light on the invisible burden of emotional labor often carried by women, and its intersection with codependency when left unrecognized. Understand the importance of acknowledging and sharing this load within relationships.**Inner Work Tools for Relationship Harmony:**Receive practical tools for inner work, focusing on self-safety and nervous system regulation. Learn how these tools can reduce reactivity and defensiveness, fostering a more harmonious and connected relationship.**Empowerment and Pleasure on Your Terms:**Gain perspectives on finding empowerment and pleasure by embracing femininity and sexuality on your own terms. Challenge societal pressures and norms to create a more authentic and fulfilling connection with yourself and your partner.Tune in for an enriching conversation between Danielle & Victoria in an exploration of relationships, self-discovery, and the pursuit of genuine connection. 🎙️✨Featured on the show:Victoria Albina Information:Save $500! New & Improved Tangled: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangledEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Valentine’s Day, hmmmm, there is so much to say about this commercialized holiday. And yet, love it or hate it, it still comes around each and every year. But here on “It’s My Pleasure” we are all about infusing your life with more of the stuff that lights you up and turns you on. Valentine’s Day can be FUN, why not let yourself receive all the love and juicy pleasure you are wired for?! But it is time we do it differently - not as a check, DONE - but because you want to feel alive in your body, present for the relationships that matter and turned on in your life. Episode Highlights:Redefining Valentine’s Day for a more fulfilling experienceThe difference between checklist sex and sexual intimacy that fuels you AND your relationshipFeatured on the show:Join for a FREE Masterclass: A Pleasured Valentine’s Day: The Art & Science of Intentional Intimacy . . . https://www.daniellesavory.com/vday

How can we become more joyful with using the embodiment of pleasure? In this episode I share a clip from a recent discussion inside the Pleasure-Centered Coach Training I offer where we are discussing the importance of “pleasure” vs joy and how that one degree shift towards pleasure can make all the difference in the world.Episode Highlights:Why the distinction between pleasure (vs happiness, joy etc) is so importantHow pleasure often gets mixed up with sexualityThe one degree shifts we can all be makingFeatured on the show:Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.Tangled is almost ready to kick off! Check out the details HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tangledWant to be part of the next cohort of Pleasure-Centered Train coaches and help lead the revolution of more women feeling whole, alive and powerful in their brains and bodies? Then email [email protected] and I can fill you in on the details

Your sex life changes after kids, this is simply a fact. But usually when we talk about it, it is with such a Debbie Downer tone. Just because your life looks different (including the sexy bits) after kids, doesn’t mean that is a bad thing. In fact, in can be incredible, I promise.Listen in to this special episode, where my colleague and host of The Ambitious and Balanced Working Moms podcast interviews me on all the ways things shift once we have kids and how we can insure our pleasure and intimacy are still a top priority.Episode Highlights:How things change after having kidsWhy prioritizing pleasure, especially for working moms is a muchHow to create the ENERGY , let along the time, for more intimacyFeatured on the show:Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.Want more on how to keep the spark alive in a long term partnership? Download my free course FRESH. In this video course you will learn how to make time for one another, have conversations around sexy time and how to help yourself get in the mood. DOWNLOAD IT HERE.Check out the Ambitious & Balanced Working Mom’s podcast HEREFollow Rebecca Olson on IG: https://www.instagram.com/rebeccaolsoncoach/Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Hey welcome back to another mini-episode, where I give you some quick actionable tips or food for thought on a topic.Today's discussion is a quick list of somethings that you can do right now to increase intimacy with your partner. The truth is, long term partnerships, really any partnership, take effort and attention. And if you don’t water that intimacy plant it will wither and die. But like you, I also have a lot going on. With our busy schedules feeling like we have to do “one more thing” can feel daunting. And it isn’t like you don’t want to help in the intimacy department, but where do you even start?I got you. This episode will cover 6 easy and tangible ways you can boost your intimacy with your lover right now.Episode Highlights:Scheduling sex is on the list, again. It will never leave. But perhaps this time listening to why you may be inspired to put in on the damn calendar!Why its important to get uncomfortable with your partner on the regular.Should you be focusing on “me” time or “we” time?Plus more ideas on how to keep that attraction alive!Featured on the show:Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.Want more on how to keep the spark alive in a long term partnership? Download my free course FRESH. In this video course you will learn how to make time for one another, have conversations around sexy time and how to help yourself get in the mood. DOWNLOAD IT HERE.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Dr. Shyama was such a pleasure to have on the podcast this week. As a practicing gynecologist and certified menopause specialist, she breaks down some of the changes we may see in perimenopause and menopause and how this impacts our sexual response.Dr. Shyama is so well versed on this topic, and as a mother and wife herself she understands how challenging it can be to juggle it all and still find time for pleasure. Because of the lack of education she even got in her medical training when it came to hormones, female pleasure and sexual response, it is her mission to help more people understand what they can do to experience more pleasure and ease during all seasons of life.Episode Highlights:The many causes of sexual dysfunction and what to look out forWhat to expect in perimenopause and post menopause as it relations to symptoms and changes in sexual response and satisfactionWhy Dr. Shyama got involved with Playground, a female sexual wellness company and what products they offer for the female bodyFeatured on the show:Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.Check out Playground at: https://helloplayground.com/Connect with Dr. Shyama on IG @drmathewsgynEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

New year and a time that so many of us are setting intentions. What I love to observe about this time is about how much of the narrative is about doing MORE. But when it comes to sex and intimacy goals, for most of us it requires us to do less. To do less to reset our nervous system. To do less so that we can open to receive. Do less so that we aren’t overwhelmed, overtired and overstretched so that we can experience the oodles of pleasure that our bodies are wired for.Episode Highlights:Why sex and intimacy goals are so important to create the relationships we want.4 steps to help yourself be successful with these goalsA list of ideas for sex and intimacy goals for YOU and for YOUR RELATIONSHIPFeatured on the show:Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.Please consider sharing this episode with your partner or a friend who could use more pleasure in their lives.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Learning how to ask for what you want is essential to experiencing more pleasure and also creating more desire. Whether it is asking to try a new position, more time to transition from ‘work’ to ‘home’ or asking for help so your mind is racing with all to-do it is a skill we all need as pleasured and turned on womenPlease enjoy this short and to the point episode with all the how-tosEpisode Highlights:The place we ALWAYS must start change fromWhy it’s important to view this as a skill and where else we are killing it at askingThe mindset shift needs before you ask4 steps to asking for what you wantFeatured on the show:Get turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Listen, sex shouldn’t hurt. Period. But the truth is sex hurts for many women and is uncomfortable for so many more. In this episode I will share with you six ways to help make sex more pleasurable.Please note that this episode is NOT to replace medical care and if you are experiencing pain, I highly recommend you speak to your OBGYN and see a pelvic floor therapist. What is shared in this episode has also helped many of my clients, myself included, dramatically reduce pain and I hope in the least, it will allow you to start relating to your pain in a different way.Also don’t forget to enter the podcast giveaway - where everyone will receive a guided meditation and sexy playlist to help facilitate that turned on woman mood. Plus be entered for a chance for private coaching and a gift card for some sensuous gifts.You can find all the details about how to enter by visiting: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveawayEpisode Highlights:What happens when we expect sex to hurtWhy it’s important to watch “your tone young lady” when noticing your body hurtsThe relationship between pain and stressWays you can start reducing your pain right nowFeatured on the show:New giveaway for simply following the show! Plus extra drawing entries for some juicy grand prizes when you also include a review. Check out the details here: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcastgiveawayGet turned on every morning, so that you can simmer in the foundational state of feeling GOOD. Download the FREE guide, Savory Starter, HERE to make a very impactful and small shift towards your pleasure.Enjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!