239. Self-Doubt, Perfectionism & Finding Your Purpose with Dr. Devon Gimbel

Have you ever noticed what happens when you start using personal development tools and concepts against yourself? This is a signature move of high-achieving, empathetic perfectionists, and it's extremely hard to notice when you're doing it.     If you're not getting the growth you want out of your personal development, you're in the right place. Tune in this week to discover why we use personal development concepts against ourselves, and how to see where you're using coaching tools in a way that only leads to more of the stress and overwhelm you're trying to stop.      Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/96        Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

My guest this week is a coach who is passionate about helping her clients become their favorite version of themselves by treating themselves like they would their best friend. Dr. Melissa Parsons is a pediatrician turned deep-dive certified coach, and she's here to share what it takes to become your favorite you and cultivate an intentional relationship with yourself.        Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/40       Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Do you find yourself making plans repeatedly but never following through? You set intentions to exercise, organize your space, or reach out to someone you care about, but it never happens. This pattern can leave you frustrated and stuck, questioning why you can't just do what you say you will, even when it's something you genuinely want.       In this episode, I break down what's really going on when plans fail, beyond the usual advice about motivation, willpower, or accountability systems. Resistance isn't a flaw; it's information. When you notice yourself avoiding a workout, skipping a task, or postponing a call, it's often your mind and body signaling something important. Understanding that signal changes how you approach your intentions, and it can transform repeated patterns of inaction into insight and forward movement.     Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/187       Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matters.   Authenticity isn't just about being genuine with others. Through practical prompts and reflective practices, you'll learn to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and beliefs in a way that builds self-awareness. You'll discover how to notice when you're out of alignment, face uncomfortable truths with honesty, and make internal authenticity a daily practice rather than a vague concept.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/192     Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

When we walk into a room filled with people we don't know, whether it's a professional event, the gym, or a dinner party, we tend to look around for a friendly face while watching out for body language that feels like a rejection. This is the habit of micro-analyzing other people's reactions, hyper-focusing on what these responses mean about us.   Discover why you do this, how it presents, and how to stop your micro-analysis and interpretation of other people's body language from negatively impacting your self-worth. I share why this habit leads to insecurity and shame, and help you bring awareness to this habit, so you can begin to change it.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/86 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

All of our habits are here for a good reason, even if we don't like the habit itself. They're all adaptive or protective solutions that we've learned, and this is great news because it means we can unlearn habits that don't serve us.   Tune in this week to start playing investigator, uncovering patterns, and finding the underlying beliefs that fuel these habitual patterns. This work helps you intentionally change your habits, and I'm showing you how to keep your habit audit simple so it can have the maximum impact.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/91 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

If you want to approach your life with more intentionality, one of the best ways to do this is to perform a habit audit. A habit audit is the process of looking at your habits, noticing what they tell you, and deciding which ones are serving you, and which ones you want to replace with new ones.   Tune in this week for part 1 of our series on habit audits to learn what a habit audit is, why it's useful, and how to start performing a habit audit in your own life. And be sure to come back next week to discover how to analyze the findings of your habit audit in the most meaningful way, so you can begin shaping your next steps.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/90 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

The life of a high achiever is filled with transitions. Whether it's in life, work, relationships, or something else, there's a seemingly endless number of starts, stops, and new beginnings. It's tough not to get overwhelmed during these periods, which is why I've developed a list of ways to make the transitions easier.   From simply taking a moment to pause and reflect to doing something fun and playful, listen in as I outline these eight essential practices that are easy to do and highly effective. I also provide some clues to look out for, which may alert you to feelings of stress during a transition. That way, you can intervene before the emotional intensity builds.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/136 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Do you find it easy to slow down, and tune into your emotions and your physical, bodily experience? If not, and if this is a habit you want to develop, you're in the right place because my guest this week specializes in coaching her clients to pay attention to their body's natural signals, creating sustainable weight loss in a way that's genuinely fun.   If you're always on the go and you find yourself living more in your head than in your body, you need to tune in this week. Amruti is sharing what it means to slow down and tap into your body, the value of really feeling your emotions, and we're both sharing our advice for busy professionals who can't get out of their heads and into their bodies.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/78 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Tune in this week to discover a new way to approach your inner critic. I'm showing you how we usually respond to feeling criticized, what might change if we engaged with our self-critical parts differently, what it means to have a dialogue with your inner critic, and how making this a practice will truly be a fruitful endeavor.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/24 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/