“Busy-ness is the enemy of love.” I see this play out in relationships every day. People fill their lives with commitments. Piano lessons, dance classes, football practice, summer camp, PTA meetings, service projects, book clubs, high-demand jobs, zoom calls, credit card debt, mortgages they can't afford... They run around frantic and exhausted telling everyone that they're just so busy, and that life is so stressful. Sometimes they even wear it like a badge of honor... as if living life on the verge of a meltdown is honorable.
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The Danger Of Ignoring Your Marriage Problems
5:58If you ignore your problems, nothing changes and most things get worse. So, how are you going to address them? Well, it takes humility, courage, and wisdom. And you have all 3.
They Left Me...
6:01Last week my wife and daughter went back to the United States and left me alone in Costa Rica. I missed them a lot. And I learned a very important lesson while they were gone.
Can You Really Change Your Partner By Changing Yourself?
6:49Can you really change your partner by changing yourself? Yes... and no. Today we're going to talk about the biggest mistake you can make when trying to change your marriage by changing yourself.
Would You Want To Marry You?
6:11Think about the moments when you're at your worst... When you're pouting cause you don't get your way. When you're passive-aggressive, immature, or whiney. Would you want to be married to you? Probably not. So how do we get access to the best of ourselves when we're at our worst?
Are You Sensitive To Rejection?
44:54Jia Jang is an entrepreneur, he's a blogger. He's a TED speaker. He's an author. And he doesn't know this, but he is a personal role model for me. He helped me overcome my fear of being rejected. This episode will help you understand what you can do to deal with rejection from your partner (or anyone else) in a more healthy way than pouting, sulking, complaining, or guilt tripping.
Are You A Fixer?
13:36You might think being a "fixer" is a good thing. It took me a long time to realize that can actually be detrimental to your relationships and happiness. Today I want to talk about four specific negative impacts being a fixer has on your relationship. And I'm going to give you my favorite tip that I use to help me from going into fix-it mode, and making my relationship significantly worse.
What If You Got Re-Married Every 5 Years? with Annmarie Kelly
38:49Annmarie Kelly is the author of The 5 Year Marriage. She and her husband have been married 7 times in their nearly 40 years together. In this episode she explains why getting remarried every 5 years has made their marriage so incredible.
How To Know If You Need Couples Therapy
7:35In today's episode, we're going to talk about how to know whether or not you need couples therapy Nearly every day. I get somebody reaching out to me asking if I know a good therapist, if they need therapy, or what they should do if their partner doesn't want to go to therapy, how is their marriage going to get better? Now I want to start off by saying that I'm a firm believer that everybody could benefit from a really good therapist. But therapy isn't always a good fit for everyone...
How To Save A Marriage Dying Of Busy-ness
12:09“Busy-ness is the enemy of love.” I see this play out in relationships every day. People fill their lives with commitments. Piano lessons, dance classes, football practice, summer camp, PTA meetings, service projects, book clubs, high-demand jobs, zoom calls, credit card debt, mortgages they can't afford... They run around frantic and exhausted telling everyone that they're just so busy, and that life is so stressful. Sometimes they even wear it like a badge of honor... as if living life on the verge of a meltdown is honorable.
Your Anxiety Is Keeping You From Getting The Love You Want
3:49Ultimately, we can't have connection with our partner unless we feel safe. Yet often the things that we do to make ourselves feel safe are the things that push our partner farther away. Like storming out of the room in the middle of an argument. Or gossiping to other people, when you need validation that you're right and your partner's wrong. Or emotionally shutting down and withdrawing, when you feel blamed, judged, or like you've screwed up. It kind of makes love feel like this Catch 22. You can have safety at the expense of connection, or you can have connection at the expense of safety.