ep 198: You're Not Lazy...You're Dysregulated

In this episode I share about some conversations that have come up with my kids lately, inspired by the toddler saying "Jesus cried", leading into a life lesson based around John 11:35 Jesus wept.Even though Jesus knew the outcome, he still grieved the death of Lazarus and it's okay for us to have "negative" emotions even when we trust God.

I'm so happy to be back behind the mic!After taking some time off, I was able to reevaluate where the show is going. I will be continuing on with a season under a new name (art and name change coming in a few days), Teach Me to Abide.I feel like that's the season God has been pulling me through for quite some time and I want the show to be focused around His goodness rather than all my strategies. While there will still be strategies and systems, when appropriate, doing things in our own strength is not the focus.I'm not sure if I'll relaunch an email list or a website. If you want to talk directly, you can still email [email protected] or DM me on instagram @createdbycheskaThanks for being here! I hope this show blesses you!

I’m not sure when I’ll be back. If you want to connect in the meantime, you can always email me at [email protected] that I check sometimes:@createdbycheska on Instagram@garyandcheska on TikTokLove you. Byyyyyye 🤍

You can understand the tools, have the right systems, and still feel stuck.In this episode, we’re naming the gap that keeps consistency from sticking: trying to do it alone. We’ll talk about why insight without support rarely leads to lasting change, how gentle accountability creates safety instead of pressure, and why support isn’t a weakness — it’s often the missing piece.This episode bridges everything we’ve covered in the mini series and sets the stage for what’s coming next.

Almost Organized - A 3-Day Devotional for ADHD WomenIf consistency has always felt harder for you than it seems to be for everyone else, there’s a reason — and it’s not a lack of discipline.In this episode, we’re reframing inconsistency as a self-regulation issue, not a character flaw. You’ll learn why emotional regulation sits underneath habits, routines, and follow-through, and why no system works when your nervous system isn’t supported.This episode will help you understand why you get stuck — and why tools and structure are meant to support you, not restrict you.

Get the free devotional: Almost Organized - A Devotional for ADHD WomenConsistency doesn’t become easy just because you learn the right tools.In this episode, I’m talking about what actually changes when you stop chasing perfection and start practicing the skill of returning. We’ll unpack why struggling doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong, how shame keeps you stuck, and what it looks like to come back to your routines with grace instead of pressure.This is the first episode in a short New Year mini series about building consistency in a way that’s sustainable, faith-rooted, and supportive — especially for women with ADHD.

Get my Black Friday Bonuses!Today’s episode is your gentle-but-real gut check: you don’t need more planning, more information, or the “perfect” setup. You just need to take the next right step.I’m sharing the story of how I got called out (in the best way) by a random YouTube video — and why so many of us use planning, researching, or “getting ready” as ADHD-safe-feeling procrastination. If you’ve been stuck in perfection mode or waiting for the ideal moment… this is the reminder you’ve been praying for.And if you’re ready for support, structure, and accountability that helps you actually follow through?👉🏼 Join the January round of The ADHD Consistency Collective and get $200 off + exclusive Black Friday bonuses.Need more info? Check out all the details here!

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If structure feels like a prison sentence for your ADHD brain, this one’s for you. Today we’re talking about how to build routines that actually feel freeing — not rigid. You’ll learn why structure is the secret to spontaneity, how to time-block without boxing yourself in, and the mindset shift that will change the way you see consistency forever.Want to learn more about the ADHD Consistency Collective? Find all the details here!This is where peace meets practicality. Because structure isn’t the enemy — it’s the support your brain’s been craving all along.✨ In this episode:How to build daily rhythms that flex with your lifeThe “time block scaffolding” method that quiets mental noiseWhy consistency starts with grace, not grit💛 Inside The ADHD Consistency Collective, we create personalized versions of these systems — simple, sustainable, and spiritually grounded. But today, we’re starting small.

Your brain is always listening — to what you scroll, what you watch, and what you tell yourself. So if your days feel heavy, reactive, or constantly overstimulated… it might not be about “trying harder.” It might be about what you’re feeding your mind.In this episode, we’ll talk about how to protect your peace by curating your inputs — not through legalism or guilt, but through awareness and intention. You’ll learn why ADHD brains are extra sensitive to emotional and sensory input, how Scripture invites us to renew our minds, and some easy swaps that help your brain feel calmer fast.Want to learn more about the ADHD Consistency Collective? Find all the details here!✨ In this episode:How your inputs are shaping your mood and motivationSimple ways to make social media and screen time less dysregulatingWhy the fruits of the Spirit are the original “mental health tools”What it means to plant seeds of goodness before the chaos of the holidays🌿 We go deeper into this idea of “inputs and outputs” inside The ADHD Consistency Collective — but this episode will get you started right where you are.