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Q&A on money, career, and life: how to stop feeling behind in life, how OCD showed up for me, my FIRE numbers, and so much more! I went through as many of your questions as I could from both of my Instagrams, and I tried to keep the answers tactical.In this Q&A, I’m covering:👉🏻 How to stop feeling behind financially and professionally in your late 20s👉🏻 How OCD actually showed up in my daily life, and how I manage it now👉🏻 How I knew California was my place, and how I chose my furniture👉🏻 How to start lifting weights and why a trainer is worth it👉🏻 What I paid for Botox and microneedling, and my FIRE & Coast FI numbers👉🏻 How to cope with the sacrifices of saving money, plus a dating update and my take on prenupsThis one is more casual than my usual episodes, so expect some rambling!!Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 10 Lessons I Learned This Year | Why 2026 Is My Best Year Yet — https://youtu.be/4Eflxre1FdI👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc👉🏻 The Psychology Behind Decluttering: Why Tidying Up Transforms Your Life + Motivation to START!! — https://youtu.be/xRaZzDx55YQ👉🏻 My mom’s photography shop (Lisa Allocca) — https://lisaallocca.comGET THE PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸Brokerage Account (the same one I use):https://secure.money.com/pr/t456b3326b57💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why I’m going off script for a casual Q&A (and recording in a studio)02:00 — Why you are not behind at 27, and what to check before you panic09:10 — How OCD actually showed up for me13:50 — How I knew California was my place16:30 — How to start lifting weights, and why a trainer is worth the money21:00 — How I choose furniture that moves with me from home to home27:15 — What I actually pay for Botox and microneedling35:20 — My FIRE and Coast FI numbers40:30 — How to cope with the sacrifices of saving money42:30 — My dating update, and why staying with the wrong nice guy is the worst call

These are the 10 lessons I learned this year that have changed my life AND helped make 2026 the best year of my life in recent memory. It isn’t because everything is perfect. It’s because almost every area of my life got better at the same time, and I don’t think that’s a coincidence!!In this episode, I’m covering:👉🏻 Why you can’t self-help your way out of a chemical imbalance👉🏻 Why my life doesn’t start when I meet someone, and what I did once I stopped waiting👉🏻 Why I was never actually trying to retire early, I was trying to escape a life I didn’t like👉🏻 Why location freedom can feel overwhelming if you don’t have a reason why you WANT to be somewhere👉🏻 Why I let myself spend more this year instead of saving an extra $20K👉🏻 How letting go of all-or-nothing thinking (and my 3 daily minimums) changed my anxiety and my daysReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 157. Why I Changed My Mind About Where I Want to Live | Chicago to LA Q+A (very honest) — https://youtu.be/XZLeorXEGvw👉🏻 6 Life-Changing Nonfiction Books | Habits, Focus, Money & More — https://youtu.be/Ne36piQQBsw👉🏻 Micro Habits That Actually Work | 10 Tiny Changes That Made A Huge Difference — https://youtu.be/GxUSEBYWKvQ👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4KcGET THE PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you’re already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money: https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money💸 Own Your Career: https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-bookAll Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why 2026 is the best year of my life, even after a move that wasn’t the right one06:00 — Why I’m open about meds, and why I couldn’t self-help my way out11:00 — Why I realized I was never trying to retire early, I was trying to escape14:20 — The year I stopped focusing on dating and became the happiest I’ve ever been16:20 — Why most of my anxiety came from trying to control things I can’t, and why everything is going to be fine20:00 — Why moving back to LA worked this time, and why location freedom can be overwhelming28:20 — Letting go of all-or-nothing thinking, and my 3 daily minimums31:00 — Why I stopped treating the present like a waiting room34:20 — Why I’d choose the year I've had over saving an extra $20K43:30 — The small routines that changed my year (and life)

I've worked out my whole adult life and eaten healthy for years, and I always thought that was enough. This year I learned the difference between being generally healthy and actually getting specific about what my body needs. Today I'm breaking down the 4 changes that made me feel (and look!) my best this year, what I was doing before, and what actually made a noticeable difference.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I switched from random workouts to a structured, progressive weightlifting program👉🏻 Why "eating healthy" wasn't enough, and how I figured out my actual protein needs as a vegetarian👉🏻 How I finally fixed my sleep by treating my wind-down as a process, not the last 10 minutes before bed👉🏻 Why I started tailoring my everyday clothes instead of buying a whole new wardrobeReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Become a Morning Person | 6 Tips to Make Your Mornings Better That Actually Stick — https://youtu.be/dIzj2kb9wy4👉🏻 Your Morning Starts The Night Before | My 2026 Full Nighttime Routine as an Early Riser — https://youtu.be/PcbYQ7hTrrYGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why "eating healthy and working out" wasn't the same as actually training06:00 — Why I swapped pilates for a structured heavy-lifting program13:00 — Why having a system I don't have to plan myself made the biggest difference18:00 — Why "eating healthy" as a vegetarian didn't mean I was eating enough protein23:00 — How I found my protein target by tracking for a month, without turning it into an obsession28:00 — Why I started shopping locally and ordering heirloom beans as part of the food shift30:00 — Why fixing my sleep required treating the whole evening as a wind-down, not just the last 10 minutes37:00 — Why my mattress and sheets were the best money I've spent on my health40:00 — Why I started tailoring my T-shirts and jeans instead of buying a whole new wardrobe45:00 — Getting fitted for a bra at 31 and why it changed how every shirt sits on my body

I've talked a lot lately about breaking up with social media, and today I'm sharing how I developed healthy phone habits that have actually stuck for me long term, not the extreme two-day detox that always falls apart. These are conscious, sustainable changes to my scrolling habits that I've kept up with for months now!In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped focusing on screen time and started paying attention to how automatically I reach for my phone👉🏻 The physical setup changes that made the biggest difference (charging outside my room, reorganizing my home screen, going low-notification)👉🏻 Why I created specific windows for social media instead of trying to quit it completely👉🏻 How I got aggressive about who I follow and what I let the algorithm show me👉🏻 How to actually break the automatic reach for your phone when you're bored, anxious, or avoiding somethingReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 You're Not Lazy! 7 Reasons You Feel Behind Even When Nothing is Wrong (& How to Fix It) — https://youtu.be/SYNUI1q8Vu0👉🏻 My Fall 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs & Full Seasonal Curriculum — https://youtu.be/-vIdIJF7w38GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the extreme detoxes never actually worked and what I focus on instead09:00 — Why I reach for my phone even when nothing is happening/the empty Instagram open-close loop16:00 — Why making your phone physically harder to access works better than relying on willpower20:00 — Why I plug my phone in outside my bedroom and what I call "phone office hours"28:00 — Why I turned off every notification except calls and texts34:00 — My "guilt-free scrolling" window and why giving yourself permission actually helps the boundary stick37:00 — Why I aggressively unfollow people, and how your following list quietly reshapes what feels normal46:00 — Why I reorganized my phone's home screen to make distraction require more effort50:00 — What I actually do instead of reaching for my phone when I'm anxious, lonely, or avoiding work57:00 — Why the goal isn't a perfect relationship with your phone, it's making sure it doesn't bookend your day

After the response to my perfect summer weekend episode, I'm back with the fall version! I'm breaking down exactly how I structure the perfect fall weekend, intentionally and without falling into the seasonal overconsumption trap that fall marketing pushes so hard.In this episode, I'm covering how I structure the perfect fall weekend:👉🏻 How I close out my work week on Friday and transition into a cozy, restorative evening👉🏻 Why Saturday is my one "fall experience" day, and why I refuse to pack it with a loaded itinerary👉🏻 Why fall is peak overconsumption season, and how I stay intentional 👉🏻 My Sunday reset, including the farmers market, fall cooking, and my 60-minute Sunday systemReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 The Anatomy of a Restful Weekend | How to Cure the Sunday Scaries and Design a Better Weekend — https://youtu.be/QRUYl4yOb38👉🏻 161. How to Plan Your Week So You Don’t Feel Overwhelmed | My 60 Minute Sunday System — https://youtu.be/QEcDDxqLW0gGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why my perfect fall weekend looks completely different from my summer one07:00 — Why I treat Friday as sacred and close out my work week the same way every time13:00 — Why I brick my phone on Friday nights and why staying in has to be intentional, not accidental22:00 — Why Saturday only gets one anchor activity, not a full itinerary28:00 — Why fall is peak overconsumption season and how I avoid defaulting to shopping every Saturday33:00 — Sunday: why it feels completely different from Saturday, and my farmers market ritual37:00 — Why cooking on Sunday became a fall and winter ritual, not meal prep41:00 — Why I plan my week on Sunday night

I've been spending extra time this year focusing on the tiny details of my everyday routine, and it's made a huge compounding difference! Today I'm sharing 10 micro habits (most take 5 minutes or less) that have genuinely changed how I feel about myself, my body, and how I operate day to day.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I stopped believing in the "all or nothing" mindset👉🏻 The phone habits that changed my sleep and my mornings (plugging in outside my bedroom, phone office hours)👉🏻 My tiny self-care rituals that take less than a minute (ice rolling, eye patches, 'finishing touches')👉🏻 The planning habits that stopped me from constantly reacting to my day (task time estimation, planning the night before)Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 112. How I’m Breaking Up With Social Media and Taking My Life BACK!! — https://youtu.be/BYB7y5Fx6g8👉🏻 WEEKLY VLOG: Spend a Week on Cape Cod With Me! a little work, family time, antique haul & more — https://youtu.be/fW46fT0NPXQGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the "all or nothing" mindset kept me stuck for years06:00 — Why plugging my phone in outside my bedroom has changed my sleep and my mornings09:00 — My "phone office hours"11:00 — Ice rolling my face every morning, and why it's the thing that actually gets me out of bed14:00 — My eye patch habit and the "vacation theory" of making everyday moments feel special17:00 — Why I switched from background TikTok noise to music while I get ready20:00 — My three finishing touches — lip gloss, perfume, and hand cream — and why I splurge on them24:00 — Why I plan my to-do list the night before instead of starting from scratch each morning27:00 — The task time-estimation habit that completely changed how I structure my day31:00 — Why I stopped keeping social media on my phone's home screen

These are the 6 nonfiction books that have actually changed my life, and I'm not being dramatic. These are books that continuously show up in how I operate, how I think, how I run my business, and the advice I give you every week.In this episode, I'm covering the 6 books, why I picked each one up, and how the lessons still show up in my life today:👉🏻 Atomic Habits by James Clear👉🏻 Deep Work by Cal Newport👉🏻 The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo👉🏻 Start With Yourself by Emma Grede👉🏻 The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle👉🏻 Work Optional by Tanja HesterReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 How 'Atomic Habits' Changed the Way I Structure My Life | 5 Key Lessons & How I Apply Them — https://youtu.be/oc1ZCgIn0BM👉🏻 Why You Can't Focus and the Framework to Actually Fix It (A Complete Guide to Deep Work) — https://youtu.be/z49IReLo4AU👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc👉🏻 The Psychology Behind Decluttering: Why Tidying Up Transforms Your Life + Motivation to START!! — https://youtu.be/xRaZzDx55YQ👉🏻 Fall State of the Union episode — https://youtu.be/-vIdIJF7w38👉🏻 Financial Independence Calculator — https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template👉🏻 Financial Independence Planner — https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template👉🏻 Personal Finance Dashboard (code PODCAST1) — https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboardGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — The 6 nonfiction books I'd recommend if I could only recommend 6, and why they've actually changed my life04:00 — Why setting a goal and building a system to reach it are two completely different things (Atomic Habits)07:30 — The bathroom-schedule story that shows exactly what reducing friction looks like in real life13:15 — Why being busy all day and doing meaningful work are two completely different things (Deep Work)19:00 — Why "work on the podcast" is a task too vague to ever actually finish, and what I do instead23:35 — Why clutter creates low-level anxiety for me, even when nothing is technically wrong (Marie Kondo)33:00 — Why other people's behavior is something you don't get to control, no matter how badly you want to39:00 — Why I read this book during a period of bad anxiety, and the mental shift that actually helped (The Power of Now)45:00 — The book that gave me the actual language for what financial independence means to me (Work Optional)49:30 — Why I don't want to be maximally frugal, and the real difference between intentional spending and being cheap

My fall State of the Union and seasonal curriculum episode is here, and this one's a big one!! I'm breaking down what's in and out (for me) this fall, plus my full curriculum: what I'm learning, reading, and focusing on this season.In this episode, I'm covering:👉🏻 Why I'm cutting fall overconsumption and not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles this year👉🏻 Why I'm not treating the last four months of 2026 as an all-out sprint (and why the "September is the new year" trend doesn't make sense to me)👉🏻 My fall curriculum: learning estate planning, my ceramics obsession, and why I finally stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades👉🏻 My solo trip to cooking school in Ireland (!!) and why I'm using it as my big solo date this seasonThis episode is a hybrid of my seasonal ins and outs and my personal curriculum framework, so if you want to build your own version of this, I'm walking through exactly how I structure mine.Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Stop Scrolling and Start Learning (Original Personal Curriculum Framework) — https://youtu.be/H-tVUVeC4so👉🏻 My Summer 2026 State of the Union | Ins, Outs, and Making the Most of Summer (with no pressure) — https://youtu.be/VyV9bh6QOKM👉🏻 How I Stick to My Routines While Traveling for the Holidays (My Travel Menu) — https://youtu.be/MGaesmsJPugGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why I'm a true summer girl but still excited for fall this year04:00 — What a State of the Union and curriculum episode actually is, and why I stopped doing them monthly07:00 — My first out: fall overconsumption, and why I'm not buying any new fall decor, mugs, or candles11:00 — My second out: why I'm narrowing what I consume instead of gathering endless inspiration I never act on14:00 — My third out: why I'm not letting my Ireland trip wreck my routine this time17:00 — My fourth out: why I don't understand the "September is the new year" mentality/trend20:00 — My fifth out: why I stopped putting off meaningful home upgrades to save money28:00 — Why I'm dedicating this fall to learning estate planning ahead of becoming an aunt37:00 — My ceramics obsession and the specific skills I'm working to master this fall45:00 — Why my solo trip to cooking school in Ireland is my big fall solo date

I don't think nighttime routines get enough credit for how much they set up your entire next day! So for this episode, I'm breaking down my full nighttime routine and why I think most of the work for having a better morning actually happens the night before, not when your alarm goes off.What I'm covering:👉🏻 Why most of the work for a good morning (and day) actually happens the night before👉🏻 My full evening wind-down routine, from shutting down work to getting into bed👉🏻 The shutdown routine that closes out my workday (and why it matters even more if you work from home)👉🏻 How to plan your bedtime backwards from your wake-up time so mornings actually feel doableNone of this requires a 20-step candlelit self-care production (although, that's great, too!!) It's just a nighttime routine built around reducing friction so tomorrow feels easier before it even starts. :)Referenced in this episode:👉🏻 Ep. 166: The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc👉🏻 Deep Work by Cal Newport — https://go.shopmy.us/p-85026186GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why the morning routine conversation is happening at the wrong time of day02:00 — Why I treat my entire evening as "the routine," not just the 30 minutes before bed07:00 — The tea test: why a calming habit at 9:30 won't fix a brain that's been activated until 9:2809:00 — Why I brick my phone every single night (and on weekends!!)15:00 — Why you have to go to bed earlier if you want to wake up earlier, periodt16:00 — How I plan my bedtime backwards from my wake-up time21:00 — My shutdown routine and the Deep Work concept that changed how I close out my workday27:00 — My "closing shift" (why I can't relax until the kitchen is fully reset)29:00 — The skincare and red light routine that signals to my brain the day is actually over35:00 — How to build your own version of this without copying my exact schedule

Nobody taught you these 4 life skills, and that's not on you. It's crazy to me that you can go to school for 18+ years and still have no idea how to feed yourself, read a pay stub, or have an uncomfortable conversation without spiraling. So, today I'm breaking down those 4 life skills, realistically, so you can stop feeling like you're faking your way through "adulting."Topics covered:👉🏻 How to actually feed yourself (without needing to be crazy good at cooking) and the 3-2-1 grocery method👉🏻 The financial basics everyone needs & why tracking your expenses is non-negotiable👉🏻 How to communicate clearly - saying what you mean the first time, addressing problems before they blow up, and knowing how to apologize!!👉🏻 Managing the life admin nobody warns you about - and why your brain is not supposed to be your filing systemReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 How to Be More Confident Spending Time Alone | 5 Things That Changed How I Think About Loneliness — https://youtu.be/jSORRO2r-4w👉🏻 134. My Food Philosophy: How My Approach to Eating has Evolved, Grocery Budgets, & Eating Healthy — https://youtu.be/GgFW41OXxHo👉🏻 The Cleaning System That Keeps My Apartment Spotless in 24/7 Without Constant Resets — https://youtu.be/UTAW61va4Kc👉🏻 My book, Own Your Money — https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money👉🏻 What’s in My Wallet 2025: Credit Cards That Actually Pay Me Back + How to Choose the Right One — https://youtu.be/NJRxeBiYuNA👉🏻 How to Start Managing Your Money | 6 Steps for Complete Beginners — https://youtu.be/fIykr3rksA4👉🏻 161. How to Plan Your Week So You Don’t Feel Overwhelmed | My 60 Minute Sunday System — https://youtu.be/QEcDDxqLW0g👉🏻 146. How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Everyday Life | Manage "Life Admin" & Reduce the Mental Load — https://youtu.be/1KoD6wFB7G0GET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — Why school teaches you the Pythagorean theorem but not how to read a pay stub09:41 — The 4 life skills I think actually matter13:34 — My actual default meals and why you need 5-10 of your own17:22 — The 3-2-1 grocery method that I swear by27:28 — Why a credit card is not free money, and the minimum payment is not what you should be paying29:31 — The 4 financial accounts I think every single person needs36:39 — The communication skill that will change every relationship in your life40:41 — Why I used to take all feedback personally and how I learned to separate criticism from someone just being an asshole42:53 — How to ACTUALLY apologize50:41 — Why I use recurring reminders for everything