Adult Happy Hour

In this episode of Adult Happy Hour, Lyn is joined by sexologist, relationship consultant, and Head Mistress of Haus of Bliss, Janelle. The conversation centers challenging traditional relationship expectations and creating space for curiosity, pleasure, and connection. Together, they explore whose values guide our choices and how ethics, accountability, and care can shape more intentional relationships. Because healthy relationships aren't defined by how closely we follow the rules, but by the care, honesty, and responsibility we bring to one another. What's Inside -Questioning whose values and ethics shape our relationships -Challenging compulsory relationship norms through curiosity and personal agency -Defining commitment, loyalty, and care on our own terms -Practicing accountability, repair, and rebuilding trust -Creating spaces for sexual exploration rooted in consent and safety -Expanding access to trustworthy sexual health resources Guest Janelle | Sexologist, relationship consultant/coach specializing in non-monogamy, kink, and bdsm, Head Mistress of Haus of Bliss, and creator of Laketi Goodies Free at-home STI testing kits: https://havegoodsex.org Connect Adult Happy Hour: @yourmomisaheaux Host: @poetryntings Janelle: @sexologist.janelle website: laketi.org Sound Engineering: @experimentsatmidnight Music: @xamalox Theme song: @riannasamonemusic

We are kicking off Season 5 of Adult Happy Hour with an intimate conversation about love, loss, friendship, and new beginnings. Join Lyn and returning guest Kristina as they reflect on the relationships that have shaped them, the lessons they're carrying forward, and what it means to teach about intimacy while navigating their own heartbreak. Recorded at Black and Kinky Weekend, this episode reminds us that even the educators have more to learn! What's Inside: -Discussing the lessons we learn from breakups and redefining what we want from love -Navigating the gap between what we teach and what we practice -Teaching communication and repair while experiencing relationship transitions -How community-based sexual health work has changed our understanding of intimacy -Recognizing that no matter how much we know about love and intimacy, there's always more to learn through living. Guest: Kristina Modeste, a couples clinician specializing in ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and QTBIPOC care. Goodies: Free at-home STI testing kits: https://havegoodsex.org Connect with us on IG: Adult Happy Hour: @yourmomisaheaux Host: @poetryntings Kristina: @themindfulmuse_ website: https://www.sacredmirrors-therapy.com/ Sound Engineering: @experimentsatmidnight

We’re so excited to bring you our first ever live Adult Happy Hour, featuring some of our favorite past guests in a conversation about love, trust, and intimacy. Together, we explore how safety, communication, and curiosity turn connection into the ultimate kink. What’s Inside: -How intimacy, trust, and curiosity can shape kink exploration -What it means to feel seen and safe in sexual connections -How communication transforms our fears into freedom -Reflections on the evolution of love, sex, and self-awareness Guests: Kenya Aissa– Author, wellness practitioner, and founder of Pussy Yoga With Kenya and Inky Asana. IG: @kenyabeewrites Kristina Modeste– Queer couples clinician specializing in ENM/poly and QTBIPOC care. IG: @themindfulmuse_ Zah Zah Love– Pleasure Priestess and flavor alchemist blending soul food, sensuality, and liberation. IG: @zah_zah_love Goodies: Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org

In this episode, we unpack how role play can serve as both embodiment and experimentation: an opportunity to test boundaries, try on new energies, and rewrite old stories about who we allow ourselves to be. Role play invites us to step beyond our everyday selves and explore power, fantasy, and identity with intention. Here we explore how imagination, consent, and curiosity can transform play into a practice of self-discovery and freedom. What’s Inside: -Defining role play as a tool for exploration and self-expression -How fantasy and imagination support healing and empowerment -The difference between being looked at and being truly witnessed -How embodiment transforms performance into authenticity and liberation -The journey of returning to self after performing desirability Guest: Sydni Deveraux is a burlesque performer, educator, and producer whose work explores sensuality, storytelling, and power through movement and performance. Based in the Bay Area, she teaches and creates internationally, inviting audiences to see erotic expression as both art and liberation. Astro website: ddastrology.com Burlesque website: divinedeveraux.com IG: @divine.deveraux & @theshowgirlastrologer TT: divine.deveraux Goodies: Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org Read: Playing Well With Others by Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington Connect: Rianna: https://www.instagram.com/riannasamone Adult Happy Hour: https://www.instagram.com/yourmomisaheaux

In this episode, we explore how touch, temperature, rhythm, and sound can build deeper intimacy and presence. We also unpack beforecare and aftercare as essential forms of emotional architecture: ways to prepare, connect, and return safely. Rooted in ancestral wisdom, this episode reminds us that the senses are portals for both pleasure and healing. What’s Inside: -What sensation play really is and how it supports embodied presence -How ancestral traditions use the senses as tools for energy and awareness -The elements of sensation: earth (grounding), fire (heat), water (flow), and air (tease) -Building safer scenes through beforecare, mid-care, and aftercare -Scene design for Black queer dommes Guest: Janine James: Modern Mystic, Cosmically Queer Love Witch, Polyamorist, and Word Savant. Her work explores the aesthetics of intimacy and how mysticism, language, and sensual practice intertwine. IG: @xojanine Website: https://bio.site/xojanine Goodies Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org Read: Healing Sex by Staci Haines Connect: Rianna: IG @riannasamone Adult Happy Hour: IG @yourmomisaheaux Musical Guest: Iruz https://open.spotify.com/track/5SN64cUT7cC12c3EIfBWhs?si=8TdVUMCdRG6GLGWZmd1DUA

In this episode, we explore the edges of anticipation, control, and surrender, and how they can shift from dominance to care. We talk about what it means to give or withhold permission, how control can become healing, and the strategies we have that help us to imagine new ways of relating pleasure and freedom. What’s Inside: -The power of trust and surrender in control dynamics -Mid scene check-ins and care practices that deepen safety -Tools and toys that support sensation, control, and release -Erotic visioning as a practice of freedom and self-knowledge Guest: Maddy Clifford, artist, writer, and abolitionist thinker. Maddy’s work explores the intersections of grief, desire, and liberation, blending poetry, politics, and personal narrative. IG: https://www.instagram.com/mad.lines/ Website: http://www.maddyclifford.com Goodies: -Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org -Read: Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown -Read: Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott Connect: Rianna: @riannasamone Adult Happy Hour: @yourmomisaheaux Musical Guest: https://soundcloud.com/diamondt3ch/blue-jungle-moon-prod-lowkii-ri-x-dragon

Dominance and submission are core components of many kink and BDSM dynamics. At their heart, these roles are about power: how it’s exchanged, embodied, and explored. In this episode, we break down myths about power, share lessons from professional domme work, and explore how power play can be both liberating and deeply affirming, and can be experienced through community. What’s Inside: -What dominance and submission really mean -Lessons from professional domme work and centering Black pleasure -Expanding intimacy roles beyond stereotypes and gender norms -Exploring the divine feminine as an embodied practice -Stripper energy as a communal practice of embodying your power Guest: Zahra — dancer, educator, and founder of Queer Fem Parties, a Black-owned, queer BIPOC performance company centering sex workers, authentic sexuality, and embodied art. IG: @the_queen_movement Goodies: Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org Resource: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/dom-and-sub-relationships?srsltid=AfmBOooElDfi7xHJ2fpTrza0hfmRLctyNYK9MAYRdGmHE_vagsEk822B Connect: Rianna: https://www.instagram.com/riannasamone Adult Happy Hour: https://www.instagram.com/yourmomisaheaux Musical Guest: Rianna Samone https://on.soundcloud.com/kWZjKsUpu5ormT8M8v

From threesomes, to cuddle puddles, to full-on orgies, group play exists on a spectrum of connection and desire. And the question that almost always comes up is: “But how do you stay safe?” In this episode, we explore STI protocols not as fear-based prevention, but as rituals of care that make intimacy deeper, hotter, and freer. We talk about testing rhythms, window periods, and sharing results as practices that build trust and expand pleasure. What’s Inside: -What group play looks like across the spectrum -How queer and trans communities have shaped group and play spaces as sites of affirmation and liberation -STI protocols as frameworks of clarity and care -What to know about comprehensive testing and window periods -Sexy, simple questions to ask partners about sexual health and safety Guest: Dr. Franco Chevalier, works for the San Francisco Department of Public Health and currently serves as the deputy medical director for San Francisco City Clinic. He is also the host of the Spirituali-Tea podcast which can be found here: Apple- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spirituali-tea-podcast/id1807094091 Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/show/3NhZUgJsYpnOvG30swyuXK?si=6AAvBFX3Rs-PjoSbdCAkPg&nd=1&dlsi=af708618473744d1 Goodies: -Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org -Definitions of group play: https://consentculture.community/glossary/group-play/?utm_source=chatgpt.com -Building your own STI protocol: https://drive.google.com/file/d/17Ml3W5JJ7E3bMnslIEmhegcJsD_CiGUx/view?usp=sharing Connect: -Rianna: https://www.instagram.com/riannasamone -Adult Happy Hour: https://www.instagram.com/yourmomisaheaux -Musical Guest: Follow Prof.eT on ig @profextrat

Impact play holds a spectrum of possibility, from playful taps that spark laughter to deep strikes that bring release. In this episode, we explore how impact is not about punishment but about sensation, catharsis, and trust. Like all kinks, it is also about communication: how to talk about what is on the menu, what is off limits, and what you might be curious to try. What’s Inside -Why safety and communication are the foundation of exploration. -Everyone has kinks, and each one lives along a spectrum. -In impact play the spectrum can from light taps to cathartic release -How communication and negotiation increase pleasure -Tools that help you and your partner(s) navigate desires with clarity Guest Nika, Founder of the International Institute for Sexual Empowerment Find Nika here: https://linktr.ee/NikaCherrelle Goodies Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org Read:The Consent Blueprint https://www.sfaf.org/collections/status/the-consent-blueprint-visioning-better-sex-in-2021/ Connect Rianna: https://www.instagram.com/riannasamone Artist Name: Mae Rose on SoundCloud: https://on.soundcloud.com/gbTREmgsn5ocfvLP58

We’re starting strong this season by diving into the world of kink: what it is, what it isn’t, and why exploring it can be a tool for empowerment, boundaries, and deep pleasure. What’s Inside: -What kink really means -Why boundaries and agreements matter when exploring -Tips for building safety, trust, and fun while fostering curiosity -Zah Zah’s raw and honest Feeld adventures and her pleasure priestess wisdom Guest: Zah Zah, Pleasure Priestess and kink researcher: IG @zah_zah_love Check her out: https://linktr.ee/chef_tirzah_love Goodies: -Free at-home STI testing kit: havegoodsex.org -Read: Kink & Consent https://static1.squarespace.com/static/60be2f8a0cc8001044609e26/t/6666f4074eda1e0e39a4d46c/1718023177607/Kink%2Band%2Bconsent%2B%28ACT%2BUP%2BNY%2Bversion%29.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com Connect: -Rianna: https://www.instagram.com/riannasamone -SummerTimeKYY: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/1lzEbU2DG3UqZVrVyOWYVq? Apple Music: https://music.apple.com/us/album/imperfection/1818141605 -Have Good Sex: @staygoodgood