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EFT Talk: Your Guide to Emotionally Focused Therapy 🎙️💙 Featuring Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, Cert. EFT Supervisor & Therapist How do you keep the balance in an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) session, especially when emotions are running high? In this special episode of We Heart Therapy, Dr. Belle (Anabelle Bugatti, PhD, LMFT), Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy Supervisor & Therapist, sits down with Marianne Gustafsson, Certified EFT Trainer & Supervisor from Stockholm, Sweden, for an insightful conversation about keeping the balance in session when practicing Emotionally Focused Therapy. Whether you’re learning EFT, developing your skills as an EFT couples therapist, or working toward greater confidence and attunement in the therapy room, this conversation explores the art of staying emotionally present, tracking the process, and maintaining balance while working with couples. Emotionally Focused Therapy asks therapists to do more than simply follow content. We listen for emotion, attachment needs, interactional patterns, and the negative cycle unfolding between partners, all while maintaining a safe, collaborative therapeutic alliance. So how does an EFT therapist keep the balance? Dr. Belle and Marianne explore this important clinical question and offer perspectives for therapists who want to deepen their understanding and practice of EFT. ABOUT OUR SPECIAL GUEST Marianne Gustafsson is an Emotionally Focused Therapy Trainer and Supervisor based in Stockholm, Sweden. Learn more about Marianne and contact her: https://www.livsverk.se/ Sweden Center for EFT: https://terapeuter.eft-stockholm.se/u... LEARN MORE ABOUT EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://www.iceeft.com/ ABOUT DR. BELLE & WE HEART THERAPY Dr. Belle — Anabelle Bugatti, PhD, LMFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy Supervisor & Therapist Dr. Belle: https://www.DrBelle.com/ Las Vegas Marriage Counseling: https://www.LasVegasMarriageCounselin... We Heart Therapy: https://www.WeHeartTherapy.com/ Southern Nevada Emotionally Focused Therapy: https://www.SNVEFT.com/ Subscribe to ‪@Wehearttherapy‬ for conversations with EFT trainers, supervisors, therapists, researchers, and leaders in the Emotionally Focused Therapy community. Our videos are created to help therapists deepen their understanding of EFT for couples, individuals, and families—and to help people interested in therapy better understand what Emotionally Focused Therapy looks and feels like in practice. If this conversation helped you, please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE it with another therapist who is learning or practicing EFT. What helps YOU keep your balance when a couples therapy session becomes emotionally intense? Share your thoughts in the comments. #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFT #CouplesTherapy #EFTTherapy #EFTTraining #MarriageCounseling #TherapistTraining #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentTherapy #CouplesCounseling #Psychotherapy #EFTTherapist #WeHeartTherapy #DrBelle #MarianneGustafsson

The Emotional Cycle vs. the Sexual Cycle in EFT: What’s the Difference? Featuring EFT Trainer George Faller, LMFT & Dr. Laurie Watson, PhD   Are a couple’s emotional cycle and sexual cycle the same thing? Where do they overlap—and where are they fundamentally different?   In this special edition of We Heart Therapy, host Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor & Therapist, sits down with George Faller, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, and Dr. Laurie Watson, PhD, AASECT Certified Supervisor and ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist, for a fascinating conversation about the similarities and differences between the emotional and sexual cycles in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).   For EFT therapists, we’re accustomed to tracking the negative interaction cycle and helping partners recognize the attachment fears, longings, emotions, and protective strategies that keep them stuck. But does the couple’s sexual cycle follow the same pattern?   ❤️ THE EMOTIONAL CYCLE & THE SEXUAL CYCLE   🔥 George, Laurie, and Dr. Belle explore how a couple can become caught in repeating patterns both **emotionally and sexually**—and why those patterns may overlap without necessarily being identical.   How does pursuit and withdrawal look when we move from an emotional interaction into a sexual one? Can a partner pursue emotionally but withdraw sexually—or vice versa? What happens when the emotional cycle and sexual cycle appear to tell us different things about the relationship?   And importantly, what does an EFT therapist need to listen for in order to recognize the difference?   In this conversation, we explore: ❤️ How the emotional cycle and sexual cycle are similar 🔥 The important ways the sexual cycle can differ from the emotional cycle ❤️ Where emotional and sexual cycles intersect and influence one another 🔥 Why therapists shouldn’t automatically assume that a couple’s sexual pattern perfectly mirrors their emotional cycle ❤️ How recognizing both cycles can give EFT therapists a richer understanding of the couple’s experience   For EFT therapists and couples therapists, understanding these distinctions can open up an entirely different layer of the couple’s attachment experience.   🎙️ MEET GEORGE FALLER & DR. LAURIE WATSON George Faller, LMFT is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, Supervisor, and Therapist based in New York. He trains therapists internationally in Emotionally Focused Therapy and is known for making the EFT model accessible, experiential, and deeply human. 👉 Learn more about George: https://georgefaller.com/ https://successinvulnerability.com/   Dr. Laurie Watson, PhD is an AASECT Certified Supervisor and ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist whose work focuses on the intersection of sexuality, relationships, attachment, intimacy, and couples therapy. 👉 Learn more about Laurie: https://awakeningscenter.org/therapis...   ❤️🔥 BRAVE LOVE, GREAT SEX George and Laurie co-host the Brave Love Great Sex podcast and are launching their new book of the same name, Brave Love, Great Sex. Discover the podcast, book, and more from George & Laurie: 👉 https://bravelovegreatsex.com/   📚 GET THEIR NEW BOOK — BRAVE LOVE, GREAT SEX: 👉 https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/bo...   💛 ABOUT WE HEART THERAPY Hosted by Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor & Therapist, We Heart Therapy brings therapists conversations with leading EFT Trainers, Supervisors, researchers, and clinicians about Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFCT, EFIT, EFFT, attachment, relationships, trauma, sexuality, and becoming a more effective EFT therapist.   🌎 LEARN EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY Interested in EFT training or becoming an ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist or Supervisor? Visit the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): 👉 https://iceeft.com/   ❤️ CONNECT WITH DR. BELLE & WE HEART THERAPY Dr. Belle: 👉 https://www.DrBelle.com https://www.LasVegasMarriageCounselin...   We Heart Therapy: 👉 https://www.wehearttherapy.com/   Southern Nevada EFT: 👉 https://www.snveft.com   🔔 SUBSCRIBE TO WE HEART THERAPY If you’re an EFT therapist, couples therapist, marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, psychologist, counselor, social worker, or mental health professional, subscribe for more conversations designed to deepen your understanding and practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy.   💬 QUESTION FOR EFT THERAPISTS: Have you noticed a couple’s sexual cycle looking different from their emotional cycle? Tell us what you’ve noticed in the comments!   #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFT #SexTherapy #CouplesTherapy #EFTTherapist #SexualCycle #AttachmentTheory #GeorgeFaller #LaurieWatson #BraveLoveGreatSex #ICEEFT #MarriageTherapy #SexualIntimacy #WeHeartTherapy

Welcome to We Heart Therapy, your destination for training, clinical conversations, and inspiration for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) therapists around the world. In this episode, Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified EFT/EFIT/EFFT Supervisor & Therapist and EFT Community Leader for Southern NV EFT, sits down with Kathryn DeBruin, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, originally with the San Diego Center for EFT, now practicing and training in Utah, and a pioneer in helping develop the South African EFT community. Together, they explore one of the most important topics for developing EFT therapists: How do we effectively work with more complex cases in Emotionally Focused Therapy?  As therapists grow in their EFT journey, they inevitably encounter clients whose presentations require greater flexibility, deeper attunement, and a more nuanced understanding of attachment science. In this rich clinical discussion, Kathryn shares decades of experience helping therapists navigate these challenging moments while staying grounded in the EFT model. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ What makes a case "complex" in EFT ✨ How to stay anchored in the attachment model when sessions become difficult ✨ Working with trauma, high conflict, and complicated relationship dynamics ✨ Common challenges therapists encounter—and how to navigate them effectively ✨ Clinical wisdom for maintaining emotional presence under pressure ✨ How complexity can become an opportunity for deeper healing and secure attachment Whether you're new to EFT or an experienced Certified EFT Therapist/Supervisor, this conversation offers practical guidance, thoughtful reflection, and clinical pearls that can immediately enhance your work with couples and individuals. If you're committed to growing as an attachment-based therapist, this is an episode you won't want to miss. --- 🔗 Learn Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) *Become trained or certified through the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT):* https://iceeft.com 🔗 Learn More About Kathryn DeBruin Kathryn DeBruin's Website: https://kathryndebruin.com/ Kathryn DeBruin's Podcast: The Family Express https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 🔗 Connect with Dr. Belle & We Heart Therapy *Dr. Belle / Practice Website* https://www.DrBelle.com https://www.LasVegasMarriageCounselin... ❤️ *Southern NV EFT* https://www.snveft.com ❤️ *Dr. Belle / We Heart Therapy* https://www.WeHeartTherapy.com --- 👍 *If you enjoyed this conversation:* Like this video Subscribe to *We Heart Therapy* Share it with fellow EFT therapists and supervisors Leave a comment with your biggest takeaway or questions about working with complex cases in EFT Our mission is to bring you conversations with leading EFT Trainers and clinicians from around the world to help you become a more confident, effective, and emotionally engaged therapist. Thank you for being part of the We Heart Therapy community! #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFT #ICEEFT #EFTTherapist #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTheory #ComplexTrauma #TherapistTraining #ClinicalSupervision #KathrynDeBruin #WeHeartTherapy #DrBelle #EFIT #EFFT #MentalHealthProfessionals

In this powerful EFT training discussion, We Heart Therapy host (Anabelle Bugatti) Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT/EFT Supervisor/Therapist sits down with Emotionally Focused Therapy trainer Dr. Ting Liu and explores how therapists can effectively work with ambivalence in couples therapy and attachment-based healing. Ambivalence is one of the most common challenges therapists encounter in EFT sessions, especially when partners feel stuck between connection and protection, longing and fear, or closeness and withdrawal, staying or leaving. In this conversation, Dr. Ting Liu shares clinical insight into: • Working with emotional ambivalence in EFT • Helping couples navigate uncertainty and emotional disconnection • EFT interventions for pursuer-withdrawer dynamics • Clinical applications of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Ambivalence Whether you are an EFT therapist, LMFT, psychologist, counseling student, or simply interested in attachment science and relationship healing, this video offers valuable insights into the EFT process and how to work with complex relational dynamics.   🔗 Learn more about EFT Emotionally Focused Therapy by Dr. Sue Johnson and Official EFT Training: https://www.iceeft.com   🔗 Learn more about Dr. Ting Liu: Website: https://centralpaeft.com/training https://asia-eft.com/   🔗 Learn more about Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT: https://www.drbelle.com https://www.WeHeartTherapy.com https://www.LasVegasMarriageCounselin... 🔗 Southern Nevada Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy (SNVEFT): https://www.snveft.com   If you enjoyed this video, please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE to support more conversations on Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment science, couples therapy, and relationship healing.   #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFT #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTheory #DrTingLiu #SusanJohnson #RelationshipTherapy #MarriageTherapy #EmotionallyFocusedCouplesTherapy #TherapistTraining #EFTTrainer #AttachmentInjury #WeHeartTherapy #SNVEFT #TherapyTraining #LMFT #Psychotherapy #EmotionallyFocusedIndividualTherapy #EFTAsia

EFT Talk: Your Guide to Emotionally Focused Therapy 🎙️💙 Featuring Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT, Cert. EFT Supervisor & Therapist   Most therapists are gathering attachment history… but not using it effectively. In this episode, Host EFT Supervisor & Therapist Dr. Belle & EFT Trainer Dr. Ryan Rana break down how to turn attachment history into real clinical insight.   In this conversation, I sit down with EFT Trainer Dr. Ryan Rana to explore how to use a client’s attachment history during assessment to begin identifying the negative cycle and the client’s attachment dilemma.   Many therapists are already gathering attachment history but often aren’t sure how to translate that information into something clinically useful.   In this video, we break down how attachment history becomes a roadmap for understanding emotional patterns, how clients organize their responses in relationships, their attachment fears and longings and how these show up in the cycle.   If you’re learning EFT or want to deepen your case conceptualization, this will help you move from 👉 information gathering → meaningful understanding 🔥 Join the Full Training (May 22nd – Online), We’re offering a 1-day training where we go deeper into using attachment history in assessment identifying the cycle understanding attachment dilemmas in real time.  💻 Open to therapists and grad students Sign up Here: 👉 https://www.snveft.com/attachmenthist...   🌐 Resources Learn EFT! International Centre for Excellence in EFT (ICEEFT) 👉 https://iceeft.com   For more information on EFT Trainer Dr. Ryan Rana 👉 https://ryanranatraining.com/   Success in Vulnerability online EFT learning platform: 👉 https://www.successinvulnerability.com   Listen to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast with EFT Trainers Dr. Ryan Rana and Dr. James Hawkins 👉 https://theleadingedgeineft.podbean.com/   Work with Dr. Belle 👉 https://www.drbelle.com   We Heart Therapy Retreats and CE Events for Therapists 👉 https://www.wehearttherapy.com/therap...   Southern Nevada EFT Community 👉 https://www.snveft.com   📲 Stay Connected:   Follow for more EFT training content, clinical insights, and resources for therapists subscribe to We Heart Therapy

Welcome back to We Heart Therapy — your go-to channel for deep, experiential learning in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).   In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT — ICEEFT Certified EFT/EFIT/EFFT Supervisor & Therapist and EFT Community Leader for Southern NV EFT — sits down with Ali Barbosa, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer from the Mexico Center for EFT, to explore an essential question for every therapist: 👉 How do we apply EFT and EFIT to ourselves?   As therapists, we’re trained to guide others through emotional pain and attachment injuries — but what about our own? In this conversation, you’ll learn: ✨ How to walk in the EFT model in your own life ✨ Applying EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy) strategies to your personal emotional experiences ✨ How to work with your own attachment system, triggers, and emotional pain ✨ Tools for self-reflection, emotional processing, and self-compassion ✨ How your personal work deepens your clinical effectiveness ✨ Why embodying EFT transforms not just your work — but your relationships   This episode is especially meaningful for EFT therapists who want to move beyond technique and into embodied practice — integrating the model into both their professional and personal lives.   Whether you're in Core Skills, working toward certification, or already certified, this conversation offers practical guidance and heartfelt insight into becoming the therapist who truly lives EFT.   🔗 Learn Emotionally Focused Therapy & Certification (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com 🔗 Ali Barbosa – Mexico Center for EFT: https://eftmexico.com/ 🔗 Southern NV EFT (Dr. Belle): https://www.snveft.com 🔗 Dr. Belle’s Professional Website: https://www.DrBelle.com   👍 If this video resonates, please like, subscribe, and share with fellow therapists.     #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFTTherapists #EFIT #ICEEFT #TherapistGrowth #AttachmentTheory #WeHeartTherapy #SelfOfTheTherapist

Welcome back to We Heart Therapy 💛 — your home for high-level Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) training and clinical insight.   In this episode, host Dr. Belle, PhD, LMFT — ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor & Therapist and EFT Community Leader for Southern NV EFT — sits down with Dr. Sandra Taylor, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and founder of the British Center for EFT, to explore an essential but often under-emphasized clinical skill: How to Map the Positive Cycle in EFT Couples Therapy.   While many therapists are well-trained in identifying and working with the negative cycle, this conversation focuses on: ✨ How to identify and map the positive interaction cycle in session ✨ The attachment function and clinical importance of tracking the positive cycle ✨ How mapping the positive cycle deepens bonding events ✨ When and how to actively work with the positive cycle in Stage 1 & Stage 2 ✨ Clinical examples and practical guidance for EFT therapists   Understanding the positive cycle allows therapists to consolidate change, expand secure bonding moments, and help couples experience their resilience in real time. Dr. Sandra Taylor shares rich clinical wisdom from her work training EFT therapists internationally, offering concrete strategies you can begin applying immediately in your sessions.   This video is ideal for: EFT therapists (beginner to advanced) Core Skills participants Certified EFT Therapists & Supervisors EFIT & EFFT clinicians wanting deeper attachment application Anyone pursuing certification through ICEEFT   If you're working toward EFT certification or deepening your attachment-based practice, this episode offers clear, structured, and practical insight into working with the positive cycle intentionally and effectively.   🔗 Learn EFT & Certification Pathways through ICEEFT: https://iceeft.com   🔗 Dr. Sandra Taylor, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer: https://www.acreefttraining.com   🔗 British Center for EFT: https://www.beftcentre.org   🔗 Southern NV EFT (Dr. Belle): https://www.snveft.com   🔗 Dr. Belle’s Professional Website: https://www.DrBelle.com https://www.LasVegasMarriageCounselin... https://www.WeHeartTherapy.com   👍 If this video supports your work, please like, subscribe, and share with fellow EFT therapists.   💬 Drop your questions in the comments — we’d love to hear how you work with the positive cycle in your sessions.     #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #EFTTherapists #ICEEFT #AttachmentTheory #CouplesTherapy #PositiveCycle #WeHeartTherapy

Welcome to We Heart Therapy – The EFT Talk Series, where we explore the heart of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through meaningful conversations with leaders in the field. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Senem Zeytinoğlu, ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer and Founder of the Turkey Center for EFT in Istanbul, for a rich and thoughtful discussion on Self of the Therapist (SOT) issues in EFT Supervision—and why this work is essential for ethical, effective, and emotionally present EFT practice. Self of the Therapist work helps EFT therapists understand how their own attachment histories, emotional triggers, and nervous system responses show up in clinical work and supervision. Dr. Zeytinoğlu shares how attending to SOT deepens therapist resilience, strengthens the therapeutic alliance, and ultimately leads to better outcomes for couples and individuals. 🎙️ In This EFT Talk Episode, We Explore: What Self of the Therapist (SOT) means in the context of EFT supervision Why SOT work is essential—not optional—in EFT training and supervision How therapists’ attachment patterns can show up in sessions and supervision The role of safety, compassion, and emotional presence in supervisory relationships How EFT supervisors can support growth without shame or judgment Why SOT work supports therapist sustainability and prevents burnout This episode is especially valuable for EFT therapists, supervisors, trainers, and therapists who want to deepen their work, increase self-awareness, and practice EFT with greater clarity and confidence.   📚 RESOURCES & LINKS:   🇹🇷 Connect with Dr. Senem Zeytinoğlu: Turkey Center for EFT (Istanbul) 🌐 https://docat.org 📧 Email: [email protected]   📘 Buy My Book Using Relentless Empathy in the Therapeutic Relationship: Connecting with Challenging and Resistant Clients on Amazon: 👉 https://a.co/d/dkFt7B7   Learn More About Dr. Sue Johnson's official EFT Training (ICEEFT): The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) 👉 https://iceeft.com   💻 For Official EFT Training Events held in Las Vegas: 👉 https://www.snveft.com   💻 Visit My Website – Anabelle Bugatti, PhD, LMFT aka Dr.Belle: 👉 www.DrBelle.com www.LasVegasMarriageCounseling.com   💻 Visit We Heart Therapy and attend CE Events: 👉 www.WeHeartTherapy.com  

EFT Certification Updates with Gail Palmer | EFT Talk with Dr. Belle Curious about how to become certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy? In this episode of We Heart Therapy, Dr. Belle—PhD, LMFT, ICEEFT Certified Supervisor/Therapist and President of Southern NV EFT—welcomes Gail Palmer, ICEEFT Co-Founder and global leader in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to discuss updates in the Certification process. Together, they unpack the latest updates on EFT certification, including what's new in EFIT (Individual), EFCT (Couples), and EFFT (Family Therapy). Whether you're just beginning your EFT journey or working toward certification, this candid and insightful conversation offers clarity and encouragement straight from the experts.   🔗 Helpful Links: 🌐 ICEEFT Official Site: https://iceeft.com 🌐 Dr. Belle's Official Site: https://www.DrBelle.com 🌐 Southern NV EFT: https://southernnveft.com 🌐 Gail Palmer’s Trainer Profile: https://iceeft.com/trainers/gail-palmer/ Gailpalmer53 @ hotmail.com ❤️ If this episode inspired you, please like, subscribe, and share with fellow therapists.     #EFTCertification #EFTTraining #EmotionallyFocusedTherapy #DrBelle #GailPalmer #EFIT #EFCT #EFFT #ICEEFT #TherapistEducation

Welcome back to We Heart Therapy: The EFT Talk Series! 💕   In this powerful episode, host Dr. Anabelle Bugatti, PhD, LMFT, Certified EFT Supervisor & Therapist, sits down with Dr. Tal Padeh, Certified EFT Trainer and Director of the Israeli Center for EFT, to discuss one of the most challenging and insightful topics in couples therapy — working with two withdrawers in session. If you’ve ever struggled with helping two withdrawn partners open up and engage emotionally, this conversation is for you. Dr. Padeh and Dr. Bugatti explore how EFT principles can guide therapists to create safety, connection, and movement, even when both partners retreat from vulnerability.   💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why working with two withdrawers can feel especially tricky in EFT sessions How to identify withdrawal dynamics and attachment fears Key strategies to help each partner re-engage emotionally Real clinical insights from Dr. Padeh’s experience in the Israeli EFT community How to stay attuned and grounded as a therapist when both partners pull away   🎓 Perfect for: Therapists, counselors, psychologists, and anyone interested in deepening their understanding of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment-based approaches to couples therapy.   📚 RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED   🔹 Get Dr. Anabelle Bugatti’s Book: 📖 Using Relentless Empathy in the Therapeutic Relationship: Connecting with Challenging and Resistant Clients 👉 https://a.co/d/22xAUpl   🔹 Learn More About EFT Training: Visit the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) to explore training opportunities: 🌐 https://iceeft.com   🔹 Connect with Dr. Tal Padeh: 🌐 https://www.eftisrael.com 📧 Email: [email protected]   🔹 Visit Dr. Anabelle Bugatti’s Website: https://www.DrBelle.com https://www.snveft.com 🌐 https://www.wehearttherapy.com