Together. A Podcast About Relationships

Our guest today is Andy Horning from the Elephant Talk podcast. Andy is a fascinating guy – he's two kids and over 13 years into his second marriage, he's been a couple's therapist for more than 15 years, and he's a course leader for the Hoffman Institute. In this episode we talk about everything from pain and loss to how your relationship is your greatest meditation.    If you'd like to learn more about Andy, you can find him at his website: https://www.elephanttalk.org/ – definitely check out his podcast. If you love Together, you'll love Elephant Talk.   If you'd like to support our program, you can do that at patreon.com/together. Thank you! If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show,  My personal twitter handle is @newtonlaw, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue. The show is produced & edited by Charlene Goto with Go-To Productions.     

First some updates: Aubrie and I eloped on New Years day! (Details inclusive). I'm now the COO of a software startup in San Francisco (Urbit.org). Loving this! This might be the last season of Together. We'll figure it out as we go! Now to our guests! Linda and Charlie Bloom have been a mainstay of the relationship seminar business for decades, but the seminar experience almost ruined their marriage. We get to hear how they managed and what they learned. It's a fun episode with a very sweet couple. Let me know what you think! If you'd like to learn more about Charlie and Linda Bloom, you can find their website at http://bloomwork.com/ Their latest book, That Which Doesn't Kill Us, is available on their website, and of course at Amazon.  If you want to support our program, you can do that at patreon.com/together. Thank you! If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show,  My personal twitter handle is @newtonlaw, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue. Show is produced & edited by Charlene Goto with Go-To Productions

Today's Episode – number 131 – is the last episode of season two, which means we're off for the summer! We'll be back in September with more interviews! Our guest today, Rachel Dwight is a self described super fat, queer, transgender, disabled superhero. And I'll add that they're a force of nature as well! We discuss all of those identities, and we cover a fundamental truth we should all internalize: everyone is entitled to pleasure, no matter their body type. Check out Rachel's amazing blog: theBadAssFatAss.com. You can also support Rachel's work at their patreon page here: https://www.patreon.com/BadassFatass In other news, I've agreed to take on a very small number of couples to help them prepare for long term commitment. I don't have a lot of spaces for this, but if you'd like to hear more about that program, reach out to me via email, or the contact page on our website. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

Today's conversation is about shame and how we can use it to explore the darker corners of our relationships. Our guests today, Megan and Brave have done some very useful work in this area - and specifically on what they refer to as "male shame." Listen in to hear what they mean by that! I've you'd like to learn more about Megan and Brave, check out their website: https://www.thealchemyofwe.com/ - these two do some fantastic relationship coaching both on the individual and group levels, so check it out. We've only got one more episodes in season two of Together, and then I'm taking a break. More about changes and upcoming improvements to the show in that last episode, so stay tuned. Don't forget to check out our sponsors today: The Date/Able podcast. You can find them at dateablepodcast.com. If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

Today's episode is about a couple you would never expect might have a secret life. Penn and Page, our guests today, grew up Catholic, married young, had six kids, and were perfectly content living a predictable life, until one day Penn had an idea...   --- If you'd like to learn more about Penn and Page, you can find their podcast - Swinger Diaries on iTunes or any podcast player, and you can find their website at https://swingerdiaries.wordpress.com/ If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected]   The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.  

A cultural conversation has been simmering recently about the concept of emotional labor.  It's a critical conversation to our relationships, but not many of us know what it means. Today on the podcast, we learn all about what it is, and what to do about it from our guests, Gemma and Rob Hartley. Gemma is a well known journalist, and recently wrote an article for Harpers about emotional labor that went viral. To learn more about Gemma and her writings, check out her website: gemmahartley.com. She has a forthcoming book about emotional labor due out in the fall of 2018. You find information about the book on her site. If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together. If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, or email me at [email protected]. The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

Our guest today - Iris McAlpin is a survivor of multiple experiences with sexual abuse, and having recovered from those, she has some unique ideas about how we all should be relating to the perpetrators of these kind of abuses. She also has quite a bit too say about the healing process that's available to all of us after abuse. If you'd like to learn more about Iris and her programs, you can find her website at: http://irismcalpin.com - I'll put links to that in our show notes as well. Don't forget about our sponsors for today's show, Zola.com - for a $50 credit towards your registry, go to zola.com/couples. If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

Our guests today, Ned and Dorcas share a story about a depression that lasted nearly five years. They not only survived that depression as a couple, but built a massively successful company during that time and started a family that's thriving. This episode is about the tools they used to manage.  Dorcas has written a book about the experience called: START, LOVE, REPEAT - How to Stay in Love with Your Entrepreneur in a Crazy Start-up World. You can find out more about Dorcas at her website: https://www.chengtozun.com/. You can learn about Ned's company at their website: http://www.dlight.com/. Don't forget to check out our sponsors for this episode, and if you'd like to claim a $50 credit towards your wedding registry, visit their site at: Zola.com/couples If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

The title of this episode says what's it's about: rape and reconciliation. If rape is a topic you find difficult to hear about, you might want to take it easy with this episode.  But know that this story is also about reconciliation. It's about the healing process that's available to all of us. Megan Flamer, our guest today is a mindfulness trainer and former broadcast journalist. She works on projects that marry human behavior, communication and tech. She creates retreats all over the world with Shiny Happy Healthy and runs corporate trainings with Mindful Under Fire.  If you liked what you heard today, please subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected] The music in today's episode is by Blue Dot Sessions, and you can find them at sessions.blue.

Our guest today, Nenna Joiner, is an African American Lesbian porn producer and sex shop owner in downtown Oakland. Our conversation ranges all over the sex universe from impotence, to getting on your knees in church and in sex, to whether Lesbians are the new gay men, to - of course - toys and porn. If you'd like to find Nenna online or meet her in person, she's often at her shop, Feelmore in Oakland. You can find their website at: https://feelmore510.com/ If you liked what you heard today, please do subscribe. It's not free to produce this show, and I would absolutely love your support. You can support our show by going to patreon.com/together If you've got questions or comments, or if you just want to connect, you can find on social media. Our facebook page is facebook.com/togethershow Twitter and instagram are both @together_show, And you can always email me at [email protected]