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Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition? How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response. The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one.

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids). We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, mother and father figure differences, the beauty of surrendered woman, and our personal experiences with “trad” gender roles. If you’re a man in a committed relationship that’s not going the way you want, you may want to join my small group program: https://www.ruwando.com/LYF 00:00 - Intro 00:43 - Motherhood and work during baby years 05:27 - Challenging part of becoming a parent 07:10 - Why is family support important during pregnancy? 10:55 - Beauty of surrendered woman 13:20 - Do young women understand hormonal cycle? 15:41 - Nuclear family and masculine values 20:45 - Power of surrendered state 33:48 - Intrinsic motivation vs proving yourself 38:14 - Choosing motherhood or entrepreneurship 44:10 - Male vs female competition and confidence 52:11 - Mother and father figure differences 59:28 - Finding ways to relax when parenting 1:03:28 - Power dynamics and imbalance in relationships

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While this seems like a recipe for conflict, in many ways this is a return to human nature. This episode covers the evolutionary roots behind political leanings, the reasons for recent cultural shifts, and some fascinating studies about how your political leading may reveal itself in a brain scan. https://www.ruwando.com/LYF https://www.ruwando.com/archetype 00:00 - Intro: Cultural shift to left 3:20 - New Course: Lead Your Family 5:50 - Biological difference between liberal and conservative 14:40 - Biology behind liberal brain 18:15 - Karl Marx and Nietzsche 30:22 - Why is there a political gender gap? 37:17 - Why are young men more conservative? 01:02:59 - How to balance the polarities 01:14:57 - Are you truly worthy of respect? 01:26:12 - Are you making the right decisions? 01:30:24 - Recap

Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine. Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns. Veteran marine Luke Jensen speaks on how he healed his PTSD through brain-mapping and plant medicine and how these modalities can help people with unwanted emotional patterns like anxiety and depression. We discuss the Marine Corps, PTSD psychological vs spiritual side, post-war rituals, war and the concept of nationality, Germanic paganism and more. Check out Luke's work: https://www.tiwazawakening.com/ 00:00 - Intro 00:03 - Recalling marine journey 08:05 - Marine corps and legal issues 15:40 - (Afghanistan) war and corruption 19:37 - War and the concept of nationality 25:38 - War zone and politics 32:53 - After war psychological crisis 34:20 - Ptsd as modern phenomenon 44:39 - What is brain mapping? 53:50 - Brain mapping and plant medicine 58:05 - Stress response and brain mapping

Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another. The episode covers how to solve this dilemma: When to listen to your head over your heart? When to listen to your heart over your mind? How do you calibrate your intuition? 00:00 - Heart vs. Mind Dilemma 01:35 - Announcements 04:13 - Distortions of the head and heart 06:05 - Why logic kills creativity 08:50 - Should we follow our heart or mind? 14:00 - When to listen to your heart over your mind 16:08 - When you shouldn't listen to your feelings 24:41 - Do you empower your heart? 30:59 - Is your intuition calibrated? 36:38 - Synergy of heart and mind 46:05 - Recap

The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But how does a dominant man act? What does it mean to be dominant in relationships, without being a jerk? This episode covers the psychology behind informal power dynamics, how to be a more dominant male, the real importance of dominance in relationships, how a dominant man takes responsibility, why a dominant man makes woman feel safe, why a dominant male takes risks, how handling tension is a sign of dominance, signs of a dominant man (in relationships), and deep down why dominance is within all men. 00:00 Importance of Dominance in Relationships 04:31 Dominance and Approval 08:14 What does it mean to be dominant in relationships? 13:57 How to be the dominant person in relationships? 15:15 Dominant man takes responsibility 16:40 Handling tension is a sign of dominance 19:08 How does a dominant man act?

There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? How do you integrate the dark side in a healthy constructive way? Jung's “shadow” is the part of your psyche that you dissociated from, and therefore put it in the “dark”. Uncovering the dark masculine and shadow work requires looking at deep impulses and shame, to bring that part of your power back into the light. Timestamps: 00:00 - The power of masculine dark side 00:39 - What is your dark side? 4:53 - Understanding the male psyche 5:55 - Masculine personality archetypes 8:39 - Results of early childhood experience 10:00 - Morals and personality 13:25 - Why are women attracted to men's dark side? 14:55 - How to integrate your dark side? 17:14 - Dealing with shame and embarrassment 18:58 - Validating and expressing emotions 19:50 - Integrating aggressive side of men

How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions. We discuss how philosophy shapes a society, the evolution of Marxism in society, soft vs hard power, dangers of far right and far left, and some interesting history nuggets of communist propaganda in the Americas. Joshua authored over 90 books, mostly ghostwriting famous titles you’ve definitely heard of. Joshua is a conservative who speaks straight and some of what he says may not jive with your beliefs. But in the current political climate, I feel it’s especially important to 1) recognize the workings of ANY ideology on a population, 2) listen to intelligent people that you do not agree with. 00:00 - Intro: self-publishing vs. traditional 01:34 - Evolution of marxism in society 16:12 - How powerful is language manipulation? 22:51 - Does end justify the means? 31:08 - Soft vs. hard power 40:30 - moral values, christianity and society 47:18 - How to battle an ideology? 48:47 - Far right and far left 57:10 - What is the future of publishing?

Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture? Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffled some listeners’ feathers— that Western men are better off dating non-Western women. We discuss this point of view and some key questions such as: Why is dating different in East vs West? Are men attracted to traditional women? Is choice of women related to standards? Or culturization? Or some other unconscious factor? Dating in a a small town vs city? Is success more important than failure? Hans’ “Gentlemen’s Guide”: https://t.ly/YMpBD Hans on meeting foreign women: https://t.ly/HnX0x 00:00 - Why you should date non western women 3:53 - Is choice of women related to standards? 7:48 - Harder is always better - or not? 11:22 - Balancing masculine and feminine in relationships 19:06 - Why is west and east dating culture different? 25:52 - Women want to surrender to men 29:58 - Are men attracted to traditional women? 34:18 - Importance of female and male spaces 37:59 - Western vs eastern dating culture 44:45 - Beauty of slow seduction 51:36 - Is success more important than failure? 01:01:19 - Responsibility before entitlement

Why do we have resistance to certain goals? Especially the ones that are really important to us? This episode covers how to be passionate about your goals, especially if you have a pattern of putting them off. There is a relationship between emotional patterns and behavior, and we can reprogram these emotional patterns. 00:00 - Why do we have resistance to certain goals? 2:44 - What is passion actually? 4:08 - Fear of failure brings self sabotage 6:27- Different kinds of thinking 7:37 - How to reprogram emotional patterns? 13:36 - The connection of big goals and resistance 16:48 - Attachment to identity vs action 17:59 - The reward of hard work 20:05 - Dealing with emotional discomfort 30:29 - How to be Passionate about your goals?