On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Loneliness doesn’t come from being surrounded by too few people, it comes from believing you have to wait for connection to find you. In this episode, Jay shares five powerful mindset shifts to help you build meaningful friendships as an adult by overcoming the fear of rejection, letting go of imagined judgment, and embracing the courage to make the first move. Through practical insights and research-backed wisdom, you'll discover that lasting friendships aren't built through perfect chemistry, but through consistent presence, intentional effort, and the willingness to create the community you've been searching for. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:33 5 Mindset Shifts to Make Friends 00:03:51 Why Making Friends Feels Harder Now 00:06:25 The Fear Keeping You Lonely 00:09:55 People Like You More Than You Think 00:14:35 Why Repetition Builds Real Friendships 00:21:01 Stop Waiting, Start Building Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay sits down with transformational coach Jim Curtis, author of The Book of Possibility, to unpack how our subconscious beliefs, many formed before age seven, quietly shape our careers, relationships, and sense of what we think we deserve. Jim breaks down his Release, Align, Become framework, walks through the four core childhood wounds behind our biggest triggers, and shares practical tools for anxiety and self-doubt, ultimately revealing who you actually are beneath the programming. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:00 What Are We Getting Wrong About Manifestation? 01:40 Where Our Core Assumptions Come From 04:01 Awareness, Releasing, and Challenging Assumptions 06:57 Deconstructing “I Don’t Know What I Want” 11:45 The Release-Align-Become Framework 17:00 Jay’s Identity Shift: Employee to Entrepreneur 18:16 The Buddha’s Raft Story 20:56 Crafting Affirmations & Laddering Up 24:26 Jim’s Personal Resistance 26:58 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Releasing Shame 29:18 Jim’s Wake-Up Call: Shamans and Kung Fu 31:45 Jim’s Spinal Lesion and the Blackout Walk 34:40 Pain and Suffering as Doorways to Growth 35:20 Demystifying Hypnosis & The Power of Suggestion 44:17 Healing a Lifelong Phobia 46:07 Tools for Anxious and Ruminating Thoughts 48:30 Pre-Patterning for Repetitive Triggers 52:00 The Four Core Childhood Wounds 57:01 The Biggest Mistake in Seeking Love 01:01:46 Rejection Is Protection 01:05:19 Vulnerability: Masks, Mirrors, and Feeling Seen 01:07:23 Breaking Free from “Buckets” 01:09:39 Rebuilding Identity After a Breakup 01:11:55 Connection to Universal Consciousness 01:14:48 Jim Curtis On Final Five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Jay sits down with legendary drummer Travis Barker to talk about the discipline that built his career, the tragedy that almost ended it, and the slow, hard-won path back to peace. Travis opens up about losing his mother as a teenager, his struggles with addiction, the 2008 plane crash that changed his life, and how love, friendship, and sheer determination brought him back to himself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:43 Childhood Memories & Drum Practice 03:08 Skateboarding 03:48 Drum Kit & Musical Genres 05:45 Getting Good & Learning Jazz Charts 07:49 Natural Talent Vs. Hard Work 09:56 Grieving The Loss Of His Mother 11:54 Mom’s Final Advice & Marching Band Tryouts 13:40 Garage Rehearsals & Dad’s Hard Ultimatums 15:58 The Grind of Being In An Independent Band 17:42 Counselors Laughing At The Dream 19:13 How Blink-182 Came Into His Life 22:17 What Practicing Looks Like Today 23:26 Early Financial Success & His Dad’s Advice 26:55 Introduction To Drugs And Self-Medicating 30:48 Inside Blink-182’s First Breakup 32:32 Collaborating With DJ AM 35:01 High-Functioning Addiction & DJ AM’s Intervention 37:01 The South Carolina Show & His Daughter’s Premonition 41:47 The Plane Crash 45:17 Processing Loss And Amputation Fears 48:49 Survivor’s Guilt & 20 Years Without Flying 50:18 How Kourtney Got Him Flying Again 51:36 Skin Grafts And Hospital Suicidal Thoughts 54:44 Grieving the Death of DJ AM 59:20 Feeling The Presence of Passed Loved Ones 01:00:20 Surprises of Life Today 01:01:07 His Relationship with Kourtney Kardashian 01:02:41 Navigating A Miscarriage 01:03:51 Rocky’s Birth And Emergency Fetal Surgery 01:05:25 The Decision To Go Sober 01:07:32 First Flight In 20 Years 01:10:00 Blink-182 Reunion 01:11:53 Overcoming Fear & Running Toward Challenges 01:14:19 What His Mother Would Be Most Proud Of 01:14:45 Favorite Collaborations & Grammy Moment 01:16:10 Travis Barker On Final Five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The greatest barrier to finding love isn't a lack of chemistry, it's a lack of opportunity. Jay explores why modern dating feels so exhausting and reveals the psychology behind attraction, offering practical ways to build a life that naturally invites love in. If you're feeling burned out by the search for "the one," this conversation is an invitation to release rigidity, handle rejection as data, and find hope for moving forward. Probability doesn't promise that your soulmate is waiting around the corner, but it does promise that tomorrow is not predetermined by yesterday. Trust that every new community and conversation makes space for the right connection, and that a life rich with curiosity will always lead you forward. With Love and Gratitude,Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:34 Love as Probability: Creating Opportunities 01:43 Are You Isolating Yourself?  03:31 The First Psychological Concept That Will Reframe Dating  03:55 Debunking The Biggest Myth About Love 04:28 The Mere Exposure Effect Explained  06:09 Building Regular Spaces for Repeated Encounters Is Everything 08:22 The Second Shift For Meeting Your Soulmate 09:20 The Strength of Weak Ties  11:49 Your Preferences are The Problem, Not Your Standards  16:24 How to Harness First-Date Pressure 18:30 Redefining First Dates: Enjoyable Exploration 20:15 Start Separating Worth from Outcomes 22:57 High Standards and the Dating Puzzle Analogy 24:30 Zooming Out and Staying Open to Love 24:42 Curiosity, Community, and the Philosophy of Choice 25:42 To The People Losing Hope… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the heaviest thing you’re carrying tonight is something you haven’t even admitted you’re holding? In this episode, Jay meets you in the dark, in the moment you’re lying awake calculating how many hours of sleep you have left. Through a guided visualization and gentle reminders about how healing actually works, he shows you that peace isn’t something you force by thinking harder, it’s something you find by carrying less. One breath at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Late-Night Welcome 01:00 The Noise of a Quiet Mind 02:00 Understanding Your Mind’s Defenses 04:00 Guided Breathing & Reminding Your Body of Safety 05:00 Identifying Your Internal Weight 06:15 Admitting the Heavy Things 06:45 The Story of the Mountain and the Stone 09:45 Pushing Through Doubt and Unseen Progress 12:45 The Breakthrough & Hidden Gemstones 13:30 The True Power of Every Strike 14:30 Seeing Gradual Growth in Your Own Life 15:45 Not Mistaking Your Season for Your Destination 16:15 Reflecting on Your Past Surprises 17:30 The World Spinning Outside Your Room 18:30 Walking Toward Your Future 19:30 Visualizing a Hopeful Tomorrow 20:30 A Morning That Doesn’t Demand Certainty 22:15 Unimagined Good Is Coming 23:45 A Gentler Question to Ask Yourself 24:15 Where Peace Actually Lives 25:30 Carry Only Tonight’s Breath 26:30 Trusting Life’s Natural Flow 27:30 Befriend Your Overactive Mind 28:30 Life, One Page at a Time Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if your greatest limitation is simply what you believe is possible? After witnessing thousands of people transform their lives in ways that continue to challenge conventional thinking, Dr Joe Dispenza believes we're capable of far more than we've been taught to believe. In this episode, Jay Shetty sits down with Dr Joe to explore how our thoughts, emotions, and habits shape our reality, why so many of us stay trapped in familiar patterns, and what it takes to create lasting change. Together, they unpack the science of meditation, the power of intention, and how changing your inner world may be the first step toward changing your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.  On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive  http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty  https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c  JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  Experience Dr Joe's teachings in person at one of his immersive week-long retreats held around the world. Learn more and explore upcoming events: https://www.events.drjoedispenza.com/retreats Dive deeper into the research. Explore Dr Joe's published scientific papers and the studies referenced throughout this podcast: https://drjoedispenza.com/scientific-research What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:46 Self-Knowledge Is True Power 00:01:56 How Your Beliefs Are Formed 00:06:21 Living in a Virtual Reality 00:08:49 What Real Change Looks Like 00:15:35 Childhood Beliefs That Still Control You 00:17:15 The Limits of Your Emotions 00:19:19 Stop Reinforcing Negative Thought Patterns 00:26:13 The Gap Between Your Old and New Self 00:28:58 Escape the Negative Thought Loop 00:31:22 Why Pattern Interruptions Matter 00:33:23 Stop Scrolling Before Bed 00:36:18 The Woman Who Regrew Her Colon 00:44:43 How Meditation Changes Your Body 00:46:12 Can Meditation Change Reality? 00:49:01 Do Alternate Realities Exist? 00:50:26 Where Attention Goes, Energy Flows 00:55:56 The Power of Collective Healing 01:00:21 Transformations Backed by Science 01:03:45 Joe on Final Five  Episode Resources: Website | https://drjoedispenza.com/  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/user/drjoedispenza  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/DrJoeDispenzaOfficialNewsFanPage  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/drjoedispenza/  LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjoedispenza/  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@drjoedispenza  X | https://x.com/DrJoeDispenza Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happiness isn't something you find, it's something you choose to create, even when life feels uncertain. In this episode, Jay shares the three mindset shifts that genuinely happy people practice every day: taking ownership instead of staying stuck in victimhood, finding joy before reaching the next milestone, and intentionally building a life filled with connection, gratitude, and purpose. Through powerful stories and practical exercises, you'll discover how small daily choices can help you reclaim your agency, stop postponing your happiness, and create a life you don't have to escape from.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.®️Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/ Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive  http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty  https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c  JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Introduction  00:01:27 Why You Feel Unhappy & Powerless 00:01:57 How to Take Control of Your Life 00:02:59 The 1st Thing Happy People Do Differently   00:07:29 This Will Help You Overcome Disappointment 00:09:40 The 2nd Shift That Happy People Do 00:11:14 What Is The Hedonic Treadmill  00:14:33 Gratitude Doesn’t Erase Pain 00:15:05 Why You Can't Enjoy the Present Moment  00:16:30 Did You Put Your Happiness on Pause? 00:17:45 The 3rd Thing Happy People Do Differently  00:18:53 Schedule Something to Look Forward To 00:22:20 Stop Keeping Score… 00:28:09 Don't Let Rejection Define You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Actress and musician Simone Ashley joins Jay for an intimate conversation about navigating sudden global fame, redefining self-worth beyond career expectations, and letting go of societal timelines. Simone details her breakthrough journey from lockdown uncertainties to leading Bridgerton, how her mother taught her to love her skin and embrace cultural identity, and why stepping into music with her debut EP 'Songs I Wrote In New York' allowed her to access a raw, instinctual form of creative expression. Together, Jay and Simone dive into the crucial distinction between solitude and loneliness, how envy can slowly destroy friendships, and why finding a 'co-creator' in love means choosing someone who makes life simpler rather than more complex. If you're feeling behind in life or searching for the confidence to trust your own timing, this episode offers a heartwarming reminder that your path unfolds exactly when it is meant to. With Love and Gratitude,Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.®️Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/ Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusivehttp://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc  JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro  00:00:53 How Much Can Shift In Five Years 00:01:30 From Lockdown to Bridgerton: Career Breakthrough 00:05:16 Identity and Confidence as an Indian Actress 00:08:41 Impact of Representation and Personal Reflections 00:12:56 Assessing Past Strengths and Potential Regrets 00:13:37 Comparing School Experiences  00:14:23 Mother's Lesson on Non-Materialism  00:15:35 Defining True Friendship and Overcoming Envy 00:17:34 Women Supporting Each Other Beyond Competition 00:18:40 Loneliness vs Solitude 00:24:26 Desires, Dreams, and Simpler Life Aspirations 00:26:07 How to Manifest Love… 00:28:20 The Power of Honesty in Relationships 00:29:25 This is What Handling Rejection Looks Like  00:32:42 Your Emotional Response to Rejection is OK  00:34:08 Balancing Career Ambition with Personal Relationships 00:34:53 Evolving Partner Values As You Grow 00:36:55 Self-Belief is the Foundation for Success 00:38:02 Dream Projects and Core Personal Values 00:39:19 Creation is the Opposite of Depression  00:40:06 The Songwriting Process and Developing Her Unique Sound 00:42:36 Vulnerability in Music and Overcoming That Fear  00:43:39 Analyzing 'Freeze' and 'Tragic Romantic' Lyrics 00:46:33 The Song 'Free' and Its Emotional Significance 00:49:39 Finding the Art Form That Perfectly Aligns with Your Soul   00:52:10 Would-You-Rather Dating Game  00:56:42 Aging, Timelines, and Comparing Life Paths 01:02:41 The Most Painful Lesson She Learned From This Rejection 01:05:40 What Are Sliding-Door Moments? 01:05:26 Don’t Feel Bad For Being Desperate 01:07:10 Questioning Answers and The Biggest Pressure in Her 30’s 01:10:08 Dreaming of An Escape and What That Really Means  01:13:00 The Perspective Shift That Changed Everything  01:14:33 Simone on Final Five Episode Resources: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/simoneashley/  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@simoneashleyofficial  Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/artist/simoneashley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Actress and producer Camila Mendes joins Jay for an honest conversation about the hidden cost of perfectionism, the pressure behind success, and what it took to finally choose herself. Camila opens up about the breaking point that forced her to confront old wounds, heal her relationship with food, reconnect with her Brazilian identity, and redefine what spirituality, self-worth, and love really mean. Together, they explore why chasing perfection often leaves us feeling empty, how slowing down can become the greatest act of self-respect, and why true confidence isn't about having everything figured out, but about accepting yourself exactly as you are. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/  Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive  http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty  https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:17 What Excites You Most Right Now? 00:01:57 Designing a Home That Feels Like You 00:03:32 The Challenge of Balance 00:05:26 Living One Day at a Time 00:07:24 The Importance of Learning Your Limits 00:10:09 Why Saying "No" Feels So Hard 00:15:08 Revisiting an Old Wound 00:19:56 Holding Two Truths at Once 00:21:10 Growing Up Between Cultures 00:23:12 Returning to Your Roots 00:24:41 Finding Spirituality Later in Life 00:29:44 The Power of Questioning Your Beliefs 00:31:11 Growing Up Without Stability 00:34:37 The Freedom of Imperfection 00:36:27 The Anxiety No One Could See 00:40:03 When You Have to Numb Out 00:41:45 Living With Your Own Worst Critic 00:44:35 Healing Your Relationship with Food 00:46:14 Recovering from an Eating Disorder 00:48:07 Getting Honest About Body Image 00:50:26 The Moment Self-Worth Starts to Crack 00:51:04 Meeting Rudy: The Turning Point 00:54:27 The Work of Becoming Your Best Self 00:57:30 Why You Have to Heal Before You Love Again 01:00:18 Choosing Love in the Hardest Moments 01:04:53 The Problem With One-Sided Love 01:08:20 The Proposal 01:13:08 When You're Aligned, Doors Open 01:14:54 Protecting Your Peace at Work 01:17:09 Camila on Final Five Episode Resources: Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/camimendes  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@camimendes  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Healthy relationships aren't defined by the absence of conflict… they're shaped by how couples move through it together. In this episode, Jay explores why even the strongest relationships face disagreements, what recurring arguments are really trying to tell you, and how understanding the emotional needs beneath the surface can change the way you communicate. Learn how to communicate with empathy, regulate your emotions, repair after difficult moments, and stop fighting to win so you can start growing stronger together. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/  Use code PURPOSE10 for 10% ataltrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Visit: https://www.altrarunning.com/  On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive  http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty  https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c  JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Introduction  00:00:47 Healthy Couples Fight Too 00:04:53 The Real Goal of Healthy Love 00:06:48 What’s the Fight Really About? 00:09:29 When You Stop Being Teammates 00:14:03 Curiosity Over Defensiveness 00:16:15 How To Actually Apologize and Mean It 00:17:37 Validation Changes Everything 00:21:04 A Better Way to Communicate 00:24:15 Why Modern Love Feels Harder Than Ever  00:28:51 Your Partner Isn't Your Enemy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices