One and Done Parenting: Navigating the Planned or Unplanned New Normal

If you've struggled with keeping up with your friendships after becoming a mother, this episode is for you! While it's easy to complain about the disappearing act of some of our friends, it's humbling to realize that we may have not been reaching out either. It certainly takes two to tango and sometimes we have to take the lead to maintain the relationships that are of upmost importance to us. We know that for some of our friends, figuring out what you need or how to be there for you, is easier said than done. There may also come a time, when our new life creates a dynamic that does shift the energy within a friendship and we realize that we've outgrown each other. That's ok too.There is no right or wrong. At this stage of our lives as grown ass people, we've earned the right to do what's right for us! So Mama, if you're seeking to nurture, maintain, repair or create friendships, this is for you! #motherhood #friendships #lifeafterthebaby #postpartum #womensupportingwomen #parentssupportingparents #momlife #momhumor 8R6uFytP9AD8dSH1Xfpr For more info about Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast: Visit: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram⎜Facebook: @newmommyat40.com Would you like to share your motherhood journey with me? Email me at [email protected] to be my next guest!

Who am I now? It's a question many moms have asked themselves. The intersection of who you were before pregnancy and who you are post delivery, can be a difficult adjustment during the 4th trimester and beyond. In this conversation, special guest Diana Hillaire , Founder of @whenshecomeshome and I discuss our experiences of rediscovering ourselves after becoming mothers. We reflect on our respective journeys to reclaiming our identities and finding balance between motherhood and personal fulfillment. For more information about Diana | When She Comes Home: Website: www.whenshecomeshome.com Instagram: @@whenshecomeshome For information about Victoria | New Mommy at 40 Podcast: Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram | Facebook | TikTok: @newmommy40 To be our next guest, email: [email protected]

In this episode, host Victoria Lauture Duncker interviews Michael Petrella, an Infant Swimming Resource (ISR) instructor, about his journey and the importance of teaching self-rescue swimming skills to infants and young children. Michael shares his personal motivation for becoming an ISR instructor and highlights the need for children to learn how to obtain their own air and float in the water. He explains the process of becoming an ISR instructor and the behavioral psychology behind teaching children these life-saving skills. Michael also addresses common myths and misconceptions about infant swimming and the dangers of relying on puddle jumpers and floaties. In this conversation, Mr. Michael Petrella discusses the importance of water safety and the role of ISR (Infant Swimming Resource) and O2 Swim in teaching children self-rescue skills. He also highlights the importance of teaching skills in different water environments and shares real-life examples of lives saved through self-rescue lessons. He encourages parents to take action and find access to lessons, including scholarships, to ensure their child's safety. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the joy of being an instructor and the need for more instructors to meet the demand for water safety education. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 01:17 Michael's Journey to Becoming an Infant Swimming Resource Instructor 09:35 What are Self-Rescue Swimming Skills? 10:35 Teaching Self-Rescue Skills to Infants 12:28 Starting Age for Self-Rescue Lessons 13:06 Handling Overconfident and Apprehensive Children 14:17 Challenges Faced in Teaching Self-Rescue Skills 24:09 Dangers of Puddle Jumpers and Floaties 27:57 The Tragic Story of Emi 30:52 Teaching Skills in Different Environments 34:12 Real-Life Examples of Lives Saved 38:11 The Role of Parents in Fostering Water Safety 39:00 Access to Lessons and Scholarships 44:26 The Convenience of Puddle Jumpers 46:35 The Joy of Being an Instructor 51:12 Teaching Children the Way They Learn 54:03 The Need for More Instructors For more information on Michael Petrella and O2 Swim: www.mrmichaelpetrella.com Instagram and TikTok: @mr.michaelpetrella For more information about Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast: Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram, Facebook and TikTok: @newmommyat40 Email: [email protected]

“Adoption was never a last resort for me. I always wanted one biological child and one adopted child.” In this episode, host Victoria Lauture-Duncker interviews Daisha Enos, a 44-year-old wellness and health coach, about her journey to motherhood at 40. She discusses the comments and questions she received from family members and friends about her decision to have children later in life. While she always believed that she’d be a mother, of two - one biological child and one adopted child, she never dreamed of getting married.  After meeting her now husband Aron, she knew she had found the icing on the cake!  Daisha and Aron, mutually agreed to spend the first few years of married life together and wait to start their family. She credits him for being supportive early of her wishes for their family dynamic.  The story behind their adoption process is a MUST LISTEN.  It is truly a testament in that when something is meant for you, it is meant for YOU!  My biggest takeaway from my chat with Daisha? Being specific about what you want and going after it can lead to incredible outcomes. Also, that it’s important to have a positive mindset and be open to learning from setbacks and challenges. Incredible! #adoption #advancedmaternalage #blackmoms #wellness #manifestation For more information about Daisha Enos Website: www.daishaenos.com Instagram & Facebook: @daishaenos For more information about Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast: Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram, Facebook and TikTok: @newmommyat40 Email: [email protected]

Despite their decision to not have more children, Liza Poor, a 41-year-old actress and singer, unexpectedly became pregnant with her third child. She expresses both excitement and concerns about integrating a new person into their family dynamic. She is a proud body positive mama and encourages supportive care and outlook for plus-size mothers. Takeaways Age can impact pregnancy experiences, including fertility and physical discomfort, but not always! Parenting styles and approaches may change as parents gain more experience and self-confidence. Each child is unique and may require different parenting strategies. Independence is an important aspect of child development, but boundaries and guidance are still necessary. Integrating a new person into a family dynamic can bring both excitement and concerns, especially when there is an age gap between siblings. Maintaining sibling roles and responsibilities is important to ensure a healthy family dynamic. Body positivity and self-advocacy is crucial for plus-size mothers, and having a supportive healthcare team is essential. For more information on Liza: Website: www.lizapoor.com Instagram: @LizaPoor TikTok: @liza.poor YouTube: @Liza Poor For more information about Victoria and New Mommy at 40 Podcast: Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram: @newmommyat40 Facebook: @newmommyat40 YouTube: @newmommyat40

In this episode, host Victoria Lauture Duncker interviews her guest Tanji Garcia about her journey to motherhood at the age of 40. They discuss the pressure and expectations of having kids in their 20s and how it influenced their relationships. Tanji opens up about the challenges of infertility and the emotional journey of fertility treatments. They touch on topics such as the first night with a newborn, struggles with breastfeeding, and the recognition and healing of postpartum depression and the impact of social media on the perception of motherhood. Overall, they encourage open conversations about postpartum experiences and the need for self-compassion and understanding. Takeaways The pressure and expectations of having children in your 20s can influence relationship decisions and create feelings of disappointment. Personal challenges and experiences shape our expectations of marriage and family life. Infertility and fertility treatments can be emotionally challenging, but they can also lead to the joy of having a baby. Age should not define our ability to be good parents or experience the joys of motherhood. Motherhood is challenging and requires support and self-care. Breastfeeding struggles are common, and it's important to seek help and not feel guilty. Postpartum depression is a real and valid experience that should be recognized and addressed. Balancing motherhood and personal identity is a journey that requires self-reflection and self-compassion. Social media can create unrealistic expectations and it's important to prioritize mental health over comparison. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:06 Long-Time Friendship and Working Together 02:03 Family Background and Cultural Differences 03:04 Influence of Parent's Marriage 03:47 Influence of Family Life on Partner and Marriage Expectations 06:08 Pressure and Expectations of Having Kids in 20s 07:46 Learning to Work Through Relationship Problems 09:11 Dealing with Disappointment and Stigma of Having Kids Later in Life 09:43 Navigating Life as a Single Person 10:40 Overcoming Personal Challenges and Learning Interpersonal Communication 12:44 Desire for Warmth and Family Dynamics 13:56 Perceptions of Age and Motherhood 15:25 Challenges and Timing of Starting a Family 16:28 Rekindling the Relationship and Proposal 19:23 Struggles with Infertility and Fertility Treatments 26:35 Joy of Having a Baby Through IVF 36:58 The Reality of Motherhood 37:50 The First Night with a Newborn 38:50 Lack of Support 39:23 Challenges of Being an Older Mom 40:20 The Importance of a Support System 41:50 Struggles with Breastfeeding 43:32 Recognizing Postpartum Depression 47:21 Journey of Healing from Postpartum Depression 52:00 Balancing Motherhood and Personal Identity 55:53 Letting Go of the Past 57:18 The Pressure to Be Perfect 58:11 The Importance of Self-Care 01:01:00 The Impact of Social Media 01:06:18 The Need for Open Conversations about Postpartum For more info visit: Youtube: @newmommyat40podcast  Instagram: @newmommyat40 www.newmommyat40podcast.com

In today’s episode, we meet Jenese Raspberry, a mother of two who is sharing her delivery story at age 38, of her second child, a beautiful and healthy now 6 year old girl. It is a story of faith, community, & surrender, that also serves as a look into the appalling and unacceptable rise of maternal mortality rates, particularly of black and brown women in the United States.  #childbirth #maternalmortality #maternalmortalityrate #momlife #expecting #blackmaternalhealthawareness #blackmaternalhealth #pregnancy #blackandbrownmoms #faith #survivor #community #resilience #thriving #advancedmaternalage #joy #happiness #over35 #over40

Welcome to Season 3 of New Mommy at 40 Podcast! We're starting off with a burst of joy and laughter as we welcome our guest and new mom, Ch-a Mosley. Ch-a shares her story with us of her becoming a first time mom at the age of 47. She has built a loyal and inspired audience via her social media platforms (@pregnancyoverforty) to spread hope to those who are looking to be or will find themselves as moms/parents. She is charismatic and just a breath of fresh air! Her story is a reminder for all of us to live in the moment, to have gratitude everyday for both the highs and the lows and that by choosing joy, you will land on your feet despite the difficult times. For more information on Ch-a Mosley Instagram: @pregnancyoverforty TikTok: @pregnancyover40 For more information on Victoria Lauture Duncker/New Mommy at 40 Podcast Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram & Facebook: @newmommyat40 Email: [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/new-mommy-at-40/message

Victoria wraps up Season 2 of the award nominated, New Mommy at 40 Podcast by getting personal and sharing the last few months of her motherhood journey - transitioning from being a mother of a baby/toddler to a full blown child in the making, navigating tantrums. In recognition of the closing of Fibroid Awareness Month, she shares of her own fibroid story and how dealing with them head on, created an opportunity to have her daughter years later. Victoria also shares the physical pain she experienced over the years, particularly during sex and the irony of now being middle aged, feeling in her sexual prime AND fibroid free, but on the struggle bus finding the time for intimacy. This one is full of emotions, laughs, and maybe even some TMI, but definitely relatable to many! For more information on Victoria/New Mommy at 40 Podcast Website: www.newmommyat40.com Instagram & Facebook: @newmommyat40 Email: [email protected]

Special Guests and SAHM's, Kendra Dayhoff and Cathryn Bieg, along with your host, Victoria, share resources they've discovered which have helped with adjusting to their new roles and the importance of finding & creating community along the way. Some resources mentioned: Macaroni Kid: https://national.macaronikid.com/ Moms Club International: https://momsclub.org/ Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/ For more information Cathryn Bieg: Instagram: @cathrynbieg Website: www.cathrynbieg.com For more on Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast: https://linktr.ee/vlauture #stayathomemom #sahm #sahmlife #parenting #mom #oldermom #over40 #expecting #pregnant