182. When You Disappoint Yourself

This week we’re joined by my client, Liz, who will share how one on one coaching impacted her writing, career, and overall self esteem.   In this episode you’ll learn:   Why lowering the stakes for success can actually lead to a lot more of it How to get yourself to work on your big goals daily without burning out Why it’s so important to make working on your goals more pleasurable   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/192

In a capitalist society, you are socialized to feel deeply dissatisfied with your life from the moment you are born. This is not an accident. Capitalism thrives on your dissatisfaction, both in how that drives consumerism and in how it cultivates overworking. Today’s episode will explore how capitalist economies benefit from dissatisfied people, the role of marketing, the influence of social media, and the impact of news and media in maintaining this state of discontent.   In this episode you’ll learn:   How capitalism sets you up to feel constantly dissatisfied. The roles of marketing, social media, and news cycles in cultivating your dissatisfaction. Why it’s a radical shift to build your satisfying AF life instead.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/191

When I worked with Marriage Coach Maggie Reyes a few years ago, she taught me the concept of a six second kiss. This is a couples' connection tool from the Gottman Institute, and it's so powerful for establishing (or re-establishing) a sexy physical connection. Catch this week's full episode to learn more about the six second kiss and how you can start using it today!   In this episode you’ll learn: What the six second kiss is & how to do it. What shifts and results my relationship has experience from this tool. Answers to frequently asked questions about this tool.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/190

When does the idea of deserving something help you achieve it? When does it drive you further away from your goals instead? Tune in this week for a fun and eye opening discussion about this concept that both motivates us to pursue our dreams AND also sometimes gets us into trouble along the way.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why the idea of “deserving” might not be the most useful frame sometimes. The difference between “deserving” something and choosing it. How to decide what to pursue and when.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/189

Getting what you want isn’t always easy. Landing a new job, paying down debt, dating to find a partner - these things can be difficult. You may find yourself putting them off, not wanting to spend your precious time doing the boring, unenjoyable steps required. This week’s episode will introduce a new way to think about working towards your goals, one that will have you excited to start taking action towards your goals, whatever they may be.   In this episode you’ll learn: Common reasons you don’t take actions towards your goals, even things you really want. Why you might treat yourself like an annoying inconvenience and what you can do instead. How your socialization might be blocking you from treating yourself with kindness and high regard.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/188

Join me this week as I chat with (and live coach) my client, Kelsey. We’ll talk through the recent coaching we did on whether or not Kelsey wants to have children, and we’ll coach through some remaining concerns she has about her decision.   What you’ll learn from this episode: One way to tackle making a big decision, especially if you feel a lot of confusion. Why you may not see your true preference at first (hint: it’s probably some kind of socialization that’s getting in the way). What actually happens inside a coaching session (a very powerful kind of conversation).   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/187    

What you’ll learn from this episode: Whether you want to learn to knit a sweater or get a new job or move to Portugal, this podcast episode will help. We’re discussing five steps to succeed at practically anything, and they apply to pretty much any goal you could have.   In this episode you’ll learn: 5 steps you can use on repeat to succeed at practically anything. Why each step matters and how to do it. Which steps are the hardest and what to do to succeed at them anyways.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/186

Have you ever needed to make a decision but just couldn’t choose? Fake Oracle Decision Making can help! I made up this coaching tool on a call recently and it helped my client so much I knew I needed to share it with you right away!   What you’ll learn from this episode: What FODM is and how it came to exist as a coaching tool. Why FODM can move you from overwhelmed uncertainty to clarity and relief. How to use FODM yourself. What to do if you’d rather have me walk you through FODM than DIY it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/185

Do you feel overwhelmed with the sheer amount of work in your life, not just at your job but also in your roles as parent, sibling, spouse, and more? You’re not alone. Burnout is very common, but that doesn’t mean you’re doomed. This week, we’re covering the six factors that cause burnout and how you can address each of them.   What you’ll learn from this episode: The six factors that cause burnout, according to researchers. The antidote to each factor. The role of satisfaction as a burnout preventive or treatment.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/184

Join us this week for a conversation with Kori’s friend and client, Dr. Sara, as she shares about her coaching journey, including landing her dream job 10-15 years ahead of schedule.   What you’ll learn from this episode: Why you should apply for jobs you want even if you think you’re not qualified.  What kind of support you might want in place when you land your dream role. How coaching can help you super speed up your life transitions.  How coaching can show you opportunities that exist all around you that are currently invisible to you. Why it’s worth it to risk rejection in order to go after what you want.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.korilinn.com/183