Transformation & Healing: How to Reign When it's Raining®

Get in touch with us! Your calendar is full. You're exhausted but somehow you're still saying yes.In this week's Over to You, one of our Reignmaker women shares a pattern she's started noticing: she keeps agreeing to things, from social plans and work commitments to exercise and everyday responsibilities, even when she's already struggling to keep her head above water.And it raises a question so many of us will recognise:Why is it easier to disappoint ourselves than someone else?We explore what might be behind the constant yeses - from people pleasing and fear of disappointing others to feeling needed, misjudging our capacity and the pressure to be the woman who can handle everything.It's a candid mother-daughter conversation, with a few disagreements along the way about recognising our patterns and giving ourselves permission to make different choices.In this episodeWhy we overcommit even when we're already exhaustedThe difference between keeping a promise and feeling obliged to say yesWhy saying no can feel like letting somebody downPeople pleasing and the need to justify our decisionsThe invisible cost of always being availableWhy rest is often the first thing we sacrificeThe pressure to be the woman who can do everythingHow saying yes can sometimes become a form of avoidanceHow to say no kindly without inventing an excuseThis week's Reignmaker Shift: Pause Before the Yes.Your Reignmaker Shift: Pause Before the YesFor the next seven days, before agreeing to anything that isn't urgent, give yourself a moment.You can simply say:“Let me check what I've got on and come back to you.”Then ask yourself:Do I actually want to do this?Do I have the capacity?What would I be giving up if I said yes?If the answer is no, practise saying it kindly, without feeling you have to come up with an elaborate explanation.And we'd love to know how you get on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If this conversation reminded you of someone who's always doing everything for everyone, send her this episode.  If you're enjoying the podcast, following the show and leaving a review helps more women discover us.🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Over to You00:33 The Overcommitting Pattern01:47 When Saying Yes Backfires05:36 People Pleasing and Guilt09:14 The Hidden Cost of Yes10:20 Women and Doing It All12:30 How to Say No Kindly16:50 Reign Maker Shift Pause17:54 Get in Touch and Share18:23 Yes as Avoidance Trap19:31 The Crunchy Feeling20:18 Final Reflections and Wrap.

Get in touch with us! What if the confidence you're waiting for only comes after you do the thing you're afraid of?Dani Phillips is the host of Hard Hats to Heels in Tunbridge Wells and creator of The Proper Tea podcast. She's the kind of woman who can walk into a room full of strangers, strike up a conversation and make people feel welcome.But she hasn't always felt comfortable being seen.In this conversation, Dani shares what it was like to appear confident on the outside while struggling with her confidence internally, how undergoing gastric sleeve surgery and losing ten stone changed her life, and why changing her appearance didn't automatically mean she stopped worrying about what other people thought.We talk about the relationships that change when you change, the importance of surrounding yourself with people who genuinely support you, and why being willing to show up before you feel ready can open doors you never imagined.In this episode:Why looking confident and feeling confident are two very different thingsDani's experience of weight loss, gastric sleeve surgery and rebuilding her self-confidenceHow other people's treatment of her changed after losing weightWorrying about judgement and what people think of youThe people-pleasing patterns that can make change uncomfortableFinding people who encourage you to growWhy female friendships and supportive communities matterGoing from attending a networking event to hosting oneHow putting yourself in the room creates unexpected opportunitiesWhy we struggle to accept complimentsThe connection between self-worth and how we receive praiseTaking action before you feel readyRecognising how far you've already comeDani's 60-Second Reignmaker Shift: courage before confidence──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────CONNECT WITH DANIDani Phillips is the founder of The Proper Tea Official, host of The Proper Tea with Dani P podcast and the face behind Hard Hats to Heels Tunbridge Wells.Her motto? Making the property ladder feel a lot less like snakes and ladders. Known for her approachable nature and strong emotional intelligence, she connects people, reads the room and makes things happen.Dani has been investing into property for the last year and her determination goes beyond bricks and mortar!She’s also lost ten stone over the last ten years. Expect real talk, a few laughs and a woman who’s ready to back herself. Instagram - @theproperteaofficial Hard hats tickets page - https://hardhatstoheels.co.uk/tunbridge-wells/──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────💛 SHE REIGNS - OUR WEEKLY NEWSLETTERFor the woman who knows there's more she wants from life but keeps finding reasons to wait.Every week, we share reflections, practical shifts and conversations to help you stop overthinking, trust yourself and start doing more of what matters to you.💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Enjoyed this conversation? Follow How to Reign When It's Raining and share this episode with a woman who needs reminding that she doesn't have to feel confident before she begins.

Get in touch with us! What if you looked back a year from now and realised you were still waiting to start?In 2022, Sara sat in the grandstands at the Abu Dhabi Grand Prix watching the world she desperately wanted to be part of.She dreamed of working in sports presenting but it felt impossible.She didn't know the right people. She couldn't see how she'd ever break into the industry and after losing her dad and spending years struggling with depression, she was a long way from the life she wanted.A year later, she returned to the same grandstand.And realised nothing had changed.That moment became a turning point.This isn't simply a story about determination.Sara also shares the challenges of navigating grief while working in Formula 1 and how those experiences have shaped the way she chooses to live today.Sara has reached a place where she can genuinely say:“I love my life. I love my problems.”In this episode:Losing yourself after grief and finding a way forwardThe Grand Prix moment that changed Sara's directionWhy a whole year passed before she took actionGoing from believing something was impossible to pursuing it relentlesslyWhy she didn't wait until January to beginThe small, consistent actions behind her career transformationBreaking into sports presenting without an established networkWorking at the circuit where her dream beganLosing her brother just before a major Formula 1 opportunityThe reality behind the smiles people see on screenWhy Sara now says, “I love my life. I love my problems”Redefining success as freedom rather than moneyWhy you don't need to feel ready to startSara's 60-Second Reignmaker Shift ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Connect with Sara: LinkedIn: https://www.instagram.com/saraessa?exln=aWJtdXA1ZG9ka2Js Website: https://www.saraessa.com/ Insta: @saraessa A dynamic multi-disciplinary presenter based between London and Dubai, Sara is known for her engaging presence, insightful interviews, and quick wit. Confident, unflappable, and fun on stage and on camera, she combines strong sports knowledge with a natural ability to connect with audiences and bring out the best in herinterviewees across live, broadcast, and premium hospitality environments.Sara first stepped into presenting in 2021, building a large and engaged audience on Clubhouse through an interview series focused on Climate and Sustainability.This led to hosting live events for global brands including Volvo, Adidas, Farfetch, and the Eden Project. Alongside live hosting, she established herself as a voiceover artist and is regularly selected for radio and television advertising work.By 2024, Sara recognised that storytelling and the craft of asking great questions were at the core of her passion and began pursuing presenting full-time across sport. She started the year creating explainer content with athletes at SailGP and hosting webinars for Girls On Track UK. By mid-year, she was a stage host at the British Grand Prix, joined the BullPadel Show in France as a commentator, and was subsequently picked up by Premier Padel and Red Bull TV, where she also worked on the World Padel Championships and continues to work with Red Bull Media House today.With a strong passion and understanding of motorsport, Sara is quickly becoming a recognisable figure across the Middle East. Over the past year she has hosted driver interviews for F1 and F1 Academy in the Paddock Club, served as Premium Hospitality Host at the Abu Dhabi Grand Prix and SailGP , and worked as a broadcast presenter and pit lane reporter for the Radical World Finals, DSBK Superbikes, and Gulf ProCar at Yas Marina Circuit.Her wider experience spans sailing, golf, and emerging sports, including hosting and MC roles at E-Foil Dubai International, broadcast presenting for the UAE Golf Cup, and moderating major industry events such as the Bridge Summit, Global Games Summit, and the SIGA Women’s Dubai Summit. She has also hosted large-scale community sporting events including the Burj2Burj Half Marathon, Reebok Power Race as part of the Dubai Fitness Challenge, and CrossFit competitions.Sara comes from a lifelong sporting background, having played Netball, Hockey, Trampolining, and Horse Riding from a young age, alongside more recently competing in padel, where she reached No.1 in the L TA rankings before leaving the UK three years ago. She is also a keen golfer and sailor, having lived in New Zealand and completed an ocean crossing from New Caledonia in 2015.──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've talked yourself in and out of? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above to send a written message or leave a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, let us know whether you're happy for us to play it on the podcast or would prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on.────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:05:21 The F1 Spark08:25 Relentless10:45 Building a Career11:59 The War Experience15:25 Full Circle at Yas Marina23:10 Weight Loss Journey37:28 Rapid Fire40:27 Reignmaker Shift

Get in touch with us! What do you do when both choices mean losing something?A year ago, one of our listeners moved to Malaysia with someone she planned to build a future with.That relationship has now ended.She's still in Malaysia, where she absolutely loves her job. But she's far from family and friends, and the Middle East (somewhere she still considers home) is calling her back.So does she stay? Or does she leave?In our second Over to You, we unpack a decision that goes far beyond geography.Because sometimes the difficulty isn't that you don't know what you want. It's that both choices offer something you want, and both involve letting go of something important.We explore how fear and familiarity can influence our decisions, why you don't necessarily have to choose forever, and what happens when the future you imagined with someone else becomes yours to decide.In this episode:Making a decision when neither option is perfectWhy overthinking searches for an option with no downsideUnderstanding what you're moving towards — and what you might be moving away fromThe difference between wanting to leave and not wanting to be aloneHow a relationship ending can change the future you imaginedWhy you don't have to make every decision foreverListening to your gut while considering practical realitiesChoosing the life you want now, rather than trying to recreate the pastRecognising the strength you've already demonstratedTrusting yourself to handle whatever comes next.──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────👑 THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREATWhat do you really want?Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper. What do you really desire?On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for an immersive day to get honest about what they really want, recognise where they've been thinking themselves away from it and move from “I want…” to “I intend…”With breathwork, hypnosis, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards, this is a day to stop keeping what you want hypothetical.I know what I want.I trust myself enough to back it.And I know what I'm doing next.Places are limited to 12.There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MOREYou've thought about it enough. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Two Hard Choices01:08 Listener Voice Note01:55 Pros Cons And Gut03:58 Familiarity And Fear05:49 Home Is Internal07:17 Nothing Is Forever09:05 Trust Yourself To Choose10:14 Retreat Invitation11:20 Ask Why You Moved12:46 Identity And Future Self13:57 You Can Handle Next15:44 Key Takeaways And Wrap.

Get in touch with us! What if self-trust isn't having the answer - but knowing you'll be OK without one?Karen had built the life she was supposed to want.  A successful corporate career. A life in Dubai. Marriage. Friends. Career progression.On paper, plenty of boxes were ticked, but underneath it all was a feeling she couldn't quite explain:This cannot be it. After losing her dad just three weeks after getting married, Karen spent years struggling to acknowledge what had happened. Eventually, that experience became part of a much bigger journey back to herself - one that would lead her through health coaching, transformational coaching and ultimately to leaving her corporate career and building Inner Flow Coaching. In this conversation, we talk about what happens when you stop assuming everybody else knows better than you do.  About becoming a mum and realising you can't keep measuring a completely new version of yourself against the woman you were before.  About allowing your identity to evolve and about the freedom in realising that trusting yourself doesn't mean having your whole life figured out.Sometimes self-trust is simply knowing: whatever comes, I can handle it.In this episode:Why we unconsciously give other people's opinions more authority than our ownBuilding a successful life and still wondering, “Is this it?”Grief, loss and Karen's journey back to herselfThe role hypnotherapy played in reconnecting with herselfWhy fear and intuition can exist at the same timeWhat self-trust actually looks like when you don't know what's nextLeaving corporate life to build Inner Flow CoachingMotherhood and the trap of comparing yourself to who you were beforeAllowing your identity to evolve as your life changesWhy you don't need to have everything figured out to help somebody elseVulnerability, potential and the pressure women feel to be everythingWhy “I don't know” can sometimes be a way of hiding from the answerWhich version of you is currently driving your decisionsKaren's 60-Second Reignmaker Shift for reconnecting with your own answer.  ──────────────────────── ✦ ──────────────────────── THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREATDo you know what you really desire?Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper.What do you really want?And what happens when you think about it?Does something light up... and then your very persuasive brain gives you seventeen perfectly sensible reasons why maybe now isn't the right time?On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for one immersive day to get honest about what you really desire, notice where you've been thinking yourself away from it and move from:“I want...” to “I intend...”There'll be breathwork with Abi, hypnosis with Dolina, brilliant women, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards to help you keep moving towards what you chose.Our intention is that you leave able to say:I know what I want.I trust myself enough to back it.And I know what I'm doing next.There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MOREYou've thought about it enough. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Connect with Karen: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-weibrecht-69baa6a6/Website: innerflow-coaching.com  Insta: karen_innerflowcoach 1Workshop on 21.10.2026 at 11AM Dubai time: ‘Why do I keep getting in my own way?’ You’re ready for change. Get clear on what’s been stopping you and take your next step forward. Registration link: https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/YZc9EGJPSV6SWUJvOiuiUw Karen is a certified transformational coach, NLP Practitioner and founder of InnerFlow Coaching. After 14 years working in international companies, she now supports ambitious women to see what they’re truly capable of. Built on the conviction that lasting change starts from within, InnerFlow helps women recognise the patterns shaping their choices, trust themselves more and turn awareness into action. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Trust Yourself Theme00:58 Meet Karen Inner Flow01:28 Stop Seeking Answers02:49 Success But Empty03:01 Dad's Death After Wedding05:03 Childhood With Dad07:25 Two Worlds Dubai Germany08:08 Grief Shutdown And Healing11:15 Hypnotherapy Breakthrough12:15 Why Self Trust Fades13:11 Intuition Versus Fear15:38 Quitting Corporate Leap17:27 Motherhood Identity Shift21:02 Evolving Identity And Growth23:06 Trusting Life Now24:37 Breaking Old Patterns25:24 Stop Playing Small27:03 Power of Vulnerability29:17 Women and Many Roles32:18 Parts Work and Inner Voices33:50 Rapid Fire Questions38:29 Why Dubai and Home41:05 60 Second Shift Exercise44:35 Self Trust Through Small Wins46:49 Wrap Up and Key Takeaways

Get in touch with us! What if nobody has rejected you yet... because you haven't given them the chance?Our first Over to You message comes from a woman who knows exactly what she wants.She's an artist. She's spent the last year and a half building and perfecting a website to sell her work. The paintings are ready. The website is ready.But instead of telling people about it, she's finding more reasons to wait.Because once people can see the work, they can judge it.They can say no.They might not buy.And somewhere along the way, she realised she'd found a way to protect herself from that possibility: reject herself first.  In this episode, we unpack what happens when preparation becomes protection, why your brain wants evidence before taking the very action that could create it and how easily we can create problems at step 17 to avoid taking step one.We also explore the difference between appearing confident and actually feeling safe to be seen and why you don't need to become somebody else in order to put yourself out there. Because you might not know whether they'll say yes.But you need to stop saying no on their behalf.  In this episode:Why rejecting yourself can feel safer than risking somebody else doing itWhen preparation becomes a very convincing form of hidingWhy you can't collect evidence without letting yourself be seenTurning one rejection into evidence that you're the problemAppearing confident vs actually feeling safe to be visibleCreating problems at step 17 to avoid taking step oneWhy certainty doesn't mean knowing everything will workMoving from “I'd love that” to “I intend to build that”Courage before confidenceThe one move that creates the possibility of a real response──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREATDo you know what you really desire?Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper.What do you really want?And what happens when you think about it?Does something light up... and then your very persuasive brain gives you seventeen perfectly sensible reasons why maybe now isn't the right time?On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for one immersive day to get honest about what you really desire, notice where you've been thinking yourself away from it and move from:“I want...” to “I intend...”There'll be breathwork with Abi, hypnosis with Dolina, brilliant women, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards to help you keep moving towards what you chose.Our intention is that you leave able to say:I know what I want.I trust myself enough to back it.And I know what I'm doing next.There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MOREYou've thought about it enough. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome Back00:16 Over To You Format01:11 Artist Afraid To Launch02:33 Self Rejection Loop03:49 Control And Vulnerability06:38 Self Trust Over Evidence08:18 Gallery Rejection Reframe09:27 Visibility For Introverts11:05 From Desire To Intention12:47 Planning Versus Hiding15:03 Future Problems Trap16:09 One Brave Move17:30 Retreat Invitation19:34 Fear Of Success21:23 Closing And Call In.

Get in touch with us! What if the opinion you've been listening to most... shouldn't be theirs?Starling was once told she couldn't sing.She went on to become a signed singer-songwriter, tour with huge artists, work with Grammy-winning songwriters and reach millions of listeners.But this conversation goes somewhere much deeper than proving somebody wrong.Starling joins us for an incredibly open conversation about what happens when other people's words become part of the way you see yourself - and what it takes to rewrite that story.We talk about growing up without emotional safety, low self-worth, healing, money, nervous-system work and why becoming truly comfortable in your own skin can change everything.We also explore the pressure women feel to improve themselves, the difference between doing something from love versus doing it to become more lovable, what authenticity can cost you, and why you don't have to squeeze every part of yourself into one neat identity.  Pasted textBecause perhaps the goal isn't becoming someone more worthy.Perhaps it's remembering that you already were.In this episode:Being told you can't do something and deciding whether you believe itHow low self-worth can infiltrate every area of your lifeWhy emotional safety mattersHealing without staying trapped in blameBeing both a masterpiece and a work in progressDoing the same thing for completely different reasonsWhy feeling at home in yourself is magneticWhat becoming more authentic can cost youTrusting yourself through periods of uncertaintyWhy other people's opinions don't get to define your identityRefusing to choose one box when you're made for more than one thingBecoming committed to the woman you decide to be.  ──────────────────────── ✦ ──────────────────────── THE REIGN WHEN IT'S RAINING RETREATDo you know what you really desire?Not what you should want. Not what makes sense on paper.What do you really want?And what happens when you think about it?Does something light up... and then your very persuasive brain gives you seventeen perfectly sensible reasons why maybe now isn't the right time?On Sunday 15 November, just 12 women will join us at The Spa Hotel in Tunbridge Wells for one immersive day to get honest about what you really desire, notice where you've been thinking yourself away from it and move from:“I want...” to “I intend...”There'll be breathwork with Abi, hypnosis with Dolina, brilliant women, two hours in the Wellness Suite and seven days of support afterwards to help you keep moving towards what you chose.Our intention is that you leave able to say:I know what I want.I trust myself enough to back it.And I know what I'm doing next.There are only 12 places, and bookings are open now.👉 BOOK YOUR PLACE / FIND OUT MOREYou've thought about it enough. ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────Connect with Starling: Website: https://www.starlingsworld.com/Insta: starlingsworld ──────────────────────── ✦ ────────────────────────📥 Resources & Next Steps💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns If you're a woman who knows she's made for more but keeps hesitating, overthinking or doubting herself, join our free weekly newsletter, She Reigns.Every week we share honest conversations, practical mindset shifts and reflections to help you trust yourself and take action. 🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, please share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got something you've been going round in circles about? A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13? A situation you're simply too close to see clearly?Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.You can stay completely anonymous. If you send a voice message, just let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.You don't need a beautifully worded question.Just tell us what's going on. ──────────────────────── ✦ ──────────────────────── Episode Time Stamps:00:00 Not Good Enough01:13 Instant Connection02:15 Career Highlights03:12 Earl Grey Ritual03:33 Pandemic Pivot04:55 Told You Cant Sing05:28 Childhood Survival Mode06:17 Drama School Doubts08:39 Self Worth Spiral10:47 Therapy And Safety12:24 Somatics And Coaching14:19 Turning Point Story18:31 Breaking Generational Cycles20:01 Beliefs Shape Reality20:55 Heart Coherence Power21:27 Science of Visualization22:27 Why Women Feel Not Enough24:11 Masterpiece vs Progress25:57 Retreat Invitation27:32 Creator Mindset29:08 Abundance Over Competition31:27 Magnetism of Realness35:23 Trust the Unfolding39:16 Don’t Die With Dreams40:18 Owning Many Identities41:58 Write Your New Story42:39 Key Takeaways and Farewell

Get in touch with us! We've done a lot of talking. Now it's over to you.For more than two years, we've shared our lives, asked our guests the questions we wanted answers to and talked about the things so many of us navigate behind closed doors.But some of the most powerful conversations we have in real life don't start with a topic.They start with:"Can I ask you something?"A message you don't know how to take.A friendship you're wondering if you've outgrown.A job that looks right on paper but doesn't feel right.A decision you've made 12 times and talked yourself out of 13.Or simply something that's been going round and round in your head for so long that you're too close to it to see it clearly anymore.And that's why Series Five is going to be a little different.🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Send us the real-life situation you're navigating and we might talk it through in a future episode.It doesn't need to be dramatic.It doesn't need to be beautifully worded.You don't even need to know what your question is.Just tell us what's going on.At the top of these show notes, tap the underlined “Get in touch with us!” link.You can: ✍️ Send us a written message  🎙️ Leave a voice message of up to 60 seconds  👑 Ask to remain completely anonymous  🔊 Tell us you're happy for your voice message to be played on the podcast - or ask us to read your situation instead.  And if you change your mind after sending it, just send us another message and tell us.There is no right way to do this. We just want to hear from you.──────── ✦ ────────The end of Series Four 💛We're taking a short end-of-summer break before returning with Series Five.We've already got some brilliant women lined up, plenty that Mum and I want to talk about together and this time we want more of your voices in those conversations too.Thank you for listening, sharing, messaging and being here with us.We'll see you on the other side.Keep reigning when it's raining 👑

Get in touch with us! 🎙️ OVER TO YOUTell us what's going on. We'll tell you what we see.Got a situation you can't stop thinking about? A decision you're going round in circles over? Something you're too close to see clearly?Send it to us for a future episode of Over to You.Tap “Get in touch with us!” above 👆 to send us a written message or leave us a voice message of up to 60 seconds.Want to stay anonymous? Absolutely. Just tell us in your message.If you're sending a voice message, please also let us know whether you're happy for us to play your voice on the podcast, or whether you'd prefer us to share your situation anonymously.Then leave it with us. We'll tell you what we see. ──────── ✦ ──────── How many things in your life currently have a fictional future date attached to them?When you've got more money.When you're more confident.When work is quieter.When you feel ready.When Sam Lucking discovered breathwork, she knew almost immediately that she wanted more. There was training in May and another course in October.She chose October.Not consciously because she was scared  - October simply felt more sensible.Until a friend asked:"Why October?"In this week's episode, Sam joins us to talk about what happened when she stopped pushing the life she wanted into the future and started making changes while she was still scared.From redundancy after eight years in a career that had become part of her identity, to retraining in coaching, sound therapy and breathwork, Sam's story is about far more than changing jobs.It's about questioning the timelines we create, finding yourself again later in life, letting go of who you thought you had to be and trusting the nudges that keep telling you there's something more.We talk about: Why putting something in the future can feel like making a decision  The question that made Sam realise she was delaying something she already wanted  Losing a career identity after redundancy  Starting again in your 50s  The difference between being sensible and staying safe  Discovering parts of yourself you'd previously dismissed  Why getting older can make it easier to stop caring what everybody thinks  The childhood experience Sam now recognises behind her need to be "the nice girl"  Asking for more without explaining or apologising  Finding purpose alongside financial security  Learning to trust what you know in your gut.  ──────── ✦ ──────── 🎧 The Self-Trust CollectionIf you've spent years second-guessing yourself, waiting until you feel ready or talking yourself of something you knew you wanted...The conversation.The opportunity.The next step.The version of yourself you've been imagining for months... or even years.The Self-Trust Collection was created for you.Three powerful guided hypnotherapy audios to help you:• Release self-doubt• Build lasting self-trust• Expand your money mindsetQuiet the self-doubt, trust yourself again and finally back the woman you've been becoming all along.Because you've thought about it enough.👉https://selftrust.reignwhenitsraining.com/ ──────── ✦ ──────── Connect with Sam: Sam Lucking is a Breathwork Facilitator, Sound Practitioner and qualified Coach and connection has always been at the heart of what she does. In her mid fifties, discovering breathwork, sound and coaching opened up a completely new chapter and ultimately led to the creation of Unbound Breathwork & Sound.Sam create spaces for people to slow down, reconnect with themselves and experience the power of their own breath.She's comfortable with emotion, endlessly curious about people, and believes some of the most powerful shifts happen when we stop trying quite so hard and simply give ourselves space to notice what’s already there.If something you’ve heard today has sparked your curiosity find Sam at Unbound Breathwork & Sound on Instagram. Instagram: @unbound_breathworkandsound   ──────── ✦ ──────── 📥 Resources & Next Steps If you enjoy the podcast, here’s where to go next:  💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns - every Friday we share reflections, practical tools and behind-the-scenes insights to help you stop overthinking, trust yourself more and take meaningful action.🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Connect with us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If you enjoyed this episode, share it or leave a review - it helps more women like you find us! ──────── ✦ ──────── Time Stamps:00:00 Samshine Intro00:07 Why Wait Till October02:39 Fear And Overthinking04:25 Friends Who Nudge05:53 Self Trust Vs Proof06:15 Redundancy And Anxiety08:29 Identity After Job Loss11:06 Learning New Callings13:27 Breathwork Breakthrough15:21 Holistic Work Explained17:56 Becoming Unapologetic19:12 Old Wounds And Healing21:22 Purpose Over Safety23:21 Certainty And Security25:47 Rapid Fire Questions27:16 Do It Now Advice29:11 Closing Trust Yourself

Get in touch with us! You're doing the work. So where are the results?There comes a point when showing up without seeing evidence starts to mess with your head.Maybe you're applying for jobs and hearing nothing back.Training consistently but not seeing the change you expected.Trying to build something you deeply believe in... and wondering why nobody else seems to see it yet.In this week's episode we get honest about what happens in the gap between effort and evidence,  including what we've been experiencing since launching The Self-Trust Collection.They explore the difference between self-trust and evidence-trust, why confidence often arrives after the proof, and the much harder question:Can you keep backing yourself before reality has caught up?In this episode: Why doing everything "right" doesn't guarantee immediate evidence  The difference between self-trust and evidence-trust  Why lack of results doesn't automatically mean you're on the wrong path  How uncertainty can masquerade as self-doubt  Why persistence requires something confidence can't give you  How to decide whether something genuinely isn't working or simply hasn't worked yet Why the hardest part of self-trust happens after the brave decision.💛 The Self-Trust CollectionIf you recognise yourself in this episode - constantly looking outside yourself for the proof that you're doing the right thing - The Self-Trust Collection was created to help you strengthen the relationship you have with yourself.Inside are three guided hypnotherapy audios created by Dolina:Release Self-Doubt Build Self-Trust Expand Your Money MindsetDesigned to help you work with the subconscious patterns behind second-guessing, hesitation and the need for external reassurance, so you can start backing yourself from the inside out.You've thought about it enough.👉https://selftrust.reignwhenitsraining.com/ Time Stamps: 00:00 Pantiles Protest Spark00:19 When Effort Feels Futile01:45 Launching Self Trust02:31 Effort Versus Evidence03:29 20 Years of Belief04:55 Uncertainty and Persistence05:43 When to Keep Going07:24 Stories of Not Quitting08:51 Daily Practice of Trust10:16 Closing the Gap📥 Resources & Next Steps If you enjoy the podcast, here’s where to go next:  💌 Join our newsletter She Reigns - every Friday we share reflections, practical tools and behind-the-scenes insights to help you stop overthinking, trust yourself more and take meaningful action.🎧 Explore more episodes of How to Reign When it’s Raining 📲 Follow us on Instagram: @reignwhenitsraining  ⭐️ If this episode reminded you of someone who's in the messy middle right now, send it to her. If you enjoyed this episode please leave a review - it helps more women like you find us!