How to Handle Negative Reactions When You Speak Up

Men comprise over 90% of the CEOs in the U.S.—so how do we help them become allies in the vital pursuit of workplace equality? Rather than dismissing the defensiveness that sometimes arises in men who believe promoting more women to power means taking theirs away, Wendy Wallbridge uses her platform to change the narrative. She teaches tech companies how to create cultures of belonging and strategies for workplace equality, with a focus on equipping men as allies. Her strategies show next-generation business leaders that the right approach to equality lifts everyone up: the employee, the executive, and the company.Discover how both men and women leaders can pursue gender equality in the workplace, including:The very real benefits of gender equality for men in positions of power;Why emotional intelligence is the leadership skill of the future;The three biggest challenges facing women and non-binary people in the workplace;How to use micro-interventions to improve inequality in the corporate world.Related Links:Learn more about the Spiral Up program - https://spiralup.com/Order Spiraling Upward: The 5 Co-Creative Powers for Women on the Rise - https://spiralup.com/book/Read Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez -https://bookshop.org/p/books/invisible-women-data-bias-in-a-world-designed-for-men-caroline-criado-perez/15136602Bossed Up Ep 452: Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452Level Up: A Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Earlier this year, the FTC put forth a ruling that would ban non-compete agreements nationwide. But last month, a Texas federal court blocked this endeavor, leaving workers in limbo while the Supreme Court considers taking up the issue next. In today’s episode, I explore what’s going on and why there is still hope for a new path forward to defeat non-compete agreements for good.Get the latest details on this recent workers’ rights development:Why the lack of a federal ban isn’t the end of the story;Where the power to prevent harmful non-competes lies now;What we as citizens can do to foster fair policies for workers.Related Links:Episode 459, Why Non-Compete Agreements Can No Longer Derail Your Career - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode459Economic Innovation Group’s State Non-Compete Law Tracker - https://eig.org/state-noncompete-map/Axios: The Future Of The Noncompete Ban Isn't Totally Bleak - https://www.axios.com/2024/08/23/noncompete-ban-statesTAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Growth mindset is a hot topic these days. We hear a lot about how important it is to approach life and work open to learning, changing, and growing. This concept is often focused on the individual, but my guest today centers her research on how to build a workplace culture that fosters a growth mindset for all.Mary C. Murphy is a professor of psychological and brain sciences at Indiana University and a protege of mindset scholar Carol Dweck. During her PhD, she began to explore the potential for cultures of growth to create learning organizations. Mary and I explore the research and practice behind how employees and leaders alike can start transforming their organizations with growth in mind.Discover how cultures of growth build better businesses for all, including:How to identify the current mindset culture of your workplace;The difference between cultures of growth and cultures of genius;How to circumvent mindset triggers with mindful feedback;The huge impact of cultures of growth on diversity and equity.Related Links:Mary’s book “Cultures of Growth” - https://marycmurphy.com/cultures-of-growth/Take the Mindset Triggers Assessment - https://marycmurphy.com/resource/mindset-triggers-assessment/Take the Mindset Culture Assessment - https://marycmurphy.com/resource/mindset-culture-assessment/Connect with Mary on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-murphy-2b4a70235/Episode 452, Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy -  https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ 

What do you think of when you hear the term “glass cliff”? I have been pondering this concept for a while, especially in light of the upcoming election. In today’s episode, I share my thoughts on the problems, and potential opportunities, inherent in the social construct that so often presents women with their opportunity to lead only when the ship is sinking. If you have ever sought or been offered a promotion that seems a bit doomed to fail, this episode is for you.Consider the glass cliff on your way through the glass ceiling as we explore:The origin of this term and the research that backs it up;The potential dangers of accepting a leadership role in a crumbling company;The potential opportunity waiting within this gender-biased blind spot.Related Links:Episode 465, What Kamala’s Candidacy Means for Women Leaders - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode465New York Times, When That Promotion is Really a ‘Glass Cliff’ - https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/12/business/glass-cliff-effect.htmlHarvard Business Review, How Women End Up on the “Glass Cliff” - https://hbr.org/2011/01/how-women-end-up-on-the-glass-cliffKathryn Kincaid’s thesis, Why Can Why Can’t a Woman Fail Like a Man? - https://digitalcommons.butler.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1401&context=ugthesesLEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ 

What individual, organizational, and policy changes will help us transform the daily grind into the good life? The conversation around work-life balance and women in the workplace can feel stalled. You might speak out and speak up about the problems and inequity you see every day, yet insufficient individual solutions remain the most common recommendations. This lack of progress highlights a widespread systemic problem.Brigid Schulte has quite literally written the book on what’s up with our ongoing struggle to balance a good life with a sustainable career. Her latest book, Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life, is available today! Brigid joins me to discuss what her research has revealed about our continuing struggle to make work actually work for us.Learn what needs to happen to transform our hustle culture into something healthier, including:The declining of the American Dream;Why we need to look beyond paid labor when we talk about “work”;The importance of good middle management;Where the U.S. should look for policy inspiration.Related Links:Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life - https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250801722/overworkOverwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time - https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250062383/overwhelmedDiscover More About Brigid - https://www.brigidschulte.com/Connect with Brigid on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brigidschulteLearn More About the Better Life Lab - https://www.newamerica.org/better-life-lab/The Economic Policy Institute’s Productivity Pay Gap - https://www.epi.org/productivity-pay-gap/Harvard Business School Study - https://www.hbs.edu/managing-the-future-of-work/Documents/The_Caring_Company.pdfThe Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together by Heather McGhee - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-sum-of-us-what-racism-costs-everyone-and-how-we-can-prosper-together-heather-mcghee/14618549?ean=9780525509585Workism Is Making Americans Miserable by Derek Thompson - https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/religion-workism-making-americans-miserable/583441/The Story of Work: A New History of Humankind by Jan Lucassen - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-story-of-work-a-new-history-of-humankind-jan-lucassen/18399262?ean=9780300267068Episode 452, Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode452Episode 440, The Problem With Self-Help - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode440Episode 468, Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode456TAKE ACTION with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

How do you handle the sting of being passed over for a promotion? Unfortunately, for ambitious women, this frustrating experience tends to be part of the package deal. We’re always pushing ourselves outside our comfort zones—so, of course we won’t get every opportunity we go after. In this episode, I share how to manage the emotional aftermath of this normal but distressing experience without losing your drive.Tackle these three tips for coming out on top after a promotion pass-over:Why you need to let yourself feel all the feelings;How to get clear on what your career future looks like now;When it’s time to think about moving on.Related Links:Episode 323, How To Lead With Emotional Intelligence - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode323Episode 295, How to Make Career Progress in the New Year - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode295The Progress Principle, Harvard Business Review - https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=40692Permission To Feel: The Power Of Emotional Intelligence To Achieve Well-Being And Success by Marc Brackett, Ph.D. - https://bookshop.org/p/books/permission-to-feel-unlocking-the-power-of-emotions-to-help-our-kids-ourselves-and-our-society-thrive-marc-brackett/9879244?ean=9781250212832LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you navigate grief in the workplace in an empathic and supportive way? We all experience loss, and we might default to assuming the only place for grief is in the home. The truth is that a loss permeates every aspect of our lives, sometimes for years or even decades, and it certainly crosses into the workplace. Krista St-Germain experienced a devastating loss in 2016 when her husband was killed by an impaired driver. That trauma propelled her into grief, then therapy, then research. Today, she is the founder of the Mom Goes On group coaching program and the host of the Widowed Mom podcast. She shares her hard-won wisdom on what we need to know about grief and how to navigate it in the workplace, both for ourselves and in support of others.Question your assumptions about grief and learn to better support yourself or others who are navigating it, including:How we’ve come to misunderstand the grieving process;The role time plays when we are healing from a loss;How to navigate interactions with grieving coworkers;The possibilities of life beyond grieving and post-traumatic growth.Related Links:Learn more about Krista’s work - https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Follow Krista on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Connect with Krista on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaThe Widowed Mom Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-grieving-brain-the-surprising-science-of-how-we-learn-from-love-and-loss-mary-frances-o-connor/16976128?ean=9780062946249Report from the Death Studies Journal on the Dual Process Model - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10848151/Brené Brown - Silver Linings Clip - https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-death-dying-what-the-dying-have-to-teach-doctors-nurses-clergy-their-own-families-elisabeth-kubler-ross/9165298?ean=9781476775548On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-grief-grieving-finding-the-meaning-of-grief-through-the-five-stages-of-loss-david-kessler/6699869?ean=9781476775555Episode 468: Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies

Deloitte recently released their 2024 Women @ Work report, which surveyed 5,000 women across 10 countries. In this episode, I highlight three unexpected trends that warrant further discussion and that I plan to explore in upcoming episodes of this podcast. Explore the state of work for women around the world:What does the study have to say about women’s rights overall?How does new intel about burnout reflect a change in workplace mental health programs?How are issues impacting older women at work finally getting long-overdue attention?Related Links:Read the Deloitte Women @ Work 2024 report - https://www.deloitte.com/content/dam/assets-shared/docs/collections/2024/deloitte-women-at-work-2024-a-global-outlook.pdfTake Action with Bossed Up - https://www.bossedup.org/takeactionBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

How do you balance caring for your aging parents and your career without burning out? We organize so much in our lives, from our workdays to our childcare. The care of our aging parents or other loved ones, however, can blindside the best of us. When this responsibility suddenly falls into your lap while you’re in the thick of leveling up your career, staying on top of daily expectations, and maybe even raising young children, what do you do?Liz O’Donnell was faced with this situation, and after more than a decade in the field, she is a recognized expert on working while caregiving. She is the founder of Working Daughters, which supports women balancing elder care on top of their careers and all the other demands of adult life, and the author of Working Daughter: A Guide to Care for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living. In this episode, she shares her wealth of knowledge about navigating elder care without losing yourself.Discover what to expect if you find yourself caring for an aging loved one, including:Why we aren’t talking more about this widespread issue;Where policy and workplace elder care support are lacking and how they could improve;How to integrate elder care into your life with compassion for yourself;Why a post-caregiving plan can give you back a sense of control and purpose.Related Links:Connect with Liz on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz3point0/Find resources on Working Daughter.com - https://workingdaughter.com/Implement the Caregiving Basics - https://workingdaughter.com/caregiving-basics/Order “Working Daughter: A Guide to Care for Your Aging Parents While Making a Living” - https://workingdaughter.com/book-2/U.S. Department of Labor, “Older Women and Unpaid Caregiving in the U.S.” - https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/WB/WBIssueBrief-OlderWomenAndUnpaidCaregiving.pdfDeloitte “Women @ Work 2024” Study - https://www.deloitte.com/content/dam/assets-shared/docs/collections/2024/deloitte-women-at-work-2024-a-global-outlook.pdf?dl=1“The Crisis Facing America's Working Daughters” by Liz O’Donnell - https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/02/working-daughters-eldercare/459249/The Wall Street Journal, “When Caring for Your Parents Comes at a Cost to Your Career” - https://www.wsj.com/health/wellness/elder-care-parents-workers-e1fa53f9?mod=world_whatsnews_pos3The Working Daughter Bill of Rights - https://workingdaughter.com/working-daughter-bill-rights/Episode 466, How Gen X Navigates Career Change -  https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode466McKinsey & Co. Women in the Workplace Report - https://www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/diversity-and-inclusion/women-in-the-workplaceLevel Up: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/

Our world is still conflicted about whether or not it likes assertive women. In recent months, I have received both positive and negative feedback about my outspokenness. When I’m confronted with the opinion that my assertive approach to communication might leave a poor taste in people’s mouths, I still have to fight the urge to hide or get defensive, but I have developed a few skills that make these interactions more productive.The road to owning your voice and raising it confidently when you have something to say can be a long one, especially if you were raised to keep quiet. In this episode, I lay out three tips to help you navigate the situation the next time someone gives you negative feedback about your communication style.Challenge yourself to start putting these tips into action. Listen now to learn:Why it’s better to ask for more information than to get defensive;How to decide whose feedback really matters;Why you don’t have to act on all the feedback you receive.Related Links:Read “The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-courage-to-be-disliked-the-japanese-phenomenon-that-shows-you-how-to-change-your-life-and-achieve-real-happiness-ichiro-kishimi/6691584Get Emilie’s book, “Bossed Up: A Grown Woman's Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together” - https://www.bossedup.org/bookSPEAK UP: An Assertive Communication Course- https://www.bossedup.org/speakupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/