A Mental Makeover

It's Mental Health May and I am starting off with insane statistics:ONE BILLION PEOPLE world wide are suffering with a mental health issue!!*This means 1 in 8 people are suffering. 800 THOUSAND PEOPLE commit suicide each year.**Mental health is critical to your over all health and I want to help YOU and those around you learn every day tools to regulate your emotions. We can link arms and help each other in this mental health crisis starting with this episode. *This study includes a wide variety of mental health issues. **This episode includes topics that some may find sensitive. If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health and needs immediate support, help is availabl. Speak with someone today using the # 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. Dial 988.—Do you get my weekly email?? Come join the party:https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62472584b3be600de2a271feLet’s follow each other on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/stacidanford/?hl=en Download your FREE Emotion Wheel Here  https://view.flodesk.com/emails/635084004df020ce04fe456b

Are apologies really necessary after we hurt someone?YES!There IS a right and wrong way to apologize according to our brains. A sincere apology changes brain activity and an insincere apology actually creates more damage!When we feel emotional hurt, from mean social media comments, to road rage, to relationship abuse, it lights up our brains the same way physical pain would. When we get hurt, or hurt someone else, we judge others on the actions that they took that hurt us, while we judge ourselves on what our intention or meaning was. Have you ever caught yourself saying:Oh, I didn’t mean to do that… That’s not what I meant to have happen… My intention wasn’t to do…. If you’re in a relationship you will most likely get hurt as well as hurt someone… which is why it is so important to understand what our brains do when hurt happens. I have a simple tool that will help you navigate your hurt, apologize “correctly” and move forward together, stronger after HURT. 

Our minds do this ONE thing so quickly and we don’t even realize it. Have you ever spent time thinking about a choice or decision you made in the past and your brain flips a switch and thinks about how that single choice impacted your future?Have you ever thought…What if?What could have been?Things would be so different if I had… Etc, etc, etc.There is a part of your brain that loves to walk down memory lane and also fast forward to the future in a mater of seconds. What this actually does, is rob us of living in the moment and leads to the feelings of regret. I am teaching you my 3 F Words to step out of regret and into the present so that you can treasure the moments you have NOW and let go because of the things that DIDN’T happen back then. 

First a HUGE thank you to YOU for sharing, liking, and reviewing this podcast! We hit a giant goal at the time of recording this and that is all due to you!! If you haven't had a chance yet, I would love to hear your thoughts and you can write them all out, right here:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mental-makeover/id1625928488Now let's get into it. Has your manifesting failed? Are your mantras leaving you high and dry? Here's Why: A little bit of neuroscience is going to show you the controversy behind these two popular practices.Are they real? Are they backed by science?Do they even work?Have you created a vision board that didn't come to fruition?Feeling frustrated? Here's the secret: You are wasting your time because your brain has it's own belief system and does not always believe you...or those mantras you are saying. If your brain does not believe you, your mantras, meditations, manifestations, are not going to do ANYTHING at all. But there's a solution and I am going to show you.  

Beware the M's of MarchAre mantras, motivations, and manifestations all MADE UP?Are you either born with motivation or born without it?Can you build it and grow it like a skill?I was surprised by the answer to these questions and share them with you. Lacking motivation is not a failure. There are reasons our brains have a hard time being motivated for things we simply don't want to do, find hard, or are stuck in. There are two things that dominate your levels of motivation and I am sharing them both with you in this episode plus simple things you can do in your daily life to encourage yourself to stick to your goals, plans, and schedule. Looking to lose 10 pounds?Wanting to launch a course?Hoping to start a new morning routine?Let's take it one step at a time beginning with your motivation.Do you get my weekly email?? Come join the party:https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62472584b3be600de2a271feLet’s follow each other on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/stacidanford/?hl=en Download your FREE Emotion Wheel Here: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/635084004df020ce04fe456bGrab your Find One Good Thing Journal Here:https://www.stacidanford.com/shop/p/find-one-good-thingDownload your FREE 30 Day Habit Tracker Here:https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63502e63e39982440049a077

I had no idea that parenting was going to be such a hot topic!!!And… surely wasn’t expecting to hear the incredible questions from you.I didn’t know how many important lessons we could all learn from children.Question after question flooded my DM’s since starting the first episode in this parenting series and I want to share some of the answers I emailed to those parents with YOU. Plus I’m giving you the TOP 10 things we should NEVER say to our kids (some of which may just surprise you) and the 10 things we should say instead. P.S. I have personally messed up on ALL 10 of them!!!!

Meet the love of my life… my oldest son, Brent. Today you get to meet the first person I ever loved. The one who taught me what real love, unconditional love, looked and felt like. Brent is my first born son. Even at 33 years old my heart bubbles and my entire world lights up when he walks into a room. My deep thinking child sat in the podcast chair totally unprepared, unrehearsed and uninformed because I wanted the raw truth from him as I asked the hard questions. Things like:How did my divorce impact your childhood?Where do you think I messed up?How did you move past the tough times?What lessons did you take with you now that you’re an adult, father, husband, and coach?And of course, I had to ask what brain lessons he has taken with him along the way. It isn’t always easy to hear your child tell you the pain they went through, especially when you may have been part of the reason. But, from my mom heart to yours, there are SO many lessons we can learn from our children if we go deep enough to ask the tough question, and are willing to hear the answers. This interview is full of wisdom from my boy who is now a man. 

I've had some husbands. I have some sons. But I only have ONE girl. Meet my daughter, Brooklyn. The 29 year old joy, bubbles, tell it like it is part of my life. She is my laughter and the sparkles that keep me on my toes. This wild & free girl shared her heart with me about: the hardest things she faced growing up, the things she wished had been different, and even the things she wants do differently as a mom herself.But with each question she answered I felt so proud to be talking with her because when I asked her what she hoped to bring to her own version of motherhood (that I’d passed along), she said; “I hope to instill unconditional love. I want to show that mama is going to be there, no matter what.”So, if you’ve ever wondered if you've screwed up your kid’s life, remember….LOVE conquers all. Even though mother / daughter relationships can be hard and female relationships, as a whole, are just plain tricky, this one is special. And, when this interview ended, I took a deep breath and knew that maybe I'd done okay.If you are the mom, or you are the daughter, or if you have a special GIRL in your life, I can’t wait to see what this episode brings up for you. 

God’s funny little joke: Having a baby at 41…. Which turned out to be the gift of my life time. Have you ever done something and thought- “This is going to be what sends my kid to therapy…Me too. I’v thought that about 1,000 times. This week’s episode has a very special guest:My youngest son Brady aka: The gift of my life time. The VERY surprise baby who joined my life in my 40’s… God’s funny little joke. If you sat down and asked your child, “What is the hardest thing you’ve had to go through?” Would your heart be ready for the answer?? We talk divorce, step parents, moves, having multiple father figures, and everything I “did” to help or hinder him in the past 15 years. A little tears, a little laughter and a lot of honest, introducing Brady Danford my next guest.

Why are we ALWAYS wanting more??Why does the spark fizzle out on new things so fast??  Including in relationships...Why do we want something SOO bad and once we have it, we lose interest?? It’s a human thing we are all experiencing but why? And how do we combat it?? How do those feelings relate to why goals might actually be setting us up for failure?? It’s the why episode and I am answering it all with science + brain patterns. The simple answer? We’re just wired this way. The solution? That’s what I can’t wait to share with you.