Why People Pleasing Happens (And How To Stop)

People pleasing often looks kind on the surface. But over time it can lead to exhaustion, resentment - and burnout. In this episode, I explore why people pleasing develops in the first place and why it’s rooted in a childhood strategy to secure love and approval. More importantly, I share a different way of working with the pattern. Instead of trying to force yourself to “stop”, the real shift comes from recognising the deeper fear driving it and learning how to meet that feeling directly. When you do, something surprising happens: the pattern begins to soften, and the approval you’ve been chasing outside yourself becomes far less important. If you struggle to say no, overcommit, or feel responsible for other people’s emotions, this episode will help you understand why - and what actually leads to lasting change.To explore this work more deeply, you can book a free 15 minute 1:1 consultation here: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-call Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why does it sometimes feel like something's still missing - even after deep insight?In this short episode, Simon explores the hidden motivations behind the search for awakening, the role of self-worth in seeking, and why surrender matters more than chasing another breakthrough. To explore this work more deeply, you can book a free 15 minute 1:1 consultation here: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-call Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Alex and I share a five-month update since my awakening experience - and how it’s actually showing up in our relationship. One of the biggest misconceptions about spiritual awakening is that it removes triggers or makes you permanently peaceful. That hasn’t been our experience.We talk honestly about what’s changed, what hasn’t, and how old relational patterns still surface - but are met differently. We also share some news about upcoming retreats and what we’re building next.Free 15 minute 1:1 coaching consultation: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-callWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnHCpGupiasFollow Alex: https://www.instagram.com/iamalexandrawilby/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Click here to explore 1:1 coaching with me: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-callWhy awakening feels lonely - and what that loneliness reveals about love, approval, and the end of push-pull dynamics00:00 Awakening can feel lonely02:03 Approval is not love03:00 Push Pull in relationships05:50 Losing relationships06:55 Loneliness isn't a problem07:20 Waking up is not Growing up Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everything is either an expression of love, or a call for love - including anger.Watch this on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0WoVaVRMd4oBook a free 1:1 consultation: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-callTime Stamps00:00 Anger isn't the problem00:47 The feeling of anger in the body02:30 Welcoming anger03:51 How to recognise a Loving action04:13 Healthy anger versus unhealthy anger04:53 Spiritual Bypassing06:00 What to do when you feel the energy of anger07:30 Don't shame anger08:30 Love is the answer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many people struggle to say no without over-explaining — not because they lack communication skills, but because part of them feels unsafe being misunderstood.In this episode, Simon explores the deeper emotional pattern behind over-explaining and how meeting the underlying feeling with presence and compassion naturally leads to clearer boundaries and greater self-trust.If this resonates, you can book a coaching consultation here: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/simon-mundie-intro-callYou can watch this video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0HZpyxkwHVsFor a gift of 30 free meditation sessions on Henry Shukman's meditation app 'The Way' - click here: https://the-way.app.link/simonFor more information on The Way head here: http://thewayapp.com/simon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this conversation, I’m joined by physicist and microprocessor pioneer Federico Faggin for an exploration of consciousness, reality, and awakening. Federico is widely recognised for his role in shaping modern computing, yet after years of professional success he found himself deeply unhappy. In 1990, a spontaneous awakening experience radically shifted how he understood himself and the nature of reality. Rather than dismissing that experience, he spent decades integrating it with science, leading him to a view in which consciousness and free will are fundamental to the universe, not products of the brain. We talk about direct experience, science, meaning, and what all this might mean for humanity at this point in time.In this conversation, we explore:Federico’s background in physics and computing, and how his inner life didn’t match his outer successWhy professional achievement alone didn’t bring fulfilmentFederico’s spontaneous awakening experience in 1990 and how it changed everythingThe importance of direct experience over concepts or beliefsWhy love is not something we find outside ourselvesHow Federico developed his model of reality after his awakeningQuantum physics explained in clear, simple termsA practical analogy for understanding the collapse of the wave functionThe limitations of materialism and the flaws of “scientism”Free will, the separate self, and what it really means to chooseThe deeper purpose of the human experienceHow suffering, war, and evil can be understood through this lensSimon’s own kenshō experience and what followedThe difference between talking about awakening and living itWhy responsibility and honesty are essential for real awakeningThe post-awakening “dark night” and integrationWhy this moment in history feels pivotalThe relationship between fear, science, and belief systemsWhy consciousness must be the starting pointThe spiritual quickening happening nowWhat needs to change — individually and collectivelyWhy love, ultimately, matters more than fear1:1 COACHING CONSULTATION:: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/find-your-flow-intro-chatMy YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IAmSimonMundieGroup coaching enquiry (and retreats): [email protected] energy work with Alex: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After Awakening, the content of our experience doesn't change, but our relationship to experience does.In this episode, I explore what genuinely shifts after awakening - and what doesn't.Why Anxiety and Nervous System Reactivity Don’t End After AwakeningWhy Emotional Triggers Still Fire After AwakeningWhy Relationships Still Feel Difficult After AwakeningWhy You Stop Rescuing People and People-PleasingWhy Overthinking Drops Away After AwakeningWhy Resistance to life Drops Away (Even When It's Uncomfortable)Why Awakening Isn’t About Escaping YourselfIf you would rather watch this episode, the video version is here: https://youtu.be/9X0lMRL35jY1:1 COACHING CONSULTATION:: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/find-your-flow-intro-chatGroup coaching enquiry (and retreats): [email protected] energy work - Reiki, Rahanni, Sound Baths - with Alex: [email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a real example from my own life of how self-abandonment can show up in very subtle ways — and what changes when you stay with yourself instead. If this resonates and you’d like to explore it further, I’m hosting a free live webinar where we’ll look at how self-abandonment operates moment to moment, and how to stay centred.I am hosting a free webinar this evening Tuesday January 13th at 8pm called How To Stop Abandoning Yourself (and Live From Presence).Register here: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/b-bZ_YIJRZClJPdyluZeLg#/registrationIf you can't make it - read about my coaching or book a 1:1 consultation: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/find-your-flow-intro-chatI will mention group coaching options in tonight's webinar.Hope to see you there! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every January there's a familiar conversation about becoming someone new. But real change doesn’t come from trying to fix a 'broken self.' Lasting change comes from stopping self-abandonment — learning to listen to what you feel, know and need, rather than overriding yourself to cope, please or perform. When you stop betraying yourself in small, everyday ways, clarity returns, boundaries become simpler, and life begins to flow with far less struggle.I am hosting a free webinar next Tuesday January 13th at 8pm called How To Stop Abandoning Yourself (and Live From Presence).Register here: https://zoom.us/meeting/register/b-bZ_YIJRZClJPdyluZeLg#/registrationRead about my coaching or book a consultation: https://calendly.com/simon-wgw/find-your-flow-intro-chatYouTube subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@IAmSimonMundieSubstack subscribe: https://substack.com/@simonmundie Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.