Kerry has been working with infant sleep for the last 20 years and has supported 1,000s of sleep-deprived families all across the globe to a settled nights sleep.
Through her sleep services and E-course she's supported parents and their Smalls to sleep to the best of their ability without tears, training or techniques.
Kerry loves to talk all things infant sleep, in this fun and bitesize podcast that can be picked up between feeds and catnaps!
New episodes fortnightly
Episode 51: Supporting your Small to move away from co-sleeping
50:42Does your Small wake at night and won’t resettle unless you bring them into your bed?If so you are NOT alone and this episode is for you!Rachel is a first time mum to 2-year-old Samuel. Most of the time he wakes up once or twice before midnight and can be resettled with a quick cuddle back into his cot.But after midnight he’s harder to settle so they co-sleep and it's becoming a little crowded!Rachel would love to slowly move away from bringing him into her bed and support Samuel to spend more time at night in his cot.And in this podcast episode, I’m going to talk you through how to do this. The caring way!Reassurance first because I’m here for that and I want to remind you that there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing a cot (or bed!) and co-sleeping combo.If bringing your small into your bed and co-sleeping…from their first wake upfor part of the nightfrom the early hoursfor the last hour to get more sleep…Is working for you, your Small and everyone's sleep, Then all is well!It's not wrong, a bad habit or something that needs to stop unless you want it too. However, if it’s not working for you it IS possible to make changes with care.If you do decide to put some bed boundaries in place at wake ups it is a BIG change for both you and your Small and it is going to take time, patience and support.If you would like your Small to spend more time in their bed than yours join me for this podcast and I’ll talk you through:What you can expect this transition to look likeHow you can support your Small to stay in their bedWhy bedtime boundaries can be a game-changer for someThe bed bufferAnd much more.If you loved listening to this podcast episode please don’t forget to subscribe or leave me a review! Further resources for you:Settling to sleep with someone else podcast:www.careitout.com/podcast/settling-to-sleep-with-someone-elseBedtime Boundary Coursewww.careitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourseSafer co-sleeping If you do co-sleep it’s really important to always follow safer sleep guidelines. I recommend reading these here:www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleepingwww.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven
Episode 50: Settling to sleep with someone else
1:03:40Are you looking for some support to help your child settle to sleep with someone else at bedtime and/or wake ups?If so, you’re going to love listening to this podcast episode!In this episode, I’m joined by Rona, a first time mum to Lily who’s 18 months old. Rona would love it if Dad was able to settle Lily at bedtime and when she wakes up at night. But like SO many Smalls, Lily is finding this transition a little tricky. And Rona doesn’t quite know where to start making this huge change. This is totally understandable because any changes (but especially one this big) can feel super overwhelming. Join us for this podcast episode on getting someone else to settle your child to sleep, and we’ll talk you through: Where to start your Small settling to sleep with someone else. The key really is finding that first small step! The parent preferenceWhy this is a big boundary to change for you allWhat this transition can look likeHow to implement these big changes with careWill there be tears and what to do when they are upsetWhy focusing on you feeling calm and in control is important And much moreFurther resources for you:Floor bed podcast episode: careitout.com/podcast/episode-44-benefits-of-a-floor-bed-with-sian-aldis-aka-no-milk-like-mamasBedtime boundary e-course: careitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourse
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Episode 49: Moving away from co-sleeping to their own sleep space
38:13Co-sleeping isn’t a bad bed habit and it only ever needs to stop if and/or when you’re ready.And only you know when it’s time for this transition because you’re the expert on what works for your family!If you do decide to move away from co-sleeping it is a BIG change for both you and your Small and it is going to take time, patience and support.However, it IS possible to make this change with care.If you're thinking about moving away from co-sleeping, this podcast is packed with tips and things to think about to help transition your Small into their own sleep space. Join me for this podcast and I’ll talk you through: When is the best time to move away from co-sleeping? Will moving away from co-sleeping improve your sleep?What will this transition likely look like?And much more.If you loved listening to this podcast episode please don’t forget to subscribe or leave me a review! Safer co-sleeping resourcesIf you do co-sleep it’s really important to always follow safer sleep guidelines. I recommend reading these:lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleepingllli.org/the-safe-sleep-sevenBedtime Boundary Coursecareitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourseCo-sleeping support resources I absolutely love the following for amazing co-sleeping support and advice: instagram.com/cosleepyinstagram.com/motherbabysleep
Episode 48: The Four Month Progression Session
1:03:53Is your baby about to reach the four-month mark?Or perhaps you’re already in the middle of the four-month progression?If that’s a yes then this podcast is for YOU! There’s often a lot of fear around the four-month regression.Plus a fair bit of sleep scaremongering is being bandied about.And I’m going to be honest, sleep at this stage can get a little (or A LOT) trickier and erratic.That’s because your baby’s sleep is developing and it’s a huge time of change for them. And if you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know I often say ‘change is strange!’ But you really don’t need to:Sleep trainLeave your baby to cryPush them to fall asleep solo or stich their sleep cycles together.To get through the four month progression. I know it doesn’t always feel like it but this phase is temporary and IS likely to settle all by itself in time. IF something does need a change or reset, chances are these changes will be easier once your baby is 5/5.5 months old. And in the meantime, there’s lots of reassurance, advice and practical sleep suggestions waiting for you in this podcast episode! Join me and 6 other parents for this panel podcast and together we’ll talk you through:🌟 Sleep at the four month mark🎙Why sleep changes at this stage🌟 Their experience of this stage🎙Four month food FOMO🌟 Why the transfer can get super tricky🎙 Why you don’t need to sleep train to get through the four month progression 🌟What you can do to support their sleep at this stage🎙 The four month fear And much MUCH more!We all had a great time talking together and I really hope you find this episode useful and reassuring too!
Episode 47: Naps only need to work for YOU and YOUR SMALL
44:37When it comes to your Small’s naps there’s a lot of myths and misconceptions out there isn’t there?!That naps need to happen at a set time, in the same place AND in a certain way to be considered or count as a nap.But I do like to keep sleep real around here and normalise infant sleep for you.And like most things on the Care It Out approach the only thing naps need to do is work for you and your Small. Join me for this nap recap episode and I’ll you through why naps don’t need to:be in a cot to count happen in the same space as night-time be taken independently from you happen in the same way every daybe a certain length to counthappen at exactly the same time I’ll also answer the questions you asked me about naps:What can I do when my Small refuses their only nap?What can I do when my baby is refusing their cat nap but it’s having a huge impact on their night sleep?What age to toddlers stop their nap? How can I encourage my baby to nap at nursery, in the car or in the pram Is it ok to use a dummy for naps but not at night?Why is my Small taking short naps?How will my baby nap at nursery?What are age appropriate nap gaps at 11 months old? Other podcast episodes I mention:Napping at nursery: careitout.com/podcast/episode-25-napping-at-nurseryShort naps: careitout.com/podcast/ep-6Skipped naps: careitout.com/podcast/35-short-and-skipped-naps
Episode 46: Parental mental health during a sleep crisis with Dr Fiona Jeffries
53:36A sleep crisis is not only tough and tiring for everyone, it can also have a huge impact on our mental health. Join me and Dr Fiona Jeffries in this episode and we’ll talk you through: What is parental mental health? The relationship between sleep and mental health Looking after your needs whilst responding to your baby’s sleep needs Why self-care is important and is much more than taking a solo shower or trip to the toilet? How to cope in a sleep crisis? We really hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it! Dr Fiona Jeffries is an experienced Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years' experience of working with children and families in a variety of settings. She’s passionate about her work and feels very lucky to have a career which she enjoys so much. Since qualifying in 2012, she’s specialised in working with children and families. Much of her work has been with families who are dealing with the challenges of medical illness or disability. She works using a variety of therapeutic models, including systemic, narrative and compassion-focussed approaches. She tailors her approach to each individual child and family and has a special interest in infant psychology. She’s very recently established ‘Baby Psychology Basics’, antenatal and postnatal workshops for parents and professionals. Do you want to find out about Fiona?www.drfionajeffries.co.uk/baby-psychology-basics www.instagram.com/baby_psychology_basics Free workshops coming up: Wednesday 20th October 2021 12-1.30pm Prenatal Baby Psychology Basics: Understanding Your Baby Wednesday 24th November 2021 12.30-2pm Postnatal Baby Psychology Basics: Understanding Your Baby Please see website for more information and how to book Listener offer:20% off a 1:1 Baby Psychology Basics session for listeners (contact Fiona directly to book and mention you listened to the podcast) Mindfulness and relaxation resources: https://self-compassion.org https://buddhify.com/ https://www.calm.com/ If you need some further support: www.home-start.org.uk www.mind.org.uk www.pandasfoundation.org.uk
Episode 45: All about bed-sharing with Tiffany Belanger AKA Cosleepy
53:36Bed-sharing isn’t going to work for every family.Bed-sharing isn’t for every familyAnd it might not be the best sleep set up for you.This podcast isn’t about convincing or pushing you to bed-share!But there’s often a lot of sleep shame and stigma around bed-sharing so this podcast is for you if you’re: currently bed-sharing and would love some reassurance considering bed-sharing and would love some reassurance looking for safer sleep pointers whilst bed-sharing Join me and Tiffany Belanger in this episode and we’ll talk you through: -What is bed-sharing? -Who is bed-sharing for? -Why bed-sharing isn’t a bad bed habit -What are the benefits of bed-sharing for both babies and parents? -How can you make bed-sharing safer? -Tiffany’s personal experience of bed-sharing I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it!Tiffany Belanger spends her days wrangling two little boys, works on the Cosleepy blog for a few hours in the evening, and at night. And she sleeps soundly on a giant bed between her favourite people in the world!Tiffany created Cosleepy to offer modern parents practical, scientifically-backed advice on how to safely co-sleep with their baby. It’s a hub for like-minded folks to find each other and a safe space for them to dive deep into the beauty, challenges, and intricacies of co-sleeping.Tiffany works to empower every parent to trust the science and follow their intuition when it comes to keeping their baby safe and close at night. To find a way to love co-sleeping, and to do it with confidence.Sign up for Tiffany’s mailing list at cosleepy.com for co-sleeping support, encouragement, and motivation straight to your inbox. You’ll have access to her favourite resources, giveaways, and personal updates on her family’s co-sleeping journey that she doesn’t share anywhere else.You can find more information about Tiffany and Cosleepy here: cosleepy.cominstagram.com/cosleepyhttps://cosleepy.com/welcomeRecommended reading for safer sleep whilst bed-sharing: llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/cosleeping cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines
Episode 44: Benefits of a floor bed with Sian Aldis AKA No Milk Like Mamas
36:41Floor beds aren’t going to work for every family.And they might not be the best bed for you.But sometimes I do suggest using (or just considering!) a floor bed, because there are lots of benefits, for both you and your Small!Join me and Sian Aldis in this podcast episode, and we’ll talk you through: What is a floor bed?Who are floor beds for?What age can you use a floor bed from? What are the benefits of using a floor bed?How can we make it a safer sleep space?I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it! Sian Aldis is an IBCLC and gentle sleep consultant. You can find more information about Sian and No Milk Like Mamas Here:Website: nomilklikemamas.co.ukEmail: [email protected] reading for safer sleep whilst bed-sharing: www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven
Episode 43: Worrying With Kimberley AKA The New Mum Coach
48:46If you worry (a little or a lot!) you most certainly aren’t alone and I hope it reassures you to hear that it’s normal. Telling a parent not to worry is neither helpful or healthy. Worrying is a part of life for most of us at some point and what we try to resist just persists.I will always listen to you and hold space for your worries to validate them. But I’m also here to reassure you too!Tune into this episode to hear Kimberly Thomas AKA The New Mum Coach and myself discuss:The worry HourMindfulnessSelf-Compassion and care4 top tips to help you when you worryWhen does worrying become a problemAnd so much more!You can find out more about Kimberly here:thenewmumcoach.cominstagram.com/thenewmumcoachSecond time parents -tickettailor.com/events/thenewmumcoach/503983/Back to work -tickettailor.com/events/thenewmumcoach/500940/instagram.com/thenewmumcoachFurther resources:Headspace headspace.com Calm calm.com Peanutpeanut-app.ioPanic padetsy.com/uk/listing/821942030/panic-pad-a4?ref=shop_home_active_4&crt=1
Episode 42: Sleep At The 2 Year old Stage
1:08:00Myles has just turned 2 years old and is a little firecracker who has FOMO (fear of missing out) when it comes to sleep!He’s really resisting going to sleep at bedtime and wakes frequently during the night. And often won’t settle until he’s in Mum’s bed which isn’t working for anyone now.This is understandably causing everyone a sleepless night!I’m never going to stop sharing the message that toddler’s find sleep tricky too.And I want to reassure you that your toddler isn’t broken and you aren’t doing anything wrong if your toddler:Isn’t sleeping through the night Is resisting going to sleep at bedtime Needs you or support to fall asleep Wakes up during the night Won’t settle at night unless co-sleepingHowever, if their sleep or wake ups are unsustainable or simply not working for you chances are there’s some small and caring changes that could make a big difference. Join me and Myles’s Mum, Beckey for this live consultation podcast and together we’ll talk you through:Normal infant sleep at 2 years old The best bedtime for your toddler What do to if their bedtime is super late The 7 pm pressure Supporting them to settle to sleep independently Moving away from co-sleeping if they wake at night Myles’s sleep story at 2 years old Myles’s sleep suggestions to support him to a more settled night sleep. The caring way.Beckey and I had a great talk together and I really hope you find this episode useful and reassuring too!Further resources: Biological best blog careitout.com/blog/baby-biological-bestBedtime boundaries Ecourse careitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourseWant to work together to improve your sleep the caring way? You can find my current sleep services here:careitout.com/sleep-service-prices