245 Why Seeking a Relationship Keeps You from Having One

We're all sick of people playing games in the dating scene, but in a sense, everyone is playing a game, meaning, everyone has an M.O., a method of operating.   Getting clear on your Relationship M.O. and mastering it, is a critical issue and it's the topic of this podcast.   In this episode, you will learn that there are only two "dating games," two Relationship M.O.'s, and which game you choose to play is probably the most important decision you'll ever make.   This is part six of a 7-part series where Roy offers answers to the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This episode discusses the sixth question in the book, What is My Relationship M.O.? If you want to attract lasting love, play the right "game."   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

There was a horrible story in the news recently where a father and son were killed by a swarm of "murder hornets" while zip-lining in the country of Laos.   That is tragic, and I don't mean to make light of it when I say your love life is being killed by a bunch of "Killer B's" too.   Those B's are: Blind Spots, Baggage, Beliefs and Barriers. And unless and until you deal with them in your life, you won't attract lasting love.   This is part five of a 7-part series where Roy offers answers to the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This episode discusses the fifth question in the book, What is Standing in the Way of My Ability to Be Close? If you want to attract lasting love, you must deal with the "Killer B's".   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

You have probably tried just about everything to find your life partner. You've sought the wisdom of the "experts"—watching their videos, reading their books and listening to their podcasts. You've tried a few online dating sites or perhaps hired a matchmaker. You've talked to your friends, to your therapist, even your God.   And… bupkis. Nothing. You're still single.   And it's not because you need better experts, dating sites, therapists or even a better God. What you need is one single insight that will unlock the whole mystery as to why you're still single.   This is part four of a 7-part series where Roy offers answers to the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This episode discusses the fourth question in the book, Why Am I Single? If you want to attract lasting love, answering this question correctly leads to finding your life partner.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

What if it is your desire for a relationship that is keeping you from having one? That is such a crazy suggestion, isn't it? But what if it's true? Could it be that hidden within our desire to be in a relationship was an unconscious motivation that was, in fact, sabotaging us and keeping us from a healthy connection? In this episode, I am suggesting that very thing, that we are our own worst enemy when it comes to attracting lasting love, but we don't know it!   This is part three of a 7-part series where Roy offers answers to the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This episode discusses the third question in the book, What's the REAL Reason I Want a Relationship? If you want to attract lasting love, learning to be present is critically important.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

What do you bring to the table? This is a question being asked on social media, podcasts and nearly everywhere people discuss dating and relationships. And while it's often asked in a judgmental and condemning way, it is a legitimate question.   What makes us a great partner? A "high value" partner?   You'll be glad to know that it's not beauty or bucks, but something much deeper and surprisingly simple. It's our ability to be present and authentic.   This is part two of a 7-part series where Roy offers answers to the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This episode discusses the second question in the book, What's Here, Now? If you want to attract lasting love, learning to be present is critically important.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

Since it's Halloween week, our host, Roy Biancalana, takes a deep dive into some of the destructive relationship costumes we often wear in our pursuit of intimacy. Are we being ourselves or are we playing a role or showing up in some sort of fear-driven persona?   This is part one of a 7-part series where Roy answers the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.   This Halloween episode appropriately discusses the first question in the book, Who Am I? If you want to attract lasting love, answering the question, Who Am I? is critically important.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

In this episode, Roy shares a recording from one of his favorite spiritual teachers, David Deida. Deida is a leading voice in conscious relationships, especially when it comes to masculine/feminine dynamics.   Given the culture wars going on these days around sex and gender, David's message is even more necessary and powerful.   Don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the last component of healthy intimacy: Aliveness.   The underlying purpose of a great relationship is the aliveness of the individuals in it. In other words, the reason two healthy people commit to one another is that they believe that each of them are more likely to fully grow and express their gifts by being together than they would if they were single.   "Synergy" is the only healthy reason to pursue an intimate relationship and this idea is fully explored in this episode so don't miss it.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the sixth component of healthy intimacy: Appreciation.   In great relationships, appreciation is not just felt, it's verbally spoken. But it's more than saying "thank you" or "I appreciate you." It's seeing beyond a person's mere actions, to seeing the heart, intention and motivation that produced those actions.   To truly see a person and then find the words to express what you see is a profound skill that must be learned and mastered if we want great relationships.   This is a very important and complicated issue, so don't miss this episode!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.   In this episode, you'll learn the fifth component of healthy intimacy: Agreements.   The secret sauce of great relationships is trust. But don't tell yourself that trust is a complicated or complex thing. It isn't. Trust is the easiest thing in the world to build and maintain. All we need to do is make and keep clear agreements. That's it! It's as easy as that. But far too many of us lack this kind of integrity and it's largely why we struggle in relationships.   This episode explores why that is, so don't miss it.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Christina Wyman's Article on Marriage: https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/taylor-swift-travis-kelce-engagement-marriage-rcna228293   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy's 4 Books: ·      Quantum Questions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4RFZBS3/ ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy's Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy's Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.