Who You Think You “Should” Be vs. Who You Are

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the painful emotion of rejection. They discuss why rejection stings so badly, how to reframe and depersonalize rejection, logic vs. emotion when it comes to rejection, why it can make many of us shut down, how to start to get more comfortable with rejection, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Rejection TED Talk mentioned in the episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Leesa.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Headspace: For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to ⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days! Green Chef: Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order Greenlight: Start your risk-free Greenlight trial today at greenlight.com/shrinkchicks

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about self-sabotage and why we do it. They discuss how to identify if you’re self sabotaging, the different ways self-sabotage can present itself, if they consider themselves self-sabotagers, self-criticism vs. self-compassion, how self-sabotaging behaviors can be a protective mechanism, avoidance, fear of failure and discomfort, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠⁠⁠Leesa.com⁠⁠⁠ for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Headspace: For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to ⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days! Green Chef: Head to ⁠⁠⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about conflict languages! Much like love languages, we each gravitate toward certain patterns when in conflict. Em and Jen break down five different conflict languages to help you understand how you approach and navigate conflict. They discuss how to identify which conflict language(s) you speak, the avoidant + anxious dynamic in relationships, why you might find your partner's conflict language distressing, if you can change your conflict style, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠⁠Leesa.com⁠⁠ for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Headspace: For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days! Green Chef: Head to ⁠⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are confronting conflict avoidance! They discuss how they each handle conflict personally, the two ends of the spectrum: from avoidance to reactionary, the benefits and downfalls of conflict avoidance, the temporary discomfort for long-term relief, why practice makes progress, getting comfortable with your tears, and so much more! Em and Jen also share a script to use if you find yourself avoiding a conflict, and answer the question: are we all stuck in our conflict styles? Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:10 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠Leesa.com⁠ for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Green Chef: Head to ⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about happiness. They discuss happiness as an unwavering state vs. an emotion just like any other, the difference between happiness and contentment, the role that toxic positivity plays, the pressure we may feel both internally and externally to be only happy during certain life milestones, our obsession with happiness as a culture, why it can feel so scary to be happy, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6:45 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to Leesa.com for 25% off a mattress PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Green Chef: Head to Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

Happy Memorial Day! Emmalee and Jen are taking the week off from a new episode to practice what they preach and allow themselves a break to recharge. In this rewind episode, they dive into the topics of forgiveness, anger, and resentment. Em and Jen discuss why forgiveness is for us and not for the other person, the parts of forgiveness that they struggle with, how anger and resentment play a role, forgiveness AND holding onto your boundaries, self-forgiveness and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!  They'll be back next week with a brand new episode! ⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at ⁠⁠⁠⁠prose.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ Mint Mobile: Shop plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the many versions of ourselves that evolve over time. They discuss comparing our past selves to our present selves, how to release old parts of ourselves while greeting new ones, the emotions of grief & loss occurring simultaneously with excitement & anticipation, radical acceptance and how it ties into meeting new versions of yourself, what happens if the new you doesn't like the life the old you created, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:20 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to ⁠⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at ⁠⁠⁠prose.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠ Mint Mobile: Shop plans at ⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠ Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are exploring the topic of comparing ourselves to others. They discuss why we engage in comparison, two different types of comparison, insecurity and comparison, the role social media plays (hint: it's a big one), how to be intentional with social media consumption, using comparison as helpful information to understand what you want, comparing grief, struggles, societal timelines, etc., and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:50 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to ⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at ⁠⁠prose.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ Mint Mobile: Shop plans at ⁠⁠mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ Quince: Go to ⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are back to recording in person at West Chester Studios and unpacking the difficulty behind saying no. They discuss our fears about saying no, why we tend to believe others are going to react negatively to our “no," the resentment that arises when we ignore our boundaries, preferring internal distress over external distress, what we get wrong about boundaries, pausing before saying yes, why discomfort does not equal danger, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. ⁠Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠ Our ⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to ⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at ⁠prose.com/shrinkchicks⁠ Mint Mobile: Shop plans at ⁠mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks⁠ Quince: Go to ⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the ways in which we're all different from our partners - from attachment styles, to conflict/resolution styles, to love languages, and political views. They discuss the various ways these differences show up in relationships, how to communicate through the differences for a deeper understanding of one another, conflict style differences: needing space vs. the need for immediate resolution, managing different expectations around sex & physical touch, political differences that highlight a difference in values, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4:20 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Headspace: Go to Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order