Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls

I connected with Sascha over a post he made of “why women in their 40’s are the unhappiest ever.” Whether that’s true or not, it’s food for important conversation about modern dating and relationships.Sascha Haert is a coach for women. Tbh, I used to have a lot of judgement of men who coach women (and of women who only coach men). But he has a lot of great insight on:Why successful women hardly find love, what’s important in the bedroom, why women resent men so much these days, how woman makes space for a man in life, what kind of woman do men want in a relationships, and exploring: do women understand the power they hold?We’re two men commenting on the plight of women, so take it with some salt. However, Sascha has a lot of knowledge from the many women he’s helped.Hack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course only $12AnabolicPsyche.com00:00 Women in their 40s are the unhappiest ever02:13 Getting lost trying to become a masculine woman06:51 How to be a good father to a daughter07:59 Woman making space for a man in life12:07 Why women resent men so much15:03 Be yourself in order to be liked19:02 How Sascha became a coach for women29:00 Fathers shape daughters’ relation to relationship31:00 Sexual liberation of women33:35 Open relationships yes or no46:26 Sascha’s work48:50 There’s too much competition between sexes

Justin Nault is a nutrition therapist. We have a fascinating discussion on metabolic health, hormones, nutrition, and the mind.Justin on IG: @justinnaultofficialHis supplement company: iamclovis.com00:00 Guest Introduction: Who Is Justin?00:56 Justin's Music Career and Body Dysmorphia01:33 Journey Into Health and Wellness04:10 Plant Medicine and Life Changes04:46 Nutrition and the Paleo Diet05:42 Savannah's Story and the Birth of a New Mission08:55 The Problem with Seed Oils12:32 Understanding Human Metabolism19:28 Training Methodologies and Health24:48 Cultural and Psychological Aspects of Health27:45 The Harmful Goggins Mentality28:49 Small Wins and Building Momentum29:48 Critique of Plant Medicine and Avoidance Pattern31:22 Personal Journey and Recovery Insights32:43 Nutrition and Recovery Tips35:04 Balancing Self-Love and Ambition37:38 The Importance of Individualized Advice41:48 Good vs. Evil and Integrating the Shadow49:08 The Complexity of Critical Thinking50:24 Connecting and Offering Guidance

Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”? I analyze the series from the perspective of the male collective unconscious: What the show got right, what it got wrong, and how it fits in with modern culture, including Andrew Tate, redpill, the manosphere, Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, and more.00:00 Introduction to Adolescence on Netflix00:45 Personal Reactions and Empathy01:29 Two Major Psychological Themes04:01 Incel Psychology08:35 Personal Reflections on Adolescence19:46 The Red Pill and Manosphere23:14 Propaganda and Cultural Implications28:22 Self Esteem vs. Respect28:54 The Secondary Father (Joseph Camp)29:12 The Hero's Journey and Male Psychology30:51 The Role of the Secondary Father in Development32:23 Personal Experience with Secondary Fathers34:52 The Impact of Parental Approval39:33 The Struggle with Male Anger and Pain42:00 The Influence of Modern Masculine Role Models52:58 The Need for Striving for Excellence56:28 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame and recent death of his father. Miiska Van Renterghem is Finland’s #1 men’s coach and personal development podcaster. He’s also a good buddy and former client of mine.Hack your brain chemistry for unshakable confidence: Anabolic Psyche mini-course only $12AnabolicPsyche.com00:00 Miiska’s story of becoming masculine03:45 Shifting from liberal to more conservative07:10 The importance of relaxation09:20 Why are women sexually more vulnerable than men14:24 Guys are more insecure when having little sexual experience18:20 Women with relationship trauma21:26 Being responsible with one night stands26:58 Open relationships30:42 How to deal with losing a father51:55 Are all your affairs in order?

Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual Journey as a woman in the early pickup community, her approach to developing confidence, social skills, and authenticity. 00:00 - Pickup, coaching 02:00 - Social skills, dating in teens 05:20 - Is dating easier for guys or girls? 06:30 - Who needs love when you have the game 07:40 - The game or manipulations 17:30 - Authenticity is next level of the game 24:25 - What you look for in dating? 32:30 - Does pickup change your perspective of men 39:05 - What you want, need and get 44:00 - From pickup to relationship 53:00 - Children and social skills 57:40 - Practice what you're bad at

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I speak on our experiences, good and bad, and how it led to deeper understandings in self-discovery. We also cover why we replay childhood relations, installing values into your kids, and why staying connected to yourself is important. 00:00 Discovering who you are 04:00 Discovering yourself through forums 06:45 Pick up community 08:00 Benefits of tinder 11:50 Healthy pickup coaching 13:00 Childhood trauma and healing 17:15 You have to abandon the game 21:15 Consistency and intensity pay off 25:55 Why is staying connected to yourself important 28:55 Installing values into your kids 34:50 What you emphasize is what your kids will aim to 40:45 Have more trust in yourself 45:55 You thrive during a process 46:40 Persistency in intensity

Higher consciousness through sex? If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have experienced what Timothy Leary called the “Neurosomatic Circuit”—the state of consciousness that comes with a deep connection between mind and body, typically through sustaining sexual arousal. This episode covers how sexual arousal can be used to enhance your emotional state, via lessons I learned intensively studying sexuality in my early 20s. Such as, why men need control of their urges, sexual dysfunctions and healing, how chronic tension effects on body, and tips on sustaining sexual arousal. 00:00 - Intro 02:00 - Arousal and consciousness 09:35 - Announcements 11:30 - 8 circuit model of consciousness 29:30 - Connection between mind and body 50:00 - Truth carries the most sensation 56:20 - Sustaining sexual arousal 01:03:15 - Anxiety and arousal 01:04:30 - Chronic tension effects on body 01:08:30 - Higher consciousness through sex

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to drastically change themselves and their reality. We discuss major turning points in a romantic relationship, balancing ideologies in a relationship, and some key (and possibly taboo) principles about how men and women can find deep harmony together. If you’re having relationship issues and you want to fix it, apply to Lead Your Family— small group program for men in committed relationships: https://www.ruwando.com/LYF Kris and Lily run a business together helping expats relocate to Thailand. https://cnxlocal.com/ 00:00 - From Modern to Traditional Relationship 06:50 - Turning points in a romantic relationship 15:00 - Why are rituals important for a relationship? 27:00 - Leaving your principles for a greater goal 37:00 - Learning how to surrender to your partner 43:00 - Balancing Ideologies in Relationships 49:00 - Shift in relationship dynamics 01:03:00 - Christian values of family and community 01:14:00 - Passing on your values to your kids

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus) Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in out nonverbal communication— facial expressions and posture. We can read one's emotions through their resting faces and micro-expressions. Here's how to read, and modify yours from trauma to ease and confidence. 00:00 - Intro 01:40 - Body language - first impressions 06:05 - A man's looks demonstrate what he can do 11:05 - How to understand trauma 18:40 - Your face mirrors your feelings 22:37 - Left side of face vs right 32:15 - The four circuits of consciousness 44:30 - Why you should have good physical awareness 49:25 - Tips on how to not contract 52:10 - The Inner Smile exercise 56:50 - Welcoming all the sensations 58:50 - How to control your tension

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition? How to “conquer your inner weakness” really comes down to how to change your stress response. The episode breaks down how to change your stress response. We’ll start with the biologically process of acute stress, and how to “practice right emotions” so the next time you’re faced with an important moment— in business, love, or life— you’ll have a winning response, rather than a self-sabotaging one. 00:00 - Intro 01:46 - Announcements 10:50 - Why do you get nervous? 15:55 - Steroid hormone stress 22:40 - Understanding your physiology 36:00 - Emotional distress vs. chronic stress 39:45 - The winner vs. the loser effect 45:45 - Practice right emotional response 1:05:00 - Why breathing calms your brain 1:08:50 - Recap