No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

If you've ever dealt with mom guilt and gone looking for tips for managing guilt after turning down family holiday plans, this episode is for you. You said no to a family holiday gathering, and now the guilt is eating you alive. In this solo episode, JoAnn explains why the urge to make it right is really about calming your own body, why disappointing family does not make you a bad person, and what keeping everyone happy ends up costing you. In this episode, you'll learn: What the fix-it reflex is and why it goes off every time you set a boundary Why your guilt is mostly your own anxiety, and why that is good news Why it is okay to disappoint family (and how conflict can make relationships stronger) The hidden price of keeping everyone calm and happy A simple pause-and-breathe tool for when the guilt hits Resources mentioned in this episode: Happy Home Ladder: help your family share the load The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn Vibe by Adam Grant The No Guilt Mom Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you feel like you've lost yourself since becoming a mom, this episode is for you. Pediatrician Dr. Brian Temple has spent 20 years watching what happens to parents who have run out of capacity. Amanda Tice, a curve model, best-selling author and former TV journalist, has lived it. Together they co-host the podcast Between Pickups, and in this conversation they talk about identity loss, why kindergarten drop-off can hit harder than the newborn days, and how to start coming back to yourself without guilt. In this episode, you'll learn: Why identity loss often hits hardest around kindergarten, not in the newborn months What a pediatrician sees when a mom is reaching her capacity Amanda's "affair with your old self," and why your hobby doesn't have to be meaningful to anyone but you Why adding something for yourself can make the rest of life feel lighter What changes when a mom gets away, and how to ask for the time without guilt Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Temple and Amanda's podcast, Between Pickups: betweenpickups.com Amanda's book, The New Mom Code: Shatter Expectations and Crush It at Motherhood Take things off your plate with the Happy Home Ladder Get support with other moms in the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle JoAnn's book, The Best Mom is a Happy Mom More episodes on the No Guilt Mom podcast page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever dealt with mom guilt after losing your cool and wondered why you can't stay calm with your ADHD kid, this episode is for you. You get interrupted, your emotions go from zero to 100, and then the guilt shows up. In this solo episode, JoAnn shares how ADHD shaped her own childhood and parenting, why big emotional reactions are not a verdict on you as a mom, and how to start noticing your triggers so you can pause and repair. In this episode, you'll learn: Why ADHD comes with an emotional component, and why a big reaction to criticism is not proof that you are a bad mom Why being pulled away from a project can drain your motivation, and how interest works as fuel for an ADHD brain Why you can't promise to always stay calm, but you can promise to notice your triggers and repair How to tell your family your triggers, and how to plan a pause for the situations that set you off A simple trick to stay present in a conversation when your attention wants to wander Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder, a cooperative family game where you work on one skill at a time The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn The No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Vibe by Adam Grant The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins The No Guilt Mom podcast page Follow and review on Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Some links above are affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you to T Town Homeschooler for the kind review! If this episode helped you, leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It only takes a minute and it helps other moms find the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you always seem to do everything at home, this episode is for you. You say yes to the plan, your partner says yes to the plan, and then somehow you are the one who is disappointed. Julia Dhar, a world champion debater and author of How Change Really Works, joins me to show you how to have the hard conversation without it turning into a fight. We talk about making a clear and specific request, why false agreement quietly builds resentment, and what to do when you catch yourself thinking "I thought you were going to." In this episode, you'll learn: Why anticipating a conflict feels so physical, and why most people say they feel relieved after the hard conversation How to make a clear and specific request instead of asking "can you help me?" The difference between false alignment and true agreement, and how true agreement lowers your mental load Why "I thought you were going to" is an early warning sign that your expectations and theirs are out of step The "I don't care / I care a lot" technique for letting small things go without losing yourself Resources mentioned in this episode: How Change Really Works by Julia Dhar Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn noguiltmom.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you keep doing everything yourself, even when you're exhausted, this episode is for you. You're not tired from the tasks on your plate. You're tired from the parts of the job nobody can see: the noticing before and the checking after. In this episode, I share the research behind that invisible work, a few of my own stories (including moments where I got it wrong), and a simple way to hand over the whole job, not just one more task. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the heaviest part of your load is the part nobody can see The four stages of every household job and which ones moms tend to hold What I call the default loop, and why it keeps you doing it all Why taking a job back costs you more than it saves (my holiday gift-wrapping story) How to hand over the whole job this week, and why their frustration is part of the learning Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder: a cooperative family game that does the asking for you No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom Tell me which job you're handing off: @noguiltmom on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you're the only one who notices what needs to be done around the house, this episode is for you. Sam Kelly, author of Notice and Do, joins me to talk about the moment she realized she was teaching her kids to rely on her for all the noticing, just like her husband had. We talk about the rage that comes with carrying the mental load, why a chore system only gets you half of the way there, and how to hand over ownership without hovering. In this episode, you'll learn: Why noticing is a teachable skill, just like brushing your teeth or tying your shoes How to turn grief and rage about the mental load into fuel for change What the Big Three and learning ladders are, and how they give kids real ownership Why a chore chart relies on you to do all the noticing and delegating, and what to do instead How pre-existing motivators work for strong-willed and ADHD kids, and why the pushback is temporary Resources mentioned in this episode: Notice and Do: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load by Sam Kelly Sam Kelly's website Sam Kelly on Instagram (@samkelly_world) Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom podcast page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt mom guilt after yelling and wondered why you yell at the same time every day, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Your yelling probably has a timestamp, and that does not mean something is wrong with you. I share three stories, from a childhood kitchen sink to a 5 p.m. toddler "no" to a 10 p.m. bedtime request, and walk you through why your yelling window happens and the smallest possible plan for changing it. In this episode, you'll learn: Why you tend to yell at the same moment almost every day, and why that makes it a pattern instead of a character flaw The sequence behind a yelling moment: the trigger, the feeling, and the sentence your brain adds a half second later Why the belief that your kid did it on purpose fuels anger, and how to start rewriting that sentence when you are calm How to make an if-then plan that says what you will do instead of what you are trying to stop Why you don't need more patience in your yelling window, you need a plan Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder: a simple cooperative family game so you don't have to ask daily The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn The No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Follow the show on Spotify Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist, five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you pass your own stress onto your kids without meaning to, this episode is for you. Ever wonder why your reaction to something small, like your kid not eating dinner, feels way bigger than the moment itself? In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Edith Shiro, author of The Unexpected Gift of Trauma, breaks down how stress and trauma pass from parent to child without either of you realizing it, and what you can actually do to interrupt the cycle. In this episode, you'll learn: How to tell when your reaction to your kid is really about something from your own past A 5-minute script to repair with your child after you react in a way you're not proud of Why validating your child's feelings, even before you set a limit, makes discipline actually work How to handle a teenager's rejection without taking it personally What to say when your child is being bullied, or is the one doing the bullying Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Edith Shiro's website The Unexpected Gift of Trauma by Dr. Edith Shiro Dr. Edith Shiro on Instagram The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl The Happy Mom Reset, a free class Ready to stop the yelling and guilt cycle in your own home? Grab your spot in The Happy Mom Reset. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever struggled with mom guilt and wondered why you're so hard on yourself as a mom, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. That harsh voice in your head may not be yours. Bestselling author and relationship coach Sabrina Bendory joins JoAnn to explain the mother wound, the role you learned to play as a child, and how both show up in your relationships and your parenting. You'll also hear what to say to your child after you've yelled, and why your child's neediness can stir up feelings that have nothing to do with them. In this episode, you'll learn: What the mother wound is, in plain terms, and why it shapes how you treat yourself Why two things can be true: your mother did her best and your needs still weren't met How the "role self" you built as a child to feel safe still runs your adult relationships Why your child's needs can trigger anger, and the grief that may be underneath it A simple repair after you yell: "That was not your fault" Resources mentioned in this episode: Happy Home Ladder The Feminine Code by Sabrina Bendory Detached by Sabrina Bendory You Will Be OK podcast on Instagram Sabrina Bendory on Instagram No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book mentioned in the episode) Thank you to our sponsors! Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/omnin6le #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever dealt with mom guilt after losing your cool with your husband and wondered why you get so mad at him over little things, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Author Jackie Kelley and her husband run their marriage on a set of rules they made up themselves, and her new book, So You Married a Human, comes out today. In this honest and funny conversation, Jackie and JoAnn trade stories about passive aggression, shared-space chaos, and the unrealistic expectations so many of us carry into marriage. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "use your words" became Jackie's first marriage rule, and how to say what hurt you without slamming cabinets and hoping he notices The "you also suck a bunch" rule, and how to tell which little annoyances are worth letting go How the "wait for it" rule helps a fast emotional processor and a slow one talk without a fight Why so many fights come from mismatched expectations, and the questions to ask before the dinner, the party, or the holiday gift budget Why rules written for marriage also work with kids, coworkers, and in-laws Resources mentioned in this episode Jackie Kelley on Instagram: @stayathomejackie Jackie's book, So You Married a Human (out October 6, 2026) The Happy Mom Reset (free class) No Guilt Mom Inner Circle JoAnn's book: The Best Mom is a Happy Mom No Guilt Mom Podcast page Thank you to our Sponsors! Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/omnin6le #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices