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What if you love the person you married, but the first year looks nothing like you expected?The honeymoon is awkward. Sex isn't what you imagined. One of you is focused on providing while the other is wondering why you feel so far apart. And the things you most need to talk about feel like the hardest things to say out loud.In this episode, Alley and Elijah Vallotton are back with Elles and Daniel for an honest conversation about the honeymoon and the first year of marriage. We're sharing what surprised us, where we got disconnected, and the conversations that helped us find our way back to each other.We'll talk about:What happens when your honeymoon doesn't live up to the expectationsWhy waiting until marriage doesn't mean sex will feel effortless right awayThe difference between having sex and being able to talk about itHow the pressure to provide can crowd out emotional connectionThe fears we kept to ourselves and what happened when we finally said themLearning to hear something hard without immediately taking it personallyWhy repairing after an argument is a skill you have to buildHow trusted mentors helped us make sense of what we were experiencingBeing a safe place for your spouse while having support of your ownWhere to start if talking about your inner world doesn't come naturallyIf you're single, dating, or engaged, this is a look at the parts of marriage you might not hear about before the wedding. And if you're newly married and finding it harder than you expected, we hope these stories give you a place to start talking. You don't have to have marriage figured out on day one, and you don't have to figure it out alone.Let's talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aLy0m16pvgMGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

You both want to get married. But have you talked about what life together will actually look like?Who handles the money? How involved are your families? What happens when one of you is struggling with your faith? And are you quietly hoping something about the person you’re dating will change after the wedding?In this episode, we’re walking through 16 questions every couple should ask before saying “I do,” covering faith, family, finances, everyday life, and sex. These are practical conversations that can help you understand what you’re each expecting before you build a life together.We’ll talk about:What a Christ-centered marriage looks like in everyday lifeHow to talk through differences in beliefs and convictionsSupporting each other through seasons of doubtFamily patterns you want to keep or changeSetting expectations around in-laws, holidays, and parentingGetting honest about debt, spending, and sharing moneyWhat you expect your lifestyle to look like after the weddingDividing household responsibilities and the mental loadMaking room for time together, friendships, and alone timeTalking honestly about sex, pornography, and sexual historyWhether you’re secretly expecting your partner to change after marriageIf you’re seriously dating or engaged, watch this together. Pause after each section, ask the questions, and give each other room to answer honestly. The more you understand about each other now, the more intentionally you can prepare for marriage.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wETmXcL64r8God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What do you do when your dating pool feels tiny and everyone knows everyone?Your ex is still at church. Your crush is friends with someone you dated. Everyone knows you went out before you’ve even decided if you like each other. And if it doesn’t work out, you’re probably still going to see them next Sunday.Dating in a small Christian community can get complicated fast.In this episode, three single Christians in their twenties get honest about what it’s actually like to date when your options feel limited and your dating life isn’t exactly private.We’ll talk about:Whether the Christian dating pool really is too smallWhy dating in a tight church community can feel so intimidatingWhat to do when everyone has dated everyoneWhether dating a friend’s ex should be off-limitsHow to handle seeing an ex in the same communityWho should actually get a voice in your dating decisionsWhether a small dating pool makes people settle or become too pickyWhy Christians keep saying “there’s no one here”How fear of awkwardness keeps people from ever asking someone outWhat to do when a date doesn’t work out but you still have to see each otherWhy you shouldn’t let other people’s opinions keep you from pursuing a good relationshipA small dating pool doesn’t have to be a dead dating pool.It might just require more courage, maturity, and willingness to handle relationships with honor.So if you’ve ever looked around your church, small town, ministry school, or friend group and thought, “There is literally no one left,” this episode is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/ib2TubrJglo God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone gives marriage advice. Very few people tell you what they wish they would’ve known before they got married. What surprised them? What got harder than they expected? What got better? What do decades of marriage teach you that dating never could?In this episode, three married Christian men answer the questions they wish someone had answered before they said, “I do.”We’ll talk about:The biggest lies men believe about marriage before they get marriedWhether the first year of marriage is actually the hardestWhat every husband loses when he gets married and why it’s worth itThe seasons of marriage no one posts about onlineWhether attraction fades or changes over the yearsWhat loving one woman for decades teaches you about commitmentWhy so many married men struggle aloneWhat they wish someone had told them about sex before marriageHow kids completely change your marriagePractical ways to keep your marriage strong after becoming parentsWhat they’d tell the guy who’s been dating for years but won’t proposeThe qualities every woman should look for in a future husbandMarriage isn’t about finding the perfect person. It’s about becoming the kind of person who knows how to love, sacrifice, communicate, and stay committed through every season.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, newly married, or years into marriage, we think this conversation will leave you with a healthier picture of what marriage is really like.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/t6zHW7kS000 God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Everyone says, “Date God’s way.” Almost nobody tells you what that actually looks like.What boundaries did you actually keep? How did you handle physical temptation? When did you have the hard conversations? Did you ever doubt the relationship? And how did you know they were the one?In this episode, we’re joined by another couple who dated God’s way and are now on the other side of it. Together, we’re pulling back the curtain on what Christian dating looked like behind the scenes.We’re not glossing over it, or pretending it was easy. Just sharing honest stories about what worked, what was difficult, and what we’d do all over again.We’ll talk about:The biggest mistakes Christian couples make with dating boundariesWhy “How far is too far?” is the wrong questionWhether protecting physical boundaries was actually worth itThe hardest conversations every dating couple should haveHow much of your past you should share before marriageWhat their first major conflict revealed about each otherHow to tell the difference between chemistry and characterWhether God really tells you who you’re supposed to marryWhat role wise counsel played in their relationshipsHow they knew they had found the person they wanted to marryWhat they wish they could tell their dating-season selvesThis episode isn’t about finding a perfect formula. It’s about learning how to date with wisdom, intentionality, and integrity so you can build the kind of marriage you’re hoping for.Whether you’re single, dating, or wondering if doing relationships God’s way is really worth it, this conversation is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/VYvzBXidMck God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Pursuit isn’t a personality trait, it’s a skill. And so is being pursued.Too many Christian singles think one person should do all the work while the other just waits to be chosen, but healthy relationships aren’t built on passivity. They’re built on intentionality from both people.In this episode, we’re breaking down what it actually looks like to pursue someone well and what it means to receive pursuit without playing games, sending mixed signals, or disappearing into passivity.Whether you’re the one asking someone out or the one deciding whether to say yes, this conversation is packed with practical advice to help you date with clarity and confidence.We’ll talk about:The five biggest mistakes men make when pursuing a womanHow women can encourage pursuit without chasingWhy “playing hard to get” usually backfiresWhat healthy leadership actually looks like in datingHow to show interest without sacrificing your dignityWhen it’s time to define the relationshipWhether women should ever make the first moveIf the guy should always pay for the dateHow to know when pursuit becomes pressureWhat to do when someone pursues you well… but there’s no sparkWhether you owe someone an honest “no” instead of fading awayThis episode isn’t about dating games, it’s about learning the practical skills that lead to healthy relationships, strong marriages, and dating with intention.Because how you date is often how you’ll marry.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/h4e9jj_scYE God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

Do men really think about sex all the time? Are they actually less emotional than women? Does getting married make lust disappear? And what does “men are visual” even mean?In this episode, we sit down with three Christian men to answer the questions women ask about men when the guys aren’t in the room.No macho posturing. No stereotypes. Just an honest conversation about how men are actually wired and what women often misunderstand.From attraction and temptation to rejection, insecurity, romance, and sex inside marriage, we’re unpacking what it’s actually like to be a man from a biblical perspective.We’ll talk about:Whether men really think about sex as much as people say they doWhat “men are visual” actually means and where the line is between noticing and lustWhether marriage changes attraction or temptationWhat actually builds attraction inside of marriageHow men experience rejection in dating and marriageThe hidden insecurities men carry that women rarely seeWhether men are really less emotional than womenWhy some men hesitate to make the first moveWhat happens when a husband and wife have different sex drivesThe fears men carry into marriage and even into the bedroomPractical ways women can encourage the men in their livesThis episode will help you understand men well enough to love them wisely, communicate better, and build healthier relationships.Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, we think this conversation will help you see the men in your life through a different lens.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?Catch it here ➡︎ https://youtu.be/IU5wZYRUCyA God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

When you hear the word submission, what comes to mind? For a lot of people, it’s control. Silence. Inequality. A woman losing her voice. But what if that’s not what the Bible is describing at all? In this episode, we sit down with three Christian women who have lived out biblical submission in marriage and ask the questions people are actually wrestling with.No clichés or stereotypes, just an honest conversation about what Scripture teaches and what it looks like in real life.We talk about why submission has become one of the most misunderstood ideas in Christianity and why God’s design is far more beautiful than most people realize.We’ll talk about:- What biblical submission actually is and what it isn’t- Why Ephesians 5 begins with “submit to one another”- Whether submission means a woman loses her voice or identity- What submission looks like during real disagreements- How to respond when your husband isn’t leading well- Where the line is between honoring your husband and saying “no”- Whether the trad wife movement is biblical or just an aesthetic- What submission looks like when the wife earns more, leads more, or is more spiritually mature- How to know if a man is actually worthy of your trust before marriage- Whether submission has any place in dating and engagement- Why God’s design for marriage is meant to help both husband and wife flourishThis isn’t a conversation about making women smaller. It’s about understanding God’s design well enough to discover the freedom that’s actually inside it.Whether you’re married, dating, engaged, or simply trying to understand what the Bible teaches, we hope this conversation brings clarity to one of the most debated topics in Christian relationships.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links: Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://www.stan.store/moralrevolution=============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

You’re texting every day. Hanging out one-on-one. Sharing your deepest thoughts. Praying together. Maybe even imagining a future together. But you’ve never actually defined the relationship.So… are you really “just friends”?In this episode, we’re taking on one of the biggest blind spots in Christian dating: the almost-relationship. The situationship. The undefined “friendship” that’s functioning like dating without the clarity, commitment, or courage.We unpack why so many Christians end up here, what it costs, and how to know if you’ve been lying to yourself about what this relationship really is.We’ll talk about:The seven biggest signs you’re actually in a situationshipWhy men and women end up settling for ambiguityWhether daily texting is already datingHow emotional intimacy can outpace commitmentWhy “I’m waiting on God” can sometimes be a cover for fearThe difference between being friendly and being flirtyHow to love someone without leading them onWhether it’s okay to date someone else if you haven’t defined the relationshipHow to know when it’s time to have the DTR conversationFour practical ways to get out of a situationship with integrityThis isn’t a conversation about putting more rules around dating. It’s about choosing clarity over confusion, courage over comfort, and honesty over emotional limbo.If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “What are we?”… this episode is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on the Date Well course here: https://stan.store/moralrevolution =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comMiss our last podcast episode?God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.

What if freedom from porn is actually possible? Not behavior management. Not white-knuckling. Not “doing better this time.” Real freedom.In this episode, we sit down with three Christian men who used to struggle deeply with pornography and are now walking in freedom. Three stories. Three different seasons of life. One honest conversation about what actually works.Aaron leads the Whole Man Project and disciples men fighting for sexual integrity every week. Aiden is 22, newly married, and got free before dating his now wife. Judah is 22, single, and learning how to pursue purity while waiting for marriage.We talk about what porn took from them, what finally changed, and what they wish every struggling guy knew.We’ll talk about:The moment porn stopped being accidental and became a secret battleWhy “marriage will fix it” is one of the biggest lies Christian men believeThe difference between sobriety and actual freedomWhat finally broke the cycle after countless “I’m done for good” momentsThe one thing that consistently helps men get freeHow to fight porn when the struggle started before pubertyWhat to do if you only watch “once in a while” but still feel stuckHow to talk to a future spouse about porn without destroying trustHow freedom changes dating, intimacy, and marriageAI porn, fantasy chats, deepfakes, and what Gen Z is up against nowWhether total freedom is actually possibleThis episode is not about shame. It is about truth, freedom, and what to do when you are tired of starting over.If you spiraled this week, feel hopeless, or secretly think this is just who you are now, this conversation is for you.Let’s talk about it 👇=============================Links:Find more info on Date Well Women ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/1082791?variant=39874577662144 Find more info on Date Well Men ⁠⁠here: https://shop.moralrevolution.com/collections/date-well/products/date-well-men?variant=40043652448448 =============================Connect with us:➡︎ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MoralRevolutionInc➡︎ IG: https://www.instagram.com/moralrevolution/➡︎ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@moralrev➡︎ Website: http://www.moralrevolution.comGod's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.